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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore the complexities of relationships, focusing on the concept of regressions and how they affect emotional functioning. We discuss the different types of regressions, the impact of stress, and the contagious nature of regression in relationships. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and understanding one's emotional state to improve relationship dynamics. Takeaways Understanding regressions can empower individuals in relationships. Acute regressions are short-lived but impactful. Steady state regressions can go unnoticed and affect daily functioning. Stressful life events can trigger regressions. Recognizing triggers is crucial for managing regressions. The emotional state of one partner can influence the other. Communication is key to navigating regressions in relationships. Self-awareness helps in identifying personal regressions. High meaning situations can exacerbate emotional challenges. Assuming one is regressed until proven otherwise can lead to better self-management. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … In the XTD, we described what regressions look like - now we cover what you can do about them. Join us to find our. Sponsors … Everylove Intimates: Add spice and connection to your marriage with a Date Box. Get 20% off with our code SMR at https://everyloveintimates.com/smr Academy: Join the Academy and go deep The post Understanding Our Functioning Is The Key To A Better Marriage #727 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 7 May 2025

In this episode, Marni Battista shares her journey from blaming her husband for her dissatisfaction to embracing change and personal growth within her relationship. Through her experiences and insights, she emphasizes the importance of asking better questions, designing a life together, and taking responsibility for one's own happiness. The discussion highlights the significance of collaboration, meaningful experiences, and the transformative power of change in relationships. Learn more about Marni here - https://marnibattista.com/ Takeaways Personal reflection is crucial for relationship growth. Confronting change can lead to deeper connections. Creating peak experiences can transform everyday life. Building internal safety is essential for personal growth. Setting boundaries can foster healthier relationships. Collaborative alliances can enhance relationship satisfaction. Designing life together requires patience and understanding. Meaningful experiences are vital for relationship vitality. Taking responsibility for one's part is key to relationship success. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … In the XTD content Pam and I discuss the systemic dynamics at play during change. Join us to find our. Sponsors … Everylove Intimates: Add spice and connection to your marriage with a Date Box. Get 20% off with our code SMR at https://everyloveintimates.com/smr Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Radical Living | Marni Battista #726 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 30 April 2025

In this episode, we explore the complex dynamics of wanting to be wanted in relationships, emphasizing the universal nature of this desire. What's the difference between wanting and needing? How does this play out in the context of intimacy and connection? Our conversation encourages listeners to reflect on their own desires and the role they play in their relationships, ultimately advocating for a deeper understanding of oneself and one's partner. Takeaways Wanting to be wanted is a fundamental human desire. There is a difference between wanting and needing in relationships. Self-validation is crucial for healthy relationships. Understanding your own desires can improve connection with your partner. The dynamics of wanting play out in both sexual and emotional contexts. Blame can hinder the ability to connect with a partner. Recognizing the role of personal responsibility in relationship dilemmas is essential. Creating something worth wanting involves self-awareness and growth. The pressure of wanting can be alleviated through self-reflection. Healthy relationships require a balance of self and other validation. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … In the XTD content we dive into a dynamic that may be even more difficult that wanting to be wanted - Wanting to Want. What exactly does this mean? Join us to find our. Sponsors … Paired App: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Everylove Intimates: Add spice and connection to your marriage with a Date Box. Get 20% off with our code SMR at https://everyloveintimates.com/smr Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Wanting To Be Wanted #725 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 23 April 2025

In this call-in episode, Anne discusses her experiences with her husband's lack of interest in her pleasure, she's guessing it is stemming from his background with pornography. Our conversation explores the dynamics of intimacy, expectations, and communication in their marriage, highlighting the challenges and growth they face together. We emphasize the importance of mutual pleasure, understanding each other's needs, and the steps in a journey towards a more fulfilling sexual relationship. Takeaways A woman's pleasure can sometimes be overlooked by men due to various factors. Pornography can create unrealistic expectations and impact intimacy negatively. Communication about sexual needs and desires is crucial in a marriage. Expectations can create pressure that affects sexual dynamics. Understanding each other's backgrounds can help navigate intimacy issues. Boldness in expressing desires can be intimidating for partners. Mutual pleasure is essential for a satisfying sexual relationship. Recognizing the difference between boldness and courage is important in communication. Sexual satisfaction involves both partners feeling connected during and after intimacy. Growth in a relationship often requires confronting uncomfortable truths. Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Alloy: Get your Alloy prescription today. Visit https://myalloy.com/PASSION today for $20 off your first order! #agegracefully Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post My Husband Gets No Pleasure From My Pleasure #724 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 16 April 2025

In this conversation, J. Parker joins me as we talk through the dynamics of desire within relationships, particularly focusing on the experiences of higher desire wives. We discuss the societal perceptions of sexual desire, the complexities of male sexuality, and the various factors that can influence sexual interest in relationships. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding these dynamics to foster better communication and intimacy between partners. We also explore the complexities of desire gaps in relationships, particularly focusing on higher desire wives. Learn more about J Parker and get her book here at https://hotholyhumorous.com Takeaways The higher desire wife dynamic is often overlooked in resources. Many higher desire wives feel like there's something wrong with them. Research suggests that 15-25% of marriages experience this dynamic. Male sexuality is more complex than often portrayed. Desire dynamics are comparative and not indicative of worth. Insecurities can arise for both partners in these dynamics. Health issues can significantly impact sexual desire. Screen time and distractions can hinder intimacy. Sexual orientation and identity can complicate desire dynamics. Communication and reassurance are key in navigating these challenges. We can make a challenging situation into an impossible situation. Do we face these with a little more courageousness? Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … In the XTD content we discuss the importance of communication, understanding each other's needs, and managing expectations in marriage. Strategies for improving intimacy and creating opportunities for connection are emphasized, along with the significance of recognizing and addressing personal insecurities and stressors that may impact sexual desire. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post The Higher Desire Wife | J Parker #723 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 9 April 2025

In this call-in conversation, Ashley from North Carolina discusses her experiences with desire dynamics in her marriage, particularly as a higher desire wife. We explore the complexities of emotional and physical intimacy, the importance of communication, and the challenges of navigating life changes such as parenthood. Our conversation emphasizes the need for vulnerability, self-discovery, and confidence in expressing desires within the relationship. Takeaways The couple's intimacy has been affected by recent life changes, including parenthood. Emotional intimacy is closely tied to physical intimacy for Ashley. Initiation plays a crucial role in their sexual relationship. Communication about desires and feelings is essential for connection. Ashley struggles with feelings of rejection when her husband doesn't initiate intimacy. Life stressors can impact emotional and physical connection in marriage. Building confidence in expressing desires can enhance intimacy. Vulnerability is necessary for deeper connection in relationships. Self-discovery is a key part of navigating intimacy and desire. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … Ashley has a few more questions to cover - se we keep the conversation going. Sponsors … SMR Getaway: Join us for this year's Getaway, June 19-21, 2025. https://smr.fm/getaway Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post I Want To Feel Desired #722 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 2 April 2025

In this conversation from the Archives, we revisit an episode with Dr Jennifer Finylason-Fife. TWe dive into the complexities of desire dynamics within marriage, particularly focusing on the roles of higher and lower desire spouses. The discussion highlights the impact of predictability on desire, the importance of self-discovery, and the need for authenticity in relationships. Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fyfe shares insights on how societal and cultural expectations shape women's experiences of desire and intimacy, emphasizing the significance of personal growth and self-awareness in fostering healthy relationships. Learn more here https://finlayson-fife.com/ Takeaways Desire dynamics in marriage often shift from high to low over time. Predictability in marriage can stifle desire and intimacy. Women often feel societal pressure to accommodate their partner's desires. Self-discovery is crucial for understanding personal desires. Authenticity in relationships fosters deeper connections. Resentments can indicate unfulfilled desires that need addressing. Propping up a partner's ego can harm both individuals in a relationship. Intimate marriages require both partners to show up honestly. Cultural narratives can shape our understanding of desire and intimacy. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … Dr Jennifer and I discuss her research with LDS Women and sexuality and desire, as well as my research on the same topic with a conservative Christian population. Sponsors … Factor: Eat smart with Factor. Get started at https://factormeals.com/factorpodcast to get 50% off your first box! Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Revisiting the Lower Desire Wife | Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #721 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 26 March 2025

In this conversation, Francie Winslow shares her transformative journey from the constraints of purity culture to embracing a vibrant and fulfilling sexual life within marriage. She discusses the importance of understanding sexuality as a divine gift, the need for education and growth in sexual intimacy, and the detrimental effects of silence and shame surrounding women's sexuality. We also talk about the historical context that has shaped women's views on their bodies and sexuality, advocating for a shift towards embracing the beauty and joy of sexual expression as part of God's design. The conversation highlights the significance of vulnerability and open communication in fostering healthy sexual relationships. Takeaways Sex is often viewed as a man's need, which is a misconception. Understanding one's body and sexuality is crucial for growth. Silence around sexuality breeds shame and misunderstanding. Women often lack joy and ownership in their sexuality. Sexual intimacy is a key aspect of spiritual growth. Vulnerability is essential for meaningful sexual experiences. Healing from past shame can enhance sexual relationships. Sex is a gift that should be celebrated and explored. Community support is vital for women on this journey. Invite God into your bedroom for healing. Community and resources are essential for growth. Experiences in the sex trade highlight the need for compassion. Sexual healing is crucial for many individuals. Understanding female anatomy is vital for intimacy. Husbands should be students of their wives' bodies. Sexual intimacy should be nourishing, not performance-based. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … In this XTD conversation, Francie and I explore the sacredness of sexuality, the importance of community and education in sexual wholeness, and the need for healing in sexual relationships. We discuss personal experiences that shaped their understanding of sexuality, the role of husbands in nurturing intimacy, and the necessity of bringing light to often taboo conversations about sex. . Sponsors … Cure Hydration: Get 20% off your first order! Stay hydrated and feel your best by visiting https://curehydration.com/passion and using promo code passion at checkout. Alloy: Get your Alloy prescription today. Visit https://myalloy.com/PASSION today for $20 off your first order! #agegracefully Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Reclaiming Women’s Sexuality | Francie Winslow #720 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 19 March 2025

In this conversation, Dr Joel Salinas and Bob Bordone join me as we explore the often misunderstood nature of conflict in relationships. They discuss the importance of engaging with conflict rather than avoiding it, emphasizing that conflict can be a sign of love and authenticity. We also dive into the neuroscience behind conflict, the personal thresholds individuals have for conflict tolerance, and the role of identity in how we approach disagreements. We end with practical strategies for building conflict resilience, highlighting the need for awareness and gradual exposure to conflict situations. Takeaways Conflict is often misunderstood and has a bad reputation. Engaging in conflict can lead to richer relationships. Conflict is a natural part of any meaningful relationship. Our brains are wired to avoid conflict due to past experiences. Awareness of our reactions to conflict is crucial for growth. Conflict tolerance varies from person to person. Identity plays a significant role in how we handle conflict. Biological responses to conflict can hinder effective communication. Practical strategies can help individuals navigate conflict better. Embracing conflict can lead to stronger, more authentic relationships. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We explore the neuroscience that is involved in us during and around conflict. Then what do we do about it. Sponsors … Paired App: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Conflict Resilience | Bob Bordone and Dr Joel Salinas #719 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 12 March 2025

In this call in show, Kyla and Adam discuss the challenges they face in their marriage regarding intimacy and sexual desire. They explore how their relationship dynamics have shifted over the years, particularly after having children, leading to mismatched desires and feelings of rejection. The discussion emphasizes the importance of emotional intimacy, communication, and understanding each other's needs to foster a more fulfilling sexual relationship. The post Sex Every Day #718 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 5 March 2025

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I explore the complexities of sexual intimacy within marriage, emphasizing the importance of meaningful connections over mere technique. Particularly when it come to oral sex. We discuss the concept of differentiation, the impact of trauma on sexual experiences, and the dynamics of self-confidence in sexual relationships. Our conversation encourages listeners to engage deeply with their own feelings and reactions, fostering a willingness to change and grow in their sexual lives. Takeaways The goal is to enhance and deepen connections in marriage. Meaningful intimacy is often more desired than mere physical pleasure. Differentiation is key to maintaining self-identity in relationships. Reactions to sexual topics can reveal deeper insecurities and anxieties. Trauma can significantly impact sexual experiences and perceptions. A strong sense of self can lead to more fulfilling sexual encounters. Engagement and presence are crucial during sexual activities. Asking deeper questions about desires can lead to personal growth. Willingness to change is essential for improving intimacy. Understanding one's own needs and desires is vital for a healthy sexual relationship. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … Many of us have preconceived notions about oral sex. Put another away, knee-jerk reactions. So how do these reactions impact our ability to experience more pleasure and connection during oral sex? What steps do I need to take to face these? Listen to find out. Sponsors … Factor: Eat smart with Factor. Get started at https://factormeals.com/factorpodcast to get 50% off your first box! Cure Hydration: Get 20% off your first order! Stay hydrated and feel your best by visiting https://curehydration.com/passion and using promo code passion at checkout. Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Better Oral Sex #717 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 26 February 2025

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Julian Johnsrud, a coach and expert in intentional living and mini retirements, shares her journey of discovering the concept of mini retirements and how it has transformed her life and the lives of others. She explains that mini retirements are not just extended vacations, but intentional breaks that allow individuals and couples to rest, explore their passions, and deepen their relationships. Julian emphasizes the importance of identifying one's intentions and prioritizing them during a mini retirement. She also highlights the expiration dates of certain experiences in life and encourages listeners to seize the opportunity to create meaningful memories. Learn more about Jillian here - https://www.jillianjohnsrud.com/ Takeaways Mini retirements are intentional breaks that allow individuals and couples to rest, explore their passions, and deepen their relationships. Identify your intentions and prioritize them during a mini retirement. Certain experiences in life have expiration dates, so seize the opportunity to create meaningful memories. Mini retirements are not just extended vacations, but opportunities for personal growth and exploration. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … Pam and I talk through our experience with this idea of intentional living and travel. Plus, what we have taken away from these seasons and hope to implement in upcoming stages. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Intentional Living | Jillian Johnsrud #716 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 19 February 2025

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I dive into the complex topic of masturbation within marriage. Our conversation explores initial reactions, societal misinformation, the benefits of self-discovery, as well as a biblical perspectives on the subject. Dr. Corey emphasizes the importance of open communication and understanding the dynamics of relationships when discussing masturbation, highlighting that it can be both permissible and beneficial, but also potentially harmful if kept secret or misused. The episode encourages the Nation to engage in self-examination and foster intimacy through honest conversations about their beliefs and practices. Takeaways Masturbation is a natural and healthy aspect of life. Societal myths about masturbation can lead to misinformation. Masturbation can have health benefits, including reducing cancer risk. Self-discovery is crucial for understanding one's sexual desires. The Bible does not explicitly condemn masturbation. Masturbation can be harmful if it becomes secretive or weaponized in relationships. Open conversations about masturbation can enhance intimacy in marriage. Understanding personal beliefs about masturbation is important for couples. Masturbation should not replace sexual intimacy with a partner. Self-examination can lead to healthier sexual dynamics in relationships. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … What if masturbation is more than just physical? It is! So what can you do about that to help improve all of your being? That's what we dive into in the XTD content. You won't want to miss it! Sponsors … Paired App: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Masturbation and Marriage #715 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 12 February 2025

The 2025 Sexy Marriage Married Getaway is June 19-21, 2025. Register now. On the Regular version … In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we dive into the complex dynamics of obligation sex and mercy sex within marriage. We explore how these concepts can create harmful patterns for both spouses, leading to resentment, control, and a lack of genuine connection. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and differentiation in understanding one's desires and needs in a sexual relationship. We hope to encourage listeners to ask themselves critical questions about their roles in these dynamics and to seek deeper connections with their spouses. Takeaways Obligation sex can create resentment and frustration in relationships. Mercy sex is often a way to avoid deeper issues in the marriage. Self-reflection is crucial in understanding sexual dynamics. Both partners can feel a lack of genuine connection due to obligation sex. Differentiation helps partners maintain their sense of self in a relationship. The higher desire spouse may feel rejected even during sex. It's important to recognize the harmful patterns in sexual relationships. Connection is essential for a fulfilling sexual experience. Asking the right questions can lead to better understanding in marriage. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … What can you do when you find yourself in a pattern of obligation sex? What questions should I ask of myself? We will answer these questions, and more. Sponsors … Hello Fresh: Get up to 10 FREE meals and a free high protein item for life at HelloFresh.com/smr10fm Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Obligation Sex #714 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 5 February 2025

In this conversation, Dean Pohlman of Man Flow Yoga joins me again as we discuss the importance of self-care for men, particularly through yoga and exercise. We explore the resistance many men face in prioritizing their health, the significance of consistency in fitness routines, and how adapting exercise as we age is crucial. We also touch on the mental wellness aspect of creating space in our lives and the ripple effect personal growth can have on those around us. To learn more about Dean check out https://manflowyoga.com/ Takeaways Men often resist self-care due to responsibilities to others. Taking care of oneself is essential for being able to care for others. Exercise can lead to a cascade of positive lifestyle changes. Sticking with an exercise program is challenging due to societal pressures. Setting short-term goals, like 28-day challenges, can help maintain motivation. As we age, we need to adapt our fitness routines to include flexibility and mobility work. Just because something is normal doesn't mean it's acceptable. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … Let's pick up the conversation from Christmas Day episode of is sex an acceptable gift to give? There are two sides to this ... let's explore them both. Sponsors … Factor Meals: Eat smart with Factor. Get started at https://factormeals.com/passion50off to get 50% off your first box! Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Men’s Health Is Vital | Dean Pohlman #713 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 29 January 2025

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the importance of understanding readiness for penetrative sex. What are the biological markers, communication cues, and the emotional aspects necessary for enjoyable sex for her? And for him? How does this apply particularly in the context of pain and trauma? Our conversation highlights the need for both spouses to be attuned to each other's bodies and desires, fostering a deeper connection and understanding in their sexual relationship. Takeaways Understanding readiness for penetrative sex involves both partners. Biological markers include physical signs of arousal. Communication is key in understanding each other's readiness. Emotional and mental readiness is as important as physical readiness. Pain and trauma can affect sexual experiences and readiness. Exploring one's own body enhances sexual experiences. Both partners should be aware of their own and each other's bodies. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We explore more about the idea of Collaborative Alliances. What makes them more difficult in marriage as opposed to other relationships? Sponsors … Paired: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post When Is She Ready For Sex? #712 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 22 January 2025

In this conversation pulled from the vault, we revisit a conversation with John Eldredge as we discuss the impact of busyness and unhealed trauma on relationships. John brings up the concept of inner ages and how unresolved childhood trauma can surface in adult relationships. It is important to create space for our younger selves and having honest conversations about the needs and fears that arise. We also discuss the fragility of the world and how it can affect individuals and relationships.  Learn more from John here - https://wildatheart.org/ Takeaways Busyness can take a toll on relationships, leading to a lack of leisure time and personal well-being. Unhealed childhood trauma can resurface in adult relationships, causing emotional challenges and conflicts. Tuning into inner ages and understanding the needs of younger selves can help navigate relationship dynamics. Honesty and open communication about fears and needs can foster intimacy and understanding in relationships. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Factor Meals: Eat smart with Factor. Get started at https://factormeals.com/passion50off to get 50% off your first box! Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best Of SMR Busyness and Unhealed Trauma | John Eldredge #711 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 15 January 2025

This week we discuss the nuances of married life and sex, emphasizing the importance of reframing conversations around intimacy. We explore practical tips for enhancing sexual experiences in 2025 (but perhaps not in the way you may think intitially), the significance of body confidence, and the deeper understanding of adult desire. Our conversation challenges societal norms and encourages you to embrace your unique sexual journeys. On the Xtended Version ... We continue the theme of the show by looking at bad sex words. What exactly does this mean?  Listen to the XTD to find out. Sponsors ... Everylove Intimates: Get a date night in a box and add flavor and spice to your marriage. Use the code SMR to get 20% off. https://smr.fm/everylove SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Great Sex In 2025 #710 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 8 January 2025

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the complexities oral sex and the impact of past trauma. A listener emails about the challenges faced in their sexual relationship, including feelings of resentment and the influence of past experiences. Which sets the stage for a conversation about the importance of communication, the significance of the 69 position, and the potential for personal growth and healing through intimacy. Ultimately - we all need to face our issues head-on in order to explore new avenues of connection and pleasure. On the Xtended Version ... As we head into 2025, we use 3 words to help frame our new year goals. Listen as we go through ours. Sponsors ... Everylove Intimates: Get a date night in a box and add flavor and spice to your marriage. Use the code SMR to get 20% off. https://smr.fm/everylove SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Let’s Talk 69 #709 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 1 January 2025

In this Christmas Day episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss a particular nuance of marriage and sex - focusing on the idea of sex as a gift. We explore the dynamics of power in sexual relationships, the importance of self-reflection, and how personal growth can enhance marital satisfaction. Our conversation encourages listeners to consider their motivations and the spirit they bring to their relationships, emphasizing that the best gift one can give to their marriage is to work on themselves. What's your thought? Call us and let us know 214-702-9565 Sponsors ... SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Is Sex An Acceptable Christmas Gift? #708 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 25 December 2024

In this episode Pam and I discuss the complexities of pressure in marriage, focusing on the nuances of desire dynamics and the importance of collaboration. We explore the challenges faced by higher desire spouses, the role of pressure in relationships, and the significance of maturity and growth in navigating these dynamics. Our conversation emphasizes the need for open communication, understanding, and a commitment to learning from each other to foster a vibrant and fulfilling marriage. On the Xtended Version ... As we head into 2025, there are several truisms we look at that will help us all be better in life and marriage. Sponsors ... Everylove Intimates: Get a date night in a box and add flavor and spice to your marriage. Use the code SMR to get 20% off. https://smr.fm/everylove SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Marriage Is Pressure #707 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 18 December 2024

In this episode Pam and I discuss the complexities of sexual desires within marriage, particularly focusing on the impact of pornography. We explore the nuances of attraction, the importance of communication in relationships, and the need for maturity in handling desires. Our conversation emphasizes the significance of honoring one's character and the choices made in the context of marriage, while also addressing the challenges posed by societal norms and personal desires. On the Xtended Version ... There is a difference between cutting someone off in family relationships vs walking away from them.  What is this difference you say? Listen to find out. Sponsors ... Paired App for couples: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Everylove Intimates: Get a date night in a box and add flavor and spice to your marriage. https://smr/fm/everylove SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post I Like Naked People #706 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 11 December 2024

In this episode, I'm joined again by Sam Jolman as we explore the complexities of male sexuality, emphasizing the importance of understanding and embodying one's sexuality without shame. We believe there is a need for deeper conversations around sexual behavior, relational dynamics, and the impact of maturity on sexual potential. We also touch on the challenges of navigating desire, vulnerability, and the interpretations of lust within a faith context, advocating for a more nuanced approach to sexual education. We explore some common misinterpretations of biblical passages regarding lust, the biological responses to beauty, and the importance of self-awareness in navigating desires. Our dialogue emphasizes the shift from viewing lust negatively to recognizing it as a natural human experience that can lead to deeper emotional connections, especially in marriage. We also touch on the idea of healthy lust and the ongoing journey of intimacy and growth in long-term relationships. Sponsors ... Public Rec: Upgrade your wardrobe instantly and save 20% off with the code passion at https://www.publicrec.com/passion #publicrecpod SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Lust and Desire | Sam Jolman #705 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 4 December 2024

This week revisit a Best Of epsiode from the vault. A husband and wife will usually incorporate the use of a vibrator during their sexual encounters together. But when the husband goes to retrieve the toy it often is in another place. His wife says she isn’t moving it. What’s going on? A husband wants to use a toy for prostate play. They tried it once and now the wife is unwilling to try it again. On the Xtended Version ... A wife is bored in her sex life, even though her husband is very caring and attentive. To further complicate things, she doesn’t know what would liven up her sex life. What can she do? Sponsors ... Honey Love: Treat yourself to the best bras. Get up to 60% OFF your entire order with our exclusive link – https://honeylove.com/SMR SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Best of SMR: Unilateral Moves #704 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 27 November 2024

This week Pam and I discuss the complexities of intimacy, particularly focusing on oral sex and the impact of past trauma on current relationships. The conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding, and presence in sexual encounters, while also addressing the challenges faced by individuals with traumatic histories. We hope to encourage listeners to navigate their sexual relationships with empathy and openness, highlighting the journey of healing and connection between spouses. Takeaways Relationships are constantly evolving and require adaptation. Communication is key in navigating sexual intimacy. Past trauma can significantly impact present relationships. It's important to approach intimacy with empathy and understanding. Presence and engagement matter more than technique in intimacy. Self-image issues can affect sexual confidence and performance. Creating a comfortable environment can enhance intimacy. Learning about each other's bodies is a continuous journey. Facing past traumas can lead to healing in relationships. The willingness to confront challenges can strengthen partnerships. On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I cover an email from a husband who misses the sex they had before his wife went through menopause. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift, head over to https://uncommonoods.com/passion SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Oral Sex and Trauma #703 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 20 November 2024

In this episode, I'm joined by Alex and Kadi Dutton, founders of EveryLove Intimates.  We talk about their journey in creating their company aimed at enhancing intimacy in marriages. They discuss the challenges couples face in maintaining intimacy, the importance of variety and exploration in relationships, and how their products provide couples with the tools and permission to try new things together. We emphasize the significance of communication and intentionality in nurturing a healthy marriage. Take advantage of their special offer to the SMR Nation by getting $20 off each Date Night Box with our code, SMR.  Get yours here - https://smr.fm/everylove Takeaways Communication is key to improving intimacy in relationships. Couples often need resources to enhance their intimate lives. Spicing things up shows your partner they are important. The box provides a framework for couples to explore intimacy. It's important to make intimacy a priority in marriage. The scenarios in the box allow for flexibility and personalization. On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I talk through the differences between a goal of desire for sex vs desire during sex. What does this actually mean? Listen to find out. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Honey Love: Treat yourself to the best bras. Get up to 50% OFF your entire order with our exclusive link – https://honeylove.com/SMR SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Intimate Desire | Alex and Kadi Dutton #702 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 13 November 2024

Dr. Emily Jamea joins me as we discuss her new book, 'Anatomy of Desire,' focusing on the concept of flow state in sexual experiences. She outlines five key aspects that contribute to achieving flow: sensuality, curiosity, adaptability, vulnerability, and attunement. We explore each aspect in depth, emphasizing the importance of reconnecting with innate qualities to enhance intimacy and emotional connection in relationships. Plus our discussion highlights practical strategies for couples to cultivate these qualities and improve their sexual experiences. Learn more about Dr Emily here - https://emilyjamea.com/ Takeaways Flow state is a state of total absorption and focus during sexual experiences. Sensuality involves fully inhabiting the body and engaging the senses. Curiosity is essential for keeping the erotic experience alive in long-term relationships. Adaptability is necessary to navigate changes in sexual dynamics over time. Vulnerability allows for deeper emotional connections during intimacy. Attunement is crucial for synchronizing partners' experiences in the bedroom. Prioritizing sex is important for maintaining a healthy relationship. Trying new things together can reignite passion and excitement. Emotional connection is vital for a fulfilling sexual experience. Co-regulation of arousal can enhance pleasure and intimacy. On the Xtended Version ... Dr Emily and I go through the research she conducted to write this book. What surprised her? What's the biggest takeaway? And more. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift, head over to https://uncommonoods.com/passion Paired App for Couples: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Anatomy Of Desire | Dr Emily Jamea #701 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 6 November 2024

In this milestone 700th episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we reflect on the journey of the podcast, celebrating its impact on relationships and personal growth. Join us as we share listener voicemails and highlight key takeaways from our years of experience on the show.  Plus, we explore the act of the hug from behind. Is it ever non-sexual?  Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Honey Love: Treat yourself to the best bras. Get 20% Off your entire order with our exclusive link - https://honeylove.com/SMR SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Celebrating 700 Episodes With Hugs From Behind #700 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 30 October 2024

In this conversation, I'm joined by a colleague and friend Dr. Dave Jenkins as we dive deep into the concept of regression, particularly in the context of emotional states and relationships. We discuss how regression manifests as a brain state, the contagious nature of it in interpersonal dynamics, and the metaphor of the Mariana Trench to illustrate the depths of emotional regression. Our conversation also goes through strategies for recognizing and managing regression, the impact of intimacy on emotional states, and the importance of self-soothing and increasing one's buoyancy to navigate life's challenges effectively. Connect more with Dr Dave here - https://www.linkedin.com/in/davemjenkins/ Takeaways Regression is a brain state, not just an emotion. We all experience regression, regardless of intelligence. Regression can be contagious in relationships. Understanding regression helps in managing emotional responses. The Mariana Trench metaphor illustrates the depths of regression. Intimacy can trigger regression due to vulnerability. Self-soothing is essential for managing regression. Recognizing regression in oneself and others is crucial. Feelings are important and should not be ignored. Increasing buoyancy requires intentional strategies. On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I go through a story that depicts more about the tensions of differentiation in relationships. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Navigating The Depths | Dr Dave Jenkins #699 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 23 October 2024

In this episode I'm joined by Casey and Meygan Caston of Marriage 365 - we discuss the challenges couples face in maintaining healthy marriages. We dive into the importance of intentionality, self-reflection, and personal responsibility in relationships. And highlight the unrealistic expectations set by societal norms and media portrayals of marriage, and the need for couples to focus on their own growth to foster a better partnership. Our conversation also touches on the significance of emotional connections and the fleeting nature of material success in achieving true happiness.  There is an importance of empowerment in marriage, emphasizing that individuals should focus on self-improvement rather than solely relying on their partners. We believe that most marriage problems are fixable with the right tools and mindset, and hope to encourage couples to engage in meaningful communication and self-discovery. Learn more about Casey and Meygan at their site - https://marriage365.com Takeaways People desire healthy marriages but often lack a plan. Many couples are winging it and using hope as a strategy. Loneliness in marriage can lead to a ticking time bomb. Society's portrayal of marriage creates unrealistic expectations. Happiness is often sought in external factors rather than within. Self-reflection is crucial for personal and relational growth. Healthy relationships are built on emotional connections. Couples often put their relationships on pause during busy seasons. True happiness comes from meaningful connections with others. It's about the couple working on the marriage together. Marriages are about working on yourself. Your marriage is working on you more than you ever could on it. Nothing that matters in life is a quick fix. Most marriage problems are fixable. Curiosity unlocks conversations within a relationship. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift, head over to https://uncommonoods.com/passion Honey Love: Treat yourself to the best bras. Get 20% Off your entire order with our exclusive link - https://honeylove.com/SMR SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway The post Problems Are Fixable | Casey and Meygan Caston #698 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 16 October 2024

In this episode, we get a little personal and  discuss the challenges and dynamics of maintaining a strong marriage amidst life's transitions and pressures. Things like moving homes, managing family responsibilities, and the emotional weight that comes with it. We emphasize the importance of connection, communication, and understanding each other's needs to navigate these challenges effectively. Plus offer practical strategies for you to stay engaged and connected, highlighting the significance of intentionality in your relationship. Takeaways Life transitions can disrupt routines and relationships. Maintaining connection is crucial for relationship health. Understanding individual needs helps in navigating stress. Intentionality in relationships fosters deeper connections. Communication is key to understanding each other's perspectives. Couples should prioritize time together amidst busy schedules. Emotional awareness impacts how we interact with partners. Scheduling regular check-ins can enhance relationship dynamics. Small gestures can significantly strengthen connections. Engaging with community can provide additional support. On the Xtended Version ... We share a visual framework that can be used to look how well you are functioning (or not). This can help not only you but your marriage and your family! Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App for Couples: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Making Time For Each Other #697 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 9 October 2024

In this call-in show, I address the challenges faced by Julie - who has been married for over 30 years but have lost intimacy in the relationship. We discuss the complexities of rekindling their sexual life, the dynamics of desire, and the impact of erection issues on their intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding each other's needs, and embracing the awkwardness that comes with trying to reconnect. Ultimately, intimacy is not solely defined by sexual performance but also by emotional connection and mutual support. Takeaways Intimacy can fade over time due to various life circumstances. Open communication about desires and needs is crucial. Initiating intimacy can be challenging when past experiences create hesitation. Foreplay should be a continuous process, not limited to the bedroom. Understanding each other's sexual drives can help bridge gaps in intimacy. Erection issues can create pressure and anxiety in sexual encounters. It's important to reassure each other during intimate moments, regardless of the outcome. Embracing awkwardness can lead to growth and deeper connection. Intimacy is about more than just sexual performance; it's about connection. Recognizing that both partners have different needs and desires is essential for a healthy relationship. On the Xtended Version ... We continue the Power Moves conversation by focusing even more on our own part in the dynamics of marital communication and moves.  Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Green Chef: Eat healthier and get 50% off your first box + 50 FREE Credits with ClassPass https://greenchef.com/passionclass SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post How Do I Initiate In A Sexless Marriage? #696 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 2 October 2024

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Dr. Corey and Pam discuss the dynamics of power in marriage, exploring how couples navigate desires and tensions. Our conversation highlights the complexity of perception in relationships, particularly in high meaning situations, and the impact of family dynamics. We stress the importance of making effective moves in conversations and understanding each partner's actions. The conversation concludes with insights on the nature of alliances in marriage and how to respond to patterns in marriage. Takeaways Understanding power dynamics is crucial in marriage. Couples often flounder in gridlock due to unclear perceptions. High meaning situations can exacerbate stress in relationships. Family dynamics play a significant role in marital issues. Effective communication is key to resolving conflicts. Observing your partner's moves can lead to better understanding. Recognizing the nature of your alliance can improve collaboration. Collusion in marriage can perpetuate unresolved issues. On the Xtended Version ... We pivot from seeing our spouse's moves better to understanding our own. Too often we make premature moves - or don't go far enough. Today we dive into common errors to watch out for and additional suggestions for improvement. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Power Moves #695 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 25 September 2024

Today we dive into two listener emails and explore the complexities of intimacy and communication in marriage. We discuss the balance between the pressures of wants in preferences when it comes to sex and then on sexual performance, and the importance of understanding each partner's background and expectations. Our conversation emphasizes the need for self-validation and the idea that learning and growing together can enhance intimacy. Takeaways Marriage is sacred and should be treated with commitment. Direct communication can lead to freedom in relationships. Understanding different backgrounds can help navigate intimacy issues. Performance pressure can hinder sexual satisfaction. Self-validation is crucial for personal confidence in intimacy. Learning together can enhance the relationship dynamic. Intimacy is about exploration, not just performance. It's important to hold onto goals lightly in relationships. On the Xtended Version ... Is sex really a need? Or is it more like a want? What's your thought? Listen to the XTD to hear our. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Green Chef: Eat healthier and get 50% off your first box + 50 FREE Credits with ClassPass https://greenchef.com/passionclass Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Is Sex a Need or Want? #694 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 18 September 2024

Today we revisit one of the best of a recent episode of SMR. In it, I'm joined by Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr Michael Sytsma as we talked through their new book, Secrets of Sex and Marriage. Based on their latest research with couples, what surprised them most? What do married couples need to know about how things actually play out in marriage? And what should married couples do about our differences and similarities? Learn more about them and their work here - https://secretsofsexandmarriage.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... LEAN: Get 15% OFF by going to https://takelean.com Use our code PASSION to get 15% off. The post Best of SMR: Secrets of Sex and Marriage #693 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 11 September 2024

Today we dive into two listener emails on the topic of oral sex within a marriage and the dynamics of power that can be associated with it. Everyone has different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others - so we look at the issue through the lens of power and how it can be a way for people to feel sexy and in control. Our conversation also addresses a listener's frustration with their spouse's reluctance to engage in oral sex and the power dynamics at play in their relationship. Takeaways People have different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others. Engaging in oral sex can be a way for individuals to feel sexy and in control. Power dynamics can play a role in sexual encounters, and it's important to navigate them in a healthy and consensual way. Open communication and self-reflection are key to addressing challenges and frustrations in a sexual relationship. Marriage should not be based on quid pro quo or manipulative power plays, but on love, collaboration, and mutual pleasure. On the Xtended Version ... A listener emails in about a fear he has that his girlfriends physical appearance may lead to potential performance issues if they get married. Even though she is perfect in every way! Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App for Couples: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Power and Oral Sex #693 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 4 September 2024

Today we dive into two listener emails on the topic of oral sex within a marriage and the dynamics of power that can be associated with it. Everyone has different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others - so we look at the issue through the lens of power and how it can be a way for people to feel sexy and in control. Our conversation also addresses a listener's frustration with their spouse's reluctance to engage in oral sex and the power dynamics at play in their relationship. Takeaways People have different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others. Engaging in oral sex can be a way for individuals to feel sexy and in control. Power dynamics can play a role in sexual encounters, and it's important to navigate them in a healthy and consensual way. Open communication and self-reflection are key to addressing challenges and frustrations in a sexual relationship. Marriage should not be based on quid pro quo or manipulative power plays, but on love, collaboration, and mutual pleasure. On the Xtended Version ... A listener emails in about a fear he has that his girlfriends physical appearance may lead to potential performance issues if they get married. Even though she is perfect in every way! Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App for Couples: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Power and Oral Sex #692 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 4 September 2024

This week, Dr. Corey and Irene Fehr discuss the concept of highly sensitive people (HSPs) and how it relates to sexual desire in long-term relationships. We explore the different types of sexual desire models, with most women being highly responsive. And we also delve into the characteristics of HSPs, including sensory sensitivity, emotional sensitivity, energetic sensitivity, and introspection. Irene explains the importance of acknowledging and managing overstimulation for HSPs, as well as the need for emotional de-armoring and a slow, spacious progression in physical intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and collaboration in creating a better connectedness within the dynamic of a relationship. Learn more about Irene here - https://www.irenefehr.com/ Takeaways Highly sensitive people (HSPs) tend to be highly responsive and sensitive to their environment, both sensorially and energetically. HSPs have a sensitive nervous system wiring, which leads to more input being registered and more time spent processing that information. HSPs may experience overwhelm, overstimulation, and a sense of armoring as a result of their heightened sensitivity. Creating transition times and practicing self-care are essential for managing overstimulation and de-armoring. Emotional dearmoring involves opening up emotionally and having heart-to-heart conversations to melt the armor and foster intimacy. In physical intimacy, HSPs need a slow, spacious progression that focuses on touch that is first affectionate and comforting before becoming more sensual and sexual. On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I give our take on the concept of Highly Sensitive People. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way. https://smr.fm/academy The post Highly Sensitive People | Irene Fehr #692 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 28 August 2024

This week, Dr. Corey and Irene Fehr discuss the concept of highly sensitive people (HSPs) and how it relates to sexual desire in long-term relationships. We explore the different types of sexual desire models, with most women being highly responsive. And we also delve into the characteristics of HSPs, including sensory sensitivity, emotional sensitivity, energetic sensitivity, and introspection. Irene explains the importance of acknowledging and managing overstimulation for HSPs, as well as the need for emotional de-armoring and a slow, spacious progression in physical intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and collaboration in creating a better connectedness within the dynamic of a relationship. Learn more about Irene here - https://www.irenefehr.com/ Takeaways Highly sensitive people (HSPs) tend to be highly responsive and sensitive to their environment, both sensorially and energetically. HSPs have a sensitive nervous system wiring, which leads to more input being registered and more time spent processing that information. HSPs may experience overwhelm, overstimulation, and a sense of armoring as a result of their heightened sensitivity. Creating transition times and practicing self-care are essential for managing overstimulation and de-armoring. Emotional dearmoring involves opening up emotionally and having heart-to-heart conversations to melt the armor and foster intimacy. In physical intimacy, HSPs need a slow, spacious progression that focuses on touch that is first affectionate and comforting before becoming more sensual and sexual. On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I give our take on the concept of Highly Sensitive People. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way. https://smr.fm/academy The post Highly Sensitive People | Irene Fehr #691 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 28 August 2024

Today we dive into two listener emails, one about the lack of intentionality in a husband and its impact on the marriage, specifically the attraction level of the wife towards the husband due to this issue. And the other email about the effects of past sexual trauma on a couple's sex life. He claims her past trauma is an issue - she doesn't. Now what do both these couples do? Takeaways Recognize that others are facing similar challenges in their marriages Address the lack of intentionality in a spouse and its impact on the marriage Consider the effects of past sexual trauma on the couple's sex life On the Xtended Version ... We dive into the aspect of obligation and duty sex that happens in marriage. It's really all about power and selfhood. What does this mean? Join the Academy to listen and find out more. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post My Spouse Is The Problem #691 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 21 August 2024

Today we dive into two listener emails, one about the lack of intentionality in a husband and its impact on the marriage, specifically the attraction level of the wife towards the husband due to this issue. And the other email about the effects of past sexual trauma on a couple's sex life. He claims her past trauma is an issue - she doesn't. Now what do both these couples do? Takeaways Recognize that others are facing similar challenges in their marriages Address the lack of intentionality in a spouse and its impact on the marriage Consider the effects of past sexual trauma on the couple's sex life On the Xtended Version ... We dive into the aspect of obligation and duty sex that happens in marriage. It's really all about power and selfhood. What does this mean? Join the Academy to listen and find out more. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post My Spouse Is The Problem #690 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 21 August 2024

This week, Dr. Corey chats with Sam Jolman, a fellow counselor and the author of The Sex Talk You Never Got. We talk about the importance of sensuality and play in sex and relationships. We emphasize the need for men to slow down, savor the moment, and engage their senses in order to fully experience pleasure and intimacy. And we also highlight the role of playfulness in sex, suggesting that couples should approach it as a form of play rather than a task. By cultivating a sense of awe and prioritizing pleasure, couples can create a more fulfilling and enjoyable sex life. Learn more about Sam here - https://www.samjolman.com/ Takeaways Sensuality and sexuality are not the same, but they overlap. Sensuality is about engaging the senses and experiencing pleasure in various aspects of life. Men often struggle with slowing down and savoring the moment due to societal expectations of productivity and task-oriented behavior. Sex should be approached as a form of play, allowing for exploration, pleasure, and delight. Creating space for playfulness and sensuality in everyday life can enhance the overall quality of relationships and sexual experiences. Prioritizing pleasure and embracing a sense of awe can lead to a more fulfilling and enjoyable sex life. On the Xtended Version ... We keep the conversation going and explore the impact of religious and cultural influences on sexuality and relationships. We challenge the notion of purity as the goal of sexuality and highlight the importance of pleasure and reverence in sexual experiences. The conversation also addresses the objectification of women and the pressure on men to conform to societal expectations. It emphasizes the need for self-respect, respect for others, and the integration of sensuality in healthy ways. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Sensuality vs Sex | Sam Jolman #690 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 14 August 2024

This week, Dr. Corey chats with Sam Jolman, a fellow counselor and the author of The Sex Talk You Never Got. We talk about the importance of sensuality and play in sex and relationships. We emphasize the need for men to slow down, savor the moment, and engage their senses in order to fully experience pleasure and intimacy. And we also highlight the role of playfulness in sex, suggesting that couples should approach it as a form of play rather than a task. By cultivating a sense of awe and prioritizing pleasure, couples can create a more fulfilling and enjoyable sex life. Learn more about Sam here - https://www.samjolman.com/ Takeaways Sensuality and sexuality are not the same, but they overlap. Sensuality is about engaging the senses and experiencing pleasure in various aspects of life. Men often struggle with slowing down and savoring the moment due to societal expectations of productivity and task-oriented behavior. Sex should be approached as a form of play, allowing for exploration, pleasure, and delight. Creating space for playfulness and sensuality in everyday life can enhance the overall quality of relationships and sexual experiences. Prioritizing pleasure and embracing a sense of awe can lead to a more fulfilling and enjoyable sex life. On the Xtended Version ... We keep the conversation going and explore the impact of religious and cultural influences on sexuality and relationships. We challenge the notion of purity as the goal of sexuality and highlight the importance of pleasure and reverence in sexual experiences. The conversation also addresses the objectification of women and the pressure on men to conform to societal expectations. It emphasizes the need for self-respect, respect for others, and the integration of sensuality in healthy ways. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Sensuality vs Sex | Sam Jolman #689 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 14 August 2024

Dr. Elliot Justin joins me to discuss the importance of monitoring nocturnal erections as a marker for sexual and cardiovascular health. He explains that nocturnal erections are a leading indicator of a man's overall health and can predict the risk of heart attacks and strokes. Dr. Justin emphasizes the need for healthcare providers to address sexual health and educate patients about the impact of medications on sexual function. He also introduces the concept of using soft elastomer rings to enhance sexual performance and improve relationships. The rings can help men sustain erections and last longer during intercourse. Learn more about Dr Justin and the technology here https://myfirmtech.com Use our code SMR and get 15% off Takeaways Nocturnal erections are a leading indicator of a man's sexual and cardiovascular health. Monitoring nocturnal erections can help predict the risk of heart attacks and strokes. Healthcare providers should address sexual health and educate patients about the impact of medications on sexual function. Soft elastomer rings can enhance sexual performance and improve relationships by helping men sustain erections and last longer during intercourse. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR LEAN: Get 15% OFF by going to https://takelean.com Use our code PASSION to get 15% off. The post Enhance Your Health and Performance | Dr Elliot Justin #689 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 7 August 2024

Dr. Elliot Justin joins me to discuss the importance of monitoring nocturnal erections as a marker for sexual and cardiovascular health. He explains that nocturnal erections are a leading indicator of a man's overall health and can predict the risk of heart attacks and strokes. Dr. Justin emphasizes the need for healthcare providers to address sexual health and educate patients about the impact of medications on sexual function. He also introduces the concept of using soft elastomer rings to enhance sexual performance and improve relationships. The rings can help men sustain erections and last longer during intercourse. Learn more about Dr Justin and the technology here https://myfirmtech.com Use our code SMR and get 15% off Takeaways Nocturnal erections are a leading indicator of a man's sexual and cardiovascular health. Monitoring nocturnal erections can help predict the risk of heart attacks and strokes. Healthcare providers should address sexual health and educate patients about the impact of medications on sexual function. Soft elastomer rings can enhance sexual performance and improve relationships by helping men sustain erections and last longer during intercourse. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR LEAN: Get 15% OFF by going to https://takelean.com Use our code PASSION to get 15% off. The post Enhance Your Health and Performance | Dr Elliot Justin #688 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 7 August 2024

Today we explore the importance of learning how to talk with your spouse about sex, highlighting the importance of naming your intention, remembering that you're on the same team, and using soft and tactful language. We also cover the need to go slow, listen more than you speak, and have an honest discussion about saying no. Our conversation concludes with a reminder to be compassionate with yourself and your spouse. Takeaways When discussing sensitive topics like sex with your spouse, name your intention and approach the conversation with a soft and tactful language. Remember that you and your spouse are on the same team and work collaboratively to address issues. Go slow and tackle one aspect at a time when addressing challenges in your sex life. Listen more than you speak and be compassionate with yourself and your spouse. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, is there a difference between having sex and being sexual? We flesh out this idea as well as give some steps we can take to be more sexual in life and marriage. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: SMR is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% your first month at https://betterhelp.com/smr SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way. https://smr.fm/academy The post Talking About Sex With Your Spouse #687 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 31 July 2024

This week is a Best Of SMR! Our topics revolve around two main themes: ticklishness and sexual desire issues in marriage. Ticklishness and a sensitivity to touch can affect sexual encounters. We explore a technique to cure ticklishness and noxious touch. The second topic focuses on two emails from listeners who are experiencing low libido and difficulties with penetration. There is pressure and guilt associated with these issues and we offer suggestions for relieving them. Takeaways Ticklishness can affect sexual encounters and set the stage for intimacy. A technique to cure ticklishness and noxious touch involves rewiring the brain's response to touch. Pressure and guilt can negatively impact sexual desire and performance in marriage. Relieving pressure and guilt requires open communication and exploring different approaches. Seeking medical advice and addressing underlying issues can help improve sexual experiences. Libido fluctuates and requires dedication and effort to maintain a satisfying sex life. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, a husband has no attraction towards his wife, and while he kinda thought this may be an issue while they were dating, their honeymoon confirmed it. What should he do now? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best of SMR: Curing Ticklishness #686 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 24 July 2024

This week is a Best Of SMR! A wife calls in wanting to know how to handle her husband's struggle with pornography. A husband calls in asking for help in how to talk about sex with his wife, who was raised in a way that she won't even talk about it. Takeaways Struggles with pornography in marriage are common and can be addressed through open and honest communication. Having conversations about sex with a spouse who has difficulty talking about it requires patience and understanding. It is important to separate one's own worth and value from a spouse's struggles or actions. Taking responsibility for one's own actions and decisions in the relationship is crucial for personal growth and change. Each individual has the power to redefine their beliefs and values about sex and intimacy, regardless of their upbringing. Approaching conversations about sex with a positive mindset and assuming the best intentions from one's spouse can lead to more productive discussions. Struggles in marriage are normal, but it is possible to improve how they are addressed and resolved. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, we explore the idea of what is normal. Is this even the right question? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best Of SMR: What Is Normal? #685 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 17 July 2024

On today's episode we we revisit an old episode of SMR. Our conversation explores the concept of intimacy anorexia and the pain of love cycle of abuse and neglect in marriage. We discuss the experience of being in a sexless marriage and the frustration of not having one's physical needs met. We also examine the dynamics of deliberate withholding of love and intimacy and the cruelty that can arise from it. Takeaways Intimacy in a relationship involves both knowing and being known. Deliberate withholding of love and intimacy can be a form of cruelty. It is important to face what is present in a relationship rather than focusing on what is missing. Self-intimacy is also crucial in maintaining a healthy relationship. Marriage requires navigating struggles and challenges with honesty and integrity. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, we continue the best of SMR by revisiting Kate Bowler's helpful words regarding what to say and what not to say when faced with someone else’s grief or loss or struggle. Words we all need to learn and use. Or stop using. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Better Help: SMR is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% your first month at https://betterhelp.com/smr The post Revisiting Intimacy Anorexia Or Is It Cruelty? #684 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 10 July 2024

On today's episode we discuss various topics related to marriage and sex. We cover two segments from previous episodes, one about a couple who stopped fighting after improving their sex life, and another about a wife who is not attracted to her husband's penis. What are the deeper meanings and implications of these issues, emphasizing the importance of understanding oneself and one's spouse. Takeaways Open and honest conversations are essential for a healthy marriage and sex life. Understanding oneself and one's spouse is crucial for a deeper connection. The meaning and significance of certain body parts can vary between individuals and couples. Exploring the deeper meanings and implications of sexual issues can lead to personal growth and a stronger relationship. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, another listen into the last part of the Q&A session at 2024 SMR Getaway. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR The post Exploring The Meaning Of His Erection #683 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Transcribed - Published: 3 July 2024