The Girl Defined Show

Send a text Marrying a man of godly character sounds amazing... but how can you know if he’s actually walking the walk — not just talking the talk? You need more than good vibes and sweet words. You need real answers to questions like: “What kind of character does this guy really have?” “Where does his heart stand when it comes to God’s Word?” “Is his love for the Lord visible in his daily actions?” “Does he truly live with Scripture as the highest authority in his life?” In today’s ...

Transcribed - Published: 9 June 2025

Send a text Is it possible to pursue godly femininity without getting tangled in legalism, fear, or performance-driven faith? In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with best-selling author and speaker Leslie Ludy to unpack the subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) ways legalism can creep into conservative Christian womanhood. We talk about the pressure to "look the part," the danger of equating holiness with a lifestyle checklist, and how to break free from rule-based faith and walk in...

Transcribed - Published: 28 May 2025

Send a text You’ve seen the headlines: “Her Wildest Night Yet!” or “10 Secrets to Epic Pleasure.” Cosmo and other mainstream magazines have been feeding women these so-called empowering stories for decades. But what if those stories aren’t even real? What if they're simply propaganda? In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on the glossy lies and exposing how these narratives are shaping our view of sex, identity, and womanhood—and not for the better. God’s design for womanhood ...

Transcribed - Published: 20 May 2025

Send a text We’re constantly told men and women are the same — just interchangeable parts in a genderless machine. But is that actually true…? What if gender roles aren’t sexist, but sacred?What if God meant for men to surge with testosterone and for women to overflow with estrogen?What if wombs and muscles weren’t random, but radically intentional?According to Scripture, the differences between men and women aren’t outdated — they’re divine. And they hold the key to understanding who we real...

Transcribed - Published: 14 May 2025

Send a text We’re constantly told men and women are the same — just interchangeable parts in a genderless machine. But is that actually true… or just cultural noise? What if gender roles aren’t sexist, but sacred? What if God meant for men to surge with testosterone and for women to overflow with estrogen? What if wombs and muscles weren’t random, but radically intentional? According to Scripture, the differences between men and women aren’t outdated — they’re divine. And they hold the...

Transcribed - Published: 30 April 2025

Send a text Women struggle with porn too. Have you ever experienced the fear and shame that follows the vortex of graphic movies, erotica, promiscuity, or porn sites? You may think you’re alone and feel like hiding. But you’re not alone—and there is hope and healing. We are all sexually broken. And we are all invited to participate in the love, forgiveness, and healing of Jesus. The great joy and passion of Dr. Joy Skarka is calling women to God’s gracious power of redemption. Today we'...

Transcribed - Published: 22 April 2025

Send a text Let’s be honest—pursuing purity while dating someone you’re seriously into can feel next to impossible. The butterflies are real, the chemistry is strong, and suddenly you’re wondering... is kissing too far? What about cuddling on the couch? Holding hands? Where's the line?! Navigating physical boundaries in a dating relationship isn’t always black and white—and it can be so confusing. But here’s the thing: honoring God and each other is totally possible, even when the spark...

Transcribed - Published: 8 April 2025

Send a text Can you be fully "crunchy" while staying fully committed to Christ? Is there such a thing as being too crunchy? How do we juggle our health goals without losing sight of our faith? Elizabeth Parsons is here to help us navigate this balance. As a popular "crunchy" mom and passionate Christian, Elizabeth shares her wisdom on how to live out both wellness and faith without compromise. If you're already following Elizabeth and her brand, Purely Parsons, you know her down-to-earth, rel...

Transcribed - Published: 31 March 2025

Send a text Is saving sex for marriage really worth it? Will the wedding night be totally awkward if we don’t "practice" first? And what about sexual compatibility—doesn’t that matter?? We’re two Christian sisters who made the choice to wait until marriage, and trust us—we’ve heard all the questions (and plenty of skeptical comments). So let’s have an open, honest, and totally unfiltered conversation about it. After 6 and 14 years of marriage, do we regret waiting? If we could go back, would ...

Transcribed - Published: 21 March 2025

Send a text It seems like everyone is sending nude photos these days...even Christians. So what's the big deal? Isn't it good for me to keep a little spice in my dating relationship? What about the fact that I'm engaged and going to marry this guy? What's the harm anyway? Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relati...

Transcribed - Published: 13 March 2025

Send a text On a scale of one to ten, how prepared do you think you are for marriage? Seriously. Most women who get marriage look back on their single years and WISH they had done more to prepare for being a wife. So...why not get prepared? Here are four things you can do right now to begin preparing for married life. LOVE DEFINED BOOK 170 QUESTIONS TO ASK IN A RELATIONSHIP Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embra...

Transcribed - Published: 7 March 2025

Send a text Ep. 197 - This is a replay. Let's be honest. Valentine's Day isn't always what it's cracked up to be. Regardless of what we see on the Hallmark Channel, rarely do things turn out that perfectly. In singleness, we often feel bummed because we don't have that special someone. Then in marriage, we often feel bummed because our special day isn't turning out to be as romantic as we'd imagined! We can attest to feeling both of these ways. In today's episode, we're going to spill the b...

Transcribed - Published: 14 February 2025

Send a text God created women be beautiful AND to posses the allure of feminine seduction. But beauty and seduction are not the same thing. In our celebrity society today, beauty and seduction have become synonymous. In this episode, Kristen and Bethany react LIVE to their 2016 video about this topic and share honestly where they stand today. NEW BOOK - MADE TO BE SHE FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian Girls MUST READ - Sex, Purity and the Longings o...

Transcribed - Published: 15 January 2025

Send a text Ep 195 - Many conservative Christian women saved sex for marriage only to wake up on the other side of their honeymoon feeling disappointed and disillusioned. What happened? Why is sex such a huge disappointment to many Christian women? Take a deep dive with us on all things sex, intimacy, orgasm and how to make it GREAT. NEW BOOK - MADE TO BE SHE Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracin...

Transcribed - Published: 9 December 2024

Send a text 194 - Modesty used to be a foundational topic here at Girl Defined. We become known as the "modesty ministry." Looking back, here's what we got right and wrong about Christian modesty. NEW BOOK - MADE TO BE SHE Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON ...

Transcribed - Published: 20 November 2024

Send a text Today is the release of our newest book, "Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity." Fighting men won't solve the deepest longings of a woman's heart. Turning to Christ and finding your complete identity in Him is the answer. NEW BOOK - MADE TO BE SHE Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longing...

Transcribed - Published: 12 November 2024

Send a text Ep. 193 - Liberal women have been in full on panic mode since Donald Trump was elected President of the United States. Many of these women are refusing to date men, have sex with men, get pregnant or have babies. They are in full on strike against men. What exactly will this plan accomplish? Let's find out. MADE TO BE SHE ---> PRE ORDER BONUSES NEW BOOK: "Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity" Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She:...

Transcribed - Published: 8 November 2024

Send a text Ep 192 - What's a good age to start dating? What is the purpose of a romantic relationship? These are some of the questions we answered in our 2016 YouTube video titled, "Answering Your Guy Questions About Dating, Bad Relationships, and Guy Friends." And today, we're looking back and reacting to this content for the FIRST time. How do we feel NOW about what we said THEN? GRAB "Made to Be She" and get your FREEBIES PRE ORDER BONUSES NEW BOOK: "Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's ...

Transcribed - Published: 31 October 2024

Send a text Ep. 191 - The issue of gender has exploded over the past few years. Can a man become a woman? Can a woman become a man? Should we support the trans movement? In today's episode, the two of us are looking back at one of our first YouTube videos ever where we ask the question, "Is Gender a Personal Choice." Here's our reaction. PRE ORDER BONUSES NEW BOOK: "Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity" Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She...

Transcribed - Published: 24 October 2024

Send a text Ep. 190 - The two of us grew up at the height of the purity culture movement. We read the classic "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" and every other Christian book on courtship. We dated intentionally, wore our purity rings religiously and saved our kisses for marriage. Do we regret wearing our purity rings? What was the impact of purity culture in our lives? How are we going to raise our kids? Let's jump in. NEW BOOK: "Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan...

Transcribed - Published: 16 October 2024

Send a text Ep 189 - We’ve had other YouTube creators reacting to us since we posted our very first official vlog/YouTube video on May 25, 2016 titled “Is it okay to be Obsessed with Guys?” I think it’s time for the two of us to react to that video ourselves. We’re going to be releasing two new YouTube videos every month where we react to our earliest / most controversial YouTube videos. We’re going to be brutally honest with ourselves (and you) and share what we still agree with and what w...

Transcribed - Published: 10 October 2024

Send a text After 3 miscarriages and 12 years of infertility, having a baby seemed like an impossible dream. Then, to my complete astonishment, God answered our prayer! In the summer of 2024, I gave birth to our precious daughter, Caroline Marie. Holding my daughter for the first time was a moment I will never forget. Here’s my birth story. WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/8CXKWgTDTK4 KRISTEN'S PREGNANCY STORY (Ep. 180): https://youtu.be/jI9B3PRfepQ?si=dvnMGKFbI-d5xNme ZACK...

Transcribed - Published: 30 September 2024

Send a text After 3 miscarriages and 12 years of infertility, having a baby seemed like an impossible dream. Then, to my complete astonishment, God answered our prayer! In the summer of 2024, I gave birth to our precious daughter, Caroline Marie. Holding my daughter for the first time was a moment I will never forget. Here’s my birth story. WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/8CXKWgTDTK4 KRISTEN'S PREGNANCY STORY (Ep. 180): https://youtu.be/jI9B3PRfepQ?si=dvnMGKFbI-d5xNme ZACK...

Transcribed - Published: 30 September 2024

Send a text Ep 187 - Women have been told that men are the "standard of success" and we should do what they do. In the name of "equality" of course. Women have been pulled out of their homes, rejected their fertility, and are killing themselves to get accolades from their corporate bosses. What if you've been lied to about womanhood? What if you've been sold a bill of goods? In todays' conversation, we're talking to Suzanne Venker about the TRUTH of womanhood and what actually makes for a...

Transcribed - Published: 24 September 2024

Send a text Ep. 186 - Alex Clark has risen to fame through her daily pop culture show, Poplitics. She's a conservative Christian woman with a deep desire to get married and start a family. Sadly, that hasn't happened yet. Despite going on dates and putting herself out there. I'm taking a deep dive into her life and asking questions like: Do you think men struggle to commit? Does singleness feel like a punishment from God? How can a woman put herself out there? Should women have higher p...

Transcribed - Published: 11 September 2024

Send a text Ep. 185 - You're single, but you don't want to be. You want a man. You want a leader. You want a protector. You want a LOVER. So why isn't it happening? Why hasn't God brought marriage into your life? The nagging question for many... "Is it my fault I'm still single?" In today's episode, the two of us share our own experiences and offer practical encouragement with ways you can trust God AND attract a man at the same time. MUST READ: Love Defined: Embracing Go...

Transcribed - Published: 29 August 2024

Send a text Ep. 184 - Modern women have been trained by culture to obsess over their bodies and everyone else's. We compare butts, boobs, curves, height and everything else. Many of us look in the mirror and cringe at what we see reflecting back. This is not okay for God's daughters. Let's discuss what it looks like to value the body God has given you and take care of it in a balanced way. Connect with Lainey Greer MUST READ: Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity ...

Transcribed - Published: 13 August 2024

Send a text Ep. 183 - Trusting God with the size of her family was something Catherine Segars NEVER imagined she would do. She was an actress pursuing a future of fame... not a SAHM. Get ready for a wild story of a woman who put radical trust in God. You are going to laugh, cry, and be convicted in ways you weren't prepared for. Let's jump in. Connect with Catherine MUST READ: Not Part of the Plan NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical...

Transcribed - Published: 30 July 2024

Send a text 182 - Have you every read a passage in the Old Testament and thought, "What?! Does God even care about women?" If so, you're not alone. As modern Christian women it's crucial that we dig deeper to understand the context, history, and culture of what is happening in ancient Israel. As we do, we'll see that God's laws are actually FOR women. Grab Katie's Book - To Be a Woman: The Confusion Over Female Identity and How Christians Can Respond NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp ...

Transcribed - Published: 16 July 2024

Send a text Ep. 181 - Legalism seems to be a constant companion in many conservative Christian circles. The length of ones skirt can become more important than the character of ones heart. Leslie Ludy is joining us on The Girl Defined Show to cast a vision of what true biblical womanhood is all about. Connect with Leslie Ludy NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian Girls Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: ...

Transcribed - Published: 1 July 2024

Send a text Ep. 180 - Dealing with the pain of unexplained infertility is something no woman wants to go through. Kristen and Zack have experienced thirteen years of this heartbreaking diagnosis. In an incredible turn of events God worked a miracle. Kristen and Zack are expecting a baby. This is a God story. Listen in if you want to hear about God's mighty faithfulness in their lives. NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for...

Transcribed - Published: 17 June 2024

Send a text Ep. 179 - Kristen is pregnant and weeks away from maternity leave. Bethany is getting off of social media for the summer. The two of us want to inspire you to set some goals and make this summer count. Not in the "bucket list item" sort of way. We want to inspire you to grow as a Christian woman and pursue God with your whole heart. NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian Girls MUST READ - Sex, Purity...

Transcribed - Published: 3 June 2024

Send a text Ep. 178 - Christian womanhood has been shoved to the ground and deemed harmful for modern women. Feminism has become the new definer of what's acceptable to embrace. In today's conversation, we're chatting with Anneliese from "Feminine Not Feminist" about God's true design for women and how to THRIVE in your femininity. NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian Girls MUST READ - Sex, Purity and the Long...

Transcribed - Published: 29 May 2024

Send a text Ep. 177 - Marriage has been held up as the pinnacle of biblical womanhood. Get married. Have babies. Take care of your family. That all sounds great IF you're married. But, what if you're not married? What if you're single for a season or for a life time? Does that disqualify a woman from glorifying God in her womanhood and with her life? Madison Rudkin of the popular account Dear Single Woman joins us to expose the lies and bring forward the truth. Connect with Dear Single Wo...

Transcribed - Published: 21 May 2024

Send a text Ep 176 - Many Christian women have completely suppressed their sexuality and are pretending that they aren't sexual in any way. This has created a generation of Christian women who believe their sexuality is more of a curse than a blessing. The switch didn't flip when they got married and sex within marriage is miserable as well. We're going to unpack why God's design for sexuality is actually a BLESSING and how to embrace your sex drive in a good God-designed way. NEW -...

Transcribed - Published: 13 May 2024

Send a text Ep 175 - Choosing to stay home with your kids isn't the most glamorous job. In fact, there aren't promotions, raises, or a paycheck. You won't get an annual company party with other employees celebrating your achievements and patting you on the back. Most often the opposite is true. You're left exhausted by the end of the day. The accolades are few. The rewards aren't always visible. So why do women choose homemaking and motherhood? Is it possible that this path is even MORE fulfi...

Transcribed - Published: 1 May 2024

Send a text Ep. 174 - Motherhood is one of the most beautiful and complicated callings in the world. You'd give your life for your babies and you feel like you're losing your mind at the very same time. That's when the lies enter your mind. It's crucial as Christian women to turn to God's Word for truth to guide our emotions. Connect with Catherine NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian Girls Support the show R...

Transcribed - Published: 23 April 2024

Send a text Ep 173 - Are women bound to a life of misery if they take on this role in the home. Cooking. Cleaning. Caretaking. Sleeping. Wake up. Repeat. Is this brainless work? The home can be either a prison or a gospel flourishing environment. When you create a space for people to build relationships, nourish their bodies, learn, grow and build one another up, it's a life-giving gift. Allow us to change your perspective in this conversation on the cooking, cleaning and the kitchen....

Transcribed - Published: 17 April 2024

Send a text Ep. 172 - At thirteen, after being abandoned by her mother one summer and left to take care of her younger brother, Harmon becomes susceptible to a relationship that turns out to be toxic, abusive, and ultimately exploitave. She eventually finds herself working in a strip club under the control of a pimp. Ultimately, she disposers the path to true freedom. Connect with Harmony and TREASURES NEW GIRL DEFINED MEMBERSHIP FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical T...

Transcribed - Published: 8 April 2024

Send a text Ep 171 - Imagine wanting to change your entire lifestyle because of what you see on social media. That is the reality for many women. We see. We want. We get anxious because we don't have. We do whatever we can to achieve that lifestyle. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. The anxiety of trying to "measure up" on social media is too much. Let's discuss how we can be rooted in truth and have pease even when our lives are less than Instagram worthy. NEW GIRL DEFINED MEMBERSHIP F...

Transcribed - Published: 1 April 2024

Send a text Ep. 170 - Porn had a chokehold on Cortney's life. She longed for freedom and Christ brought that to her. Join us for this special episode brought to you by our friends at COMPELLED. Listen to other powerful testimonies from martyrs, addicts, prisoners, missionaries and more at CompelledPodcast.com Contact Cortney directly at: CortneyBruketta @ gmail.com NEW GIRL DEFINED MEMBERSHIP FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian Girls Support the show...

Transcribed - Published: 25 March 2024

Send a text Ep. 169 - Politics has many American Christian women crippled with anxiety. The stress of voting and the ramifications of that vote are weighty. In fact, a few years ago Kristen actually begged her husband to run for president because she was so stressed about the current political climate of the day. How can we, as Christian women, find peace and rest in Christ during these unknown times? How can we put our TRUST in Him? Let's dig in. NEW MEMBERSHIP FREE BOOK - Battling S...

Transcribed - Published: 18 March 2024

Send a text Ep. 168 - Enjoy this replay. The whole idea of freezing your eggs is becoming more appealing to women each year. Instead of being bound by her (God-designed) biological clock, women can delay having children until their 40s, without the worry of having to produce healthy eggs. The basic idea is that you freeze your strong eggs when you’re in your 20s, and then use them when you’re in your 40s. Women, young and old, are loving this new freezing technology because it frees th...

Transcribed - Published: 11 March 2024

Send a text Ep 166 - Have you ever seen a Christian marriage where the man appears to be leading, but the wife is actually controlling everything from behind the scenes? Control has been the name of the game since Eve ate the fruit in the garden. Women over the centuries have wrestled with their controlling and manipulative nature. In todays episode, we're unpacking 5 ways women tend to control the man in their life. Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's ...

Transcribed - Published: 4 March 2024

Send a text Ep. 166 - Paul and Morgan have been braving the world of YouTube for most of their marriage. They've been proclaiming biblical truth and working to point others toward Jesus. It's not always easy though. The pressure to create and produce can be overwhelming. Not to mention the constant pushback and negativity that comes with being in the online space. In today's episode, Paul and Morgan open up and show us a behind the scenes look at what it really takes to be a Christian youtu...

Transcribed - Published: 26 February 2024

Send a text Ep. 165 - Biblical submission has been misunderstood and abused by many throughout history. Should we toss the biblical term OR strive to understand it in the way God intended? Is biblical submission still relevant for modern women? In today's conversation, we brought on Shannon Popkin to help us with this difficult topic. She's a Bible teacher, wife, mom and amazing mentor to many. She brings truth and light to the reality of biblical submission in marriage. Connect with Shan...

Transcribed - Published: 19 February 2024

Send a text Ep 164 - Have you ever wondered if marriage will cure your ongoing struggles with porn, masturbation, erotica and other sexual sins? Many women have believed the lie that getting married will CURE their sexual struggles. In today's episode, we offer you a better way toward freedom. A way that is rooted in God's truth. Let's dive in. FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian Girls Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfyi...

Transcribed - Published: 12 February 2024

Send a text Ep 163 - The two of us used to be HUGE proponents of the "praying for your future husband" concept. I, Bethany, wrote letters and prayers for my future husband from age 14-30 when I got married. That's a lot of time spent thinking and dreaming about someone that might not have even existed. Is it a good idea for single Christian women to focus on a future husband? In today's episode, we're going to unpack the pros and cons of praying for your future husband. FREE BOOK...

Transcribed - Published: 6 February 2024

Send a text Ep 162 - We've seen thousands of Christian women ditch their faith over the past several years. Many came face to face with issues like gay marriage and decided that "hate-filled" Christianity wasn't for them. Is it possible to be a KIND Christian and disagree with others? Does God's Word really stand the test of time? In today's conversation, we unpack these hard questions with Alisa Childers. A woman who tore her faith down to the bottom and rebuilt it back up again. Let...

Transcribed - Published: 29 January 2024

Send a text Ep 161 - The sourdough biblical womanhood aesthetic is in full force. It seems milking your cow, collecting fresh eggs and wearing a flowy dress are the new standards for biblical womanhood. Is it though? What does the Bible actually say about biblical womanhood? Does God require us to be barefoot and baking to be a Proverbs 31 woman? Let's discuss. FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian Girls Recommended Resource: Embracing Biblical Woma...

Transcribed - Published: 23 January 2024