Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.8 • 1.2K Ratings

Overview

Sam & Sierra may not be therapists, but they will tell it to you straight (even if they aren’t). Each episode, they answer listeners’ questions with compassion, radical honesty, and all the relationship advice you don’t want—but definitely need. And no, it’s not always “just break up.” (Unless you really should!)

643 Episodes

Episode 611: This World Is Hungry For Your Softness

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose family is making it hard to be kind Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 1 August 2025

Episode 610: His Dog Died And He Dumped Me Over Text

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who's feeling confused over the abrupt end of her relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 July 2025

Episode 609: I Think I'm Afraid Of Love

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who's thrown off by the gentleness of her new relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 28 July 2025

Episode 608: Love Can Exist Without Return

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who's hurt that her ex won't be her friend Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 25 July 2025

Episode 607: It's Not An Ultimatum, It's A Boundary!

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend told him, "I'm not honest, but trust me anyway" Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 July 2025

Episode 606: He Fell Into My Lap At A Gay Gym

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't want to be ungrateful for the cute guy that just came into his life Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 21 July 2025

Episode 605: You Can Choose Peace When They Choose Chaos

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose ex is trying to convince her she was the bad guy in the relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 18 July 2025

Episode 604: They Took the Cat and the Life We Shared

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who lost their center when their ex broke up with them Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 16 July 2025

Episode 603: The Body Def Keeps a Score

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering if her lack of attraction is a result of her trauma Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 14 July 2025

Episode 602: What If I’m Not the Soft Mom?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who's struggling with being a sh*tty mom Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 11 July 2025

Episode 601: The Cost of Constant Correction

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner's moods are determining everything in their relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 July 2025

Episode 600: Should I Tell My Ex I'm Bisexual?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who's wondering if she should tell her ex she's bi as an explanation for their breakup Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 7 July 2025

Episode 599: Is There A Difference Between Coffee and Dinner?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend said he was going to get coffee with his ex but got dinner instead Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 4 July 2025

Episode 598: Still Holding On—But to What?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who feels like all the works she's done in her relationship has gone into a bottomless pit Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 2 July 2025

Episode 597: We Got Engaged...And Now I'm Panicking

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who feels emotionally disconnected from their partner Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 June 2025

Episode 596: Is It Weak If I Stay With a Cheater?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who recently found out her husband cheated more than three years agao Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 27 June 2025

Episode 595: The Stories People Tell About Us Aren't Ours

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose terrible ex-friend is still talking sh*t about her Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 25 June 2025

Episode 594: You're Allowed to Ask for Privacy in Your Relationship

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is trying to balance her own privacy with her partner's right to share Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 June 2025

Episode 593: Is My Grief Ruining My Relationship?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose parner shared how hard it is to watch her grieve Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 20 June 2025

Episode 592: Herpes Isn't A Moral Failing

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose newly contracted herpes has changed her relationship with herself and her body, with sex, and with future partners Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 18 June 2025

Episode 591: Closeted And Heartbroken

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose on again/off again partner is now dating someone else Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 16 June 2025

Episode 590: Is Empathy Okay After a Breakup?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering if she should be more angry at her ex Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 13 June 2025

Episode 589: Her Needs Are Truths, Yours Are Burdens

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who feels uncomfortable with the physical relationship between her wife and their friend Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 11 June 2025

Episode 588: His Browsing History Is Spicier Than Our Bedroom

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose very vanilla husband is looking at very spicy porn Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 June 2025

Bonus Episode: He Wants Me to Be Sorrier for Being a Former Cam Model

Sam & Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend can't get over the fact that her former cam work might still exist online Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 2 June 2025

Episode 587: What Does It Look Like for You to Say No More Often

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from somone who wants to know why her mother gets to fully grieve but she doesn't Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 May 2025

Episode 586: You're in Two Different Relationships and Both Aren't Working

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering if she's the toxic one after having an affair with her married coworker Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 28 May 2025

Episode 585: Am I Doomed to Be Isolated With Kids in The Midwest?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is feeling lost, afraid, and like she's running out of time Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 26 May 2025

Episode 584: Do I Owe My Father Forgiveness?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose wondering if she should reconnect with her estranged father Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 May 2025

Episode 583: He *Always* Picks Up When His Mom Calls

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend is talking to his mom ALL THE TIME Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 21 May 2025

Episode 582: So...My New Boyfriend Doesn't Tip

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend is a terrible tipper Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 19 May 2025

Episode 581: Now I Have to See Him at the Gym 6 Days a Week :(

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is trying to hold space for the complex person his ex is Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 16 May 2025

Episode 580: Navigating a Twenty Year Age Gap

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is concerned about the future of their relationship with someone who is 20 years older than them Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 14 May 2025

Episode 579: But...I Don't Want To Set My Friend Up With My Crush!

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't want her friend to date her crush Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 12 May 2025

Episode 578: Can You Prioritize Yourself While Trying to Save This Relationship?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose shared about her addiction with her partner and he didn't handle it well ⁠Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more!⁠ SUBMIT: ⁠justbreakuppod.com⁠ FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit ⁠megaphone.fm/adchoices⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 May 2025

Episode 577: My Friend with Benefits Caught Feelings!

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose former friend with benefits is hurt that she broke things off ⁠Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more!⁠ SUBMIT: ⁠justbreakuppod.com⁠ FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit ⁠megaphone.fm/adchoices⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 7 May 2025

Episode 576: Fumbly Chemistry or Sexual Incompatibility?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is disappointed with her sex life with her new partner Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 5 May 2025

Episode 575: We Don't Always Have to Know

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner has a crush on a mutual friend Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 2 May 2025

Episode 574: He's Changed but I Can't See It

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is deeply frustrated by the boyfriend in her head Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 April 2025

Episode 573: Why Did My Ex Send Me $2000?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose ex sent him $2000 and he doesn't know why. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 28 April 2025

Episode 572: Why Can't I Get the Healed Sober Version of Him Like Everyone Else?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to get the wonderful man her ex has become now that he's sober. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 25 April 2025

Episode 571: When Our Partners Become Our Caretakers

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose normally supportive partner isn't taking care of her well. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 April 2025

Episode 570: What About the What-Ifs?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who really likes his friend but doesn't want to be a creep. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 21 April 2025

Episode 569: Should Marriage Be an Ultimatum?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend isn't sure if he doesn't want to marry *her* or doesn't want to get married at all. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 18 April 2025

Episode 568: Self-Proclaimed Player but Actually a Lover

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is trying to date casually but isn't behaving casually. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 16 April 2025

Episode 567: He Didn't Even Tell Me He Was Moving!

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose good friend is moving away and didn't tell her. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 14 April 2025

Episode 566: You Have to Break the Pattern

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who can't stop comparing herself to her really awful ex and his new love interest. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 11 April 2025

Episode 565: Is a Lack of Physical Attraction a Deal Breaker?

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who broke up with their seamingly perfect partner because he wasn't attracted to him. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 April 2025

Episode 564: My Partner's Hidden Credit Card Debt

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who just found out their partner of two years has over 40k in secret credit card debt. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 7 April 2025

Episode 563: Post Break Up Regrets

Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who regrets breaking up even though she still thinks it was the right thing to do. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 4 April 2025

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