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Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.8 • 1.2K Ratings

Overview

Sam & Sierra may not be therapists, but they will tell it to you straight (even if they aren’t). Each episode, they answer listeners’ questions with compassion, radical honesty, and all the relationship advice you don’t want—but definitely need. And no, it’s not always “just break up.” (Unless you really should!)

700 Episodes

Episode 668: Caught in a Cycle of Emotional Hunger

Sam and Sierra answer a letter frome someone who is wondering if she chose the wrong guy Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 12 December 2025

Episode 667: Can a Work Crush Ever Be a Good Thing?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is taking solace in a work crush Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 10 December 2025

Episode 666: Are Long-Lasting Relationships Inherently Better?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering if a longer relationship will lead to a better one Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 8 December 2025

Episode 665: Navigating An Overly Negative World

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is seeking care in an uncaring world Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 5 December 2025

Episode 664: Do You Want Couple's Therapy With A Man Who Won't Say I Love You?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who went on vacation with her boyfriend and now maybe wants to just break up Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 3 December 2025

Episode 663: Panicking Over A Potential Proposal

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is panicking now that an engagement is on the table Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 1 December 2025

Episode 662: When People Pity Your Happy Single Life

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from somone who is happy being single even though the world doesn't want her to be Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 28 November 2025

Episode 661: The Shame We Carry

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who, like all of us, is holding onto shame she doesn't need to Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 26 November 2025

Episode 660: My Boyfriend's Brother's Girlfriend Hates Me

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend's brother's girlfriend hates her Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 24 November 2025

Episode 659: We're Not Meant to Hold Lightning

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who has been left holding all the terrible thins her dad did to her mom Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 21 November 2025

Episode 658: You Can't Compartmentalize Your Way Out of This

Sam and Sierra answer a letter whose married boyfriend's mother is about to pass away Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 19 November 2025

Episode 657: The Familiarity of Self-Isolation

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who self isolates instead of seeking support from their friends Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 17 November 2025

Episode 656: It Could Be Different This Time

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who feels like every new relationship is the same old story – and they know how it ends Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 14 November 2025

Episode 655: When Self-Soothing Isn't Enough

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner won't introduce them to her friend who is also her ex Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 12 November 2025

Episode 654: Missing His Kids More Than Him

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is grieving not being in her ex's kids' lives anymore Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 10 November 2025

Episode 653: Responding Instead of Reacting Isn't Always Easy

On this main-feed release of a recent Patreon episode, Sam and Sierra talk about trying to be present in their relationships Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 7 November 2025

Episode 652: Changing Relationship Patterns

On this main-feed release of today's Patreon episode, Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to try new patterns with her partner Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 5 November 2025

Episode 651: When You *and* Your Therapist Get It Wrong

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who should have listened to us and not her therapist (we're joking) Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 3 November 2025

Episode 650: Finding Belonging When Things Are Uncertain

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose entire fate seems to depend on her partner Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 31 October 2025

Episode 649: Cheating Does Not An Open Relationship Make

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is openly discussing having another affair with a former affair partner Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 29 October 2025

Episode 648: New Relationship, Old Trauma

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is feeling echoes of self-doubt from a toxic relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 27 October 2025

Episode 647: How To Stay Soft After Repeated Betrayal

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering if he's the reason he keeps getting cheated on Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 24 October 2025

Episode 646: My Mom Doesn't Want My Dad At My Wedding

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose mom won't come to her wedding if her dad is there Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 22 October 2025

Episode 645: How Do I Forgive Myself For Cheating

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't know how they'll get over blowing up their relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 20 October 2025

Episode 644: My Boyfriend Googled "Erotic Massage Near Me"

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who snooped and found out something she didn't want to see Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 17 October 2025

Episode 643: Your Intuition Knew the Right Choice

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose judgmental family contributed to her abortion and her breakup Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 15 October 2025

Episode 642: All Emotions Start as Love

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who regrets the unkind things she said to her ex Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 13 October 2025

Episode 641: This Path Could Lead to Cheating

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who suddenly has a wandering eye Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 10 October 2025

Episode 640: Trying To Rebuild The Sandcastle

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who can't be with the guy she loves because of his mental health Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 8 October 2025

Episode 639: My Best Friend's Girlfriend Made Him Ghost Me

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose lost his best friend after he started dating someone Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 6 October 2025

Episode 638: You Can't Build a Friend House with Romance Tools

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is going to miss seeing his ex Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 3 October 2025

Episode 637: Should I Open My Marriage For My Crush?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is feeling ready for some ethical non-monogamy with her coworker Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 1 October 2025

Episode 636: Is This "The Work" People Talk About?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering if she should call it quits Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 September 2025

Episode 635: What Is This Tingly Sexy Feeling?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is suddenly horny for her coworker after 8 years of being not into sex Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 26 September 2025

Episode 634: Limerence Is Ruining My Life

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who has suddenly become obsessed with an ex she hasn't seen in 14 years Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 24 September 2025

Episode 633: The Retired Slut

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose ex was upset by her body count and her past infidelity Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 22 September 2025

Episode 632: You're Not A Secret To Be Kept

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to be okay with her boyfriend and ex-friend still being close Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 19 September 2025

Episode 631: Navigating Sexual Incompatibilities

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is feeling jealous of his partner's sexual past Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 17 September 2025

Episode 630: My Bestie Is Cheating On Her Husband!

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't know if she can keep a big secret for her friend Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 15 September 2025

Episode 629: Am I Destined to Be Alone?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to feel positive about dating but just doesn't Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 12 September 2025

Episode 628: Why Won't My Fiancé Connect with My Family?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner doesn't want family speeches at their wedding Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 10 September 2025

Episode 627: My Partner Keeps Bringing Up His Exes

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner has had many serious relationships Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 8 September 2025

Episode 626: My Parents Didn't Wish Me Happy Birthday

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is feeling like they can't be casual with their parents right now Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 5 September 2025

Episode 625: Why Can't My Hookups Make Me Orgasm?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is struggling with the orgasm gap Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 3 September 2025

Episode 624: This Isn't As Hot As You Think It Is

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose ex keeps reaching out even though he doesn't want to date Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 1 September 2025

Episode 623: My Fiancé Regrets Our Son

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who isn't sure she wants her fiancé to move across the country with her and their son Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 29 August 2025

Episode 622: The Throuple's Wobbly Third Wheel

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is feeling like the third wheel in her throuple Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 27 August 2025

Episode 621: Your Partner's Literal and Metaphorical Sh*t

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is constantly taking care of her partner Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 25 August 2025

Episode 620: Put Your Oxygen Mask on First

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose daughter is having a hard time adjusting to her boyfriend moving in Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 22 August 2025

Episode 619: My Husband Commented On an OnlyFans Picture

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose husband crossed an explicit boundary Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 20 August 2025

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