Hot Mess-Terpiece Theatre

The Mystic is a fun woo-woo archetype, but do not piss her off or else you’ll meet her evil side: the Betrayer.  How do each of these beauties show up in reality TV? Jolenta thinks Dorinda Medley from the Real Housewives of New York is the perfect example of the Mystic/Betrayer dichotomy. Hot Mess-terpiece Insta SOURCES: Mythos: A Retelling of the Myths of Ancient Greece, by Stephen Fry Greek Mythology: Gods and Heroes Brought to Life, by Robert Garland The Greek Myths, by Robert Graves Mythology: Timeless Tales of Gods and Heroes, by Edith Hamilton 45 Master Characters, by Victoria Lynn Schmidt Bravo Shows - Peacock Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Published: 20 November 2025

The wonderful Mary Payne Gilbert (Pink Shade) joins Jolenta to do a deep dive on the infamous Vanderpump Rules “slap” scene between Stassi Schroeder and Kristin Douse. And the two discuss why we’re so drawn to reality TV that showcases anti-aspirational living. Mary Payne’s Insta Hot Mess-terpiece Theatre Insta Sources: Vanderpump Rules - Peacock Hera episode of Hot Mess-Terpiece Theatre Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Published: 13 November 2025

She’s intense, she’s driven, and she might be here to save us all… or burn it all down. This week Jolenta draws parallels between the Savior/Destroyer archetype and Heather Gay’s journey on The Real Housewives of Salt Lake City. Hot Mess-Terpiece Theatre Instagram Jolenta’s Instagram *This episode mentions the struggles faced by LGBTQIA+ youth - if you or anyone you know is struggling text ‘START’ to 678-678 to reach The Trevor Project SOURCES The Greek Myths, by Robert Graves The Penguin Dictionary of Classical Mythology, by Pierre Grimal Mythology: Timeless Tales of Gods and Heroes, by Edith Hamilton 45 Master Characters, by Victoria Lynn Schmidt Bravo Shows - Peacock Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 6 November 2025

Comedian Anna Roisman (Big Wigs) joins the show to talk about her favorite moments from Love is Blind season six: when Chelsea told Jimmy she gets told she looks like Megan Fox & when Jimmy realizes that may not be true. Anna and Jolenta breakdown the scenes and discuss why you shouldn’t try to break the unspoken rules of a reality show. Anna's Insta - where all her great impressions are Hot Mess-terpiece Insta Jolenta's Insta Sources Love is Blind, Netflix Love Is Blind season 6's Chelsea responds to criticism over Megan Fox comparison, Entertainment Weekly Megan Fox Breaks Silence on Love Is Blind Star Chelsea's Comparison to Her and Ensuing Drama, E! News  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 October 2025

Jolenta looks into the Maiden and Troubled Teen archetypes. And she does a deep dive on a Real Housewife that seems to embody this angsty ingénue:  Bronwyn from the Real Housewives of Salt Lake City. Hot Mess-Terpiece Theatre Insta Jolenta’s Insta SOURCES Mythology: Timeless Tales of Gods and Heroes, by Edith Hamilton Greek Mythology: Gods and Heroes Brought to Live, By Robert Garland The Greek Myths, by Robert Graves The Penguin Dictionary of Classical Mythology, by Pierre Grimal 45 Master Characters, by Victoria Lynn Schmidt Bravo Shows & Aftershows - Peacock Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 October 2025

Jolenta is joined by Nicole Spiezio (How Were U Brainwashed?) to discuss a pivotal RHONY Legacy scene - the scene where Bethenny tells Luann her fiancé cheated on her "at the Regency, in front of everybody.” Nicole’s Podcast Housewife Sonata w/ Nicole Spiezio Hot Mess-terpiece Theatre Insta SOURCES - Real Housewives of New York City, Peacock Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 16 October 2025

Let’s do a deep dive on the Muse archetype, and her flirty evil twin the Femme Fatale. Parvati Shallow is the perfect example of both - and Jolenta has compiled some of Parv’s most seductive and cut-throat moments for your listening pleasure. Hot Mess-Terpiece Theatre Instagram Jolenta’s Instagram SOURCES Mythology: Timeless Tales of Gods and Heroes, by Edith Hamilton Greek Mythology: Gods and Heroes Brought to Life, By Robert Garland The Penguin Dictionary of Classical Mythology, by Pierre Grimal The Greek Myths, by Robert Graves 45 Master Characters, by Victoria Lynn Schmidt Bravo Shows - Peacock Survivor - Paramount+ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 October 2025

Jolenta is joined by Amye Archer (Little Miss Recap) to discuss the explosive season 18 fight between Janelle and Kody Brown on Sister Wives. The two discuss breaking the 4th wall and narcissistic collapse, and Amye gives a stern warning for anyone who’s watching the new season of Sister Wives. Amye’s Instagram Jolenta’s Instagram Hot Mess-terpiece Theatre Instagram Sources Sister Wives, TLC Sister Wife: A Memoir of Faith, Family, and Finding Freedom, by Christine Brown Woolley Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 2 October 2025

Jolenta does a realty TV deep dive on the Amazon archetype and her evil alter ego, the Gorgon. And she explores how Bethenny Frankel lives her life Amazon style with some wild Gorgon flare. Hot Mess-Terpiece Theatre Instagram Jolenta’s Instagram SOURCES Mythology: Timeless Tales of Gods and Heroes, by Edith Hamilton Greek Mythology: Gods and Heroes Brought to Life, By Robert Garland The Penguin Dictionary of Classical Mythology, by Pierre Grimal The Greek Myths, by Robert Graves Mythos: A Retelling of the Myths of Ancient Greece, by Stephen Fry 45 Master Characters, by Victoria Lynn Schmidt Bethenny Frankel, Still Dragging Everyone - www.thecut.com/2023/11/bethenny-frankel-on-leading-the-real-housewives-reckoning.html Reckoning With Reality - www.vulture.com/article/reality-reckoning-reality-tv-union-history-explained.html Bravo Shows - Peacock Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 25 September 2025

Jolenta is joined by Sarah Galli (Andy's Girls) to discuss the heartbreaking dissolution of the friendship between Bethenny Frankel and Carole Radziwill from the original Real Housewives of New York. Whose side were you on? Sarah’s Instagram Jolenta’s Instagram  Hot Mess-terpiece Theatre Instagram SOURCES Carole’s blog  post: https://www.bravotv.com/the-real-housewives-of-new-york-city/season-10/blogs/carole-radziwill/carole-radziwill-to-bnice-or A Timeline of Bethenny Frankel and Carole Radziwill's Complicated Friend Break-Up: https://www.eonline.com/news/955979/a-timeline-of-bethenny-frankel-and-carole-radziwill-s-complicated-friend-break-up-on-rhony-what-the-hell-happened We Finally Have The Full Backstory Behind Bethenny & Carole's RHONY Feud: https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2018/08/208691/bethenny-frankel-carole-radziwell-feud-real-housewives-reunion Watch What Happens Live, Peacock The Real Housewives of New York, Peacock Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 18 September 2025

Jolenta tries to make sense of what we’re seeing play out with Jenn Pedranti this season on The Real Housewives of Orange County. This leads to a deep dive on The Father’s Daughter archetype and her evil alter ego, The Backstabber.  Hot Mess-Terpiece Theatre Instagram Jolenta’s Instagram SOURCES The Greek Myths, by Robert Graves Mythology: Timeless Tales of Gods and Heroes, by Edith Hamilton The Penguin Dictionary of Classical Mythology, by Pierre Grimal Mythos: A Retelling of the Myths of Ancient Greece, by Stephen Fry Bravo shows, Peacock.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 11 September 2025

Jolenta is joined by Eric Williams (That’s a Gay Ass Podcast) to talk about one of his favorite scenes from the original Real Housewives of New York. Is life really a cabaret if your boyfriend doesn’t get a ticket to the show?  Hot Mess-Terpiece Theatre Instagram  Eric’s Instagram Jolenta’s Instagram SOURCES 'Real Housewives' star Luann de Lesseps arrested in Palm Beach - https://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/real-housewives-star-luann-de-lesseps-arrested-palm/story?id=51978385 Real Housewives of New York, Peacock What Is Jovani, and Why Are the Real Housewives Obsessed With It? - https://www.thecut.com/2019/07/what-is-jovani-and-why-are-the-real-housewives-so-obsessed.html Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 4 September 2025

Is she nurturing or over-controlling? When it comes to moms, it can be hard to tell. This week Jolenta looks at how mothers show up in The Real Housewives and Sister Wives. Hot Mess-Terpiece Theatre Instagram Jolenta’s Instagram SOURCES: Mythology: Timeless Tales of Gods and Heroes, by Edith Hamilton The Penguin Dictionary of Classical Mythology, by Pierre Grimal The Greek Myths, by Robert Graves Mythos: A Retelling of the Myths of Ancient Greece, by Stephen Fry PuppyGate: Every Question Answered About 'RHOBH' 's Season 9 Scandal - https://people.com/tv/rhobh-puppygate-everything-to-know-lisa-vanderpump-dorit-kemsley-teddi-mellencamp/ A Timeline Of Brandi & Lisa's 'RHOBH' Feud - https://www.bustle.com/articles/56946-what-happened-between-rhobh-lisa-vanderpump-brandi-glanville-a-timeline-of-their-feud-may-clear Real Housewives, Peacock The Valley: After Show, Peacock Vanderpump Rules, Peacoc Sister Wives, TLC Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 28 August 2025

Jolenta is joined by comedy writer Chelsea Devantez (Glamorous Trash) to discuss the beautifully layered confrontation between Jessica and Amber on season 1 of Love is Blind. More Chelsea - @chelseadevantez More Jolenta - @jolenta_g SOURCES: Love is Blind on Netflix Love Is Blind Season 1 Couples: Where Are They Now? - https://people.com/love-is-blind-season-1-couples-where-are-they-now-11678724 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 21 August 2025

Jolenta explores how The Matriarch and her dark alter ego, The Scorned Woman, stir the pot on The Real Housewives and in Greek mythology. Hot Mess-Terpiece Theatre Instagram Jolenta’s Instagram Sources: Mythos: The Greek Myths Reimagined - by Stephen Fry Mythology: Timeless Tales of Gods and Heroes - by Edith Hamilton 45 Master Characters - by Victoria Lynn Schmidt Teresa Giudice’s Most Iconic Moments: https://www.realitytea.com/2024/03/20/teresa-giudice-iconic-moments-real-housewives-of-new-jersey/ Real Housewives Of New Jersey’ Stars Sentenced To Prison For Conspiracy, Bankruptcy Fraud And Tax Offenses: https://www.justice.gov/usao-nj/pr/real-housewives-new-jersey-stars-sentenced-prison-conspiracy-bankruptcy-fraud-and-tax Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 14 August 2025

Jolenta is joined by reality TV expert/producer Chris DeRosa (Fixing Famous People) to discuss an iconic scene from The Real Housewives of Orange County. Together they explore how Tamra meeting her future daughter-in-law teaches us about the damage men can do with their silence, the rise of conservative ideology in America, the history of DM sliding, and so much more. More Chris DeRosa - @thechrisderosa More Jolenta - @jolenta_g SOURCES Internet Archive Translation of Perrault’s Sleeping Beauty in the Woodhttps://archive.org/details/gri_33125012874901/page/n23/mode/2up 45 Master Characters, Revised Edition: Mythic Models for Creating Original Characters by Victoria Lynn Lynn Schmid peacock.com - bravo shows Everything That's Been Going on With Tamra Judge's Husband, Sons, and Daughters by Talia Ergas https://www.bravotv.com/the-daily-dish/tamra-judge-sons-daughters-husband Inside 'RHOC ' Star Tamra Judge's Roller Coaster Relationship with Estranged Daughter Sidney Barney https://people.com/tv/real-housewives-orange-county-tamra-judge-sidney-barney-estrangement/ 988 Crisis Lifeline: If you or someone you know is dealing with mental health struggles, emotional distress, alcohol or drug use concerns, or just need someone to talk to - call the Crisis Lifeline at 988 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 7 August 2025

Kristen and Jolenta announce the beginning of a new era! This includes: –Jolenta’s new show, Hot Mess-terpiece Theatre, available in this very feed! –Kristen’s new show, Pillow Talk, available exclusively at https://www.hatch.co/pillow-talk ! –The continuation of Kristen’s show, Health Matters from Mayo Clinic, available everywhere you get your favorite shows! –The continuation of Dean & Kristen Look Back - the official By The Book recap show, exclusively at Patreon.com/listentobythebook !  Be sure to keep up with Kristen and Jolenta’s ongoing adventures at facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta, kristenmeinzer.com, and jolentagreenberg.com. You can also follow us on Instagram @k10meinzer and @jolenta_g Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 7 August 2025

*Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Dean and Kristen are looking back - episode by episode - at their time on By The Book. Today, they give behind-the-scenes stories and updates on Bored and Brilliant, by Manoush Zomorodi. To hear the full episode (including Kristen's current feelings about he good and evil of phones), get biweekly episodes of Dean & Kristen Look Back, listen to our complete Patreon-only bonus season of By The Book, read our weekly advice column, access the written rules of every book we've lived by, and more, visit Patreon.com/ListenToByTheBook. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Published: 5 August 2025

While they’re between seasons, Jolenta and Kristen are thrilled to share a very special series that - up until now - was only available behind a paywall. It’s called By The Book Authors Tell All, and features authors whose books they lived by, as well as some authors they just happen to love.  And for more great By The Book content, listen to Dean & Kristen Look Back, exclusively on Patreon! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 31 July 2025

While they’re between seasons, Jolenta and Kristen are thrilled to share a very special series that - up until now - was only available behind a paywall. It’s called By The Book Authors Tell All, and features authors whose books they lived by, as well as some authors they just happen to love.  And for more great By The Book content, listen to Dean & Kristen Look Back, exclusively on Patreon! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 24 July 2025

*Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Dean and Kristen are looking back - episode by episode - at their time on By The Book. Today, they give behind-the-scenes stories and updates on How to Write an Ebook in less than 7 to 14 Days that Will Make You Money Forever, by Darren Ackers. To hear the full episode, get biweekly episodes of Dean & Kristen Look Back, listen to our complete Patreon-only bonus season of By The Book, read our weekly advice column, access the written rules of every book we've lived by, and more, visit Patreon.com/ListenToByTheBook. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 22 July 2025

While they’re between seasons, Jolenta and Kristen are thrilled to share a very special series that - up until now - was only available behind a paywall. It’s called By The Book Authors Tell All, and features authors whose books they lived by, as well as some authors they just happen to love.  And for more great By The Book content, listen to Dean & Kristen Look Back, exclusively on Patreon! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 17 July 2025

While they’re between seasons, Jolenta and Kristen are thrilled to share a very special series that - up until now - was only available behind a paywall. It’s called By The Book Authors Tell All, and features authors whose books they lived by, as well as some authors they just happen to love.  And for more great By The Book content, listen to Dean & Kristen Look Back, exclusively on Patreon! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 10 July 2025

*Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Dean and Kristen are looking back - episode by episode - at their time on By The Book. Today, they give behind-the-scenes stories and updates on Class with the Countess, by Luann de Lesseps. To hear the full episode, get biweekly episodes of Dean & Kristen Look Back, listen to our complete Patreon-only bonus season of By The Book, read our weekly advice column, access the written rules of every book we've lived by, and more, visit Patreon.com/ListenToByTheBook. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 8 July 2025

While they’re between seasons, Jolenta and Kristen are thrilled to share a very special series that - up until now - was only available behind a paywall. It’s called By The Book Authors Tell All, and features authors whose books they lived by, as well as some authors they just happen to love.  And for more great By The Book content, listen to Dean & Kristen Look Back, exclusively on Patreon! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 3 July 2025

While they’re between seasons, Jolenta and Kristen are thrilled to share a very special series that - up until now - was only available behind a paywall. It’s called By The Book Authors Tell All, and features authors whose books they lived by, as well as some authors they just happen to love.  And for more great By The Book content, listen to Dean & Kristen Look Back, exclusively on Patreon! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 26 June 2025

*Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Dean and Kristen are looking back - episode by episode - at their time on By The Book. Today, they give behind-the-scenes stories and updates on Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, by John Gray, PhD. To hear the full episode, get biweekly episodes of Dean & Kristen Look Back, listen to our complete Patreon-only bonus season of By The Book, read our weekly advice column, access the written rules of every book we've lived by, and more, visit Patreon.com/ListenToByTheBook. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 24 June 2025

While they’re between seasons, Jolenta and Kristen are thrilled to share a very special series that - up until now - was only available behind a paywall. It’s called By The Book Authors Tell All, and features authors whose books they lived by, as well as some authors they just happen to love.  And for more great By The Book content, listen to Dean & Kristen Look Back, exclusively on Patreon! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 19 June 2025

While they’re between seasons, Jolenta and Kristen are thrilled to share a very special series that - up until now - was only available behind a paywall. It’s called By The Book Authors Tell All, and features authors whose books they lived by, as well as some authors they just happen to love.  And for more great By The Book content, listen to Dean & Kristen Look Back, exclusively on Patreon! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 12 June 2025

*Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Dean and Kristen are looking back - episode by episode - at their time on By The Book. Today, they give behind-the-scenes stories and updates on America's Cheapest Family Gets You Right on the Money, by Steve and Annette Economides. To hear the full episode, get biweekly episodes of Dean & Kristen Look Back, listen to our complete Patreon-only bonus season of By The Book, read our weekly advice column, access the written rules of every book we've lived by, and more, visit Patreon.com/ListenToByTheBook. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 10 June 2025

While they’re between seasons, Jolenta and Kristen are thrilled to share a very special series that - up until now - was only available behind a paywall. It’s called By The Book Authors Tell All, and features authors whose books they lived by, as well as some authors they just happen to love.  And for more great By The Book content, listen to Dean & Kristen Look Back, exclusively on Patreon! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 5 June 2025

While they’re between seasons, Jolenta and Kristen are thrilled to share a very special series that - up until now - was only available behind a paywall. It’s called By The Book Authors Tell All, and features authors whose books they lived by, as well as some authors they just happen to love.  And for more great By The Book content, listen to Dean & Kristen Look Back, exclusively on Patreon! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 29 May 2025

*Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Dean and Kristen are looking back - episode by episode - at their time on By The Book. Today, they give behind-the-scenes stories and updates on Past Lives, Future Healing, by Sylvia Brown. To hear the full episode, get biweekly episodes of Dean & Kristen Look Back, listen to our complete Patreon-only bonus season of By The Book, read our weekly advice column, access the written rules of every book we've lived by, and more, visit Patreon.com/ListenToByTheBook. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 27 May 2025

While they’re between seasons, Jolenta and Kristen are thrilled to share a very special series that - up until now - was only available behind a paywall. It’s called By The Book Authors Tell All, and features authors whose books they lived by, as well as some authors they just happen to love.  And for more great By The Book content, listen to Dean & Kristen Look Back, exclusively on Patreon! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 22 May 2025

While they’re between seasons, Jolenta and Kristen are thrilled to share a very special series that - up until now - was only available behind a paywall. It’s called By The Book Authors Tell All, and features authors whose books they lived by, as well as some authors they just happen to love.  And for more great By The Book content, listen to Dean & Kristen Look Back, exclusively on Patreon! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 15 May 2025

*Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Dean and Kristen are looking back - episode by episode - at their time on By The Book. Today, they give behind-the-scenes stories and updates on The Memory Book, by Harry Lorayne and Jerry Lucas. To hear the full episode, get biweekly episodes of Dean & Kristen Look Back, listen to our complete Patreon-only bonus season of By The Book, read our weekly advice column, access the written rules of every book we've lived by, and more, visit Patreon.com/ListenToByTheBook. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 13 May 2025

Jolenta and Kristen read some of the many stories you’ve shared about the topics we’ve recently covered on the show - including being jealous of friends, dealing with friend burnout, and making friends post college. They also announce By The Book: Authors Tell All - a newly available series that will land right in this feed starting next week. Reminder: There's lots more of us on Patreon - including our biweekly podcast series Dean & Kristen Look Back, where we do just that: Look back at our time on By The Book, episode by episode, sharing updates and behind the scenes secrets along the way. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: ⁠patreon.com/listentobythebook⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 8 May 2025

Jolenta and Kristen try on a tip from David Klein, record audio diaries, report back.  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected]     And join our Patreon Community to get biweekly episodes of our new show: Dean & Kristen Look Back! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 1 May 2025

*Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Dean and Kristen are looking back - episode by episode - at their time on By The Book. Today, they give behind-the-scenes stories and updates on French Women Don't Get Fat, by Mireille Guiliano. To hear the full episode, get biweekly episodes of Dean & Kristen Look Back, listen to our complete Patreon-only bonus season of By The Book, read our weekly advice column, access the written rules of every book we've lived by, and more, visit Patreon.com/ListenToByTheBook. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 29 April 2025

Sometimes - as much as we hate to admit it - we feel insecure around certain friends - or even jealous of them. What’s the best way to cope with these feelings? David Klein, close friend and cousin of Winona Ryder, and author of “The Plus One,” shares his thoughts.  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected]    And join our Patreon Community to get biweekly episodes of our new show: Dean & Kristen Look Back! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 24 April 2025

Jolenta and Kristen try on Hope Kelaher’s tips for making friends post-college. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected]    And join our Patreon Community to get biweekly episodes of our new show: Dean & Kristen Look Back! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 17 April 2025

*Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Dean and Kristen are looking back - episode by episode - at their time on By The Book. Today, they give behind-the-scenes stories and updates on The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, by Marie Kondo. To hear the full episode, get biweekly episodes of Dean & Kristen Look Back, listen to our complete Patreon-only bonus season of By The Book, read our weekly advice column, access the written rules of every book we've lived by, and more, visit Patreon.com/ListenToByTheBook. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 15 April 2025

Why does it seem so much easier to make friends when we’re younger? And how can we make friends more easily as we become adults? Hope Kelaher, author of Here to Make Friends: How To Make Friends as an Adult, shares her wisdom. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected]    And join our Patreon Community to get biweekly episodes of our new show: Dean & Kristen Look Back! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 10 April 2025

Jolenta and Kristen try on a tip from Amy Wilson, record audio diaries, report back.  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected]     And join our Patreon Community to get biweekly episodes of our new show: Dean & Kristen Look Back! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 3 April 2025

*Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Dean and Kristen are looking back - episode by episode - at their time on By The Book, beginning with The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. To hear the full episode, get biweekly episodes of Dean & Kristen Look Back, listen to our complete Patreon-only bonus season of By The Book, read our weekly advice column, access the written rules of every book we've lived by, and more, visit Patreon.com/ListenToByTheBook. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 1 April 2025

Friends are great. But they can also be exhausting. What’s the best way to strike the balance between being there and burning out? Amy Wilson, author of Happy To Help: Adventures of a People Pleaser, and cohost of What Fresh Hell, shares her thoughts.  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected]     And join our Patreon Community to get biweekly episodes of our new show: Dean & Kristen Look Back! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 27 March 2025

Jolenta and Kristen read some of the many stories you’ve shared about the topics we’ve recently covered on the show - AI friends, friends with kids, and platonic significant others.  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected]    And join our Patreon Community to get biweekly episodes of our new show: Dean & Kristen Look Back! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 20 March 2025

By popular demand, Kristen is sharing an episode of one of her other shows: Mayo Clinic's Health Matters. This episode is about ADHD and features one of the most knowledgable and compassionate voices in the ADHD world, Dr. Robert Wilfahrt. To hear more episodes of Health Matters, subscribe here: https://mcpress.mayoclinic.org/podcasts/health-matters/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 18 March 2025

Jolenta and Kristen try on a tip from Ophira Eisenberg, record audio diaries, report back.  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at [email protected]     And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we’re reading, the written rules of every self-help book we’ve ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 13 March 2025

*Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Kristen and Jolenta live by The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage'' by Mel Robbins. To hear the entire episode and get lots of other great bonus content, including a live monthly book club with Kristen and Jolenta, join patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 10 March 2025