Welcome to Just Break Up, the podcast about love, heartbreak, and all the relationship advice you don't want to hear.

My name is Sierra DeMulder.

And I'm Sam Blackwell.

And today we're going to answer a letter from somebody whose healing of her anxious attachment style seems to be backfiring.

But before we begin, we just want to give you our Surgeon General's Vorting, which is that Sierra and I are not licensed mental health practitioners. And I have only read one, a single book about attachment styles. So I just like want to make that really clear. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I have lived my entire life as an anxiously attached cutie, not knowing what that meant. Sure, Yeah, sure. We are not professionals.

We are not trained in any of this.

So please take our advice as you see fit.

We're only here to offer our humble musings.

So hopefully we've said some understanding and maybe some laughs about the incredibly rewarding, but mostly confusing experience that is love.

All right.

But before we dive into that letter,

we have a check-in topic because it's Monday,

and at the beginning of the week,

we like to check in before we answer a question.

And today's check-in is inspired by a video

that I was dragged by this morning on Instagram.

This is why I got off Instagram.

I know.

I can't be dragged all the time.

Yeah, it's either like, wow, I'm anxious because X, Y, and Z is happening in the world,

which I would be regardless.

Yeah.

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