Welcome to Just Break Up, the podcast about love, heartbreak, and all the relationship advice you don't want to hear. My name is Sierra de Mulder. And I'm Sam Blackwell. And today, we're going to answer a letter from somebody who's cohabitating with her ex for the next month. Hmm. Hmm. Sam, what do you know about that? I don't know anything about that and I don't know why you would bring my dirty laundry

onto this podcast like this.

Ooh, because it just smells so rank and delicious.

Sam lived with his ex for two years after breaking up.

Like they actually, like, they signed a new lease after the breakup.

So you can't even blame, can't even blame the lease?

I mean, the issue was that I couldn't afford to live alone, and we were and you were deeply codependent. There we go. In ways that were pretty difficult to navigate. We'll talk more about that in a little bit. But first, because it is Monday, we're going to do a quick check-in topic. Our check-in topic is from a letter writer named

Reese, whose pronouns are he, they, who is writing to us from the void. And the question is,

how do we, and I love the, I love the use of we here, like the Royal J-BU-We, how do we feel about the

adage, quote, if they cheat with you, they'll cheat on you.

So implying that like if you, the first time you connect with somebody, you, it's in like a

stepping out of their relationship or your relationship or whatever, that is a guarantee

that infidelity will continue in your relationship in some way, right?

So how do we feel about that, Sam, here at JBU?

Speaking for all of us.

The royal we.

Yeah, absolutely.

All of our listeners and community agree that this is, that we don't love hard and fast rules for anything. And anything that,

uh, tries to distill the complexity of human experience down to something that is 10 words long

and cute is like never actually going to fully encompass all of the

things that can happen.

I love this phrase, not because I agree with it, but because I feel like it's like it's

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