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Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 1.3K Ratings

Overview

Sam & Sierra may not be therapists, but they will tell it to you straight (even if they aren’t). Each episode, they answer listeners’ questions with compassion, radical honesty, and all the relationship advice you don’t want—but definitely need. And no, it’s not always “just break up.” (Unless you really should!)

760 Episodes

Episode 728: Coming Out As Non-Binary

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is newly non-binary Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 29 May 2026

Episode 727: Let's Monetize This Meltdown

Sam and Sierra talk about Sierra's revelation about herself Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 27 May 2026

Episode 726: How To Live With Your Ex After You Break Up

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is living with her ex for a month after their breakup Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 25 May 2026

Episode 725: Is This Safe Love or Just Intense Love?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who would be in love but for all of the triggers Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 22 May 2026

Episode 724: My Husband’s Perfectionism Is Driving Me Nuts

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner's perfectionism is getting in his own way Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 20 May 2026

Episode 723: When Success Changes a Friendship

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose friend's comments might be undermining her career Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 18 May 2026

Episode 722: Making Peace With a Past You Don't Like

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who feels like she wasted 5 years of her life Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 15 May 2026

Episode 721: Postpartum Exhaustion and Emotional Numbness

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is struggling to feel sappy adoration for her kid when he's awake Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 13 May 2026

Episode 720: How Do I Recover From a Sudden Breakup?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose life was upended with zero discussion Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 11 May 2026

Epsidoe 719: Keeping Community In Capitalism

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is feeling resentful of the family she nannied for Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 8 May 2026

Episode 718: Cosmically Good Sex or Past Life Connection?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is between a rock and a hard place, by which we mean two men Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 6 May 2026

Episode 717: I Bad About Self-Soothing With Casual Sex

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose trying to gain self-confidence after a terrible relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 4 May 2026

Episode 716: Loving Alcoholic Parents Without Losing Myself

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to maintain a normal relationship with her alcoholic parents Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 1 May 2026

Episode 715: Staying, Leaving, and the Truth in Between

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is stying with her husband out of guilt Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 29 April 2026

Episode 714: Waiting for Sex Unapologetically

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't know when to tell the people she's dating that she wants to wait until marriage Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 27 April 2026

Episode 713: Empathy Without Erasure

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose joy seems to cause her partner pain Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 24 April 2026

Episode 712: Reclaiming Life, Redefining Stepparent

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose husband wants her to be a more involved stepparent Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 22 April 2026

Episode 711: Age Gaps, Power, and Perception

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who maybe wants to date someon 8 years younger Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 20 April 2026

Episode 710: Stuck Between His Messy Divorce and My Mom

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose mom wants her to date someone whose life is a little less messy Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 17 April 2026

Episode 709: Is Toxic Sex Inherently Hotter and Easier?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose sex with her toxic ex was more passionate than sex with her wonderful partner Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 15 April 2026

Episode 708: Staying Present in a Temporary Love

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is having a hard time just enjoying her fling Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 13 April 2026

Episode 707: What Happens When That Anger is Directed at You?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend can sometimes get angry Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 6 April 2026

Episode 706: Two Steps Forward, One Step Back

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who feels like time isn't actually healing all wounds Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 3 April 2026

Episode 705: Why Your Friend Won't RSVP to Your Wedding

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who uninvited her friend to her wedding after he said no because weddings aren't important? Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 1 April 2026

Episode 704: Can Healing Drown Out Instinct?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose healing of her anxious attachment style seems to be backfiring Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 March 2026

Episode 703: Grief Rearranges a Life Without Asking Permission

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to feel sexy, open, confident, and present, but...her dad is dying Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 27 March 2026

Episode 702: Unsettled by “Settled”

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partners said he settled for her Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 25 March 2026

Episode 701: Recycled Pet Names

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose brain has started looking for threats in her relationship where there might not be any Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 March 2026

Episode 700: I Miss Him, But Not Our Relationship

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is grieving for her ex but not for the relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 20 March 2026

Episode 699: Grieving a Friendship That Hasn’t Officially Ended

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose friend told him she needed space but won't tell him why Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 18 March 2026

Episode 698: Dating While Trans in Your 60s

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is struggling to find connection with people his own age Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 16 March 2026

Episode 697: Feeling Stuck After Grad School Rejections Letters

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is feeling like a failur after facing rejection after rejection Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 13 March 2026

Episode 696: Either Way, She Left You

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who's investigating his breakup and not liking what he's finding Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 11 March 2026

Episode 695: Don't Get Burned By Your Sexy Friends' Chaotic Relationship

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is in too deep with a couple friend Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 March 2026

Episode 694: Love Isn't a Reward for Good Behavior

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who did everything right but still lost his relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 6 March 2026

Episode 693: You Were Allowed To Be Drunk

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who's wondering how much to disclose about a painful moment from their past Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 4 March 2026

Episode 692: It's Not Pathetic To Tell Someone You Like Them

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is stuck in limbo with an ex who left her on read Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 2 March 2026

Episode 691: Metabolizing Anger At Your Ex

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose post-breakup fury just keeps rising Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 27 February 2026

Episode 690: Resentment Toward Someone Who Isn't "Working As Hard"

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who thinks about her resentment for her sister-in-law every single day Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 February 2026

Episode 689: My Friend’s Partner Crossed a Line

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose friend has crossed the line multiple times while high Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 20 February 2026

Episode 688: Love in Low Battery Mode

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend isn't showing her love in the way she can feel it Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 16 February 2026

Episode 687: Where Love Ends and Self-Respect Begins

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wishes her relationship had ended with more dignity and respect Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 13 February 2026

Episode 686: Learning to Sit With Other People’s Choices

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriends' parents don't have the capacity to improve she wants them to Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 11 February 2026

Episode 685: It's Time to Get Some New Friends

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to feel her feelings and not take on other people's perspectives Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 February 2026

Episode 684: When Grief Hardens Into Anger

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't want to be consumed by bitterness about his ex Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 2 February 2026

Episode 683: Compromise as a Living Conversation

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who finds her mother-in-law difficult Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 January 2026

Episode 682: Dreaming About My Crush During Naptime

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering if she's in the wrong relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 28 January 2026

Episode 681: Retroactive Rage

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose ex won't respect the block Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 26 January 2026

Episode 680: Being Enlightened Doesn't Mean You Don't Have Needs

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner is gone for weeks at a time Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 January 2026

Episode 679: My First Toxic Lesbian Break Up™

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who just got out of her first chaotic queer relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 21 January 2026

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