email came in says hey dr kori and pam so i was folding laundry real sexy vibes obviously and listening to

last week's episode when you started talking about outsourcing your desire i literally froze mid-sock

and thought oh no i think that's me i always thought I was being easy going like sure babe just initiate whenever you want and if the stars align and if I'm in the mood and the dog's not staring at us then maybe we'll just see what happens. But now I'm realizing that maybe I'm just handing off the entire job of sexual energy to my spouse. Like, you take it from here,

I'll just react accordingly. So basically, I guess I'm subcontracting my sex life. Could you dig

into this outsourcing thing a bit more? Like, what does it actually look like to own your desire

without turning into some kind of overly intense intimacy

guru or a pressure ninja? How do you take responsibility for what you want without getting

weird or awkward about it? Thanks for keeping it real. I'm slowly trying to keep or I'm slowly

trying to stop dodging desire like it's a game of emotional dodge ball. But progress is progress, right? Signed a recovering

outsourcing. So here's where we're heading today. Okay. Yeah. It's a continuation of last

week's episode. And so we'll do the same thing where during the regular version, we'll talk through

an answering of what does this

look like and just go deeper because it was an offhanded comment we made on far too often spouses

seem to outsource their desire to the spouse. And that creates all kinds of pitfalls and struggles.

And then we'll get deeper into it in the extended content,

which is deeper, longer, and no ads,

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We'll go into some of the specifics of what does it actually do?

How do you do this?

Well, if we owned our desire,

what would be about questions to ask myself?

What would be about challenges

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