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Dad Tired

The Hidden Battle Inside Every Man | Ep 479 with Kaleb Allen

Dad Tired

Jerrad Lopes

Religion & Spirituality, Christianity

5 • 1.4K Ratings

🗓️ 28 July 2025

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

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Most men have learned how to clean up well.
We look calm. Composed. Put together.
We show up to church, crack a few jokes, keep the peace; and no one would know what’s actually happening in our hearts.

But Jesus isn’t fooled by appearance. He sees straight through the polish and into the pain.

In today’s episode, Kaleb unpacks what it means to “clean the inside of the cup.”
He shares a raw story about how God confronted him in the middle of the night, while he was busy rehearsing a bitter argument in his head, and revealed just how much unhealed junk was still living in his heart.

This isn’t about behavior management. It’s about soul work.
Because your wife doesn’t need a perfect version of you. Your kids don’t need a dad who looks impressive.
They need a man who is whole on the inside.

In this episode:

  • The hidden difference between external discipline and internal health
  • How to know if you’re just “managing the outside”
  • The biblical call to clean the inside of your cup
  • What makes a man useful to God
  • Why your family needs a healed version of you—not a polished one

"Woe to you… You clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside they are full of greed and self-indulgence. First clean the inside of the cup…”
— Matthew 23:25–26

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Transcript

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0:00.0

If you're hoping to be a better father for your kids, a better husband to your wife, a better disciple and follower of Jesus, just a better man overall, a man that you are proud of and the people around you are proud of. I promise you today's episode is going to help you do that. If you're brand new here, my name is Jared Lopes. I'm the founder of Dad Tired. We are an organization that is trying to help men fall in love with Jesus so they can help their families do the same. I'm glad you stumbled upon us. We don't take ourselves too seriously. We're pretty lighthearted around here, but we do take following Jesus really seriously. We take our sin seriously and all the things that are weighing us down from becoming the men that we feel like God has called us to be. And so that's what we talk about every week on the show. We hear stories and we read scripture and we do everything we can to become the men that God has called us to be. So again, I'm really glad that you are here. Before we jump into today's episode, I want to tell you about my friends over at Tendale. They have recently put out a Bible called the hands-on Bible. I actually got these for my girls. I have four kids, but I have two young ones,

0:38.5

six and four. have recently put out a Bible called the Hands on Bible. I actually got these for my girls. I have

0:55.4

four kids, but I have two young ones, six and four. And they get prizes for bringing their Bible

1:01.2

to Sunday school every week. And so I got them this Bible. It is an incredible Bible. Sometimes it's

1:05.5

hard to just introduce your kids to the scriptures. And this Bible will help you do that very easily.

1:09.9

It's got all kinds of things

1:11.6

that are appealing to kids things like snack ideas and activities and science experiments and fun facts

1:17.7

it's just packed with color and tons of activities and tons of things that will keep your kids

1:22.4

interest they have all kinds of different colors so you can get pink ones and unicorns and waves and all kinds of things

1:28.3

that will appeal to your sons and your daughters. But if you're looking for a way to introduce

1:32.3

the scriptures to your kids, this is a fantastic Bible to do that. We'll put a link in the show notes

1:37.6

that you can click on that. It's a new living translation, which stays accurate to the original

1:42.1

text while also making it very readable for your kids.

1:45.0

Sometimes even for you, when I'm studying for a passage, I will read. I typically teach from the ESV,

1:50.0

but I'll read all the passages. And if I'm feeling like something's clunky or hard to understand,

1:54.0

I will go to the NLT to just try to make it in a way that I can understand it more easily.

1:59.0

And so if you're having a child that's being

2:01.0

introduced to the scriptures for the first time, this is a great translation. To do that, it's a great Bible to do that because, again, they're not just going to see a bunch of words when they open up the Bible. They will see all kinds of pictures and activities and science experiments and fun facts and biographies and all kinds of stuff that's going to keep their attention. You can click the link in the show notes to find out more information on that Bible.

2:21.2

But that being said, let's dive into today's episode.

2:23.8

What's up, guys?

2:24.3

Excited to be with you.

2:25.8

I wanted to just kind of unpack some discipleship things that are happening in me and that I feel like God's showing me.

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