My friend, who's not very verbally affirming, she was really mad because her husband was constantly

traveling. She had three little kids, three little girls. So she's decided to start doing a journal.

And her prayer was, God, show me all the things that he is doing right and well. And before she would say,

like, oh, he didn't make it to the soccer game till the last period and he's like so late. But now

she started changing her focus. She gives him this journal, this cool journal for his birthday.

And he sits down in the chair. And there's just these little excerpts in the book for the

year, not a ton, but she just captures the things that he's doing well. And he sat and he cried the entire time.

Just cried.

We asked him like, what made you cry?

And he said, because I'm not that guy.

I feel like I'm horrible.

I feel like I'm constantly failing.

And her words make me want to be better.

Three, two, one.

I know. make me want to be better. If you're listening to today's episode by yourself, I implore you to send it to your spouse.

As much as I can without getting awkward and begging you.

Throughout the whole episode, I just kept thinking like every couple should listen to this together, at least separately, and then come back and have a good conversation about it.

It's just a really, really fun interview and helpful and just like, just please send it to your spouse.

If you feel awkward about that, like you're trying to give them a subtle message or like be passive aggressive, don't just say, hey, Jared told me to send this podcast to you.

And so I haven't even listened to it yet.

I'm just starting it, but I thought we could talk about

this later or tonight after the kids go to bed or whatever. Before we jump into this, very helpful and

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