Welcome to Just Break Up, the podcast about love, heartbreak, and all the relationship advice you don't want to hear.

My name is Sierra de Mulder.

And I'm Sam Blackwell.

And today we're going to answer a letter from somebody who is staying with her husband out of guilt.

But before we begin, we just want to give you our Surgeon General's warning, which is that Sierra and I are not licensed mental health practitioners.

Correct. We are not professionals. We are not trained in any of this. So please take our advice as you see fit.

We're only here to offer our humble musings. So hopefully you've said some understanding and maybe some laughs about the incredibly rewarding, but mostly confusing

experience that is love. Today's letter is coming to us from Alexis, whose pronounce are

she-her, who's writing to us from Colorado. I-34-she-her would like your thoughts on my

current situation regarding my relationship with my husband

he him we've been together for 20 years and married for 14 we started dating when i was 15 and he was

17 i was emancipated at 16 and we moved in together almost immediately we had our son at when i was 17 years

old and our son is now 16 and our daughter when i was 17 years old, and our son is now 16, and our daughter when I was 19,

and she is now 14 years old.

I've never really been a strictly monogamous person.

I'm extroverted and generally well-liked.

He, on the other hand, has always been more possessive, what some might call clingy and anxiously

attached, until recently when we

opened up our marriage. Because of this dynamic, I tend to be avoidant. Over the years, I've stepped

out of the bounds of our marriage a handful of times. The last couple of years, he has as well,

and he's lied about it despite me giving him no reason to. I eventually found out by speaking with the woman involved.

He also tends to guilt trip me when I spend time with friends and he's not included.

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