Welcome to Just Break Up, the podcast about love, heartbreak, and all the relationship advice you don't want to hear.

My name is Sierra de Mulder.

And I'm Sam Blackwell.

And today, we're going to answer a letter from somebody whose mom wants her to date someone whose life is a little less messy.

But before we begin, we just want to give you our Surgeon General's warning, which is that Sierra and I are not licensed mental health practitioners.

Correct. We are not professionals. We are not trained in any of this. So please take our advice as you see fit.

We're only here to offer our humble musings to hopefully shed some understanding and maybe some laughs about the incredibly rewarding but mostly confusing experience that is love.

And mothers.

Mothers.

They're always sticking their nose and businesses that they don't need to stick in my nose

in my dog's businesses.

Oh my God.

Yeah, please do you and then give me all the details because I love drama.

Yes, I can't wait.

All right.

This letter comes from steady love, stormy circumstances.

Whose pronouns are she, her, who is writing from the land of unsolicited opinions.

Hi, Sierra and Sam.

Before I get into it, I just want to say that you've been my number one podcast for years.

Your mix of humor, honesty, and deep introspection always resonates with me. And as a social worker, I especially admire the compassion you bring to messy real life situations. Oh, thank you. Now, to jump into it, I feel like I've found the relationship I've been looking for, but it comes with a level of chaos. I'm not sure how to navigate. I'm 33, and after getting

out of a five-year relationship in late 2024, I met my partner about a year later. He's 40, and in

so many ways, he's everything that I've wanted, consistent, communicative, affectionate, thoughtful,

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