417: The Sneaky Ways Comparison Creeps Into Conversations (and How to Stop It) // Kathie Gwilliam

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🗓️ 17 February 2025

⏱️ 30 minutes

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It’s amazing how just one small word can shift an entire conversation—for better or worse. Without realizing it, we often invite comparison into our discussions, creating unnecessary tension or discomfort. That’s why I’m thrilled to have Kathie Gwilliam on the podcast this week! Kathie is an expert at identifying the subtle ways comparison sneaks into our language, and she’s here to help us become more self-aware. In this episode, you’ll learn: ✅ Three common phrases that unintentionally fuel comparison—and what to say instead. ✅ How to help your kids when they feel insecure after someone else gets a compliment. ✅ A simple way to introduce yourself with confidence. ✅ Why we need to be mindful of body-talk around our kids—plus a healthy way to process body image struggles. Since learning from Kathie, I’ve been catching myself making comparisons—and I’m working on changing that! I’d love to hear how this episode impacts you. Come share your thoughts with me on Instagram! *** Related Episodes: 298: How to Be the Mom you Are – Instead of the Mom you THINK you Should Be // Julie Bastedo 245: You’re Exactly Where You Need to Be // Alison Faulkner 012: How to Stop Being Mean to Yourself: 3 of the Best Tools I Learned in Counseling Episode Sponsors: Tushbaby: Whether you're carrying a kid who wants to see the world, or just looking to save your back, Tushbaby is here to make parenting a little easier, one day or carry at a time. Visit tushbaby.com and start customizing your own carrier. Make sure to use code 3IN30 for 20 percent off your first order. BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. KiwiCo: Get up to 50% off your first crate at kiwico.com, promo code 3IN30. Let’s Connect: Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

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0:00.0	Welcome to 3 in 30, a podcast to help you feel more like yourself within your motherhood.
0:09.3	Each 30-minute episode features three actionable takeaways to help you become a more self-assured mom,
0:15.2	someone who knows yourself, honors your needs, and loves your people.
0:19.9	Listen in to feel encouraged as we learn together how to
0:22.6	overcome overwhelm and find more magic in motherhood. I'm your host, Rachel Nielsen. I'm so
0:28.5	glad you're here. In the world of aviation, it doesn't take much for a plane to get completely off course.
0:40.4	I first learned about this from pilot Dieter F. Uchtorf, who explained, quote,
0:45.1	suppose you were to take off from the equator intending to circumnavigate the globe,
0:49.4	but your course was off by just one degree.
0:52.4	By the time you return to the same longitude, how far off course would
0:56.1	you be? A few miles? A hundred miles? The answer might surprise you. An error of only one degree
1:02.7	would put you almost 500 miles off course. I thought about this metaphor after talking to today's
1:09.4	podcast guest, Kathy William,
1:11.4	all about the power of our words.
1:13.8	Sometimes one single nuanced word can change the entire direction of a conversation.
1:19.5	One self-deprecating comment thrown out due to habit or social conditioning can turn an honest
1:24.9	compliment into a moment of awkwardness between you and your friend.
1:28.9	Words are incredibly powerful, and small shifts in our language can make a huge difference in the
1:34.9	direction of our relationships, most importantly in the direction of our relationship with ourselves.
1:40.5	We might not even notice how often we minimize ourselves or compare ourselves to others because
1:45.3	it's just so common.
1:47.0	But Kathy Gwiliam has been noticing, and she's on a mission to help women stop comparing
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