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Watch on YouTube HEREWhat if the most powerful discipleship moments with your kids weren’t planned, but hidden in the everyday? In this heartfelt solo episode, Jerrad Lopes shares the honest struggle of staying connected with your kids; especially as they grow into pre-teens and teens. From the exhausting early days of parenting toddlers to the emotional complexity of raising a 14-year-old, Jerrad opens up about his own wins, failures, and surprising lessons learned.Through a spontaneous UTV adventure in the Arizona desert, he discovered a truth that changed how he parents: deep connection isn’t built in big, perfectly planned moments, it’s formed in the small, mundane ones. With biblical insight from Deuteronomy and the example of Jesus, Jerrad shows how ordinary life can become the best classroom for pointing your kids to Christ.This episode is an encouragement to slow down, notice the moments you might be missing, and remember that God uses the everyday to shape both your kids’ hearts and yours.What You’ll Learn:Why parenting often gets harder as your kids grow olderHow to build “relational equity” with your kids in simple, everyday waysWhy the mundane moments are often the most spiritually impactfulHow Jesus used ordinary life to disciple His followersPractical ideas to connect with both younger kids and teensHow God uses parenting moments to shape your own faithMentioned in This Episode:Deuteronomy 6:4–7 — Teaching your kids in everyday lifeMatthew 6 & Mark 4 — How Jesus used lilies and storms to teach spiritual truthsArizona ATV AdventuresBook Jerrad to speak: jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving ItToday’s Sponsors: Courage For Life Bible & World Watch News

Transcribed - Published: 11 August 2025

Watch on Youtube: https://youtu.be/l6cKcqatpt8?si=yIQMZfIQxc-W2pPFWhat if your emotions weren’t the enemy—but the invitation to grow into the man God’s calling you to be? In this powerful solo episode, Chris Hilken explores the complicated relationship men have with their emotions. Most guys tend to fall off one side of the horse: either rejecting their emotions altogether or letting them run the show. But what if there’s a better way?With biblical insight and real-life examples, Chris makes the case that emotions aren’t something to obey or ignore—they’re something to redeem. He shares a practical framework for navigating emotions like anger, fear, and sadness through a gospel lens, helping men avoid the extremes of emotional numbness or chaos.This episode is a call for men to stop being passive with their emotions and start learning how to steward them like Jesus did—intentionally, righteously, and powerfully.What You’ll Learn:Why men are more emotional than they realizeThe 3 questions every man should ask when he feels something deeplyHow to know if your emotions are leading you toward Christ—or away from HimWhy “being true to yourself” is not a biblical ideaWhat Jesus, Nehemiah, and Esther teach us about godly emotionHow to break the pattern of reacting emotionally and start responding spirituallyWhy redeemed emotions can actually strengthen your leadership as a husband and fatherMentioned in This Episode:“Emotions are a check engine light, not a GPS” analogyJonathan Edwards on righteous vs. carnal affectionsMark 11 (Jesus’ righteous anger)Genesis 4 (Cain’s destructive jealousy)Nehemiah 1 and Matthew 27 (sadness that rebuilds vs. sadness that destroys)Esther 4 and Luke 22 (courage vs. fear)Book Jerrad to speak: jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving It: Amazon LinkToday's Sponsor: Classical Conversations 

Transcribed - Published: 4 August 2025

Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/7qy-dTUtTA4Most men have learned how to clean up well. We look calm. Composed. Put together. We show up to church, crack a few jokes, keep the peace; and no one would know what’s actually happening in our hearts.But Jesus isn’t fooled by appearance. He sees straight through the polish and into the pain.In today’s episode, Kaleb unpacks what it means to “clean the inside of the cup.” He shares a raw story about how God confronted him in the middle of the night, while he was busy rehearsing a bitter argument in his head, and revealed just how much unhealed junk was still living in his heart.This isn’t about behavior management. It’s about soul work. Because your wife doesn’t need a perfect version of you. Your kids don’t need a dad who looks impressive. They need a man who is whole on the inside.In this episode:The hidden difference between external discipline and internal healthHow to know if you’re just “managing the outside”The biblical call to clean the inside of your cupWhat makes a man useful to GodWhy your family needs a healed version of you—not a polished one"Woe to you… You clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside they are full of greed and self-indulgence. First clean the inside of the cup…” — Matthew 23:25–26Resources:Bring A Conference To Your Church: https://www.dadtired.com/conferencesSupport the mission: https://www.dadtired.com/donateToday's Sponsor: Hands On Kids Bible by TyndaleGo deeper:If this episode hit you—share it with a friend or take 30 seconds to leave a review. It helps us reach more men who are ready to do the hard work of becoming whole.

Transcribed - Published: 28 July 2025

Lectric Xpedition Bike: Watch HereWhat if the pain you’ve buried is the very thing blocking you from becoming the man God created you to be?In this raw and emotional episode, Jerrad sits down with Dr. Brad Johnson—also known as BJ Communicates—to talk about grief, father wounds, and how trauma shapes us more than we realize. BJ shares the heartbreaking story of holding his newborn son as he took his last breath, walking through the fog of loss in his marriage, and later grieving the death of his own father before reconciliation could happen.Together, they unpack how fatherlessness, unprocessed emotions, and generational pain keep men stuck—and why ignoring it doesn’t make it go away. They talk about how grief shows up in unexpected ways (like road rage and burnout), why most men lack true friendships, and how healing begins with honest conversations.This episode is an invitation to stop carrying what God has called you to cast—and to believe that the best version of you is on the other side of your pain. What You’ll Learn:Why men are emotional—even when they say they’re notHow father wounds affect your identityThe power of grief and what it revealsWhat it means to carry trauma in your bodyHow to connect with your wife through emotional check-insWhy men struggle to form deep friendshipsHow generational patterns repeat if we don’t interrupt themWhy healing is spiritual—and why it matters for your familyMentioned in This Episode:BJ Communicates’ books: Hard Conversations seriesSupport group for grieving dads: Sad Dad“Feelings Wheel” for emotional check-insBook Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

Transcribed - Published: 21 July 2025

Watch this interview on Youtube: https://youtu.be/7_ZcEkDxWBMWhat if the lie you're believing is the very thing keeping you from peace? In this powerful and convicting episode, Jerrad sits down with bestselling author Gary Thomas to dismantle one of the most common, but rarely admitted lies Christian men believe: God owes me. Together, they talk about the quiet entitlement that sneaks into our faith, why peace feels so elusive, and how the Gospel offers something far deeper than comfort or success.Jerrad and Gary explore how social media fuels discontent, how unspoken expectations erode intimacy with God, and why healing begins when we face our sin instead of hiding it. They share personal stories, biblical truth, and hard-won wisdom for men who want more than just behavior change, they want transformation.This episode is a much-needed reminder: God’s not holding out on you. He’s already given you more than you deserve. What You’ll Learn:Why entitlement might be the root of your spiritual frustrationHow believing a lie can sabotage your faithThe difference between comfort and peaceWhat Gary learned through suffering, silence, and surrenderWhy social media subtly kills gratitudeHow to be a man of peace in a world full of chaosWhy facing your sin leads to deeper joyHow the Gospel frees you—from your past, for your futureMentioned in This Episode: Gary Thomas’ new book: The Life You Were Reborn to Live Gary’s website: https://www.garythomas.com Book Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.com Grab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB Watch and subscribe on YouTube: https://youtu.be/7_ZcEkDxWBM

Transcribed - Published: 14 July 2025

Watch this conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ihMjsKPxdA8What if your greatest strength… is also the thing that wears you out the most? In this honest and inspiring conversation, Jerrad sits down with Michael Seifert—founder of PublicSq. and EveryLife—to talk about identity, pressure, purpose, and the hidden cost of success. Though Michael leads some of the most mission-driven companies in America, he opens up about the soul battles behind his ambition—and why Sabbath rest might be his greatest act of obedience.They talk about legacy, fatherhood, and how a rebellious teenager found Jesus at a ranch in Northern California. Michael shares how a single week transformed his relationship with his dad, the real reason behind his inner drive, and the moment he realized that working for the praises of man would eventually break him.This episode is a reminder that God doesn’t just care about what you build—but who you're becoming while you build it.What You’ll Learn:Why your identity can’t come from what you accomplishThe four roles a dad plays (caretaker, cop, coach, consultant)How pressure to succeed impacts father-son relationshipsWhat Michael learned about humility from his dadThe beauty of building with God—and learning to restHow to lead your family while healing from your own woundsWhy starting a values-driven business invites both criticism and purposeMentioned in This Episode:J.H. Ranch: https://jhranch.comPublicSq: https://publicsq.comEveryLife Diapers: https://everylife.comMichael's South Korea launch at Yoido Full Gospel ChurchJerrad’s mantra: “Strong families begin with healed men”🔗 Resources:Book Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GBWatch and subscribe on YouTube

Transcribed - Published: 7 July 2025

Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/B50C1AlD3aoWhat if the things that slow you down… are the very things God wants to use to form you? In this slow, soulful conversation, Jerrad sits down with Jake Weidmann—a master penman (yes, that’s a real thing) and artist whose life and work are marked by discipline, creativity, and deep intentionality. From carving sacred art to raising four kids, Jake shares how slowing down has reshaped not just his craft—but his soul.They talk about the connection between beauty and time, why being creative has nothing to do with being “artsy,” and how discipline and delight can co-exist in the life of a godly man. Jake opens up about the doubts that haunted his early career, what it means to “exult in monotony,” and the emotional moment he hoisted an Amish barn beam onto his shoulder—realizing he was quite literally taking up his cross.This episode is a breath of fresh air in a world that worships speed.What You’ll Learn:Why slowing down might be the most spiritual thing you do todayHow discipline, doubt, and beauty all shape a man’s soulThe lost art of doing one thing well over a long timeWhat it means to create as a reflection of the CreatorHow parenting and craftsmanship have more in common than you thinkWhy creativity isn’t just for artists—it’s for every man made in God’s imageThe surprising story behind Jake’s “Old Rugged Cross” artworkMentioned in This Episode:Jake’s book and artwork: https://jakeweidmann.comG.K. Chesterton’s OrthodoxyThe story of the “pen wizard” and the golden age of handwritingBenedictine wisdom: To work is to prayJerrad’s mantra: “Decades over days”🔗 Resources: Book Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.com Grab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB Watch the episode on YouTube and subscribe!

Transcribed - Published: 30 June 2025

Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/B50C1AlD3aoWhat if the things that slow you down… are the very things God wants to use to form you? In this slow, soulful conversation, Jerrad sits down with Jake Weidmann—a master penman (yes, that’s a real thing) and artist whose life and work are marked by discipline, creativity, and deep intentionality. From carving sacred art to raising four kids, Jake shares how slowing down has reshaped not just his craft—but his soul.They talk about the connection between beauty and time, why being creative has nothing to do with being “artsy,” and how discipline and delight can co-exist in the life of a godly man. Jake opens up about the doubts that haunted his early career, what it means to “exult in monotony,” and the emotional moment he hoisted an Amish barn beam onto his shoulder—realizing he was quite literally taking up his cross.This episode is a breath of fresh air in a world that worships speed.What You’ll Learn:Why slowing down might be the most spiritual thing you do todayHow discipline, doubt, and beauty all shape a man’s soulThe lost art of doing one thing well over a long timeWhat it means to create as a reflection of the CreatorHow parenting and craftsmanship have more in common than you thinkWhy creativity isn’t just for artists—it’s for every man made in God’s imageThe surprising story behind Jake’s “Old Rugged Cross” artworkMentioned in This Episode:Jake’s book and artwork: https://jakeweidmann.comG.K. Chesterton’s OrthodoxyThe story of the “pen wizard” and the golden age of handwritingBenedictine wisdom: To work is to prayJerrad’s mantra: “Decades over days”🔗 Resources: Book Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.com Grab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB Watch the episode on YouTube and subscribe!

Transcribed - Published: 30 June 2025

WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/Uovkiigw4gwWhat if the thing that nearly destroyed you… became the thing God used to heal others?In this raw and redemptive episode, Jerrad sits down with Sammy Perez, a man who grew up without a dad, entered the system at age 8, and spent much of his early life in prison. But that’s not where the story ends. Through a prison cellmate, an unexpected visitation, and the unlikely love of a spiritual father, Sammy’s life was completely turned around.Together, they talk about father wounds, the ache for belonging, how prison both broke and saved him, and the long road to healing as a man and dad. Sammy shares the tear-filled moment he gave his life to Jesus behind bars, the first time he saw his son through glass, and how God turned his pain into purpose.This is one of the most powerful stories we’ve ever told.What You’ll Learn:Why boys without dads often become men without directionHow shame disconnects us from our story and how healing reconnects usThe surprising moment Sammy met his son for the first timeWhat it looks like to father when you were never fatheredHow a consistent man named Terry changed everythingWhy God’s love can rewire even the hardest heartsThe full-circle moment that brought Sammy back into prisons… this time with purposeMentioned in This Episode:Prison Fellowship’s Angel Tree ProgramSammy’s work helping former prisoners reintegrate into societyThe story of Clarence; the cellmate who wouldn’t stop asking Sammy if he wanted to know JesusJerrad’s teaching on 2 Kings 6 and the power of new perspective🔗 Resources: Book Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.com Grab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB Learn more about Prison Fellowship: https://www.prisonfellowship.org

Transcribed - Published: 23 June 2025

Watch this interview on YouTube: https://youtu.be/L3ObzPJXwXwWhat if being a “man” had nothing to do with bench press numbers or beard length—and everything to do with becoming a safe place?In this vulnerable and soul-stirring episode, Jerrad sits down with Brant Hansen to talk about what it really means to be a man. From playing the flute and battling shame to protecting the vulnerable and bringing peace to your home, Brant flips the typical narrative of masculinity on its head.They unpack the ache many men feel to be better, why muscle doesn’t equal maturity, and how a man’s deepest strength might just be his gentleness. Brant shares the heart behind his book The Men We Need, what it means to be a “keeper of the garden,” and how every man, no matter his story, can begin again.This one gets deep fast. What You’ll Learn:Why your presence is more than physical proximityHow spiritual formation leads to true masculinityWhy “being strong” often looks like tendernessWhat your tone of voice says about the kind of man you areThe one vision for manhood that could reshape your homeHow to become a non-anxious presence for your wife and kidsWhy it’s never too late to pivot and become the man God’s calling you to beMentioned in This Episode:Brant’s book: The Men We NeedThe Hebrew word for God’s covering in Eden—“royal garments”Lamentations 3 and Philippians 4 as anchors for anxious menBible Memory App for rewiring shame loopsThe “Keeper of the Garden” vision of masculinityHow passive men still make their homes unsafe🔗 Resources:Book Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comGrab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GBGet Brant’s book The Men We NeedToday’s Sponsor: Classical Conversations 

Transcribed - Published: 16 June 2025

Watch this interview on YouTube: https://youtu.be/zSgexS8GG30In this honest and gritty conversation, Shane Winnings and Jerrad talk about the ache behind every man’s desire to be a good dad—and why good intentions still leave so many guys feeling like they’re failing.Shane shares his own story of growing as a father while leading a national movement to fight fatherlessness. They unpack how wounds from our own dads often fuel our desire to be better, but why motivation alone won’t cut it. From military discipline to spiritual revival, from being physically present to emotionally absent, this conversation gets real fast.They also dive into Shane’s bold new campaign Make Dads Great Again, what’s sparking revival in Gen Z men, how fatherhood videos are breaking algorithms and breaking men open, and why the greatest threat to your calling might be your unchecked hustle. What You’ll Learn:Why proximity doesn’t equal presence in your homeHow to stop “tinkering” and start truly engaging your kidsThe real reason father wounds hurt so deeplyHow to love your family in the way they actually receive loveWhy being faithful at home matters more than platform or ministry successHow revival might already be happening—just not the way we expectMentioned in This Episode:Shane’s viral Make Dads Great Again campaignWesley Huff’s surprising influence on Joe RoganWhy Gen Z men are leading the way back to churchThe trap of high-output, low-impact fatherhoodHow to heal the pain that productivity can’t coverBook Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.com Grab Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB Today’s Sponsors: DwellBible.com/DadTired

Transcribed - Published: 9 June 2025

Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/VDz2Q6cuwskWhy do so many dads feel like they’re failing, even when they’re doing their best?In this honest and soul-stirring conversation, John Eldredge helps us trace the ache beneath our anger, our addictions, and our constant striving. He explains why most men are still chasing love and validation they never received, how childhood wounds shape adult behavior, and why true healing—not behavior modification—is the key to becoming the man your family needs.Jerrad and John unpack father wounds, mother wounds, emotional detachment, and the deep desire for adventure that often gets twisted into sin. If you've ever felt like you're just trying to survive—numbing your pain, doubting your worth, or holding your breath through life—this conversation will help you breathe again. What You’ll Learn:Why behavior change won’t work without soul healingHow father and mother wounds still shape your adult lifeThe two core needs every boy carries into manhoodWhy adventure and validation matter to your spiritual lifeHow to begin healing old attachments and rewire your storyWhat it looks like to fight for your family, your faith, and your futureMentioned in the Episode:Wild at Heart and Resilient by John EldredgeExperience Jesus (John’s new book on healing)Why boys need a thousand moments of delight from their dadsHow your unhealed story gets passed to your kidsJerrad’s punching bag story (and why it felt amazing)Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.comRead Dad Tired and Loving It: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GBToday's Sponsors: Tyndale Study Bibles + World Watch News 

Transcribed - Published: 2 June 2025

What if the part of you that you hate the most is the part God is most eager to heal?In this episode, Jerrad opens up about a moment that nearly ended him, and the journey that brought him back. He shares a powerful story from his two-week intensive recovery experience, including the surprising object that became a symbol of grace and compassion. If you’ve ever carried shame, hidden pain, or felt like your sin disqualifies you from being loved, this conversation is for you.Whether you’re a husband, father, or man who’s just tired of pretending, this episode is an invitation to drop the shame and discover the healing God offers to the parts of you that feel unlovable. What You’ll Learn:Why shame makes healing so hard, and what finally breaks its grip.The powerful metaphor that helped Jerrad see himself through God’s eyes.How childhood wounds shape adult sin patterns.What Jesus actually thinks about your sin (hint: it’s not what you assume).The difference between guilt, shame, and compassion.A fresh way to view your struggles, and the small boy inside still seeking safety. Mentioned in the Episode:The Dwell Bible App – dwellbible.com/dadtired (25% off for listeners).The two-week men's recovery intensive Jerrad attended.A simple but profound healing exercise involving a stuffed monkey. Invite Jerrad to speak: https://www.jerradlopes.com Read The Dad Tired Book: https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB

Transcribed - Published: 26 May 2025

Watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/WDK9O0VZ7loWhat if your marriage wasn’t just surviving—but actually healing you?In this powerful episode, Jerrad sits down with author and speaker Gabe Lyons (The Fight for Us) to talk about the real work of building a thriving marriage—especially when life throws curveballs like special needs parenting, trauma, and unspoken pain.They unpack:The power of radical honesty (and why most couples never get there)How to stop nursing wounds in silence and start creating real intimacyWhy “no secrets” might be the most life-changing marriage ruleWhat to do when you feel emotionally disconnectedHow confession and emotional leadership can radically change your marriage and parentingIf you’ve ever felt stuck in your marriage or unsure how to lead your family spiritually—this conversation is for you.📘 Check out Gabe’s new book: The Fight for Us: Overcome What Divides and Build a Marriage That ThrivesToday's Sponsor: Classical Conversations Homeschooling

Transcribed - Published: 19 May 2025

Why do so many men feel stuck—emotionally, spiritually, and relationally—even while doing all the “right” things?  In this vulnerable conversation, Kyle Idleman talks about the inner battles men face in silence. He explains why many men hide behind performance and productivity, how healing begins with connection (not accomplishment), and what it really looks like to take every thought captive.Kyle and Jerrad dig into thought patterns that keep men stuck, the mental load of leadership, and why confessing weakness isn’t whining—it’s spiritual obedience. If you’ve ever felt alone, overburdened, or ashamed of not “being further along,” this conversation will help you breathe again.What You’ll Learn:Why men around age 40 often face unexpected internal crisisHow emotional connection—not productivity—defines your healthWhat it looks like to take every thought captive in practical termsThe healing power of confession and friendshipHow to recognize and break negative thought patternsMorning routines, prayer habits, and spoken truth as tools for renewal Mentioned in the Episode:Every Thought Captive (Kyle Idleman’s new book)Galatians 6: “Bear one another’s burdens”The power of saying Scripture aloud to renew your mindHealthy male friendships and confession as healing rhythmsThe “+/- 3 of 40” principle: why men change between 37–43Tools like ClearSpace, prayer closets, and daily scripture meditation

Transcribed - Published: 12 May 2025

Every man hits a moment—or a season—where he realizes: Something’s off. Maybe he’s performing but not connected. Providing but not present. Holding it all together, but barely.In this powerful and personal conversation, Jerrad sits down with Kyle Idleman to talk about why so many men feel stuck in patterns they can’t explain or escape—and what to do about it. Whether you’re in your 20s or 60s, this episode offers biblical, practical tools for taking your thoughts captive and walking in freedom.They cover:The “plus or minus 3 of 40” window (and why it’s not just about age)Why men trade connection for production—and how to stopHow to tell if you’re really healthy (hint: it’s not your to-do list)What it means to bear one another’s burdens—without trying to fix each otherHow to break the thought patterns that have kept you stuck for yearsKyle’s new book: Every Thought Captive More from Dad Tired: https://www.dadtired.comToday's Sponsor: http://dwellbible.com/dadtired

Transcribed - Published: 12 May 2025

Every man hits a momentor a seasonwhere he realizes:Somethings off.Maybe hes performing but not connected. Providing but not present. Holding it all together, but barely.In this powerful and personal conversation, Jerrad sits down with Kyle Idleman

Transcribed - Published: 12 May 2025

What do you do when something isn’t technically sin—but still doesn’t feel right? In this episode, Jerrad shares a vulnerable story from his week that left him convicted, even though no clear line was crossed. He unpacks the concept of “inner, middle, and outer circle behaviors”—a tool from recovery circles—and challenges Christian men to evaluate the subtle patterns that quietly lead to sin, disconnection, or hidden shame.If you’re a husband or father wrestling with old habits, emotional isolation, or unspoken compromise, this episode gives practical language to your inner conflict—and a gospel-centered path toward integrity and healing.What You’ll Learn:How to identify subtle behaviors that lead to sinThe difference between self-care and numbingWhy “middle circle” habits matter for Christian menPractical steps for radical honesty in marriageHow to confess without spiraling into shameWhy healing starts with small, honest steps—not perfection Mentioned in the Episode:The “Inner, Middle, Outer Circle” tool from recovery workConfessing non-sinful but compromising behavior to a spouseUsing practical boundaries (e.g. standing while eating, social media use) to spot emotional disconnectionDad Tired Retreat (September – signup at dadtired.com)Kids' News Sponsor -World Watch News 

Transcribed - Published: 5 May 2025

Ever walked out of a situation and thought, “That didn’t feel right”? In this raw, unscripted episode, Jerrad Lopes shares a deeply vulnerable moment — a story that didn’t involve sin in the traditional sense, but came dangerously close. From a return line at Home Depot to the emotional weight of a product endorsement, Jerrad invites listeners into the middle circle: the subtle behaviors that don’t look like sin, but lead our hearts away from truth, integrity, and God.🎧 In this episode:What “middle circle behavior” means and how it can unravel your soulThe difference between numbing out vs. self-careA powerful framework used in recovery communities to build emotional awarenessHow small compromises can quietly erode godly characterJerrad’s honest confession to his wife — and why radical honesty mattersWhy Oreo binges, Zillow scrolling, or standing while eating may matter more than you thinkThe prayer for men who want transformation but feel stuckWhether you’re a husband, a father, or a man seeking healing, this episode offers a language for the soul and a challenge to step out of isolation.📌 Want to go deeper?Consider sharing this episode with a friend and comparing your own circles🔗 Support the WorkAttend the next Dad Tired Retreat → DadTired.com/retreatBecome a monthly donor and help continue the missionPartner brands: World Watch News – Faith-based news for families

Transcribed - Published: 5 May 2025

Ever walked out of a situation and thought, That didnt feel right?In this raw, unscripted episode, Jerrad Lopes shares a deeply vulnerable moment a story that didnt involve sin in the traditional sense, but came dangerously close. From a return line

Transcribed - Published: 5 May 2025

What do you do when your marriage feels over — and you don't even know why?In this raw and honest conversation, Dave and Ann Wilson share the untold story of how their marriage nearly ended at year 10… and the one moment that changed everything.They dive into childhood wounds, soul pain, and the exhausting journey of healing — and how putting God back at the center saved not just their relationship, but their individual hearts.🔥 Inside this episode: • Why performance and perfection can kill a marriage • How childhood trauma shapes adult relationships • The one word God spoke that changed it all • How to start healing, even when it feels impossibleWhether you’re fighting for your marriage, healing from your past, or just longing for deeper connection — this story will give you hope, honesty, and practical steps toward restoration.🎯 Don't miss this powerful conversation. Hit play — and get ready for real talk.Join The Movement: dadtired.com/donateToday's Sponsor: http://dwellbible.com/dadtired

Transcribed - Published: 28 April 2025

What do you do when your marriage feels broken—but you don’t know how to fix it?  In this episode, Dave and Ann Wilson share their story of nearly losing their marriage at year 10, and how God brought them through bitterness, performance, and unmet expectations into healing and intimacy.With over four decades of marriage experience and years of leading marriage ministries, they speak candidly about wounds from the past, what happens when a wife feels unseen, and why husbands often withdraw instead of engage. You’ll also hear practical tools for renewing your mind, healing emotional wounds, and building each other up instead of tearing each other down.What You’ll Learn:What to do when one spouse has “lost all feelings”How past trauma affects your marriage todayWhy healing starts with individual repentance and soul workThe power of affirmation and the damage of chronic critiqueHow to speak life to your spouse (instead of yelling)What it means to be an “azer kenegdo” and partner in the spiritual battleWhy most men feel unloved and unliked in their marriage—and how to change that  Links and Resources:Vertical Marriage and How to Speak Life to Your Husband by Dave & Ann WilsonBiblical Reference- Romans 12:2 – the daily renewing of your mind.Pre-order link: Amazon – How to Speak Life to Your Husband

Transcribed - Published: 28 April 2025

What do you do when your marriage feels over and you don't even know why?In this raw and honest conversation, Dave and Ann Wilson share the untold story of how their marriage nearly ended at year 10 and theone momentthat changed everything.They d

Transcribed - Published: 28 April 2025

Porn. Shame. Repeat. Breaking the cycle starts with telling the truth.Jerrad Lopes returns after months of silence, not with answers—but with honesty. In this deeply vulnerable episode, Jerrad shares why he hasn’t told a single lie in 156 days, how intensive counseling broke him open, and what it means to be a “truth teller” in a world of escape. Whether it’s porn, alcohol, work, or Oreos—this is an invitation to stop numbing and start healing. If you're tired of hiding, if you're tired of performing, and you're ready to be fully present—this episode is for you. In this episode:​Why Jerrad hasn't lied in over 150 days (and why it matters)​The moment he broke down in counseling—and what it revealed​How performance becomes a survival tactic for so many men​Why honesty feels terrifying but is essential for freedom​Escapism, addiction, and the real reason we keep going back​What meditation taught him (and why he fell asleep once 😂)​The danger of "socially acceptable" numbing habits (Oreos, Zillow, work)​How to catch yourself in the act of escaping—and sit with your feelings instead Key Challenge for Listeners:Ask yourself:🧠 What are you trying to escape from?🔍 What are you using to escape? You don’t need to be perfect. But you do need to be honest. Start here. Resources & Mentions:​Dad Tired Community: dadtired.com​Support the show or sponsor inquiries: DadTired.com/donate​Today’s sponsor: BackGatePrayers.com promo code DADTIRED

Transcribed - Published: 21 April 2025

Porn. Shame. Repeat. Breaking the cycle starts with telling the truth.Jerrad Lopes returns after months of silence, not with answersbut with honesty. In this deeply vulnerable episode, Jerrad shares why he hasnt told a single lie in 156 days, how intens

Transcribed - Published: 21 April 2025

Most Christian men wouldn’t call it an addiction. “It’s just something I struggle with…” But what if that struggle is actually keeping you stuck?In this episode, Nick Stumbo—Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries—shares his powerful story of addiction, shame, and the deeper healing Jesus offers.We talk about:Why confession isn’t the finish lineThe 3 questions that revealed Nick’s addictionWhat white-knuckling recovery really looks likeHow trauma, performance, and shame feed the cycleThis isn’t just about porn. It’s about what your soul is really craving.Learn more about Pure Desire Ministries: https://www.puredesire.orgGet Nick’s book Setting Us Free: https://amzn.to/3EtfY2PStart your healing journey with Dad Tired: [https://www.dadtired.com]Subscribe to the Dad Tired podcast for more episodes that help men lead their families well A special thanks to today's sponsor: www.dwellbible.com/dadtired

Transcribed - Published: 14 April 2025

Most Christian men wouldnt call it an addiction. Its just something I struggle withBut what if that struggle is actually keeping you stuck?In this episode, Nick StumboExecutive Director of Pure Desire Ministriesshares his powerful story of addictio

Transcribed - Published: 14 April 2025

After a four-month break from the podcast, Jerrad Lopes returns with his most vulnerable episode yet. In this raw and powerful conversation, he shares the painful truth behind his absence, including the sin that nearly cost him everything—and the healing

Transcribed - Published: 7 April 2025

After a four-month break from the podcast, Jerrad Lopes returns with his most vulnerable episode yet. In this raw and powerful conversation, he shares the painful truth behind his absence, including the sin that nearly cost him everything—and the healing journey that saved his life. Faced with two options—end it all or embrace the pain and pursue healing—Jerrad chose life. Now, he's back with a renewed vision for Dad Tired: to help men find the kind of deep healing that transforms everything. If you're tired, hurting, or hiding, this is the episode you didn’t know you needed. Sponsor: worldwatch.news/dadtired

Transcribed - Published: 7 April 2025

In this episode, Jerrad Lopes returns after a four-month break. He  shares how hidden sin, deep wounds, and a crisis of identity led him to the darkest season of his life—and how God met him there. Jerrad opens up about stepping away from ministry, entering a two-week counseling intensive, and why full healing is impossible without radical honesty.This episode is a call to Christian men: if you want your family to thrive, healing must begin with you. You don’t need more parenting tips—you need deep, soul-level transformation. And it starts by coming out of hiding.What You’ll Learn:Why secrecy destroys spiritual leadershipThe emotional cost of compartmentalized sinThe moment Jerrad chose full healing over self-destructionWhy counseling and community are essential for real changeWhat it feels like to live with nothing hiddenHow Dad Tired is shifting focus toward men's healing ministryEpisode  Resources & Links:Dad Tired’s upcoming retreat: Register at dadtired.comDad Tired's Mighty Networks Community for men (free)Episode Sponsor: World Watch News (sponsor for family-safe news)Episode 462 :“Important Ministry Update” & conversation with Kaleb and Chris

Transcribed - Published: 7 April 2025

After a four-month break from the podcast, Jerrad Lopes returns with his most vulnerable episode yet. In this raw and powerful conversation, he shares the painful truth behind his absence, including the sin that nearly cost him everything—and the healing journey that saved his life. Faced with two options—end it all or embrace the pain and pursue healing—Jerrad chose life. Now, he's back with a renewed vision for Dad Tired: to help men find the kind of deep healing that transforms everything. If you're tired, hurting, or hiding, this is the episode you didn’t know you needed. Sponsor: worldwatch.news/dadtired

Transcribed - Published: 7 April 2025

In today's episode, Pastor Kaleb and Pastor Chris sit down with Jerrad to talk about the next season of Dad Tired.

Transcribed - Published: 31 March 2025

In today's episode, Pastor Kaleb and Pastor Chris sit down with Jerrad to talk about the next season of Dad Tired.

Transcribed - Published: 31 March 2025

In today's episode, Pastor Kaleb and Pastor Chris sit down with Jerrad to talk about the next season of Dad Tired.

Transcribed - Published: 31 March 2025

In this powerful follow-up to the series on biblical masculinity, Chris Hilkin continues unpacking what it means to be a man after God's own heart through the PRIME MEN acrostic. After Jerrad Lopes opens with a heartfelt update and thanks the Dad Tire

Transcribed - Published: 24 March 2025

In this powerful follow-up to the series on biblical masculinity, Chris Hilkin continues unpacking what it means to be a man after God's own heart through the PRIME MEN acrostic. After Jerrad Lopes opens with a heartfelt update and thanks the Dad Tired community for their support, Chris teaches through the next key biblical traits of godly manhood: Intentional, Meek, Enduring, Moral, Empathetic, and Noble. With deep theological insight, biblical references, and real-life application, this episode challenges men to take spiritual leadership seriously—at home, in the church, and in the world.Bible Passages Mentioned:John 8 – Jesus and the woman caught in adultery1 Timothy 3:4-5 – Managing one's family wellEphesians 6:4 – Fathers training and instructing childrenGenesis 18:19 – Directing one’s household in the way of the LordGenesis 3:6 – Adam’s passivity in the Garden1 Samuel 3:11 – Eli’s failure to discipline his sonsMark 5 – Jesus healing the bleeding woman2 Timothy 1:7 – Spirit of power, love, and self-controlProverbs 16:32 – Better to be patient than a warriorPhilippians 2 – Christ’s humilityProverbs 24:16 – The righteous fall seven times but rise again1 Corinthians 16:13-14 – Be strong, courageous, and do everything in loveLuke 23 – Jesus carrying the cross1 Timothy 4:8 – Godliness has value for all thingsTitus 2:7-8 – Teaching with integrity1 Samuel 15 – Saul's disobedienceMatthew 4 – Jesus’ temptationJohn 17 – Jesus interceding for his disciplesNehemiah 4:14 – Fight for your familiesPhilippians 4:8 – Whatever is noble, think about such thingsProverbs 22:1 – A good name is more desirable than richesMicah 6:8 – Do justice, love mercy, walk humblyActs 5 – Ananias and SapphiraJoshua 7 – The sin of AchanJohn 18 – Jesus on trial before PilateIsaiah 53:7 – Like a lamb silent before its shearersLuke 23:34 – Jesus forgives those who crucified Him Discussion Questions:Which of the PRIME MEN traits (Peacemaking, Repentant, Intentional, Meek, Enduring, Moral, Empathetic, Noble) do you most naturally embody, and which one do you struggle with the most? Why? (Bonus: Print the list and literally highlight where you're strong and where you're bleeding, as suggested in the episode.)Read Ephesians 6:4. What does it look like for you, specifically, to take spiritual responsibility for your kids? In what ways have you been tempted to hand that role off to someone else?How have you misunderstood meekness in the past? What would it look like for you to walk in “power under control” this week?How does your private life reflect your integrity? Are there places in your life where you are “fractioned” or living in two different personas? What does integration look like for you?In a culture that values comfort and ease, what does it mean to endure like Jesus? How can you practically grow in endurance and perseverance when life gets hard?

Transcribed - Published: 24 March 2025

Show Notes: Biblical Masculinity Part 1In this first part of theBiblical Masculinityseries,Chris Hilkenwalks through what it truly means to be a man after Gods own heart. He shares personal storiesfrom growing up watching WWF to mentoring young men

Transcribed - Published: 17 March 2025

In this conversation, Chris Hilken explores the concept of masculinity, particularly focusing on its representation in media and the attributes of biblical masculinity. He discusses the importance of understanding true masculinity, the role of peacemaking, and the necessity of repentance in a man's life. Through personal anecdotes and biblical references, Hilken encourages men to reflect on their character and strive for growth in their understanding of masculinity.

Transcribed - Published: 17 March 2025

Show Notes: Biblical Masculinity Part 1 In this first part of the Biblical Masculinity series, Chris Hilken walks through what it truly means to be a man after God’s own heart. He shares personal stories—from growing up watching WWF to mentoring young men at youth camp—and challenges cultural stereotypes of masculinity. Instead of aggressive or passive extremes, he calls men to embody Christlike traits. Chris begins walking through an acronym, PRIMEMEN, and unpacks the first two attributes: Peacemaker and Repentant. What You’ll Learn:Why culture has distorted our view of masculinityWhy “The Rock” and pop-culture heroes fall short of biblical manhoodHow peacemaking and repentance are signs of real strengthThe difference between feeling sorry and true repentanceWhy Jesus is the perfect picture of masculinity Bible Verses Mentioned:Matthew 5:9 – “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called children of God.”Romans 5 – Jesus made peace with us through the cross.Romans 12:18 – “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”James 1:19 – “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”Genesis 4:8 – Cain kills Abel out of rage.1 Samuel 18:6–9 – Saul’s jealousy drives him to attack David.John 8 – Jesus diffuses the angry mob with wisdom and justice.Luke 8 – Jesus calms the storm.Acts 3:19 – “Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out.”2 Corinthians 7 – Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation.Proverbs 28:13 – “Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.”Luke 15 – The Prodigal SonLuke 19 – Zacchaeus repents and makes restitution.Hebrews 4 – God’s Word is a double-edged sword. Garage Group Discussion Questions:What images or messages about masculinity did you grow up with? How have they shaped you—for better or worse?Chris says, “Real men create no drama and control their anger.” What does that look like in your home or workplace right now?Read Matthew 5:9 and Romans 12:18. How can you actively pursue peace in a relationship where there’s tension?Repentance is more than saying sorry—it's turning and changing. What’s one area of your life where you're apologizing but not truly repenting?Chris shares how Jesus is “the better Cain, the better Saul.” In what ways can you look to Jesus—not culture—as your model of manhood this week?

Transcribed - Published: 17 March 2025

Jesus sent His disciples two by twonot alone. Why? Because ministry, life, and discipleship are not meant to be solo endeavors. In this episode, we unpack Luke 10:1 and explore the biblical foundation for companionship in the Christian life. From account

Transcribed - Published: 10 March 2025

Jesus sent His disciples two by two—not alone. Why? Because ministry, life, and discipleship are not meant to be solo endeavors. In this episode, we unpack Luke 10:1 and explore the biblical foundation for companionship in the Christian life. From accountability and encouragement to strengthening our testimony, we’ll discuss why godly friendships matter for every man—whether you’re a pastor, a truck driver, or a dad just trying to raise your kids well. God’s design for brotherhood isn’t just about survival; it’s about finishing well.

Transcribed - Published: 10 March 2025

Make sure to connect with dwell at: dwellbible.com/dadtired On this episode of Dad Tired, we explore the road to Emmaus and the way friendship and faith intertwine in the Christian life. When Jesus walked alongside two confused disciples, He met them in their questions, in their grief, and in their search for clarity—just as He does with us today. Drawing from Luke 24, the lives of Perpetua and Felicity, and the wisdom of St. Bernard of Clairvaux, we’ll discuss how friendship is essential to holiness, how Christ is present in our shared struggles, and why discipleship isn’t meant to be done alone. If you've ever wrestled with doubt, isolation, or the mystery of God’s plan, this episode will remind you that the Third Traveler always walks beside you.

Transcribed - Published: 3 March 2025

Make sure to connect with dwell at: dwellbible.com/dadtiredOn this episode of Dad Tired, we explore the road to Emmaus and the way friendship and faith intertwine in the Christian life. When Jesus walked alongside two confused disciples, He met them in th

Transcribed - Published: 3 March 2025

Friendship and holiness are deeply intertwined in the way of Jesus. In this episode of Dad Tired, we explore Jesus command to lay down our lives for our friends (John 15:13) and how true friendship reflects the heart of God. While Judas betrayed friendsh

Transcribed - Published: 24 February 2025

Can a man truly grow in holiness without growing in friendship? Kaleb challenges the individualistic mindset many Christian men carry—and shows how friendship is not just helpful, but essential for spiritual maturity. Drawing from John 15, the life of Jesus, and examples like Augustine, he unpacks the truth that holiness and friendship are inseparably linked.If you’ve felt isolated, self-reliant, or unsure how to build meaningful relationships as a Christian man, this episode reframes friendship not as a luxury, but as a command of Christ—and a taste of heaven itself.What You’ll Learn:Why Jesus commanded friendship on the night of His betrayalHow real friendship is a path to Christlikeness, not a distraction from itThe danger of isolated spiritual leadershipWhy holiness without friendship is often just masked prideThe healing power of brotherhood in seasons of mental, emotional, and spiritual struggleHow friendship prepares us for heaven’s ultimate communion 📖 Scripture References:John 15:12–14 – “Greater love has no one than this…”Psalm 41:9 – Betrayal by a close friendRomans 5:8, John 14, the Farewell DiscourseResources and Links :Missionary Flights International – Aviation ministry serving in Haiti, the Bahamas, and the Dominican Republic- missionaryflights.orgSpiritual Friendship by St. Aelred of RievaulxAugustine’s Conversion (Confessions)

Transcribed - Published: 24 February 2025

Friendship and holiness are deeply intertwined in the way of Jesus. In this episode of Dad Tired, we explore Jesus’ command to lay down our lives for our friends (John 15:13) and how true friendship reflects the heart of God. While Judas betrayed friendship, Jesus embodied it offering Himself fully for those He loved. What does it mean for us as dads, husbands, and men of faith to live out sacrificial friendship? How does holiness shape the way we love those around us? Join us as we unpack these themes and challenge ourselves to follow Christ’s example.

Transcribed - Published: 24 February 2025

In this episode Kaleb narrates how anxiety, looping thoughts, and self-condemnation can pull us away from the moments that matter most. While watching his son overcome fear at a waterpark, Kaleb found himself mentally stuck—replaying frustrations, doubts, and failures. Through John 14:27, he reflects on the kind of peace Jesus gives: not escape from life’s storms, but presence within them—a peace that interrupts fear and helps us stay grounded in what God is doing right in front of us. What You’ll Learn:How to break mental loops of fear, regret, and condemnationWhy Jesus spoke peace to His disciples before His own sufferingThe difference between worldly peace and the peace of ChristHow external perspective—God’s Word, a friend, or your spouse—can shatter inner turmoilWhy recognizing God’s presence can restore joy in your fatherhood and faith 📖  Scripture  References:John 14:27 – “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you…”John 13–17 – The Farewell DiscourseRomans 8:28 – All things work together for goodMatthew 28:20 – “I am with you always” (implied)Practical Advice:Memorize John 14:27Talk to your spouse or a trusted friend to break the loopAllow God’s Word to “kick in your front door” when condemnation creeps in

Transcribed - Published: 17 February 2025

In this episode, Kaleb Allen dives into John 14:27"Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid." We explore how Jesus' words challenge

Transcribed - Published: 17 February 2025

In this episode, Kaleb Allen dives into John 14:27—"Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid." We explore how Jesus' words challenge the mental loops that trap us in anxiety, self-reliance, and fear. What happens when we allow the external, unshakable truth of God’s Word to interrupt our internal dialogue?

Transcribed - Published: 17 February 2025

How do we reconcile the character of God with the violence in the Old Testament? In this episode, Chris helps us wrestle with one of the most difficult theological questions: Does Gods command for destruction in the Old Testament align with His justice,

Transcribed - Published: 10 February 2025