3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms

As the days get shorter and the cold settles in, I can feel the pull to just hunker down and survive until spring, and I have to consciously choose not to give in to it. Maybe your winter is the literal season, the dark mornings and the gray stretches that feel endless. Or maybe your winter looks different—a season of grief, a transition you didn't choose, something in your life that just feels stuck and heavy and long. Either way, we've been taught to brace ourselves and push through hard seasons, to just survive until things get better. But what if there's a different way? What if the struggle isn't really about what's happening around us, but about how we've learned to relate to it? This week, I'm talking with Jamie from Rise Meditate, who spent years dreading winter and has now developed a beautiful framework for working with hard seasons instead of just enduring them. In this episode, you'll hear: ❄️ Why your winter struggle might have nothing to do with the actual weather (and everything to do with the stories you're carrying) ❄️ The study that proved fear can be passed down for 14 generations and what that means for your nervous system ❄️ What happened when Jamie finally stepped outside after years of avoiding winter (and why it felt like escaping from prison) I know winters—whether they're the actual weather or the seasons of life that feel impossible to get through—can be so hard. If even one thing from this conversation helps you feel a little less stuck or a little more empowered, that matters. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: 📔 Today is the last day to order the Flecks of Gold Journal and receive it before Christmas! This simple gratitude practice helps you notice and name the small, beautiful moments with your kids every day—and it's incredibly supportive of your mental health, especially during the "winters" of our lives. Order before midnight tonight at 3in30podcast.com/gold. Related Episodes: 414: Feeling Low Right Now? 3 Tools to Help You Cope // Sarah McKenna 406: Navigating Holiday Melancholy // Dr. Tanmeet Sethi How to Support a Friend during the Holidays who has Lost a Loved One // Rachel Gainer Episode Sponsors: Skylight: Right now, get $30 off the 15-inch Calendar at MySkylight.com/TAKEAWAYS. Hand-Lettered Design:  If you're looking for the perfect gift for a child or woman in your life who likes art or creativity, this is it. You can get 10% off your order at Hand Lettered Design with the code Rachel10. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 15 December 2025

It's December, and if you've been feeling like you're running on fumes, snapping at your kids over the smallest things, or desperately craving a dark room where nobody needs anything from you—you're not the only one! The holidays bring so much beauty and connection, but they also bring overstimulation, dysregulation, and that version of ourselves we don't always recognize. The one who gets sarcastic and snippy when our partner walks in and asks what's for dinner. The one who hates everyone around us by 5 PM, even though we love them deeply. This week, I'm joined by Alyssa Blask Campbell, M.Ed., CEO and founder of Seed & Sew, globally recognized expert in emotional development, and author of Tiny Humans, Big Emotions and her newest book, Big Kids, Bigger Feelings, which just came out. Alyssa is here to help us understand what's actually happening in our bodies when we get overwhelmed—and more importantly, what we can do about it. In this episode, you'll learn: 🎄 Why I threw a waffle across the room one morning a couple of years ago, and what I learned about myself and nervous system dysregulation in the aftermath 🎄 Why regulating your nervous system isn't about "thinking your way out of it" 🎄 Five practical, accessible strategies you can use right now to stay regulated This conversation is exactly what I needed heading into December. Because when we understand our nervous systems and give ourselves the tools to regulate, we start showing up as the moms we actually want to be. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: ✨ Take Alyssa's free sensory regulation questionnaire at seedquiz.com to discover what drains you, what recharges you, and how to support your nervous system this holiday season. ✨ Today is the last day of our Slow-vember Sale where Flecks of Gold is $5 off! This journal is designed to help you savor the small, sacred moments of motherhood and find beauty in the everyday chaos. Related Episodes: 449: 3 Simple Strategies to Prevent After-School Meltdowns // Alyssa Blask Campbell 405: 3 Tips to Manage Your Mental Load During the Holidays // 3 in 30 Team 325: How to have Less-Stressful, More Meaningful Holidays // Desirae Endres from Minimal-ish Sponsors: Hand-Lettered Design:  If you're looking for the perfect gift for a child or woman in your life who likes art or creativity, this is it. You can get 10% off your order at Hand Lettered Design with the code Rachel10. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 8 December 2025

You know that sting in your chest when one of your kids says "I hate you" or slams their door in anger? Every instinct in you wants to smooth it over, to fix it, to make them not be mad at you anymore. But what if your discomfort with their anger is actually getting in the way of the connection you're trying to build? In this episode, I'm talking with my longtime friend Eli Harwood, known online as Attachment Nerd. She's a licensed therapist, attachment expert, and bestselling author who earned secure attachment in her own life after a difficult childhood. Eli shares three simple phrases her mom said to her that helped heal their relationship and build trust between them—phrases any of us can start using today. In this episode, you'll learn: 💜 Why Eli's mom had to convince herself it was okay for Eli to be mad at her 💜 The difference between "right side up" and "upside down" parenting 💜 What Eli thinks about adult children cutting off their parents—and why nobody does this lightly Even if you didn't grow up with secure attachment modeled for you, even if you've made mistakes, you can start building that bond with your kids today. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: ✨ Want to start noticing the good in your motherhood? The Flecks of Gold Journal is a simple one-line-a-day practice that helps you see your kids and your life differently. Grab yours here—it's the perfect gift for yourself or another mom this holiday season. Related Episodes: 387: Why Calming Yourself Helps Calm Your Child // Eli Harwood, MA, LPC 386: Raising Securely Attached Kids // Eli Harwood, MA, LPC 367: 3 Ways to Create Lasting Bonds with Your Kids // Mike Westover (Rachel's Dad!) Episode Sponsors: Factor: Eat smart at FactorMeals dot com SLASH 3in3050off and use code 3in3050off to get 50% off your first box, plus Free Breakfast for 1 Year. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 1 December 2025

You know that feeling when you're completely tapped out—when you can't give one more ounce of yourself to anyone, including you? That's not just exhaustion. That's burnout. And it doesn't mean you're failing at motherhood. This week is Thanksgiving 🦃, and for many of us, that means facing all the "lions"—family dynamics, cooking timelines, travel stress, and that never-ending holiday mental load. But here's the thing: your body doesn't know the difference between being chased by a lion and planning Thanksgiving dinner. And that matters more than you think. When I was a mom of young kids, I was deep in burnout—new baby who wouldn't stop crying, a husband working endless resident hours, and grief I hadn't processed from losing my own mom. I felt like the fire inside me had completely gone out. But I learned something powerful: recovering from burnout isn't about powering through or getting more sleep. It's about rekindling your fire in your body, your mind, and your spirit. In this encore episode (one of my all-time favorites), I'm sharing three science-backed strategies that helped me climb out of depletion mode—and that I still use today when I feel myself slipping. Even if you're not fully burned out right now, these tools will help you notice when you're heading in that direction and course-correct before you're running on empty. In this episode you'll learn: 🏃‍♀️ Why you hold onto every hard moment but forget the good ones by bedtime—and how to fix it 🧠 What Thanksgiving dinner planning and being chased by a lion have in common (spoiler: your nervous system can't tell the difference) 💓 The physical things your body needs to believe it's safe (because telling yourself to relax doesn't work!) Free worksheet! Download the Recovering from Mom Burnout worksheet with reflection prompts at 3in30podcast.com/recover For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: ✨ Slow-vember Reminder! Find calm in the chaos with our Flecks of Gold Journal—on sale now for $5 off through December 8 at 3in30podcast.com/flecks. A quick daily note of gratitude might just be the simplest soul-care practice you add this season. 💜 Related Episodes: 441: The 4 Types of Self-Care Every Mom Needs // Mia Hemstad 413: What to Do When You’re Juggling Too Much // Amy Wilson 398: How to Plan for an Energizing (not Exhausting) Holiday Season // Dr. Amber Price Episode Sponsors: AirDoctor: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code 3in30 to get up to $300 off today! It comes with a 30-day money-back guarantee and a free 3-year warranty—an $84 value Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 24 November 2025

Managing ADHD during the holidays takes more than willpower—it takes understanding your brain and planning around it with compassion. When I started researching ADHD to help one of my kids, I didn’t expect to discover that I had it too. But learning how my brain works has changed everything about how I approach motherhood, especially during the busiest season of the year.   In this episode, I’m joined by Amy Marie Hann, author of Master the Mundane, to talk about how ADHD shows up in motherhood and how we can create calmer, more intentional rhythms through the chaos of the holidays. Amy’s wisdom helped me see my brain with more grace and gave me tools to protect my energy instead of pushing past my limits. Even if you don’t have ADHD, this conversation will help you navigate the mental load of motherhood with more clarity, calm, and self-kindness. In this episode you’ll learn: 🧠 How to recognize when you’ve slipped into “depletion mode” — and what to do to climb out of it. 🧠 How to build a holiday season that fits your brain’s actual capacity (not everyone else’s). 🧠 Why rest and creativity are non-negotiable if you want to avoid ADHD burnout. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: ✨ Slow-vember Reminder! Find calm in the chaos with our Flecks of Gold Journal—on sale now for $5 off through December 8 at 3in30podcast.com/flecks. A quick daily note of gratitude might just be the simplest soul-care practice you add this season. 💜 Related Episodes: 403: Brain Science Simplified: How to Be a More Effective Parent // Dr. Dan Siegel 391: Parenting a Child with ADHD: How to Stay Calm and Connected // Rachel on The Childhood Collective 323: Parenting with ADHD // Alex Gilbert Episode Sponsors: BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. Cure Hydration: For 3 in 30 listeners, you can get 20% off your first order at curehydration.com/3in30 with code 3in30. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 17 November 2025

When I think about the kind of parent I want to be, I often think about my dad—steady, grounding, and always there. His quiet consistency has shaped so much of how I show up for my own children. And that’s why Glen Henry’s new book, Father Yourself First: Everything You Need to Become the Father Your Family Deserves, caught my attention.   Even though Glen wrote this book for fathers, the message is one every parent needs: to be a steady presence for our children, we first have to become our own source of stability. This conversation will help you see your partner—and yourself—with more empathy. It’s an honest, funny look at what happens when we slow down, let each other learn, and create a home where everyone is growing. Plus, you’ll also hear: 💜 Why I couldn’t stop laughing when Ryan pointed out that every light in the house was on. 💜 How inviting others to see your family’s real life can be one of the most meaningful ways to lead. 💜 What weight-lifting has to do with empathy—and why partnership in parenting might take more muscle than you think. Listen in for wisdom, warmth, and a few good laughs as Glen shares what it really means to “father yourself first.” For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: ✨ Our annual Slow-vember Sale is happening now! Get $5 off all Flecks of Gold Journals—including the new camel leather edition (it’s absolutely gorgeous!)—through December 15. Slow down, savor the season, and notice the good in your motherhood. Related Episodes: 367: 3 Ways to Create Lasting Bonds with Your Kids // Mike Westover (Rachel’s Dad!) 365: Intentional Fatherhood // Tal Eyre 153: How to Actually Hear Your Spouse // Yvette and Glen Henry Episode Sponsors: Skylight Calendar: Right now, Skylight is offering our listeners $30 off their 15 inch Calendars by going to MySkylight.com/TAKEAWAYS. KiwiCo: Tinker, create, and innovate with KiwiCo! Get up to 50% off your first crate at kiwico.com, promo code 3in30. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 10 November 2025

The holidays often bring equal parts joy and exhaustion. Between school programs, family gatherings, and the endless to-do lists, it’s easy to feel like you’re giving everything you have...but still falling short of the calm and connection you crave. In this episode, psychotherapist and best-selling author Niro Feliciano shares three practical takeaways from her new book All Is Calm-ish: How to Feel Less Frantic and More Festive During the Holidays. She offers gentle, research-backed tools to help you care for yourself and your family without burning out in the process. In this episode, you’ll learn: 🎄 The surprising way to set the tone for your home for a calmer, happier holiday 🎄 The 5-word boundary phrase every mom needs in her back pocket 🎄 A two-minute mental reset for when the holidays feel like too much This conversation is your invitation to create a holiday that’s not perfect—but calm-ish, connected, and true to what matters most. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: 📣 During our Slow-vember Sale, get $5 off every Flecks of Gold journal—including the new camel vegan leather edition—at 3in30podcast.com/flecks. Because peace doesn’t come from doing more (it comes from noticing more!) Related Episodes: 406: Navigating Holiday Melancholy // Dr. Tanmeet Sethi 405: 3 Tips to Manage Your Mental Load During the Holidays // 3 in 30 Team 325: How to have Less-Stressful, More Meaningful Holidays // Desirae Endres from Minimal-ish Episode Sponsors: 💜 Motherhood Decluttered: Right now, get $30 off with code PODCAST, plus you’ll also get a free Buddy Pass to gift a friend so you can go through it together—but only through the end of the year. Find it at 3in30podcast.com/declutter. 💜 Factor: Eat smart at factormeals.com/3in3050off and use code 3in3050off to get 50% off your first box, plus Free Breakfast for 1 Year. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 3 November 2025

With the holidays coming up, many moms wish they could visit family or plan a getaway—but the price of flights makes it feel impossible. That’s why I’m re-airing this popular episode with Amber Paul from Amber on Points, who teaches families how to travel for free (or almost free) using credit card points. A year after recording this, I’ve now been practicing what Amber teaches—and it’s truly changed what’s possible for our family. We earned about $12,000 in free travel this year, and my credit score has continued to go up. I know it sounds too good to be true, (that’s exactly what I thought at first!), but it’s real—and it’s absolutely worth learning. In this encore episode, you’ll learn: ✈️ Why opening multiple credit cards (responsibly!) can actually improve your credit score ✈️ How to use welcome offers strategically to earn far more points from the spending you already do ✈️ Why you might qualify for a business card even if you’re just side-gigging A quick note: conversations about money and credit can bring up a lot of feelings. Wherever you are in your financial journey, this episode is meant to spark possibility—not pressure. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: Grab the free companion guide (with Amber’s favorite starter cards) and sign up for our live Q&A with Amber on Wednesday, November 5, 2025 by clicking here! Related Episodes: 369: How to Teach Your Kids about Money // Abby Chipman 430: Plan Meaningful Family Travel Without the Stress // Meggie Busath 431: 3 Road Trip Hacks for Traveling with Kids // Brittney Hanks Episode Sponsors: BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. AirDoctor: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code 3in30 to get up to $300 off today! It comes with a 30-day money-back guarantee and a 3-year warranty—an $84 value, free! Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 27 October 2025

We all lose our temper sometimes. That’s part of being human—and part of being a mom. But what happens next matters most. Because repair, not perfection, is what builds real trust with our kids. In this week’s episode, I’m joined by Devon Kuntzman from Transforming Toddlerhood to talk about one of the most healing and hopeful skills a parent can learn: how to reconnect after those hard moments. Devon shares a simple, four-step framework for circling back after we’ve yelled or overreacted—so instead of getting stuck in guilt, we can model accountability, empathy, and growth. Even though Devon primarily teaches parents of toddlers, this conversation applies beautifully to kids of all ages (trust me—my teen and tween are proof!). In this episode, you’ll learn: 💜 The one phrase that instantly shifts your apology from surface-level to deeply connecting 💜 Why skipping this often-forgotten step in your apology can actually keep your child from trusting you fully 💜 A powerful, brain-based reason to “redo” the moment—and how this single practice can help you yell less over time You’ll walk away with words you can use, steps you can remember, and a renewed sense of grace for yourself as a beautifully human mom. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: ☀️ Want to feel lighter in your motherhood? My mini course Motherhood Decluttered will help you simplify what’s weighing you down and reconnect with what really matters. For a limited time, your purchase includes a buddy pass so you can go through the course with a friend. Related Episodes: 004: How to Stop Yelling at your Kids // Ralphie Jacobs of Simply on Purpose 423: How to Parent a Strong-Willed Child Without Losing Your Mind // Kirk Martin 440: Tools for Parenting a “Spicy” Child // Mary Van Geffen Episode Sponsors: Skylight Calendar: Right now, Skylight is offering our listeners $30 off their 15 inch Calendars by going to MySkylight.com/TAKEAWAYS Factor Meals: Eat smart at FactorMeals.com/3in3050off and use code 3in3050off for 50% off your first box, plus Free Breakfast for 1 Year. Get delicious, ready-to-eat meals delivered—with Factor. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 20 October 2025

This week marks the 8th birthday of 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms 🎉, and I wanted to celebrate it in a way that feels true to the heart of this community. Instead of looking back at download numbers or milestones, I invited someone who has quietly shaped nearly every part of this podcast behind the scenes for the past seven years: my dear friend and teammate, Molly Alexander. Recently, Molly made the bittersweet decision to step away from her role to pursue a new chapter, and it felt only right to honor her by sharing her voice here with you. As part of our conversation, she reflects on the three lessons that have shaped her most deeply during her years with 3 in 30—insights that continue to guide her motherhood and her life today. She talks about the surprising math equation that reframed how she approaches depression, the freedom she’s found in releasing old expectations of the kind of mom she “should” be, and the joy of moving beyond surface-level friendliness into real, honest friendship. This episode is both a behind-the-scenes glimpse into the story of 3 in 30 and a heartfelt reminder that growth often comes when we give ourselves permission to change, to soften, and to connect more authentically with others. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: In the episode, Molly references some things she learned while going through my Motherhood Decluttered Course (previously known as Declutter Your Motherhood). Click here to take the course yourself! Related Episodes: 079: How to Be a Friend Instead of Just Being Friendly // Brooke Romney 218: How can I enjoy having little kids close in age?// Molly Alexander 300: Coping with Illness or Pain as a Mom // Becky and Candace Episode Sponsors: BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. Cure Hydration: For 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms listeners, Cure is offering 20% off your first order! Just go to curehydration.com/3in30 and use code 3in30 at checkout. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 13 October 2025

Have you ever caught yourself second-guessing something as small as what to make for dinner or as big as how to respond to a struggling child and felt completely paralyzed? As moms, we make thousands of decisions every day, and it’s easy to lose confidence in our ability to choose well, especially when we’re weighed down by “shoulds” from outside voices.  In today's episode, I’m joined by Jessica Frew, a decision coach who helps women rebuild trust in themselves and make choices that feel aligned with their true values. Jessica has lived through some incredibly complex circumstances (tune in to learn more! 😘). Out of those experiences, she created her Be.Be.Be. Decision-Making Formula a simple framework that can guide us all to make bolder, more confident decisions.  In this episode, you’ll learn:  🫶 Why so many of us were first taught not to trust ourselves—and how to rebuild that trust as adults 🫶 A simple mindset shift that can instantly loosen the grip of guilt and judgment in your everyday life 🫶 How to know when you’re making decisions out of alignment—and the surprising signs that show up in your relationships when you are  If you’ve been feeling stuck or second-guessing yourself lately, I think this conversation will give you both the encouragement and the tools to move forward with confidence.  For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: 👭 Motherhood Decluttered Buddy Pass!  I would love to invite you to enroll in my brief but impactful audio course. For a limited time, it comes with a free buddy pass so you can do it with a friend, two for one. You can go to 3in30podcast.com/declutter to get signed up and use the code podcast to get 20% off. Related Episodes: 435: How to Make Decisions Without Overthinking // Kendra Adachi of The Lazy Genius 349: Overcoming Decision Fatigue through Reflection // Emily P. Freeman 410: Align Your Goal-Setting with Your Menstrual Cycle // April Davis of Haus of Vagina Episode Sponsors: KiwiCo: Tinker, create, and innovate with KiwiCo! Get up to 50% off your first crate at kiwico.com, promo code 3in30. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 6 October 2025

Have you noticed that since school started, your afternoons feel more chaotic? Maybe your child walks in the door, drops their backpack, and bursts into tears—or lashes out over the smallest thing. It can leave you wondering if something is wrong with them…or with you.   The truth is, what you’re seeing is incredibly common. In fact, there’s even a name for it: restraint collapse. After holding it together all day at school, kids often come home to the one place where they feel safe enough to release all the emotions they’ve been bottling up. And while it can be overwhelming to parent through these meltdowns, there are simple, practical ways to help them regulate and recharge. In this encore episode, I’m joined by Alyssa Blask Campbell, an educator, researcher, and founder of Seed & Sew. Alyssa explains why after-school meltdowns are so common and offers doable strategies you can put into place right away to help your afternoons feel calmer and more connected. In this conversation, you’ll learn: 🍎 The surprising brain-based reason why kids save their biggest meltdowns for home (and why it’s actually a sign of safety) 🍎 Two types of movement that recharge your child’s “battery” and keep afternoons from spiraling into chaos 🍎 A quick connection ritual that takes just 10 minutes but dramatically reduces sibling squabbles and attention-seeking behaviors Whether your child’s after-school crankiness shows up as slammed doors, snappy remarks, or full-blown tears, Alyssa’s insights will help you create calmer, smoother evenings for the whole family. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Related Episodes: 192: The Hidden Reason for Misbehavior (in kids AND parents!) // Wendy Bertagnole 306: Creating Back-to-School Routines for a Smooth Transition // Mika Perry 357: Tips for Staying Calm During Your Big Kid’s Big Meltdowns // Cheryl Cardall Episode Sponsors:  Skylight: Right now, Skylight is offering our listeners $30 off their 15 inch Calendars by going to myskylight.com/TAKEAWAYS BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 29 September 2025

Do the ups and downs of parenting ever feel like a solo sport? You may have friends who love you, but when it comes to really opening up about your struggles and growth as a mother, do you feel like you have teammates—women who are working toward similar goals and cheering you on as you become the truest version of yourself?   In this episode, I’m sharing the voices of three moms from my Self-Assured Motherhood (SAM) program who describe how being part of this community has changed their lives. Their stories highlight the power of having a team in motherhood—mothers who are growing together, practicing new skills together, and reminding each other that none of us has to do this alone. In this conversation, you’ll hear: 💜 Christine’s story of how SAM helped her move from reactivity to repair—and the heartfelt note her daughter wrote that showed the difference 💜 Patty’s transformation from numbing “escape” habits to soul-care that actually restores her, and how that shifted her daughter’s trust in her 💜 Shelby’s growth over four years in SAM, from quiet participant to community leader, and how she learned to steady her thoughts instead of catastrophizing If you’ve ever longed for teammates in your motherhood journey, I hope you’ll see yourself in these women’s stories, and I hope you're join us in SAM! For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: 📣 Enrollment for the Self-Assured Motherhood program closes tonight at midnight (Monday, September 22, 2025), and then it won’t open again for an entire year!!!! We begin next week, and I would love for you to join us. Go to 3in30podcast.com/sam to sign up, and if you have questions, please reach out to me directly at [email protected]. Related Episodes: 315: A Word from our SAM Sisters 389: I’m a Seasoned Mom. Is SAM for me? // Wanda Opitz, SAM Alumni 438: How Soul-Care Can Help You Enjoy Motherhood More: Real Stories from Moms Like You // SAM Sisters   Episode Sponsors: AirDoctor Pro:  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code 3in30 to get up to $300 off today. Air Doctor comes with a 30-day money-back guarantee and a free three year warranty, an $84 value. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 22 September 2025

Today I’m sharing something a little different on the podcast—a limited-time replay of my How to Lighten Your Mental Load masterclass. This class was taught live on Zoom, but I wanted to offer you a chance to listen in case you missed it or want to revisit the tools. It won’t be on the feed forever, so make sure you tune in while it’s available.    In this class, I walk you through three practical takeaways from my Self-Assured Motherhood (SAM) framework that can immediately shift how you experience the invisible weight of motherhood: 💜 How to simplify decisions by voicing your values 💜 How to offload tasks by bolstering your boundaries 💜 How to ease the emotional burden by supporting their struggles instead of trying to solve them You’ll also hear stories from my own motherhood and reflections from women who attended the live class, so you can see how these ideas come to life in real homes and families. 👉 Enrollment for the Self-Assured Motherhood program is open right now, but only through Monday, September 22. Inside SAM, we spend eight months together going deeper into the six core principles of the framework, with weekly live classes, a 135-page workbook, and a supportive community of moms who truly get it. Learn more and join us here! And if you’d like help discerning whether SAM is right for you, I’ll also be hosting a live pop-up session this Friday, September 19 to guide you through the SAM Self-Assessment. Sign up ⁠here⁠! I hope this replay lightens your load a little today—and I’d love to walk with you through even more growth and steadiness inside SAM. 💜

Transcribed - Published: 18 September 2025

Have you ever noticed that some of the parents in Disney movies…aren’t exactly the best role models?   They love their kids deeply, but their fears, expectations, and blind spots often get in the way of connection. As I rewatched a few of these classics recently, I couldn’t help but think, "These parents could really use the Self-Assured Motherhood program!" In this episode, I’m sharing three SAM principles through the lens of Disney families—because studying cartoon characters makes everything more fun (and surprisingly relatable!): 🌊 Moana and the importance of Voicing Your Values—so family conflict becomes easier to navigate ☃️ Frozen and how to Support Their Struggles—instead of trying to “fix” everything for our kids 🐻 Brave and why we need to Gather the Good—to shift our focus from nagging to noticing strengths For full show notes, including takeaways, click ⁠here⁠. *** Announcements: 🧐 Don’t forget: the week this episode is released, I’m also offering my free masterclass: How to Lighten the Mental Load of Motherhood. You’ll leave with simple, practical tools to make your daily life feel lighter. 🎁 Plus, we’ll be giving away a free Skylight Calendar to someone who shows up live at each class! You can sign up ⁠⁠here⁠⁠!  🎉 Enrollment for Self-Assured Motherhood (SAM) is officially open! This live 6-month program will guide you step by step through the SAM6 framework, giving you tools to feel clearer about your values, more confident in your choices, and more steady in the ups and downs of motherhood. Doors only open once a year and will close on September 22, 2025! 👉Learn more or sign up at 3in30podcast.com/sam. Related Episodes: 438: How Soul-Care Can Help You Enjoy Motherhood More: Real Stories from Moms Like You // SAM Sisters 389: I’m a Seasoned Mom. Is SAM for me? // Wanda Opitz, SAM Alumni 316: Considering the SAM Program? You MUST listen to this. Episode Sponsors: BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. KiwiCo: Tinker, create, and innovate with KiwiCo! Get up to 50% off your first crate at kiwico.com, promo code 3in30. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 15 September 2025

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Transcribed - Published: 10 September 2025

Have you ever been told that your perfectionism is a problem? Maybe you’ve felt like it’s the reason you’re stressed, restless, or never satisfied with yourself. But what if perfectionism isn’t actually the enemy? What if it’s a form of power that, when channeled with compassion, can actually bring you more joy and meaning? In this episode, I’m joined by Katherine Morgan Schafler, a psychotherapist and the author of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control. Katherine offers a refreshing perspective: perfectionism doesn’t need to be “fixed” or hidden—it can be embraced and redirected in healthier, more adaptive ways. In this conversation, you’ll learn: 💜 The hidden difference between an idealist and a perfectionist—and why the distinction matters for how you show up in your daily life. 💜 A simple, practical exercise to clarify your values in this season of life, and why naming the values you won’t focus on is just as important 💜 Why so many “helpful” mantras for moms miss the mark—and how to reframe them in a way that feels empowering instead of dismissive. Whether you’ve always identified as a perfectionist or you’re simply curious about new ways to frame personal growth, Katherine’s insights will encourage you to rethink your tendencies with kindness and clarity. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: You're invited to my FREE Masterclass How to Lighten the Mental Load of Motherhood on September 10, 12, or 16. Using the Self-Assured Motherhood framework (the SAM6) I'll give you tools and perspective shifts to help you carry the load with more steadiness, clarity, and peace.   🎁 Plus, we’ll be giving away one free Skylight Calendar at each class to someone in attendance! You can sign up ⁠⁠here⁠⁠! Related Episodes: 267: How to Stop Procrastinating in the New Year // Monica Packer 413: What to Do When You’re Juggling Too Much // Amy Wilson 421: Overwhelmed with Housework? You’re not alone. // KC Davis Episode Sponsors: Skylight: Go to skylightcal.com/TAKEAWAYS for $30 off your 15 inch Calendar. Skylight also offers a guarantee—if in 120 days you are not 100% thrilled with your purchase, you can return it for a full refund. No questions asked. Factor: Eat smart at FactorMeals.com/3in3050off and use code 3in3050off to get 50% off your first box, plus Free Breakfast for 1 Year. (Offer only valid for new Factor customers with code and qualifying auto-renewing subscription purchase.) Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 8 September 2025

Many moms hesitate to set boundaries because they don’t want to seem selfish or unkind. But what if boundaries are actually one of the most compassionate things you can offer to yourself and to the people you love?   In this special episode, I’m sharing an interview I did with JoAnn Crohn of the No Guilt Mom Podcast for her Happy Mom Summit. JoAnn graciously gave permission for me to re-air our conversation here, and I can’t wait for you to listen. Together, we dive into: 🫶 Why boundaries are actually acts of love, not selfishness 🫶 How to articulate your boundaries in a way that is clear and kind 🫶 What to do when others push back, and how holding your boundaries can strengthen trust in your relationships If you’ve ever struggled with resentment, exhaustion, or guilt when trying to meet everyone’s needs, this episode will give you practical tools and encouragement to start setting boundaries that feel aligned and compassionate. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: Sign up for my FREE Masterclass: How to Lighten Your Mental Load. Setting clear boundaries is one way to significantly lighten your mental load as a mom, and I'm going to teach you several others in this free zoom class to help you feel calmer, more confident, and more in control! Related Episodes: 437: Boundaries and Emotional Resilience in Motherhood // Dr. Jen Riday 379: Principle #4 // Bolster Your Boundaries [The SAM Framework] 413: What to Do When You’re Juggling Too Much // Amy Wilson Episode Sponsors: goPure Beauty: For a limited time, our listeners get 25% off goPure with code 3in30 at checkout. Just head to gopurebeauty.com, use code 3in30, and you’re all set. And after you buy, do us a favor—when they ask where you heard about goPure, tell them it was from our show! Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 1 September 2025

Have you ever wondered why it’s so hard to stick to goals that matter to you, but you can follow through easily when someone else is counting on you? Or why one of your children seems to resist every rule, while another lives for structure and routine? This week’s guest, Sarah Joslin, walks us through a personality framework that has the power to transform the way we see ourselves and our kids. Based on The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin, this simple but powerful model explains how we each respond to expectations—and how we can use that understanding to build better routines, boundaries, and relationships in our homes. In this episode, you’ll hear: 🫶 How understanding your own patterns can help you stop self-sabotaging and start making aligned choices 🫶 What might be happening beneath the surface when your child resists your requests or breaks down over structure 🫶 The surprising reason one-size-fits-all parenting strategies rarely work... and what to do instead Whether you’ve taken The Four Tendencies Quiz or this is your first introduction to the concept, this conversation is a helpful, judgment-free starting point for anyone who wants to show up with more clarity and compassion for themselves and the people they love most. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: 📣 Click here for Sarah's handout that will summarize The 4 Tendencies and how they look in motherhood. 📣 The doors to the annual SAM Program will be opening in a couple of weeks! Join the waitlist to receive the best discount when doors open in September! 📣 Want to join SAM, but finances make that impossible? We're offering full and partial scholarships for the Self-Assured Motherhood program, and applications are open now through August 29th. Related Episodes: 426: What to Do When You Don’t Like Your Kid (Even Though You Love Them!) 368: Using the Enneagram to Improve our Relationships // Kelsey Lincoln 314: How to Feel like Yourself in Motherhood // Aleisha McKean Episode Sponsors: BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. AirDoctorPro: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code 3IN30 to get UP TO $300 off today! AirDoctor comes with a 30-day money-back guarantee and a free 3-year warranty—an $84 value! Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 25 August 2025

As school routines settle back in, many moms start looking for a better rhythm with meals—something that feels less chaotic and more doable.   But for many moms (myself included), feeding a family brings up more stress than we’d like to admit. We put so much pressure on ourselves to do it “right,” and when our kids complain or the fridge is empty or we’re too tired to cook, it’s easy to feel like we’re failing. And if you’re dealing with a picky eater (or a few!), that stress can multiply quickly. If that’s you, I really want you to hear this week’s conversation with my friend and SAM Sister, Celeste Noland. She’s a mom of five with a deeply grounded and grace-filled approach to family meals—and I think her ideas will bring you both relief and fresh energy. In this episode, you’ll hear: 🍕The surprising connection between food struggles and nervous system dysregulation—and how to create more calm around the table. 🍕 Practical, doable strategies for when you're too burned out to make one more decision about dinner. 🍕Why giving yourself permission to break the rules might be the key to making meals feel joyful again. Let this episode be your permission slip to make things easier, lighter, and a whole lot more realistic, starting today. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: To get the free printable recapping Celeste's E.A.T. Framework, click here. The doors to the annual SAM Program will be opening in less than one month! Join the waitlist to receive the best discount when doors open in September. Related Episodes: 347: When Making Dinner Feels Like Drudgery // Rachel on Didn’t I Just Feed You Podcast 302: How to Heal Your Relationship with Food // Natalie Shay 255: How to Get Family Dinner on the Table (+ Why It Matters!) // Kelsey Nixon Episode Sponsors: K12: Go to K12.com/3IN30 today to learn more and find a tuition-free K12-powered school near you.  GoPure Beauty: For a limited time, our listeners get 25% off goPure with code 3in30 at checkout. Just head to gopurebeauty.com, use code 3in30, and you’re all set. And after you buy, do us a favor—when they ask where you heard about goPure, tell them it was from our show! BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 18 August 2025

When you think about decorating your home, do you feel inspired... or just overwhelmed? Many moms dismiss design as something extra or unnecessary. But what if creating a space you love could actually support your well-being, reduce stress, and help you feel more grounded in your motherhood? In this episode, I’m joined by Valerie Bradshaw, a longtime Self-Assured Motherhood Sister and home design enthusiast, who shares how to approach decorating with color, confidence, and alignment with your personal values. It’s not about impressing others—it’s about creating an environment that reflects who you are and how you want to feel in your home. Together, we explore why our surroundings matter so much, and how simple, intentional design choices can transform not just our spaces but our mindset, energy, and even our relationships. In this conversation, you’ll learn: 🌷 How a famous study revealed that beautiful spaces can change how we see other people 🌷 Why decorating your home might actually help you like your kids more (really!) 🌷 A mindset shift that will free you from comparison and help you embrace your own version of beauty Whether you love design or feel completely out of your depth, this episode will give you a fresh lens (and a gentle roadmap) for creating a space that feels like you. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: Click here for Valerie's handout that will guide you through decorating a room in your home. The doors to the annual SAM Program will be opening in less than one month! Join the waitlist to receive the best discount when doors open in September. Related Episodes: 428: What Fashion Taught Me About Motherhood (Yes, Really!) // Julie Allen 321: How to Design a Home Full of Stories // Carly Thornock 374: Using Values to Guide Your Spending // Jen Smith of Frugal Friends Podcast Episode Sponsors: K12: Go to K12.com/3IN30 today to learn more and find a tuition-free K12-powered school near you. Skylight Calendar: Right now, Skylight is offering our listeners $30 off their 15 inch Calendars by going to skylightcal.com/takeaways. Factor: Get started at factormeals.com/3in3050off and use code 3in3050off to get 50 percent off plus FREE shipping on your first box. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 11 August 2025

We talk a lot about self-care as moms, but most of the time, the examples we’re given (bubble baths, massages, solo Target runs) only scratch the surface.   The truth is, there’s not one kind of self-care. There are actually several distinct forms of care we need, and they each serve a different purpose in our lives and in our motherhood. When we only reach for one type, it makes sense that we still feel burned out, even after “taking a break.” This week on the podcast, I’m joined by self-care coach Mia Hemstad, who shares her simple, powerful framework: The 4B’s of Self-Care© to help us better identify what we need (and when!). You'll hear: 💜 The four distinct types of self-care (and why each one matters) 💜 How to identify which kind you’re craving (and which one you’ve been avoiding) 💜 The surprising connection between mental clutter and unfinished tasks 💜 How to release guilt and give yourself permission to meet your needs with intention This conversation beautifully supports the fourth principle of the Self-Assured Motherhood Framework: Sanctify Your Soul-Care—and it's the perfect time, whether you're still in the thick of summer or easing into back-to-school rhythms, to pause, check in, and reflect on what kind of care you need most right now. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: The Self-Assured Motherhood program opens again next month! If this episode resonates, be sure to get on the interest list here. You can get Mia’s free printable guide to the Four B’s here. Related Episodes: 438: How Soul-Care Can Help You Enjoy Motherhood More: Real Stories from Moms Like You // SAM Sisters 380: Principle #5 // Sanctify Your Soul-Care [The SAM Framework] 320: Making Space for Self-Care: It Might Not Be As Hard As You Think // Dr. Nicole Sparks Episode Sponsors: K12: Go to K12.com/3IN30 today to learn more and find a tuition-free K12-powered school near you. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. KiwiCo: Tinker, Create, and Innovate with KiwiCo! Get up to 50% off your first crate at kiwico.com, promo code 3in30 Let’s Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 4 August 2025

Oh, the stories I could tell about raising a strong-willed child.   But the truth is, if you have a spicy one of your own, you don’t need to hear my stories because you’ve got plenty of your own! Parenting an intense, persistent, sensitive kiddo is a daily rollercoaster. And sometimes, what you need most isn’t another “quick fix”… it’s a wise, compassionate mentor who truly gets it. That’s why I’m so excited to re-share this conversation with Mary Van Geffen, an international parenting coach who specializes in helping moms of "spicy" ones. Mary’s work is rooted in self-compassion, calm leadership, and connection over control - and her advice is the kind that actually works for kids who don’t respond to conventional parenting strategies. This episode is part of our SAM 6 Summer Series, where we’re exploring the six principles of the Self-Assured Motherhood Framework. Today’s focus is the sixth and final principle: Support Their Struggles. It’s about showing up for your child with tenderness in their hardest moments - and learning how to support yourself in the process, too. In this episode, you’ll hear: 🌶️ What to do when your child’s intensity makes you wonder if you’re the problem 🌶️ A daily mindset mantra that can transform how you see your spicy one 🌶️ Why your physical posture might be sending your child a louder message than your words Whether your summer has been sweet, spicy, or somewhere in between, I hope this episode will remind you that you’re not alone… and you’re doing better than you think. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: Want to reflect on how you’re really doing in motherhood right now? Take the free Self-Assured Motherhood Framework Assessment. It’s a quick check-in that gives you a visual snapshot of where you’re thriving and where you might need more support. Related Episodes: 426: What to Do When You Don’t Like Your Kid (Even Though You Love Them!) 423: How to Parent a Strong-Willed Child Without Losing Your Mind // Kirk Martin 357: Tips for Staying Calm During Your Big Kid’s Big Meltdowns // Cheryl Cardall Episode Sponsors: K12: Go to K12.com/TAKEAWAYS today to find a tuition-free K12-powered school near you and enroll now. Skylight Calendar: Right now, Skylight is offering our listeners $30 off their 15 inch Calendars by going to skylightcal.com/takeaways. GoPure: For a limited time, our listeners get 25% off goPure with code 3in30 at checkout. Just head to gopurebeauty.com, use code 3in30, and you’re all set. Motherhood Decluttered Course: My Motherhood Decluttered audio course is a step-by-step guide to help you inventory your overwhelm, edit your expectations, and make room for more joy. It comes with a free Buddy Pass so you can do it with a friend, so go to 3in30podcast.com/declutter to learn more. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 28 July 2025

Ever found yourself stuck in a cycle of constant correction, nagging, lecturing, or repeating yourself while your kids seem to tune you out? It happens to almost every parent at some point. In the moment, it can feel like the only option… but learning a new way of responding can be a game-changer. Today’s guest, Ralphie Jacobs of Simply On Purpose, shares three powerful tools that can shift the emotional climate in your home by focusing on connection, encouragement, and play (rather than punishment or control). She teaches that one of the most effective ways to improve behavior is also one of the simplest: notice what your kids are doing right. Tune in to learn: 💡 The parenting habit that’s scientifically proven to reduce misbehavior by 80% 💡 What to say instead of “stop that” when your child is doing something you don’t like 💡 The surprising way to turn a meltdown around - using humor, imagination, or even Altoids This episode is a beautiful example of the fifth principle in my Self-Assured Motherhood Framework, Gather the Good, which is all about learning to see and savor the small moments of beauty in your day. Because what you focus on grows. And when you start focusing on the good in your kids, your home, and yourself… it changes everything. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: Motherhood is always evolving (and so are we!). If you’re looking for a simple way to check in with yourself and see where you’re currently thriving and where you might want more support, take my free Self-Assured Motherhood Framework Assessment. Related Episodes: 304: Motherhood is hard. This helps. 426: What to Do When You Don’t Like Your Kid (Even Though You Love Them!) 434: How to Actually Enjoy Summer as a Mom Episode Sponsors: K12: Go to K12.com/TAKEAWAYS today to find a tuition-free K12-powered school near you and enroll now. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. GoPure: For a limited time, our listeners get 25% off goPure with code 3in30 at checkout. Just head to gopurebeauty.com, use code 3in30, and you’re all set. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 21 July 2025

This conversation is full of gentle reminders and practical ideas for building rhythms of care into your everyday life... so you’re not just making it through motherhood, you’re actually enjoying it.   You’ll hear from three incredible moms: Celeste, Tiffany, and Abby, who each found their own way to prioritize soul care. Not the spa-day kind, but the kind that fits into the cracks of real life. The kind that helps you feel more like yourself again. In this episode, you’ll hear: 💜 How to kindly remind yourself that you matter too, even on the hardest days 💜 A powerful wake-up call one mom had while tracking her time—and what she changed as a result 💜 A creative way to infuse soul care into kid-filled outings, so you can show up fully and savor the moment These stories beautifully illustrate one of the core principles of my Self-Assured Motherhood framework: Sanctify Your Soul Care. When we honor our whole selves (body, mind, and spirit!), we show up with more strength, more presence, and more joy for the people we love most. You are worth caring for, and this episode will remind you how to start. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: If today’s conversation resonates, I know you’ll love the ⁠Self-Assured Motherhood Framework Assessment⁠—a free tool to help you see where you're thriving and where you may need more support in your emotional well-being. Related Episodes: 170: Taking Care of Mama after a Baby // Andrea Faulkner Williams of Tubby Todd Bath Co. 318: Combating Emotional Fatigue while Caregiving // Dr. Chelsea Jackson Roberts 320: Making Space for Self-Care: It Might Not Be As Hard As You Think // Dr. Nicole Sparks Related Sponsors: K12: Go to K12.com/TAKEAWAYS today to find a tuition-free K12-powered school near you and enroll now. Skylight: Go to Skylightcal.com/takeaways for $30 off your 15-inch Calendar. Factor: Get started at factormeals.com/3in3050off and use code 3in3050off to get 50 percent off plus FREE shipping on your first box.AirDoctor: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code 3IN30 to get UP TO $300 off today! AirDoctor comes with a 30-day money-back guarantee and a free 3-year warranty—an $84 value! Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 14 July 2025

Emotional resilience is one of the most powerful skills you can develop as a mom - and let’s be honest, it’s also one of the hardest to master.   From toddler tantrums to teen drama, from work stress to family dynamics… there’s no shortage of moments that can leave you feeling stretched thin and emotionally spent. And there’s no season that tests this quite like summer, when the routines are loose, the noise is constant, and everyone seems to need something from you all day long. That’s why I’m re-airing this powerful conversation with Dr. Jen Riday, a mom of six with a PhD in Human Development and Family Studies and host of the Vibrant Happy Women podcast. Jen combines research-backed wisdom with real-life experience to help women build emotional resilience... and the healthy boundaries that make it possible. Because here’s the truth: You can’t be emotionally resilient without boundaries. Boundaries aren’t about controlling others, they’re about protecting your peace. Learning to say, “This is what I will do to care for myself,” is one of the most courageous and transformative skills you can develop as a mom. In this episode, you’ll learn: 🔅 The mindset shift that helps you stop absorbing everyone else’s emotions 🔅 A simple way to create emotional “margin” in your day (no bubble baths required) 🔅 How to set boundaries that actually stick—without guilt or drama If you’re feeling overwhelmed, overstimulated, or emotionally drained this summer… this episode is for you. For full show notes and takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: Wondering how you're doing in motherhood? Grab your free SAM Framework Assessment today! Related Episodes: 251: How to Set Boundaries with your Children // Stacey Collins 258: Boundaries with Kids Part 2 // Stacey Collins 136: How to Set Loving Limits with your Children, Part 1 // Dr. Katie Penry 137: How to Set Loving Boundaries for your Children, Part 2 // Dr. Katie Penry Episode Sponsors: Zocdoc: Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to zocdoc.com/3in30 to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. KiwiCo: Build the best summer ever with KiwiCo! Get $15 off on your Summer Adventure Series. Head to kiwicode.com/3in30 and use promo code 3in30. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 7 July 2025

Ever catch yourself comparing your motherhood to someone else’s? In this heartfelt episode, my friend and motherhood mentor, Julie Bastedo, shares how a simple moment of comparison while cooking dinner led her to a powerful mindset shift: you don’t have to be all the things—you just have to be yourself. This conversation is a beautiful example of the second principle in my Self-Assured Motherhood framework: Celebrate Your Strengths. When we stop trying to be the mom we think we should be, and start honoring the mom we are, everything changes. Tune in to hear: 💜 A surprising mindset shift that can instantly deflate mom guilt 💜 A practical trick for quieting comparison (it involves a sticky note!) 💜 Why one of the kindest things you can do for yourself is unfollow 💜 How embracing your “non-strengths” can actually increase your confidence As you listen to this conversation, I hope you feel what I always feel when I talk to Julie: less pressure, more peace, and more acceptance of who you are. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: If today’s conversation resonates, I know you’ll love the Self-Assured Motherhood Framework Assessment—a free tool to help you see where you're thriving and where you may need more support in your emotional well-being. Related Episodes: 428: What Fashion Taught Me About Motherhood (Yes, Really!) // Julie Allen 410: Align Your Goal-Setting with Your Menstrual Cycle // April Davis of Haus of Vagina 314: How to Feel like Yourself in Motherhood // Aleisha McKean Episode Sponsors: Tushbaby:  Visit tushbaby.com and start customizing your own carrier. Make sure to use code 3in30 for 20% off your first order. Summer Survival Guide: I want to make sure you know about an amazing resource my team created. It is a summer hacks PDF, full of activity ideas for the whole family, sanity saving tips for parents, and road trip ideas. This is a curated list of ideas our team has used and found successful over the years. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 30 June 2025

If you’ve ever felt paralyzed by a decision–spinning in circles, overanalyzing every possible outcome, and feeling like you can’t move forward until you get it just right–I'm here to tell you that the struggle is SO real. I’ve been there. In fact, decision-making used to be one of my biggest struggles as a mom.   But over the past few years, I’ve been on a quiet quest to become a more confident, grounded, and calm decision maker. And one of the people who has helped me the most on this journey is today’s guest: Kendra Adachi, the two-time New York Times bestselling author of The Lazy Genius Way and The Lazy Genius Kitchen. In this episode, Kendra shares three practical mindset shifts that can help you feel less frantic and more empowered the next time you’re faced with a decision–whether it’s what to make for dinner or whether to buy a piece of land for your dream home. Tune in to learn: 💡 A simple strategy that builds your confidence as a decision-maker (and why you should start with the little things) 💡 The powerful question that brings instant clarity when you’re overwhelmed by too many options 💡 How to avoid making “everything matter” during the decision-making process This conversation is a beautiful example of the first principle in my Self-Assured Motherhood Framework—Voice Your Values—which is all about getting clear on what matters most to you so you can make aligned decisions in your motherhood. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: Grab my free Values Guide at 3in30podcast.com/values to explore what your values are. Record your golden moments this summer with my Flecks of Gold journal. Related Episodes: 349: Overcoming Decision Fatigue through Reflection // Emily P. Freeman 375: 3 Ways Voicing Your Values will Help Lighten Your Mental Load // Rachel Nielson on the Happy Mom Summit 269: How to Create a Morning Routine that will Last // Sara Dean Episode Sponsors: Skylight: Skylight is offering our listeners $30 off their 15-inch calendars by going to skylightcal.com/takeaways. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 23 June 2025

Summer can be such a gift—but it can also feel like a lot. Whether you're a few days in or several weeks deep, this season tends to stretch us in new ways as moms. We want to make memories, stay present, and still meet our own needs—but how? In this solo episode, I’m introducing you to the SAM 6, a new streamlined version of the Self-Assured Motherhood framework that I’ve been teaching for years. These six principles are designed to help you feel more grounded, fulfilled, and confident in your motherhood, including during the summer months. If you’ve ever felt burned out from doing “all the things” or unsure of how to balance your kids’ needs with your own, this episode will help you recalibrate. I’ll walk you through each of the six principles and offer simple, specific ways you can apply them to your summer, so you can enjoy this season more fully and in a way that truly reflects you. In this episode, you’ll discover: ☀️ Why you might be feeling burned out—and how to get back into alignment ☀️ A simple mindset shift that can help you enjoy your summer more (even in the chaos) ☀️ What your calendar might be saying about your true values For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: Take the Self-Assured Motherhood Assessment Grab a Flecks of Gold Journal – use code SUMMER for 10% off Related Episodes: 315: A Word from our SAM Sisters 371: 3 Spaces to Organize for the Most Summer Fun // Jen Martin from Reset Your Nest 427: A Simple Framework for a “Balanced Summer” // Jenny Layton Episode Sponsors: Factor Meals: Factor meals arrive fresh and ready to eat. Get started at factormeals.com/3in3050off and use code 3in3050off to get 50 percent off plus FREE shipping on your first box. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 16 June 2025

Making new friends as an adult is challenging—and motherhood often makes it even harder. Between family responsibilities, full schedules, and emotional fatigue, it can feel like there’s no space left for connection. And even when we do show up, it’s not always easy to know how to move from polite small talk to real, meaningful friendship. In this episode, psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Marisa G. Franco joins me to unpack why friendship often feels so complicated in adulthood—and how we can begin to build the kind of relationships we long for. Whether you’re starting from scratch or hoping to deepen the friendships you already have, this conversation will give you both clarity and compassion for where you are—and the tools to take a small step forward. This episode will help you: 🤗 Break out of the “I showed up but still feel lonely” cycle 🤗 Rewire your mindset to believe people actually want to be your friend (because they do!) 🤗 Recognize the hidden habits that may be quietly sabotaging your ability to connect 🤗 Learn what to do when you feel like you’re trying…but still not clicking with anyone If friendship has felt harder than you expected in this season of life, this episode will remind you that you’re very much not alone—and that meaningful connection is still possible. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Related Episodes: 400: 3 Modern Manners for Friendship // Brooke Romney 386: Raising Securely Attached Kids // Eli Harwood, MA, LPC 417: The Sneaky Ways Comparison Creeps Into Conversations (and How to Stop It) // Kathie Gwilliam Episode Sponsors: Brightbox: Go to brightboxes.com to check out all their thoughtful options. Whether you're sending encouragement, appreciation, or just a little joy, Brightbox makes it easy to spread light. Factor: Get started at factormeals.com/3in3050off and use code 3in3050off to get 50 percent off plus FREE shipping on your first box. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 9 June 2025

We want to raise kids who are responsible, capable, and financially wise—but it’s hard to know where to start. It can feel especially tricky to teach life skills like money management and personal responsibility without constant reminding or frustration.   In this episode, I’m joined by Saren Eyre Loosli, founder of Power of Families and one of my earliest parenting mentors. Saren is a mom of five and a family systems expert who shares a simple, sustainable way to teach these skills within the flow of everyday life—without turning your home into a battleground. Summer is an ideal time to reset routines and try something new. This episode will give you practical tools and a clear framework to help your family work together more smoothly. You’ll hear: 💰 A clear structure for helping kids earn and manage their own money 💰 How to connect allowance to responsibility and attitude, not just tasks 💰 A system for daily routines that fosters independence and ownership 💰 Tools for tracking money and chores that work for all ages This conversation is both practical and encouraging, especially if you’ve been wanting more clarity (and less conflict) around chores, allowance, and life skills at home. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Related Episodes: 369: How to Teach Your Kids about Money // Abby Chipman 350: Rethinking Chores: A Quick Mindset Shift to Help with Overwhelm 373: Teaching Children to Work Without Being a Drill Sergeant // Danielle Porter Episode Sponsors: Zocdoc: Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to Zocdoc.com/3in30 to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. KiwiCo: Build the best summer ever with KiwiCo! Get $15 off on your Summer Adventure Series at kiwico.com/3in30. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 2 June 2025

Summer is almost here… which means it’s road trip season! If you’re gearing up for some long drives with your kids in tow, this episode is packed with practical tips to help make those hours in the car smoother, more fun, and a little less chaotic.    Brittney Hanks—mom of four and the genius behind Home and Kind—is here to share her favorite road trip hacks that she’s developed over years of cross-country drives with her kids. She’s all about simple systems that ease the mental load for moms and bring more connection and joy into everyday moments. Whether you're a seasoned road tripper or just trying to survive your first long haul with littles, Brittany’s creative ideas will have you feeling calm, confident, and ready to roll. In this episode, you’ll learn: 🚗 A clever way to visually track your progress (and keep kids from asking “Are we there yet?” every five minutes) 🚗 How to turn a gas station stop into a fun, energy-boosting family relay 🚗 The best podcasts and audiobooks for a variety of ages that the whole family will enjoy 🚗 Why embracing flexibility—and letting some of your usual rules slide—can actually lead to more meaningful connection You’ll come away from this conversation feeling inspired and equipped to make your summer road trips less stressful and a lot more special. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: Click here to receive my Travel Hacks for Families handout Related Episodes: 402: How to Travel More as a Family without Breaking the Bank // Amber Paul 363: Tips & Tricks for Family Travel // Meesha Slade 370: How to Adventure As a Family // Chamaine WollenzeinEpisode Sponsors: Zocdoc: Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to Zocdoc.com/3in30 to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Storyworth: Give the “dads” in your life a unique, heartfelt gift you’ll all cherish for years—Storyworth! Right now, save $10 during their Father’s Day sale when you go to Storyworth.com/3in30! Skylight: Right now, Skylight is offering our listeners $30 off their 15-inch Calendars by going to Skylightcal.com/takeaways. Aquatru: Today my listeners receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Just go to AquaTru.com and enter code “3IN30” at checkout. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 26 May 2025

What if your next family trip wasn’t about packing in more—but about slowing down, connecting, and actually enjoying your time together? This week, I'm joined by family travel expert Meggie Busath, who shares practical ways to bring more intention, connection, and joy to your trips—without overcomplicating things or blowing your budget. In this episode, you’ll learn: 🫶 How to stop overcomplicating travel—and focus on what actually matters to your family 🫶 Why your attitude as the parent is the most important factor in whether a trip feels successful 🫶 Practical strategies for navigating inevitable bumps in the road (without losing your cool) 🫶 The small, intentional choices—like what snacks you pack or when you schedule screen time—that can make a huge difference for your kids If you're craving more connection and less chaos in your family travels, this episode is filled with ideas to help you get there. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: Grab my FREE Travel Hacks for Families Guide to help with your summer travel plans! Related Episodes: 431: 3 Road Trip Hacks for Traveling with Kids // Brittney Hanks 363: Tips & Tricks for Family Travel // Meesha Slade 402: How to Travel More as a Family without Breaking the Bank // Amber Paul Episode Sponsors: Kiwi Co: Build the best summer ever with KiwiCo! Get $15 off on your Summer Adventure Series at kiwico.com/3in30. Factor: Get started at factormeals.com/3in3050off and use code 3in3050off to get 50 percent off plus FREE shipping on your first box. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. Let’s Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 19 May 2025

If you’ve ever felt like the problems of the world are too big, and your influence is too small to matter, this conversation with Sharon McMahon will help you realize how powerful even just your small actions can be.   Sharon is a former high school government teacher turned trusted online educator and advocate. In her new book The Small and the Mighty, she highlights 12 lesser-known Americans whose quiet courage changed history. In this episode, she shares the stories of three women whose steady choices and persistence still shape our world today—and shows how small, consistent actions in your own life can create a ripple effect too. Tune in to hear: 🌎 Why doing the next needed thing can be the most impactful—and most accessible—form of change 🌎 How helping just one person can expand your capacity, bring you hope, and ripple outward in unseen ways 🌎 What it looks like to keep showing up, even when others don’t understand or support you Sharon’s storytelling is rich and inspiring, and her perspective will help you reframe your role as a mother, a neighbor, and a citizen. You don’t need to be extraordinary to do something that matters. You just need to begin. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: If you love this conversation, grab the worksheet that my team made to go along with this episode, where you can think through Sharon's takeaways and brainstorm how they apply to your life right now. It includes some of Sharon's best quotes and some thought-provoking questions to help you apply what you learn today. Related Episodes: 392: How to Have Grace-Filled Political Conversations with Family & Friends // Sarah Stewart Holland & Beth Silvers of Pantsuit Politics 256: Why “Unsexy” Elections Matter and How to Get Involved as a Busy Mom // Laney Hawes 051: How (and Why) to Get Involved in the Political Process as a Mom // Lacey Parr Episode Sponsors: Tushbaby: Visit Tushbaby.com and start customizing your own carrier. Make sure to use code 3IN30 for 20% off your first order. Nutrafol: For a limited time, Nutrafol is offering our listeners $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping when you go to Nutrafol.com and enter the promo code 3IN30. AirDoctor: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code 3IN30 to get UP TO $300 off today! Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course

Transcribed - Published: 12 May 2025

I've never considered myself a person who cares about fashion or "style" so when I first stumbled across Julie Allen on Instagram, I didn’t expect to stick around. But something about the way she talked about clothes felt different. It was kind, approachable, and freeing. Julie teaches women how to embrace style tools instead of style rules, and as I listened to her, I realized how much that philosophy overlaps with how I think about motherhood. There’s no one right way to be a mom—or to get dressed. It’s about finding what fits you and building a life you love from there. Julie is a mom of six and a style educator who’s passionate about helping women reconnect with themselves through the way they show up each day. In this episode, she shares three style principles that double as beautiful life lessons for moms—and they might just shift the way you think about both your wardrobe and your parenting. We’ll talk about: ✨ How to use style (and motherhood) tools instead of rigid rules ✨ Why you’re allowed to express different parts of yourself—on any given day ✨ The importance of building your motherhood on a foundation of your core values Whether or not you’ve ever cared much about fashion, this episode will help you feel more confident in showing up as you. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Related Episodes: 201: Living your Life’s Purpose in Every Stage // Brooke Snow 297: 3 Secrets to Confidence in Motherhood 354: Letting Go of Heavy Expectations of Yourself // Sneak Peek from the Declutter your Motherhood Audio Course   Episode Sponsors: Team Supercrew: Visit teamsupercrew.com and use the code 3in30 at checkout to get 10% off your order. You’ll also get a free gift—step-by-step reading and play guides to help you reinforce the lessons in simple, powerful ways. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. KiwiCo: Build the best summer ever with KiwiCo! Get $15 off on your Summer Adventure Series at kiwico.com.   Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 5 May 2025

As moms, summer can feel like both a dream and a juggling act. We want to make magical memories for our families… but we also crave order, rest, and a little bit of time for ourselves. So, how do we actually find balance in the chaos of summer break?   In this episode, I’m joined by Jenny Layton—professional organizer, time management coach, and mom of five—who shares a beautifully simple framework that will change the way you think about your summer rhythm. Jenny introduces the idea of “family and personal seasons” and helps us understand how to honor the season we’re in, while still making space for what we need as women.   In this conversation, we explore:   ✨ Why summer feels so overwhelming—and how to shift your expectations ✨ How to embrace the season of family life without losing yourself in it ✨ Why even a small “dot of personal time” can restore your sense of peace ✨ How to help your kids learn to rebalance themselves when they’re bored or off-track   Whether you’re a full-time stay-at-home mom, a working mom, or somewhere in between, this episode will help you create a summer that feels more aligned, more joyful, and more you.   For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: Don’t miss the free PDF bundle Jenny created for our listeners—including a printable yin-yang graphic, an “Are You Bored?” checklist for kids, and a list of age-appropriate life skills to teach your children over the summer. Related Episodes: 371: 3 Spaces to Organize for the Most Summer Fun // Jen Martin from Reset Your Nest 361: How to Make Reading Fun This Summer // Janssen Bradshaw 360: A Secret Tool to Keep Your Kids Entertained this Summer // Andi Smiley Episode Sponsors: Skylight: Right now, Skylight is offering our listeners $30 off their 15 inch Calendars by going to Skylightcal.com/3IN30. AquaTru: Get 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Just go to AquaTru.com and enter code “3IN30” at checkout. Wildgrain: For a limited time, Wildgrain is offering our listeners $30 off the first box - PLUS free Croissants in every box - when you go to Wildgrain.com/3IN30 to start your subscription. Or you can use code 3in30 at checkout. StoryWorth: Right now, save $10 on your first purchase when you go to StoryWorth.com/3in30. Let’s Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 28 April 2025

This is one of those episodes I felt called to record because I know so many of us have been here. You love your child with your whole heart, and yet, in certain seasons, you find yourself thinking, I just don’t like them very much right now.   That doesn’t make you a bad mom. It makes you human.   In this solo episode, I’m sharing three tools that have helped me move through those really hard parenting stretches—when one child is pushing every button I have—and find my way back to affection, connection, and even joy.   We’ll talk about:   💜 How your child’s “hardest” traits may actually be their biggest strengths in disguise 💜 Why the words you say about your child (even when they’re not around) can shape how you see them 💜 What to do when your child is constantly seeking negative attention—and how you can gently redirect that cycle   I’ll also tell you about a simple mindset shift that changed the way I experience motherhood—plus the journaling tool I created to help me live it out day by day.   If you’re in a tough season with one of your kids, I hope this episode feels like sitting down with a trusted friend who truly gets it—and who can gently offer some ideas for how to keep going.   For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: Don’t forget, the Flecks of Gold Journal is on sale now through Mother’s Day. It’s a beautiful gift for any mom who’s trying to see and savor the good. Related Episodes: 189: “Quiet Time” Tips for Families // Solo Episode 423: How to Parent a Strong-Willed Child Without Losing Your Mind // Kirk Martin of Calm Parenting 425: When PARENTING Doesn’t Turn Out As Planned // Michelle Barrow Episode Sponsors: Team Supercrew: Visit teamsupercrew.com and use the code 3in30 at checkout to get 10% off your order. You’ll also get a free gift—step-by-step reading and play guides to help you reinforce the lessons in simple, powerful ways. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. Factor: Go to factormeals.com/3in3050off and use code 3in3050off to get 50% off plus free shipping on your first box. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 21 April 2025

What happens when your child's story looks nothing like the one you had imagined? This heartfelt encore episode features my dear friend, Michelle Barrow—a mother of four and grandmother of six—who generously shares the wisdom she’s gained from raising teenagers and supporting her adult children through life’s unexpected twists. This conversation is a powerful companion to last week’s episode with author Jessica N. Turner on moving forward when life doesn’t turn out as planned. In this episode, Michelle invites us into her journey of learning how to let go of rigid expectations, make room for her children’s evolving identities, and parent from a place of trust rather than fear. In this conversation, you'll hear: 💜 Why “parenting formulas” don’t guarantee outcomes—and how letting go of expectations can lead to more peace and joy. 💜 What it looks like to change the rules mid-parenting, and how doing so can strengthen trust and relationships within your family. 💜 How to stay rooted in your values while giving your children the freedom to shape their own stories. 💜 And ultimately, how you can find peace and steadiness in parenting, even when things don’t go as planned. Whether you're parenting toddlers or teens, this episode will leave you feeling seen, inspired, and encouraged to embrace the beautifully imperfect journey of motherhood. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Related Episodes: 279: Navigating Parenting Triggers // Nat Vikitsreth 272: How to Fall Back in Love with Motherhood When It All Feels Hard // Tessa Brown 206: 3 Things to Remember when Parenting is Difficult Sponsors: Acorns Early: Ready to help your kids learn the value of money? Just head to acornsearly.com/3in30 or download the Acorns Early app to get started. Sign up now and your first month is on us! Zocdoc: Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to Zocdoc.com/3in30 to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Helix Mattresses: Helix mattresses are award-winning and have been proven to help with deep sleep. They ship right to your house, and they have a 100-night risk-free trial. If you don't love your Helix, they'll pick it up and give you a full refund. Go to helixsleep.com/3in30 for 20% Off Sitewide. Air Doctor: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code 3IN30 to get UP TO $300 off today! AirDoctor comes with a 30-day money back guarantee, plus a 3-year warranty—an $84 value, free! KiwiCo: Tinker, Create, and Innovate with KiwiCo! Get up to 50% off your first crate at kiwico.com, promo code 3in30. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course

Transcribed - Published: 14 April 2025

When you were younger, did you imagine your life turning out a certain way? Maybe you thought you’d have a house full of children, a forever kind of love, or a career that lit you up. But what happens when the reality of your life looks nothing like the dream? In this heartfelt and hope-filled episode, I sit down with bestselling author Jessica N. Turner to talk about how to rise from life’s deepest disappointments and rebuild something beautiful. Jessica vulnerably shares her personal story of walking through a midlife divorce after her husband of 16 years came out—and the healing journey that followed. Whether you’re grieving the loss of a dream, struggling through a transition, or just feeling stuck in unmet expectations, this conversation will help you: 💜 Feel less alone in your disappointment and more seen in your story. 💜 Understand how to make meaning from your grief without rushing through it. 💜 Explore practical ways to process emotional pain. Jessica’s wisdom is layered with empathy, grace, and real-life tools. She reminds us that even if we didn’t choose the hard thing, we can still choose what comes next. For full show notes including takeaways, click here. *** Related Episodes: 104: How to Move Through Grief towards Joy // Anna Packard, PhD in Clinical Psychology 205: How to Coach Yourself through Big Emotions // Georgia Anderson 299: How to Let Go of Hard Stuff from Your Past Episode Sponsors: Acorns Early: Ready to help your kids learn the value of money? Just head to acornsearly.com/3in30 or download the Acorns Early app to get started. Sign up now and your first month is on us! Tushbaby: Visit Tushbaby.com and start customizing your own carrier. Make sure to use code 3IN30 for 20% your first order. Nutrofol: Start your hair growth journey with Nutrafol. For a limited time, Nutrafol is offering our listeners ten dollars off your first month’s subscription and free shipping when you go to Nutrafol.com and enter the promo code 3IN30. KiwiCo: Tinker, Create, and Innovate with KiwiCo! Get up to 50% off your first crate at kiwico.com, promo code 3in30. Let’s Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 7 April 2025

If you have a strong-willed child, you know that traditional parenting strategies just don’t work. No amount of reasoning, bribing, or threatening seems to move the needle—and sometimes, the more you push, the harder they push back. So what does work? In this episode, I’m joined by Kirk Martin, founder of Celebrate Calm and host of the Calm Parenting Podcast. With his signature humor and straight-talking style, Kirk shares practical strategies for understanding and guiding strong-willed kids—without constant power struggles. Tune in to learn: ✨ The quickest way to change your child’s behavior (hint: it has little to do with them!) ✨ How to de-escalate meltdowns -- without saying, "Calm down!" ✨ The power of using body posture and tone to foster cooperation ✨ Why strong-willed kids thrive in adulthood—and how to survive their childhood For a FREE printable with tips for de-escalating meltdowns, along with a private podcast feed that includes all of the episodes I've produced on raising strong-willed kids, click here! My friend, if you're feeling exhausted, frustrated, or just plain out of ideas with your strong-willed child, this episode is for you. And please know I'm in the trenches with you, and I'm rooting for you! For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: For a FREE printable with tips for de-escalating meltdowns, along with a private podcast feed that includes all of the episodes I've produced on raising strong-willed kids, click here! Related Episodes: 242: What to Do When Your Kids are Fighting // Dr. Laura Markham 266: Parenting Strong-Willed Kids // Wendy Snyder 391: Parenting a Child with ADHD: How to Stay Calm and Connected // Rachel on The Childhood Collective Episode Sponsors: Acorns Early: Ready to help your kids learn the value of money? Just head to acornsearly.com/3in30 or download the Acorns Early app to get started. Sign up now and your first month is on us! Wild Grain: For a limited time, Wild Grain is offering our listeners $30 off your first box plus free croissants in every box when you start a subscription. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. Let’s Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 31 March 2025

Have you ever asked your kids about their day, only to get one-word answers in return? Or sat across from your spouse on a long-awaited date night and struggled to find something meaningful to talk about? Communication can feel hardest with the people we love the most—but what if we could change that? In this episode, I sit down with Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist and bestselling author Charles Duhigg to explore what makes someone a super communicator and how we can apply these insights to deepen our most important relationships. Tune in to learn: 💜 Why conversations feel disconnected—and how to fix it 💜 Simple yet powerful ways to ask better questions and spark meaningful discussions 💜 A proven technique to make sure your loved ones truly feel heard These small shifts can strengthen your marriage and help you connect more deeply with your kids. I hope you find them as helpful I have! For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Related Episodes: 368: Using the Enneagram to Improve our Relationships // Kelsey Lincoln 340: How to Be a Safe Place for your Sweetheart// Eli Harwood 342: Communicating to your Partner that Things Need to Change// Eli Harwood Episode Sponsors: Acorns Early: Ready to help your kids learn the value of money? Just head to acornsearly.com/3in30 or download the Acorns Early app to get started. Sign up now and your first month is on us!  Team Supercrew: Check out Team Supercrew and find out what parents and educators are raving about. Visit TeamSuperCrew.com and use code 3in30 at checkout to get 10 percent off. You'll also get a free gift: step by step reading imaginary play guides that helps you and your child learn these important emotional regulation skills. Hello Fresh:  HelloFresh is America's number one meal kit. Get up to 10 free meals and a free high protein item for life at HelloFresh.com/3in3010fm.  GoPure Beauty: Tighten, lift, and restore elasticity in your neck because your skincare routine shouldn't stop at your jawline. For limited time, our listeners get 25 percent off GoPure with code 3in30 at checkout. That's gopurebeauty.com/3in30. Use code 3in30. Let’s Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 24 March 2025

If you’ve ever looked around at a sink full of dishes or a pile of unfolded laundry and felt like you were drowning, you’re in good company. I know that feeling well. As a recovering perfectionist and all-or-nothing thinker, I used to struggle with self-compassion when it came to housework. But through therapy and learning from experts like KC Davis, I’ve discovered a new way to approach it—one that’s kinder, more sustainable, and rooted in self-care. If you can relate, you're going to love this conversation with KC where we talk about: 🧦 A new twist on the reason for housework (hint: it has a lot to do with self-care!) 🧦 Powerful affirmations to help you release guilt and embrace self-compassion about your messy house. 🧦 A brilliant idea for simplifying laundry! If housework feels overwhelming, I hope this episode offers the encouragement and practical help you need. You’re not alone in this, and I’m cheering you on! For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Related Episodes: 161: Cleaning & Organization Strategies for the Naturally-Messy Mom // Candi Kidd 268: More Peace, Less Frustration: The Power of Family Systems // Susie Salinas 074: How to Be the Mom You Are—Instead of the Mom You Think You Should Be (Encore!) // Julie Bastedo Mentioned in the episode: My Declutter your Motherhood audio course is for sale. In this course, I teach you how to declutter your motherhood using the same steps to organize a closet. Learn more at 3in30podcast.com/declutter Episode Sponsors: BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. Tushbaby:  Whether you're carrying a kid who wants to see the world, or just looking to save your back, Tushbaby is here to make parenting a little easier, one day or carry at a time. Visit tushbaby.com and start customizing your own carrier. Make sure to use code 3in30 for 20 percent off your first order. Let’s Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 17 March 2025

Are you raising a neurodivergent child? If so, you know the journey can often feel isolating, exhausting, and uncertain. How can you teach them the essential skills they need? How do you build a strong relationship with them? Are there other moms who share your struggles? In this episode, I’m thrilled to share an inspiring conversation with Kim Gameroz, the founder of Teaching Inside Out and a leading expert in helping parents and teachers cultivate social and emotional skills in children. Kim's insights are truly transformative, and I believe you'll find her approach both empowering and practical. In this episode, you'll hear: 💜 Strategies to maintain patience when your neurodivergent child isn’t meeting expectations—along with actionable tips to help them succeed. 💜 Suggestions for how to find your support people as you're raising a neurodivergent kid (and why it's so important!) 💜 A simple yet impactful strategy that can create positive change for those around you. I hope you find this episode as helpful as I did! Kim exudes such warmth and connection that is sure to fill you with hope and validation. You've got this! For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Related Episodes: 419: 3 Things Moms of Children with Disabilities Want You To Know // Katie Blackburn 323: Parenting with ADHD // Alex Gilbert 317: Helping Your Children Advocate for Themselves // Dr. Traci Baxley Episode Sponsors: Zocdoc: Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to zocdoc.com/3in30 to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Factor: Eat smart with Factor. Get started at factormeals.com/factorpodcast and use code FACTORPODCAST to get 50% off your first box plus free shipping. KiwiCo: Get up to 50% off your first crate at kiwico.com, promo code 3IN30. Let’s Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 10 March 2025

When someone we love has a child with intellectual or physical disabilities, we want to be there for them—but sometimes, we’re unsure how. What should we say? What if we say the wrong thing? How can we genuinely show up in ways that matter? In today’s episode, I’m joined by Katie Blackburn, a mom of children with disabilities, who’s here to share practical, heartfelt ways to support families in the disability community, including: 💛 Thoughtful scripts to help your neurotypical kids understand and respond supportively when they see a neurodivergent child struggling. 💛 How to move past the fear of "saying the wrong thing" and connect with the disability community with confidence and care. 💛 Simple, consistent gestures that can help you foster meaningful connections with children with disabilities - and their families! If you've ever wanted to support a friend, family member, or even a stranger navigating this journey—but weren't sure where to start—this conversation is for you. Thank you for being part of this community of women who uplift each other. We truly are better together. *** Related Episodes: 357: Tips for Staying Calm During Your Big Kid’s Big Meltdowns // Cheryl Cardall 149: Teaching Children about Disability // Amy Webb of This Little Miggy 141: Raising Children with Chronic Conditions // Andelin Price Episode Sponsors: Nutrafol: Start your hair growth journey with Nutrafol. For a limited time, Nutrafol is offering our listeners ten dollars off your first month’s subscription and free shipping when you go to Nutrafol.com and enter the promo code 3IN30. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. Let’s Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 3 March 2025

Spring Break is coming up, and if travel isn’t an option this year, don’t worry—you can still make it a fun and memorable week for your kids and yourself at home! In this episode, Abby, Stacey and Steph, three members of the 3 in 30 team, share simple, stress-free strategies to make your staycation special—without feeling like you have to entertain your kids 24/7, including: 🌷 Creative, low-prep activities that keep kids engaged without draining your energy. 🌷 The one sanity-saving strategy every mom needs to recharge and enjoy the break. 🌷 A simple way to lighten the mental load of planning the week. Plus! We’ve put together a Free Download: 50 Spring Break Staycation Ideas to take the guesswork out of your planning. Grab it here! Spring Break at home doesn’t have to be overwhelming—it can be a time for connection, fun, and even a little rest. We hope this episode helps you do just that! *** Announcements: Click the link to receive a printable with 50 Spring Break Staycation Ideas.    Related Episodes: 405: 3 Tips to Manage Your Mental Load During the Holidays // 3 in 30 Team 402: How to Travel More as a Family without Breaking the Bank // Amber Paul 237: Our Best Hacks for Summer! A Crowdsourced Episode from the 3 in 30 Community Episode Sponsors: Hello Fresh: HelloFresh is America's number one meal kit. Get up to 10 free meals and a free high protein item for life at HelloFresh.com/HelloFreshPodcast Let’s Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 24 February 2025

It’s amazing how just one small word can shift an entire conversation—for better or worse. Without realizing it, we often invite comparison into our discussions, creating unnecessary tension or discomfort. That’s why I’m thrilled to have Kathie Gwilliam on the podcast this week! Kathie is an expert at identifying the subtle ways comparison sneaks into our language, and she’s here to help us become more self-aware. In this episode, you’ll learn: ✅ Three common phrases that unintentionally fuel comparison—and what to say instead. ✅ How to help your kids when they feel insecure after someone else gets a compliment. ✅ A simple way to introduce yourself with confidence. ✅ Why we need to be mindful of body-talk around our kids—plus a healthy way to process body image struggles. Since learning from Kathie, I’ve been catching myself making comparisons—and I’m working on changing that! I’d love to hear how this episode impacts you. Come share your thoughts with me on Instagram! *** Related Episodes: 298: How to Be the Mom you Are – Instead of the Mom you THINK you Should Be // Julie Bastedo 245: You’re Exactly Where You Need to Be // Alison Faulkner 012: How to Stop Being Mean to Yourself: 3 of the Best Tools I Learned in Counseling Episode Sponsors: Tushbaby:  Whether you're carrying a kid who wants to see the world, or just looking to save your back, Tushbaby is here to make parenting a little easier, one day or carry at a time. Visit tushbaby.com and start customizing your own carrier. Make sure to use code 3IN30 for 20 percent off your first order. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. KiwiCo: Get up to 50% off your first crate at kiwico.com, promo code 3IN30. Let’s Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 17 February 2025

If you ever feel at a loss for how to support your partner, friend, or family member who struggles with mental illness, this special episode is for you. My brother-in-law Logan has been a loving and sturdy support for my older sister Sarah through decades of mental health challenges. Over their 20 years of marriage, he has learned a lot about how best to support someone who is struggling, and he's joining me in this episode to share those insights with us, including: - What to do when frustration creeps in and it feels like your loved one isn’t “trying hard enough.” - How to give yourself permission to feel joy, even when your loved one is feeling down. - A mantra to lean on when everything feels heavy and hope is running low. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.  Be sure to also listen to the episodes with my beloved sister Sarah, where we discuss depression in motherhood and how to get help with mental illness. If you’re caring for someone battling mental illness, I want to take a moment to say thank you. Thank you for being there and for giving of your compassion and love. Please remember to take care of yourself too. You deserve support and help through this, too. [FREE DOWNLOAD] Mental Health Guide for Depression and Anxiety // To support you even further, I’ve created a guide that includes actionable ways to support yourself in depression and how to support a loved one who is struggling, as well as a private playlist of all of the episodes I’ve released about mental illness and helpful resources for additional support. *** Announcements: To receive the guide I created with actionable ways to support yourself or a loved one with mental illness, click here.   Related Episodes: 414: Feeling Low Right Now? 3 Tools to Help You Cope // Sarah McKenna 415: How to Get Help for Mental Illness // Sarah McKenna 319: Three Tools I Use to Manage Anxiety and Depression Episode Sponsors: Helix: Go to helixsleep.com/3in30 for 27% Off Sitewide + 2 Free Dream Pillows with mattress purchase + a free bedding bundle, which is two dream pillows, set sheet, and mattress protector with any Lux or Elite mattress order. Factor: Go to factormeals.com/3in3050off and use code 3in3050off to get 50% off your first box. Let’s Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life. Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 10 February 2025

After my daughter Sally was born, I stopped sleeping. During the day, I had a hard time looking at my baby because I didn’t feel like I could take care of myself, let alone her. Up to this point, I had managed my natural melancholy okay on my own, but after a terrifying panic attack, I reached out for professional help.  I attribute my quick decision to get help to my older sister, Sarah, who has fought mental illness since she was a young teenager.  This time of year can be especially difficult for many emotionally. That’s why I’m dedicating three episodes to the focus on mental health in motherhood. On Monday, you heard Sarah and I discuss depression in motherhood. Today’s episode is focused on how to get professional help. Next week, you’ll hear from Sarah’s husband, Logan, about how to support a loved one who’s struggling with mental illness.  In this second episode of the series, we discuss:  - A practical tip to help you stay honest with your doctor & therapist - A few helpful thoughts if you’re scared to try medication.  - Two kinds of therapy you might not have thought about before.  For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.  Whether you are struggling with mental illness or you have a loved one who is, I hope you find this series of episodes helpful.  [Free Download ] Guide to Nurturing Yourself when Managing Depression // To support you even further, I’ve created a packet that includes actionable ways to support yourself in depression and how to support a loved one who is struggling, as well as a QR code that links to a private playlist of all of the episodes I’ve released about mental illness.  Whatever battles you’re fighting right now, my friend, I want you to know you’re not alone.  *** Announcements:  To receive the guide I created with actionable ways to support yourself or a loved one with mental illness, click here.   Related Episodes: 414: Feeling Low Right Now? 3 Tools to Help You Cope // Sarah McKenna 319: Three Tools I Use to Manage Anxiety and Depression 184: Living Well with Depression & Anxiety // Jenny Showalter Let’s Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course

Transcribed - Published: 6 February 2025

This time of year, I struggle more with depression. The winter months can be a really hard time - and I know it’s just not me! That’s why I truly feel like it’s important this time of year to talk about mental illness in motherhood.  To give this topic the full focus it deserves, I’m dedicating the next three episodes to focusing on mental health in motherhood. This week, you’ll hear previous episodes I aired with my beloved older sister, Sarah, where we discuss depression in motherhood and how to get help with mental illness. After that, I will air a new episode with Sarah’s husband, Logan, about ways to care for a loved one struggling with mental illness.  In this first episode of the series, we discuss:  One way depression manifests itself that you might not recognize (hint: knowing this might help you not feel so guilty when it hits).  A simple tip to help on those days when depression makes it too hard to even eat.  A helpful rule of thumb to use when deciding which self-care strategy you need most.  For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.  Whether you are struggling with mental illness or you have a loved one who is, I hope you find this series of episodes helpful.  [Free Download ] Guide to Nurturing Yourself when Managing Depression // To support you even further, I’ve created a packet that includes actionable ways to support yourself in depression and how to support a loved one who is struggling, as well as a QR code that links to a private playlist of all of the episodes I’ve released about mental illness.  Whatever battles you’re fighting right now, my friend, I want you to know you’re not alone. *** Announcements:  To receive the packet I created with actionable ways to support yourself or a loved one with mental illness, click here.   Related Episodes: 319: Three Tools I Use to Manage Anxiety and Depression 300: Coping with Illness or Pain as a Mom // Becky and Candace 184: Living Well with Depression & Anxiety // Jenny Showalter Episode Sponsors: Wild Grain: For a limited time, Wild Grain is offering our listeners $30 off your first box plus free croissants in every box when you start a subscription. Let’s Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 3 February 2025

Feeling maxed out? But also feeling like it’s YOUR fault you feel that way? You’re not alone!  If you're caught in a cycle of overcommitment, self-criticism, and the struggle to say "yes" when you really want to say "no," this episode is for you! Join me as I chat with Amy Wilson, who shares invaluable insights for women navigating the challenges of over-commitment. In this episode, you’ll hear:  - The best question to ask yourself to create more margin in your life (it's definitely not what you think!) - Why saying "no" is not always the  "full sentence" we're led to believe it is (and what needs to come next!) - Tactics to help when saying “no” is met with uncomfortable silence. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.  PLUS, if you need help figuring out WHAT to put down in your life and HOW to articulate it to others, check out my audio course Declutter your Motherhood! This course offers insightful questions to help you pinpoint the sources of your overwhelm, along with compassionate scripts to explain your needs to family and friends. Now until the end of January, use the code NEWYEAR for $50 off! *** Announcement:  Sign up for my Declutter your Motherhood Audio course by the end of January to get $50 off - use code NEWYEAR.  Related Episodes:  293: Rethinking Housework // KC Davis 262: 3 Ways to Recover from Mom Burnout 211: Raising Independent Tweens & Teens // Amy & Margaret from What Fresh Hell Podcast Sponsors: BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. Let’s Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcribed - Published: 27 January 2025