What's up, y'all? It's Bethany and Kristen. I was actually listening to a sex therapist who is no longer with us. They have passed away, but they were sharing a statistic with me that was absolutely mind-blowing. And I think you're going to be completely shocked by it as well. So it was talking about couples who are in an emotionally committed relationship. So whether they were married or not, they were in like a long-term committed relationship. And this sex therapist basically traveled all over the world and spoke,

has written tons of books, has led a leader in this movement. And they survey their audiences

everywhere they go. And they ask their audiences, he asks them, raise your hand if you have sex with your eyes open. And so you're

having sex and you're actually engaging and looking at your partner, your spouse. And he said,

across the board, countries all over the world, only 20% of people in the audiences would raise their

hand. So that means 80% of people

are having sex with their eyes closed. And in most cases, that means they are trying to

like remove their partner from their brain space because the way that they are experiencing

pleasure is basically like by themselves in a fantasy world.

And so all over the world, this isn't just even in countries that are like, they have,

you know, great sex education and sex is not a taboo topic. Even in those countries, only 20% of people have sex with their eyes open. And if you have little kids around, this is not a

conversation for them to hear. It's about to get a little bit more spicy. So then he takes the question a little bit further.

And I just found this absolutely, like, revealing and so helpful to know, like, wow, this is where we are as a world.

This is our understanding of sex. So he says, okay, 20% of people, only 20% of couples who are in emotionally committed relationships have

sex with their eyes open. And then he says, of those people who have sex with their eyes open,

and this is where it gets a little TMI, he says, how many of those couples, those 20% can have an

orgasm with their eyes open? And only half of that. So out of all the people in the world, on average,

only 10% of people can

engage with their partner while reaching a climax. And basically what that shows us is that people

literally, 90% of people who are in emotionally committed relationships have to remove their

partner from their gaze. They have to remove that intimacy in order to experience

some form of physical pleasure. They are not experiencing intimacy with one another. They are

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