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Why Most Men Still Feel Like Boys Inside: Healing Your Childhood Wounds with John Eldredge | 471

Dad Tired

Jerrad Lopes

Religion & Spirituality, Christianity

5 • 1.4K Ratings

🗓️ 2 June 2025

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Summary

Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/VDz2Q6cuwsk

Why do so many dads feel like they’re failing, even when they’re doing their best?

In this honest and soul-stirring conversation, John Eldredge helps us trace the ache beneath our anger, our addictions, and our constant striving. He explains why most men are still chasing love and validation they never received, how childhood wounds shape adult behavior, and why true healing—not behavior modification—is the key to becoming the man your family needs.

Jerrad and John unpack father wounds, mother wounds, emotional detachment, and the deep desire for adventure that often gets twisted into sin. If you've ever felt like you're just trying to survive—numbing your pain, doubting your worth, or holding your breath through life—this conversation will help you breathe again.


What You’ll Learn:

  • Why behavior change won’t work without soul healing
  • How father and mother wounds still shape your adult life
  • The two core needs every boy carries into manhood
  • Why adventure and validation matter to your spiritual life
  • How to begin healing old attachments and rewire your story
  • What it looks like to fight for your family, your faith, and your future

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Transcript

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0:00.0

John, I'm so grateful to have you back, brother. It is just such an honor to talk to you, so much of my own healing journey.

0:06.8

God has used you in many ways. I know he's used you for tens of thousands, hundreds of thousands of men to find healing.

0:13.2

I've certainly been the beneficiary of much of your wisdom and the way God's used you in my own life.

0:18.7

But for those who may not have heard of you yet, tell us who

0:22.1

you are and what you're up to these days. Yeah, thanks, Jared. It's nice to be back on your podcast.

0:28.1

So I was trained as a therapist a very long time ago, mid-90s. And early in my work, I found myself working more and more, mostly with men or men

0:40.8

and their marriages. And out of that, I wrote a book for men called Wild at Heart that did fairly

0:47.5

well and has kind of gone around the world helping to heal men and their families. And then out of

0:54.0

that work, we actually launched an organization called Wild at Heart, and we do a variety of things, podcasts and films and studies, both for men and for women.

1:06.0

Because we ran our men's work for a couple of years and pretty quickly learned that guy gets some healing.

1:15.0

But he walks back into a house where there isn't healing.

1:19.2

And we need to bring the spouse along.

1:22.3

So I do this with my wife, Stacey.

1:24.8

We have a small team of people here in Colorado.

1:28.0

Love what we get to do.

1:29.3

Love being in this line of work.

1:32.2

Just yeah, helping people restore.

1:34.5

Can you talk a little bit about that connection between,

1:37.7

you know, a lot of guys come here because they want to lead their families well.

1:41.3

They're jumping on this podcast because they're like,

1:42.8

I want to be the man that my

1:44.1

family needs me to be. And something that we've been talking about recently on the podcast is

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