(Rewind) My Self-Love Was At A Deficit. How About You?
Brown Girl Self-Care
Brown Girl Self-Care
4.8 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 26 May 2025
⏱️ 54 minutes
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Summary
In this heartfelt rewind episode, I take you inside a quiet moment of reflection at a solo retreat where I finally let the tears come. I talk about what it means to give so much to others while constantly putting ourselves last, and why so many Black women — myself included — struggle to give the same love, softness, and support to ourselves.
I share:
- Why crying helped me realize what my soul is craving
- The emotional toll of always showing up for others
- Why some of us need to completely tear down our foundations and start over
- Why self-love isn’t selfish or soft — it’s necessary
- A question that might help you get closer to your own self-love
This one is for the woman who’s been giving everything but feels empty inside. You’re not alone — and you can rebuild.
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| 0:00.0 | Hey, hey, what's going on? You're listening to the Brown Girl Self Care podcast. My name is Bree Mitchell. I am the host of the show as well as the founder of Brown Girl Self Care. Brown Girl Self Care is a space of intentional healing for black women who are still struggling to identify the beauty within themselves |
| 0:28.6 | and are also struggling to live a life of wholeness and wellness. |
| 0:36.9 | I realize I switched that up from what I normally say, but I'm going |
| 0:40.5 | straight from the heart on this and straight from the heart on this specific episode. So I'm just |
| 0:49.1 | kind of in a state of, I guess, flow, if you will. So if you hear me pausing, it's because I have zero notes in front of me. |
| 0:55.8 | And I want to collect my thoughts. |
| 0:57.7 | So I want to talk about how we, black women, me, you. |
| 1:03.4 | I know you do it because I do it. |
| 1:05.2 | And we can folk, right? |
| 1:06.9 | And I feel like I can be vulnerable with you in this conversation. |
| 1:11.8 | So we're going to just keep it playing, right? |
| 1:14.6 | But I want to talk about how we are always able to love and support others, |
| 1:23.1 | but we can't find the capacity to do that for our self. |
| 1:31.0 | Why is that black woman? |
| 1:32.9 | Like, why is that? |
| 1:35.3 | I don't have a specific answer. |
| 1:37.6 | Like, scientifically, it's because 2.1% of, like, no, I don't have those kind of receipts. |
| 1:43.9 | This is really just a a thought that i've |
| 1:46.8 | been thinking recently and it's just like why why why does this happen so let me reframe this |
| 1:55.2 | or not reframe this let me frame this i am recording this episode from a beautiful location that I've been |
| 2:04.9 | staying at for a couple of days. I found this little retreat. It's a Christian retreat. |
| 2:11.4 | And it's kind of hard to explain. It's not like a retreat. When you think of retreat, you probably think of, or most of us think of like a hotel or you're somewhere outdoors and you are with other people. |
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