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Watch this interview on YouTube: https://youtu.be/L3ObzPJXwXwWhat if being a “man” had nothing to do with bench press numbers or beard length—and everything to do with becoming a safe place?In this vulnerable and soul-stirring episode, Jerrad sits down with Brant Hansen to talk about what it really means to be a man. From playing the flute and battling shame to protecting the vulnerable and bringing peace to your home, Brant flips the typical narrative of masculinity on its head.They unpack the ache many men feel to be better, why muscle doesn’t equal maturity, and how a man’s deepest strength might just be his gentleness. Brant shares the heart behind his book The Men We Need, what it means to be a “keeper of the garden,” and how every man, no matter his story, can begin again.This one gets deep fast. What You’ll Learn:Why your presence is more than physical proximityHow spiritual formation leads to true masculinityWhy “being strong” often looks like tendernessWhat your tone of voice says about the kind of man you areThe one vision for manhood that could reshape your homeHow to become a non-anxious presence for your wife and kidsWhy it’s never too late to pivot and become the man God’s calling you to beMentioned in This Episode:Brant’s book: The Men We NeedThe Hebrew word for God’s covering in Eden—“royal garments”Lamentations 3 and Philippians 4 as anchors for anxious menBible Memory App for rewiring shame loopsThe “Keeper of the Garden” vision of masculinityHow passive men still make their homes unsafe🔗 Resources:Book Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GBGet Brant’s book The Men We NeedToday’s Sponsor: Classical Conversations 

Transcribed - Published: 16 June 2025

Watch this interview on YouTube: https://youtu.be/zSgexS8GG30In this honest and gritty conversation, Shane Winnings and Jerrad talk about the ache behind every man’s desire to be a good dad—and why good intentions still leave so many guys feeling like they’re failing.Shane shares his own story of growing as a father while leading a national movement to fight fatherlessness. They unpack how wounds from our own dads often fuel our desire to be better, but why motivation alone won’t cut it. From military discipline to spiritual revival, from being physically present to emotionally absent, this conversation gets real fast.They also dive into Shane’s bold new campaign Make Dads Great Again, what’s sparking revival in Gen Z men, how fatherhood videos are breaking algorithms and breaking men open, and why the greatest threat to your calling might be your unchecked hustle. What You’ll Learn:Why proximity doesn’t equal presence in your homeHow to stop “tinkering” and start truly engaging your kidsThe real reason father wounds hurt so deeplyHow to love your family in the way they actually receive loveWhy being faithful at home matters more than platform or ministry successHow revival might already be happening—just not the way we expectMentioned in This Episode:Shane’s viral Make Dads Great Again campaignWesley Huff’s surprising influence on Joe RoganWhy Gen Z men are leading the way back to churchThe trap of high-output, low-impact fatherhoodHow to heal the pain that productivity can’t coverBook Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.com Grab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB Today’s Sponsors: DwellBible.com/DadTired

Transcribed - Published: 9 June 2025

Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/VDz2Q6cuwskWhy do so many dads feel like they’re failing, even when they’re doing their best?In this honest and soul-stirring conversation, John Eldredge helps us trace the ache beneath our anger, our addictions, and our constant striving. He explains why most men are still chasing love and validation they never received, how childhood wounds shape adult behavior, and why true healing—not behavior modification—is the key to becoming the man your family needs.Jerrad and John unpack father wounds, mother wounds, emotional detachment, and the deep desire for adventure that often gets twisted into sin. If you've ever felt like you're just trying to survive—numbing your pain, doubting your worth, or holding your breath through life—this conversation will help you breathe again. What You’ll Learn:Why behavior change won’t work without soul healingHow father and mother wounds still shape your adult lifeThe two core needs every boy carries into manhoodWhy adventure and validation matter to your spiritual lifeHow to begin healing old attachments and rewire your storyWhat it looks like to fight for your family, your faith, and your futureMentioned in the Episode:Wild at Heart and Resilient by John EldredgeExperience Jesus (John’s new book on healing)Why boys need a thousand moments of delight from their dadsHow your unhealed story gets passed to your kidsJerrad’s punching bag story (and why it felt amazing)Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GBToday's Sponsors: Tyndale Study Bibles + World Watch News 

Transcribed - Published: 2 June 2025

What if the part of you that you hate the most is the part God is most eager to heal?In this episode, Jerrad opens up about a moment that nearly ended him, and the journey that brought him back. He shares a powerful story from his two-week intensive recovery experience, including the surprising object that became a symbol of grace and compassion. If you’ve ever carried shame, hidden pain, or felt like your sin disqualifies you from being loved, this conversation is for you.Whether you’re a husband, father, or man who’s just tired of pretending, this episode is an invitation to drop the shame and discover the healing God offers to the parts of you that feel unlovable. What You’ll Learn:Why shame makes healing so hard, and what finally breaks its grip.The powerful metaphor that helped Jerrad see himself through God’s eyes.How childhood wounds shape adult sin patterns.What Jesus actually thinks about your sin (hint: it’s not what you assume).The difference between guilt, shame, and compassion.A fresh way to view your struggles, and the small boy inside still seeking safety. Mentioned in the Episode:The Dwell Bible App – dwellbible.com/dadtired (25% off for listeners).The two-week men's recovery intensive Jerrad attended.A simple but profound healing exercise involving a stuffed monkey. Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.com Read The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

Transcribed - Published: 26 May 2025

Watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/WDK9O0VZ7loWhat if your marriage wasn’t just surviving—but actually healing you?In this powerful episode, Jerrad sits down with author and speaker Gabe Lyons (The Fight for Us) to talk about the real work of building a thriving marriage—especially when life throws curveballs like special needs parenting, trauma, and unspoken pain.They unpack:The power of radical honesty (and why most couples never get there)How to stop nursing wounds in silence and start creating real intimacyWhy “no secrets” might be the most life-changing marriage ruleWhat to do when you feel emotionally disconnectedHow confession and emotional leadership can radically change your marriage and parentingIf you’ve ever felt stuck in your marriage or unsure how to lead your family spiritually—this conversation is for you.📘 Check out Gabe’s new book: The Fight for Us: Overcome What Divides and Build a Marriage That ThrivesToday's Sponsor: Classical Conversations Homeschooling

Transcribed - Published: 19 May 2025

Every man hits a moment—or a season—where he realizes: Something’s off. Maybe he’s performing but not connected. Providing but not present. Holding it all together, but barely.In this powerful and personal conversation, Jerrad sits down with Kyle Idleman to talk about why so many men feel stuck in patterns they can’t explain or escape—and what to do about it. Whether you’re in your 20s or 60s, this episode offers biblical, practical tools for taking your thoughts captive and walking in freedom.They cover:The “plus or minus 3 of 40” window (and why it’s not just about age)Why men trade connection for production—and how to stopHow to tell if you’re really healthy (hint: it’s not your to-do list)What it means to bear one another’s burdens—without trying to fix each otherHow to break the thought patterns that have kept you stuck for yearsKyle’s new book: Every Thought Captive More from Dad Tired: https://www.dadtired.comToday's Sponsor: http://dwellbible.com/dadtired

Transcribed - Published: 12 May 2025

Why do so many men feel stuck—emotionally, spiritually, and relationally—even while doing all the “right” things?  In this vulnerable conversation, Kyle Idleman talks about the inner battles men face in silence. He explains why many men hide behind performance and productivity, how healing begins with connection (not accomplishment), and what it really looks like to take every thought captive.Kyle and Jerrad dig into thought patterns that keep men stuck, the mental load of leadership, and why confessing weakness isn’t whining—it’s spiritual obedience. If you’ve ever felt alone, overburdened, or ashamed of not “being further along,” this conversation will help you breathe again.What You’ll Learn:Why men around age 40 often face unexpected internal crisisHow emotional connection—not productivity—defines your healthWhat it looks like to take every thought captive in practical termsThe healing power of confession and friendshipHow to recognize and break negative thought patternsMorning routines, prayer habits, and spoken truth as tools for renewal Mentioned in the Episode:Every Thought Captive (Kyle Idleman’s new book)Galatians 6: “Bear one another’s burdens”The power of saying Scripture aloud to renew your mindHealthy male friendships and confession as healing rhythmsThe “+/- 3 of 40” principle: why men change between 37–43Tools like ClearSpace, prayer closets, and daily scripture meditation

Transcribed - Published: 12 May 2025

Every man hits a momentor a seasonwhere he realizes:Somethings off.Maybe hes performing but not connected. Providing but not present. Holding it all together, but barely.In this powerful and personal conversation, Jerrad sits down with Kyle Idleman

Transcribed - Published: 12 May 2025

Ever walked out of a situation and thought, “That didn’t feel right”? In this raw, unscripted episode, Jerrad Lopes shares a deeply vulnerable moment — a story that didn’t involve sin in the traditional sense, but came dangerously close. From a return line at Home Depot to the emotional weight of a product endorsement, Jerrad invites listeners into the middle circle: the subtle behaviors that don’t look like sin, but lead our hearts away from truth, integrity, and God.🎧 In this episode:What “middle circle behavior” means and how it can unravel your soulThe difference between numbing out vs. self-careA powerful framework used in recovery communities to build emotional awarenessHow small compromises can quietly erode godly characterJerrad’s honest confession to his wife — and why radical honesty mattersWhy Oreo binges, Zillow scrolling, or standing while eating may matter more than you thinkThe prayer for men who want transformation but feel stuckWhether you’re a husband, a father, or a man seeking healing, this episode offers a language for the soul and a challenge to step out of isolation.📌 Want to go deeper?Consider sharing this episode with a friend and comparing your own circles🔗 Support the WorkAttend the next Dad Tired Retreat → DadTired.com/retreatBecome a monthly donor and help continue the missionPartner brands: World Watch News – Faith-based news for families

Transcribed - Published: 5 May 2025

What do you do when something isn’t technically sin—but still doesn’t feel right? In this episode, Jerrad shares a vulnerable story from his week that left him convicted, even though no clear line was crossed. He unpacks the concept of “inner, middle, and outer circle behaviors”—a tool from recovery circles—and challenges Christian men to evaluate the subtle patterns that quietly lead to sin, disconnection, or hidden shame.If you’re a husband or father wrestling with old habits, emotional isolation, or unspoken compromise, this episode gives practical language to your inner conflict—and a gospel-centered path toward integrity and healing.What You’ll Learn:How to identify subtle behaviors that lead to sinThe difference between self-care and numbingWhy “middle circle” habits matter for Christian menPractical steps for radical honesty in marriageHow to confess without spiraling into shameWhy healing starts with small, honest steps—not perfection Mentioned in the Episode:The “Inner, Middle, Outer Circle” tool from recovery workConfessing non-sinful but compromising behavior to a spouseUsing practical boundaries (e.g. standing while eating, social media use) to spot emotional disconnectionDad Tired Retreat (September – signup at dadtired.com)Kids' News Sponsor -World Watch News 

Transcribed - Published: 5 May 2025

Ever walked out of a situation and thought, That didnt feel right?In this raw, unscripted episode, Jerrad Lopes shares a deeply vulnerable moment a story that didnt involve sin in the traditional sense, but came dangerously close. From a return line

Transcribed - Published: 5 May 2025

What do you do when your marriage feels over — and you don't even know why?In this raw and honest conversation, Dave and Ann Wilson share the untold story of how their marriage nearly ended at year 10… and the one moment that changed everything.They dive into childhood wounds, soul pain, and the exhausting journey of healing — and how putting God back at the center saved not just their relationship, but their individual hearts.🔥 Inside this episode: • Why performance and perfection can kill a marriage • How childhood trauma shapes adult relationships • The one word God spoke that changed it all • How to start healing, even when it feels impossibleWhether you’re fighting for your marriage, healing from your past, or just longing for deeper connection — this story will give you hope, honesty, and practical steps toward restoration.🎯 Don't miss this powerful conversation. Hit play — and get ready for real talk.Join The Movement: dadtired.com/donateToday's Sponsor: http://dwellbible.com/dadtired

Transcribed - Published: 28 April 2025

What do you do when your marriage feels over and you don't even know why?In this raw and honest conversation, Dave and Ann Wilson share the untold story of how their marriage nearly ended at year 10 and theone momentthat changed everything.They d

Transcribed - Published: 28 April 2025

What do you do when your marriage feels broken—but you don’t know how to fix it?  In this episode, Dave and Ann Wilson share their story of nearly losing their marriage at year 10, and how God brought them through bitterness, performance, and unmet expectations into healing and intimacy.With over four decades of marriage experience and years of leading marriage ministries, they speak candidly about wounds from the past, what happens when a wife feels unseen, and why husbands often withdraw instead of engage. You’ll also hear practical tools for renewing your mind, healing emotional wounds, and building each other up instead of tearing each other down.What You’ll Learn:What to do when one spouse has “lost all feelings”How past trauma affects your marriage todayWhy healing starts with individual repentance and soul workThe power of affirmation and the damage of chronic critiqueHow to speak life to your spouse (instead of yelling)What it means to be an “azer kenegdo” and partner in the spiritual battleWhy most men feel unloved and unliked in their marriage—and how to change that  Links and Resources:Vertical Marriage and How to Speak Life to Your Husband by Dave & Ann WilsonBiblical Reference- Romans 12:2 – the daily renewing of your mind.Pre-order link: Amazon – How to Speak Life to Your Husband

Transcribed - Published: 28 April 2025

Porn. Shame. Repeat. Breaking the cycle starts with telling the truth.Jerrad Lopes returns after months of silence, not with answersbut with honesty. In this deeply vulnerable episode, Jerrad shares why he hasnt told a single lie in 156 days, how intens

Transcribed - Published: 21 April 2025

Porn. Shame. Repeat. Breaking the cycle starts with telling the truth.Jerrad Lopes returns after months of silence, not with answers—but with honesty. In this deeply vulnerable episode, Jerrad shares why he hasn’t told a single lie in 156 days, how intensive counseling broke him open, and what it means to be a “truth teller” in a world of escape. Whether it’s porn, alcohol, work, or Oreos—this is an invitation to stop numbing and start healing. If you're tired of hiding, if you're tired of performing, and you're ready to be fully present—this episode is for you. In this episode:​Why Jerrad hasn't lied in over 150 days (and why it matters)​The moment he broke down in counseling—and what it revealed​How performance becomes a survival tactic for so many men​Why honesty feels terrifying but is essential for freedom​Escapism, addiction, and the real reason we keep going back​What meditation taught him (and why he fell asleep once 😂)​The danger of "socially acceptable" numbing habits (Oreos, Zillow, work)​How to catch yourself in the act of escaping—and sit with your feelings instead Key Challenge for Listeners:Ask yourself:🧠 What are you trying to escape from?🔍 What are you using to escape? You don’t need to be perfect. But you do need to be honest. Start here. Resources & Mentions:​Dad Tired Community: dadtired.com​Support the show or sponsor inquiries: DadTired.com/donate​Today’s sponsor: BackGatePrayers.com promo code DADTIRED

Transcribed - Published: 21 April 2025

Most Christian men wouldn’t call it an addiction. “It’s just something I struggle with…” But what if that struggle is actually keeping you stuck?In this episode, Nick Stumbo—Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries—shares his powerful story of addiction, shame, and the deeper healing Jesus offers.We talk about:Why confession isn’t the finish lineThe 3 questions that revealed Nick’s addictionWhat white-knuckling recovery really looks likeHow trauma, performance, and shame feed the cycleThis isn’t just about porn. It’s about what your soul is really craving.Learn more about Pure Desire Ministries: https://www.puredesire.orgGet Nick’s book Setting Us Free: https://amzn.to/3EtfY2PStart your healing journey with Dad Tired: [https://www.dadtired.com]Subscribe to the Dad Tired podcast for more episodes that help men lead their families well A special thanks to today's sponsor: www.dwellbible.com/dadtired

Transcribed - Published: 14 April 2025

Most Christian men wouldnt call it an addiction. Its just something I struggle withBut what if that struggle is actually keeping you stuck?In this episode, Nick StumboExecutive Director of Pure Desire Ministriesshares his powerful story of addictio

Transcribed - Published: 14 April 2025

In this episode, Jerrad Lopes returns after a four-month break. He  shares how hidden sin, deep wounds, and a crisis of identity led him to the darkest season of his life—and how God met him there. Jerrad opens up about stepping away from ministry, entering a two-week counseling intensive, and why full healing is impossible without radical honesty.This episode is a call to Christian men: if you want your family to thrive, healing must begin with you. You don’t need more parenting tips—you need deep, soul-level transformation. And it starts by coming out of hiding.What You’ll Learn:Why secrecy destroys spiritual leadershipThe emotional cost of compartmentalized sinThe moment Jerrad chose full healing over self-destructionWhy counseling and community are essential for real changeWhat it feels like to live with nothing hiddenHow Dad Tired is shifting focus toward men's healing ministryEpisode  Resources & Links:Dad Tired’s upcoming retreat: Register at dadtired.comDad Tired's Mighty Networks Community for men (free)Episode Sponsor: World Watch News (sponsor for family-safe news)Episode 462 :“Important Ministry Update” & conversation with Kaleb and Chris

Transcribed - Published: 7 April 2025

After a four-month break from the podcast, Jerrad Lopes returns with his most vulnerable episode yet. In this raw and powerful conversation, he shares the painful truth behind his absence, including the sin that nearly cost him everything—and the healing journey that saved his life. Faced with two options—end it all or embrace the pain and pursue healing—Jerrad chose life. Now, he's back with a renewed vision for Dad Tired: to help men find the kind of deep healing that transforms everything. If you're tired, hurting, or hiding, this is the episode you didn’t know you needed. Sponsor: worldwatch.news/dadtired

Transcribed - Published: 7 April 2025

After a four-month break from the podcast, Jerrad Lopes returns with his most vulnerable episode yet. In this raw and powerful conversation, he shares the painful truth behind his absence, including the sin that nearly cost him everything—and the healing journey that saved his life. Faced with two options—end it all or embrace the pain and pursue healing—Jerrad chose life. Now, he's back with a renewed vision for Dad Tired: to help men find the kind of deep healing that transforms everything. If you're tired, hurting, or hiding, this is the episode you didn’t know you needed. Sponsor: worldwatch.news/dadtired

Transcribed - Published: 7 April 2025

After a four-month break from the podcast, Jerrad Lopes returns with his most vulnerable episode yet. In this raw and powerful conversation, he shares the painful truth behind his absence, including the sin that nearly cost him everything—and the healing

Transcribed - Published: 7 April 2025

In today's episode, Pastor Kaleb and Pastor Chris sit down with Jerrad to talk about the next season of Dad Tired.

Transcribed - Published: 31 March 2025

In today's episode, Pastor Kaleb and Pastor Chris sit down with Jerrad to talk about the next season of Dad Tired.

Transcribed - Published: 31 March 2025

In today's episode, Pastor Kaleb and Pastor Chris sit down with Jerrad to talk about the next season of Dad Tired.

Transcribed - Published: 31 March 2025

In this powerful follow-up to the series on biblical masculinity, Chris Hilkin continues unpacking what it means to be a man after God's own heart through the PRIME MEN acrostic. After Jerrad Lopes opens with a heartfelt update and thanks the Dad Tire

Transcribed - Published: 24 March 2025

In this powerful follow-up to the series on biblical masculinity, Chris Hilkin continues unpacking what it means to be a man after God's own heart through the PRIME MEN acrostic. After Jerrad Lopes opens with a heartfelt update and thanks the Dad Tired community for their support, Chris teaches through the next key biblical traits of godly manhood: Intentional, Meek, Enduring, Moral, Empathetic, and Noble. With deep theological insight, biblical references, and real-life application, this episode challenges men to take spiritual leadership seriously—at home, in the church, and in the world.Bible Passages Mentioned:John 8 – Jesus and the woman caught in adultery1 Timothy 3:4-5 – Managing one's family wellEphesians 6:4 – Fathers training and instructing childrenGenesis 18:19 – Directing one’s household in the way of the LordGenesis 3:6 – Adam’s passivity in the Garden1 Samuel 3:11 – Eli’s failure to discipline his sonsMark 5 – Jesus healing the bleeding woman2 Timothy 1:7 – Spirit of power, love, and self-controlProverbs 16:32 – Better to be patient than a warriorPhilippians 2 – Christ’s humilityProverbs 24:16 – The righteous fall seven times but rise again1 Corinthians 16:13-14 – Be strong, courageous, and do everything in loveLuke 23 – Jesus carrying the cross1 Timothy 4:8 – Godliness has value for all thingsTitus 2:7-8 – Teaching with integrity1 Samuel 15 – Saul's disobedienceMatthew 4 – Jesus’ temptationJohn 17 – Jesus interceding for his disciplesNehemiah 4:14 – Fight for your familiesPhilippians 4:8 – Whatever is noble, think about such thingsProverbs 22:1 – A good name is more desirable than richesMicah 6:8 – Do justice, love mercy, walk humblyActs 5 – Ananias and SapphiraJoshua 7 – The sin of AchanJohn 18 – Jesus on trial before PilateIsaiah 53:7 – Like a lamb silent before its shearersLuke 23:34 – Jesus forgives those who crucified Him Discussion Questions:Which of the PRIME MEN traits (Peacemaking, Repentant, Intentional, Meek, Enduring, Moral, Empathetic, Noble) do you most naturally embody, and which one do you struggle with the most? Why? (Bonus: Print the list and literally highlight where you're strong and where you're bleeding, as suggested in the episode.)Read Ephesians 6:4. What does it look like for you, specifically, to take spiritual responsibility for your kids? In what ways have you been tempted to hand that role off to someone else?How have you misunderstood meekness in the past? What would it look like for you to walk in “power under control” this week?How does your private life reflect your integrity? Are there places in your life where you are “fractioned” or living in two different personas? What does integration look like for you?In a culture that values comfort and ease, what does it mean to endure like Jesus? How can you practically grow in endurance and perseverance when life gets hard?

Transcribed - Published: 24 March 2025

Show Notes: Biblical Masculinity Part 1In this first part of theBiblical Masculinityseries,Chris Hilkenwalks through what it truly means to be a man after Gods own heart. He shares personal storiesfrom growing up watching WWF to mentoring young men

Transcribed - Published: 17 March 2025

Show Notes: Biblical Masculinity Part 1 In this first part of the Biblical Masculinity series, Chris Hilken walks through what it truly means to be a man after God’s own heart. He shares personal stories—from growing up watching WWF to mentoring young men at youth camp—and challenges cultural stereotypes of masculinity. Instead of aggressive or passive extremes, he calls men to embody Christlike traits. Chris begins walking through an acronym, PRIMEMEN, and unpacks the first two attributes: Peacemaker and Repentant. What You’ll Learn:Why culture has distorted our view of masculinityWhy “The Rock” and pop-culture heroes fall short of biblical manhoodHow peacemaking and repentance are signs of real strengthThe difference between feeling sorry and true repentanceWhy Jesus is the perfect picture of masculinity Bible Verses Mentioned:Matthew 5:9 – “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called children of God.”Romans 5 – Jesus made peace with us through the cross.Romans 12:18 – “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”James 1:19 – “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”Genesis 4:8 – Cain kills Abel out of rage.1 Samuel 18:6–9 – Saul’s jealousy drives him to attack David.John 8 – Jesus diffuses the angry mob with wisdom and justice.Luke 8 – Jesus calms the storm.Acts 3:19 – “Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out.”2 Corinthians 7 – Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation.Proverbs 28:13 – “Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.”Luke 15 – The Prodigal SonLuke 19 – Zacchaeus repents and makes restitution.Hebrews 4 – God’s Word is a double-edged sword. Garage Group Discussion Questions:What images or messages about masculinity did you grow up with? How have they shaped you—for better or worse?Chris says, “Real men create no drama and control their anger.” What does that look like in your home or workplace right now?Read Matthew 5:9 and Romans 12:18. How can you actively pursue peace in a relationship where there’s tension?Repentance is more than saying sorry—it's turning and changing. What’s one area of your life where you're apologizing but not truly repenting?Chris shares how Jesus is “the better Cain, the better Saul.” In what ways can you look to Jesus—not culture—as your model of manhood this week?

Transcribed - Published: 17 March 2025

In this conversation, Chris Hilken explores the concept of masculinity, particularly focusing on its representation in media and the attributes of biblical masculinity. He discusses the importance of understanding true masculinity, the role of peacemaking, and the necessity of repentance in a man's life. Through personal anecdotes and biblical references, Hilken encourages men to reflect on their character and strive for growth in their understanding of masculinity.

Transcribed - Published: 17 March 2025

Jesus sent His disciples two by two—not alone. Why? Because ministry, life, and discipleship are not meant to be solo endeavors. In this episode, we unpack Luke 10:1 and explore the biblical foundation for companionship in the Christian life. From accountability and encouragement to strengthening our testimony, we’ll discuss why godly friendships matter for every man—whether you’re a pastor, a truck driver, or a dad just trying to raise your kids well. God’s design for brotherhood isn’t just about survival; it’s about finishing well.

Transcribed - Published: 10 March 2025

Jesus sent His disciples two by twonot alone. Why? Because ministry, life, and discipleship are not meant to be solo endeavors. In this episode, we unpack Luke 10:1 and explore the biblical foundation for companionship in the Christian life. From account

Transcribed - Published: 10 March 2025

Make sure to connect with dwell at: dwellbible.com/dadtired On this episode of Dad Tired, we explore the road to Emmaus and the way friendship and faith intertwine in the Christian life. When Jesus walked alongside two confused disciples, He met them in their questions, in their grief, and in their search for clarity—just as He does with us today. Drawing from Luke 24, the lives of Perpetua and Felicity, and the wisdom of St. Bernard of Clairvaux, we’ll discuss how friendship is essential to holiness, how Christ is present in our shared struggles, and why discipleship isn’t meant to be done alone. If you've ever wrestled with doubt, isolation, or the mystery of God’s plan, this episode will remind you that the Third Traveler always walks beside you.

Transcribed - Published: 3 March 2025

Make sure to connect with dwell at: dwellbible.com/dadtiredOn this episode of Dad Tired, we explore the road to Emmaus and the way friendship and faith intertwine in the Christian life. When Jesus walked alongside two confused disciples, He met them in th

Transcribed - Published: 3 March 2025

Can a man truly grow in holiness without growing in friendship? Kaleb challenges the individualistic mindset many Christian men carry—and shows how friendship is not just helpful, but essential for spiritual maturity. Drawing from John 15, the life of Jesus, and examples like Augustine, he unpacks the truth that holiness and friendship are inseparably linked.If you’ve felt isolated, self-reliant, or unsure how to build meaningful relationships as a Christian man, this episode reframes friendship not as a luxury, but as a command of Christ—and a taste of heaven itself.What You’ll Learn:Why Jesus commanded friendship on the night of His betrayalHow real friendship is a path to Christlikeness, not a distraction from itThe danger of isolated spiritual leadershipWhy holiness without friendship is often just masked prideThe healing power of brotherhood in seasons of mental, emotional, and spiritual struggleHow friendship prepares us for heaven’s ultimate communion 📖 Scripture References:John 15:12–14 – “Greater love has no one than this…”Psalm 41:9 – Betrayal by a close friendRomans 5:8, John 14, the Farewell DiscourseResources and Links :Missionary Flights International – Aviation ministry serving in Haiti, the Bahamas, and the Dominican Republic- missionaryflights.orgSpiritual Friendship by St. Aelred of RievaulxAugustine’s Conversion (Confessions)

Transcribed - Published: 24 February 2025

Friendship and holiness are deeply intertwined in the way of Jesus. In this episode of Dad Tired, we explore Jesus command to lay down our lives for our friends (John 15:13) and how true friendship reflects the heart of God. While Judas betrayed friendsh

Transcribed - Published: 24 February 2025

Friendship and holiness are deeply intertwined in the way of Jesus. In this episode of Dad Tired, we explore Jesus’ command to lay down our lives for our friends (John 15:13) and how true friendship reflects the heart of God. While Judas betrayed friendship, Jesus embodied it offering Himself fully for those He loved. What does it mean for us as dads, husbands, and men of faith to live out sacrificial friendship? How does holiness shape the way we love those around us? Join us as we unpack these themes and challenge ourselves to follow Christ’s example.

Transcribed - Published: 24 February 2025

In this episode, Kaleb Allen dives into John 14:27—"Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid." We explore how Jesus' words challenge the mental loops that trap us in anxiety, self-reliance, and fear. What happens when we allow the external, unshakable truth of God’s Word to interrupt our internal dialogue?

Transcribed - Published: 17 February 2025

In this episode, Kaleb Allen dives into John 14:27"Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid." We explore how Jesus' words challenge

Transcribed - Published: 17 February 2025

In this episode Kaleb narrates how anxiety, looping thoughts, and self-condemnation can pull us away from the moments that matter most. While watching his son overcome fear at a waterpark, Kaleb found himself mentally stuck—replaying frustrations, doubts, and failures. Through John 14:27, he reflects on the kind of peace Jesus gives: not escape from life’s storms, but presence within them—a peace that interrupts fear and helps us stay grounded in what God is doing right in front of us. What You’ll Learn:How to break mental loops of fear, regret, and condemnationWhy Jesus spoke peace to His disciples before His own sufferingThe difference between worldly peace and the peace of ChristHow external perspective—God’s Word, a friend, or your spouse—can shatter inner turmoilWhy recognizing God’s presence can restore joy in your fatherhood and faith 📖  Scripture  References:John 14:27 – “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you…”John 13–17 – The Farewell DiscourseRomans 8:28 – All things work together for goodMatthew 28:20 – “I am with you always” (implied)Practical Advice:Memorize John 14:27Talk to your spouse or a trusted friend to break the loopAllow God’s Word to “kick in your front door” when condemnation creeps in

Transcribed - Published: 17 February 2025

How do we reconcile the character of God with the violence in the Old Testament? In this episode, Chris helps us wrestle with one of the most difficult theological questions: Does God’s command for destruction in the Old Testament align with His justice, mercy, and love? We explore biblical context, historical considerations, and theological perspectives to bring clarity to this challenging topic.

Transcribed - Published: 10 February 2025

How do we reconcile the character of God with the violence in the Old Testament? In this episode, Chris helps us wrestle with one of the most difficult theological questions: Does Gods command for destruction in the Old Testament align with His justice,

Transcribed - Published: 10 February 2025

Check out dwell for 25% OFF at: dwellbible.com/dadtired Biblical stewardship is the God-given responsibility to wisely manage time, talents, and resources for His glory and the benefit of others. It reflects faithfulness, generosity, and a heart aligned with God’s purposes in every aspect of life.

Transcribed - Published: 3 February 2025

What has God entrusted to you—and are you stewarding it well?In today’s episode we unpack a powerful biblical theme woven throughout the New Testament: stewardship. From Jesus’ parable of the faithful servant to the Apostle Paul's letters to Timothy, we’re reminded that God is watching how we handle the things He’s put in our hands—especially our homes, marriages, and children.Plus, we share a wild church history story about the Apostle John chasing down a gang leader on horseback. No, seriously.Whether you’re a dad, husband, or just a guy trying to walk faithfully with Jesus, this episode will challenge you to reject passivity and embrace your God-given role as a steward.🔑 Key Topics:What biblical stewardship actually meansHow Jesus contrasted faithful vs. wicked servantsPaul’s urgent message to Timothy about responsibilityA convicting story from early church historyWhy passion fades, but daily faithfulness endures📖 Scriptures Mentioned: Matthew 24:45–51, 1 Timothy 1:11, 1 Corinthians 4:1–2, 1 Thessalonians 2:4, Galatians 2:7Check out dwell for 25% OFF at: dwellbible.com/dadtired

Transcribed - Published: 3 February 2025

In this follow-up episode, Pastor Chris Hilken continues the conversation on the morality of God in the Old Testament, tackling some of the most challenging and thought-provoking questions that arise from scripture. With a focus on helping fathers shepherd their families, Chris addresses the tension between God’s justice and mercy, exploring stories of divine judgment and their place in the grand narrative of redemption.

Transcribed - Published: 27 January 2025

Many Christians—and critics—wrestle with this difficult question: does the Bible support slavery?  Chris Hilkin discusses the  most misunderstood and controversial aspects of the Old Testament. He confronts the assumption that God condones slavery by unpacking what the Bible actually says about servitude, justice, and human dignity. Through historical context, Hebrew language insights, and careful biblical interpretation, Chris explains how God’s law placed boundaries on power, offered protections to the vulnerable, and called His people to reflect His justice and mercy—even in broken systems.What You’ll Learn:Why the Hebrew Bible doesn’t have a category for race-based slaveryHow biblical servitude functioned like voluntary indentured laborWhat protections the Mosaic law gave to servants—including freedom, fair treatment, and legal rightsHow the New Testament condemns slave trading as sinful 📖 Scriptures References:Exodus 21:16 Deuteronomy 23:15–16 Leviticus, Deuteronomy, Exodus – Laws protecting servants1 Timothy 1:10 – All are one in Christ; serve others in loveIsaiah 61 

Transcribed - Published: 27 January 2025

Pastor Chris Hilken tackles the tough questions about God’s morality in the Old Testament. From stories of judgment to divine commands, Chris helps dads reconcile these challenging passages with God’s love and justice. Tune in for practical insights to strengthen your faith and lead your family well.

Transcribed - Published: 20 January 2025

Many christians  feel unequipped to handle the hard questions—especially when it comes to the Old Testament. Why does God seem so angry? Did He really command entire crowds  to be destroyed? In this episode, Chris Hilkin opens a new teaching series by offering simple, powerful tools for reading Scripture faithfully. He walks through how to understand difficult passages, avoid common interpretation mistakes, and confidently answering the kinds of questions people might ask about God’s character in the Bible.What You’ll Learn:Why we must use clear Scripture to interpret confusing passagesHow to distinguish between biblical description and prescriptionWhy not every story in the Bible teaches a moral or doctrineHow context, authorship, and genre shape proper understandingCommon interpretation errors that lead to misunderstanding God’s characterWhy Jesus must be the hero of every biblical narrative 📖 Scripture References:Psalm 82 vs. Isaiah 44 & Deuteronomy 6 Exodus, Deuteronomy, Leviticus – laws about slavery, justice, and culture1 Samuel 15, Job 1:21, Romans 13 John 3:16, Ephesians 2:8–9Deuteronomy 6:4–6 – The ShemaGalatians 3, Philippians 2, Isaiah 61  Resources & Links :Podcast sponsor-Range Leather Use code DADTIRED at rangeleather.com/dadtired for 15% off custom hatsEmail for Notes: [email protected]  Future Topics in the Series Ep 453- Chris Hilken- Morality of God in the Old Testament- Part 2| 453 Ep 455- Chris Hilken- Morality of God in the Old Testament- Part 3| 455

Transcribed - Published: 20 January 2025

How do you lead your family with faith and conviction in a culture that no longer shares your values? In this conversation, Patrick Miller discusses the message of his new book Joyful Outsiders. Joyful Outsiders —a guide for Christian men learning to follow Jesus in a world that feels disorienting, even hostile. He explains why being an outsider isn’t something to avoid, but a biblical identity to embrace.  Raising kids, discipling others, or navigating your own tension with culture, this episode offers practical wisdom for how to live faithfully, lead intentionally, and stay rooted in joy—even when the world pushes back.What You’ll Learn:Why Christians have always been cultural outsidersThe difference between conforming, combating, cloistering—and joyfully engagingSix biblical archetypes for cultural engagement (e.g. Advisor, Protestor, Artist)How to parent kids through complex questions about faith, identity, and cultureWhy spiritual influence requires wisdom, not one-size-fits-all responsesHow calling, personality, and gifts shape your impact in the world📖  Scripture References  Hebrews 13 1 Peter 1 Ephesians 2, Philippians 2, Galatians 3 Daniel 2Episode Resources& Links: Book: Joyful Outsiders: Six Ways to Live Like Jesus in a Disorienting Culture by Patrick Miller and Keith Simon → Available from major booksellers or at joyfuloutsiders.com Free Assessment: → Take the “Outsider Archetype” quiz to discover your primary role in cultural engagement- joyfuloutsiders.com 

Transcribed - Published: 13 January 2025

On this episode of the Dad Tired podcast, Kaleb sits down with authors Patrick Miller to discuss his new book, Joyful Outsiders. Together, they explore what it means to live with joy, hope, and purpose in a culture where faith often feels out of place

Transcribed - Published: 13 January 2025