Awesome Marriage Podcast

In this deeply honest and hope-filled conversation, Justin and Trisha Davis open up about their journey through love, ministry, and the real struggles that nearly tore their marriage apart—including infidelity and hidden personal battles. With vulnerability and wisdom, they share how counseling, truth-telling, and taking ownership became the turning points in their healing. Trisha shares what it looked like to face the pain of betrayal trauma, while Justin reflects on the overwhelming guilt and the hard road to forgiveness. Together, they unpack how our stories, the words spoken over us, and the lies we believe about our worth can deeply affect how we show up in relationships. But this isn’t just a story about pain—it’s a story about redemption. About the power of grace, the courage it takes to grieve and heal, and the choice to believe that real transformation is possible. More than behavior change, they point to the heart—the deep, inner work that allows us to discover who we really are and who God has created us to be. Their story is a beautiful reminder that no matter how broken things may feel, healing and hope are always within reach.   Episode highlights: Rock bottom is still a solid surface to stand when you come alongside Christ. Intimacy is to be fully known and know that we're fully loved. You never cause someone to have an affair. The truth sets you free because it doesn't give any room for the enemy. Excavating our past helps us understand our present. Redemptive pain can lead to growth. Healthy relationships require vulnerability and trust. Transformation comes from God's grace and our choices.   Questions for reflection: 1. What small, everyday choices are we making in our marriage that could either be building connection—or slowly creating distance? 2. Are there areas of hiddenness in our relationship—past wounds, unspoken frustrations, or shame—that we need to bring into the light? 3. What does forgiveness look like in our relationship right now?   Quotes from today’s episode: "I had to choose to be a truth teller myself." "You never cause someone to have an affair." "I believed I have to be perfect to be loved." "You can't today, but God still has a plan." "Healing is hard, but then it's worth it." "You are not as stuck as you think you are." "You have to stop gaslighting yourself to grieve." "The heart of the book is about what God can do." Mentioned in this episode: Beyond Ordinary: When a Good Marriage Just Isn't Good Enough by Justin & Trisha Davis RefineUs Ministries Helping people experience transformation by building healthy, authentic relationships. Find Justin and Trisha on Instagram Use our Marriage Reframing Challenge to change your perspective about your spouse and/or your marriage.  Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word as you intentionally choose to pursue the marriage God intended, find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Try this FREE YouVersion plan: 5 Marriage Lies to Defeat with Biblical Truth If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to . receive our May “7 Most Popular Resource Bundle.”

Transcribed - Published: 20 May 2025

In this special Mother’s Day episode, Dr. Kim Kimberling sits down with bestselling author Melanie Shankle to talk about her latest book, Here Be Dragons. Together, they unpack the complexities of generational trauma and explore what it means to break old cycles in order to build a new legacy of healthy relationships. It’s a conversation that’s honest, refreshing, and full of humor. Whether you're a mother or not, this episode has something for you! Episode highlights include:  Generational trauma affects emotional growth and relationships. Self-worth can be deeply impacted by parental relationships. Humor can be a coping mechanism for deeper issues. Recognizing unhealthy patterns is crucial for personal growth. Parenting requires intentionality and awareness of past traumas. Melanie embraced her daughter's individuality instead of molding her. Healing can come from being the parent you wished you had. True love is built on friendship and authenticity. Identifying generational trauma requires honest self-assessment. Creating a positive legacy is essential for future generations. God's timing is perfect in relationships. Healing is a journey that takes baby steps. There can be beauty in the ashes of our past. Couples Conversation Guide:    Main takeaway:  If you were raised in the midst of unhealthy relationships, take heart—there is hope in Christ for a better future. Healing from past wounds opens the door to the freedom and joy of healthy, life-giving relationships. Along the journey, boundaries will protect your peace, forgiveness will soften your heart, and Christ must remain the foundation of it all.   Questions to Discuss:  What messages or behaviors from our families growing up do we find ourselves repeating—intentionally or not—in our relationship or with our children?   When we face conflict or stress, do our reactions feel like our own—or do they echo how our parents or caregivers responded?   Are there parts of our past—such as experiences of neglect, abuse, shame, or loss—that we haven’t fully processed and might be impacting how we show up for each other and our children?   What do you hope your legacy will be?   Quotes from today's episode: "It's okay to not be perfect." “You’ve gotta have your truthtellers” “There are things we may not see as big, but they become big.”  “I always deflected with humor because I didn’t want to feel anything too deeply.”  “They’ve achieved all these things that the world says is success, but they’re still empty.”  “It’s so healing to be the thing in someone else’s life that you wish you would have had in your own.”  “I didn’t get to have that mother, but I get to be that mother.” “There is something so beneficial about having someone who’s not your friend, validate some of the experiences you’ve been through.”  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Use our Self Check Up Guide as an opportunity for honest self reflection.  Melanie Shankle’s Here Be Dragons Listen to Melanie on her wildly popular podcast The Big Boo Cast If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Did you know we have resources for families- check those out HERE. Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!  

Transcribed - Published: 13 May 2025

We're excited to launch a brand-new format for the Awesome Marriage Podcast—and with it, introduce a highly requested new co-host: Mrs. Nancy Kimberling! In this episode, Dr. Kim and Nancy Kimberling take you on a heartfelt journey through the story of their relationship, from their blind date to their early years of marriage and parenting, all the way to the joy of becoming great-grandparents. Their marriage hasn’t been without its challenges, but what’s carried them through it all is a decision they made early on: to keep God at the center of everything. Their wisdom, authenticity, and love for each other will make them one of your favorite couples to learn from. We pray this episode encourages and blesses your marriage.   Episode Takeaways: No matter how your marriage starts, everything changes when you invite the Lord in. He can transform the direction of your relationship in powerful ways. Building a strong, healthy marriage and family takes intentional effort and regular reflection on what’s working—and what’s not. Join the Kimberlings for an honest, up-close look at every season of marriage. Questions to Discuss:  When’s the last time you reflected on where and when your relationship began? What scripture could you hold on to to help anchor your marriage to Christ?  What is keeping your marriage from moving in the direction you want it to move? Quotes: “We had fights and I thought what is going on, I made a mistake.” “You didn’t get the picket fence” “I could have been the fun dad and still done discipline” “God taught us He cares about everything” “The more we brought Him into our conversations, our decisions. He was there. To guide us and to help us.  “It’s saved our marriage.”  “God was there when they got married, and He’s still there, and they made a covenant before Him and it matters.”  “We took divorce off the table and we kept it off the table.” “The most important thing to do in marriage is prayer.” “It’s so important to have godly couples who are older than you and come alongside of you with godly wisdom.” “It’s so important to have a village, a tribe, a life group to do life with.” MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word as you intentionally choose to puruse the marriage God intended, find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Try this FREE YouVersion plan: 5 Marriage Lies to Defeat with Biblical Truth If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to . receive our May “7 Most Popular Resource Bundle.”  

Transcribed - Published: 6 May 2025

In this heartfelt and honest conversation, Dr. Kim sits down with Jimmy Rollins to unpack the real-life highs and lows of marriage. They dive into why communication, forgiveness, and a strong support system are so crucial—and how those things have played out in their own lives. From the power of simple daily appreciations to creating a safe space for open conversations, Jimmy and Dr. Kim get real about what it takes to build (and rebuild) a strong relationship. They also reflect on how easy it is to chase success in the wrong places—and how to shift the focus back to what matters most. Whether you're in a great season or struggling to find your footing, this episode is full of practical wisdom and encouragement to help you grow and heal in your marriage. Episode Takeaways: Every marriage is hard and requires effort. Forgiveness is a decision, while reconciliation is a process. Daily appreciation can reignite connection in marriage. Creating a safe space is essential for open communication. Winning at the wrong things can harm your marriage. Community support is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships. It's important to examine your own behavior in marriage. Practical steps can lead to significant changes in relationships. Couples should seek resources and mentorship for guidance. The goal in marriage is to think together, not alike.   Questions to Discuss:  Are there areas of your marriage you are trying to ignore? Are there areas you are trying to change your spouse? How would you rate the community you have to support your marriage? What one thing can you say “no” to today, so that you have more margin to say “yes”  in your marriage.    Quotes: "Forgiveness is a decision." "Community is what keeps us sober." "You're not in it by yourself." "Every marriage is hard." "The goal is not to think alike." "The best days are ahead of us."   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Use our FREE Weekly Marriage Check Up Guide to keep intentionally winning in your marriage! Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word as you prioritize your marriage. Try this Awesome Marriage YouVersion reading plan: Traffic Signs and Your Marriage: Part 1 If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our May “7 Most Popular Resource Bundle.”

Transcribed - Published: 29 April 2025

Main takeaway:  Every relationship can be prone to drifting if we aren’t paying attention, and our marriage relationship is no exception. In this episode Dr. Kim and Lindsay talk about how easy it is to begin prioritizing good things over the best things, and how those small compromises lead to big disconnect in marriage.  This episode will help you recognize the signs of drift and begin to fight back against it! Recognizing the signs of drifting is crucial for couples. Prioritizing time together is essential to prevent drifting. Good things can distract from nurturing the marriage. Drifting can happen gradually without realization. Communication and emotional intimacy are key to a strong marriage. Common signs of drifting include changes in communication and intimacy. Non-sexual physical touch can enhance emotional intimacy. It's important to address issues early before they become entrenched patterns. Questions to Discuss:  Is your marriage reflected on your calendar? When’s the last time you encouraged your spouse with your words? Do you feel pressure to say yes to things outside of your marriage that in turn forces you to say no to things that would grow your marriage? Are you protecting your energy so that you make the most of the time with your spouse? What’s one thing you can do today to show your spouse you’re pursuing your marriage? Quotes: “You drift without even realizing it.” “Sometimes good things get in the way of the most important things” “If you’re drifting away you’re more vulnerable to sin.” “You have to choose the best over the good.” “There are things I could have done different.” “In our culture, life gets in the way and we don’t even think about it.” “I’ve always got to know that Nancy is a gift, and I have to embrace that gift, and treat her like a gift every day.” “Drifting happens gradually.” “Show me where you have your marriage on your calendar.” “It’s on my calendar now.” “It’s not going great, but everyone’s just accepting it.” “You can do something!” “Make sure you go to somebody who can be objective and is for your marriage.” MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Use our FREE Weekly Marriage Check Up Guide to help keep the connection and fight the drift! Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word as you fight the drift in marriage? Try this Awesome Marriage YouVersion reading plan: Pursuing Your Spouse in Marriage Pt 1 If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our May “7 Most Popular Resource Bundle.”

Transcribed - Published: 22 April 2025

In this episode of the Awesome Marriage podcast, Lindsay and Dr. Kim discuss the importance of resolving conflict in a faith-centered, biblical way. They debunk the myth that Christian couples do not experience conflict and emphasize that conflict can lead to growth and deeper intimacy in relationships. Learn the biblical principles for handling conflict, practical steps for effective communication, and the significance of humility and selflessness in marriage.   Episode highlights include: Timeouts can help manage heated discussions. Keeping short accounts prevents resentment from building up. Using the silent treatment is a form of emotional manipulation. Bringing up past conflicts as weapons is unhealthy for marriage. Involving others in conflicts before addressing them with your spouse can create triangles of conflict. Taking responsibility for one's actions is crucial in resolving conflicts. Prayer is a powerful tool for maintaining a healthy marriage. Biblical principles provide a framework for resolving conflicts effectively.   Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway:  You will experience conflict with your spouse, and when you do it’s important to keep the Lord at the center of the conversation. Remember your spouse is not your enemy and words shouldn’t be your weapon. Acknowledge your part and be quick to forgive.    Questions to Discuss:  Which area of conflict resolution do you need the most help in- bringing up the past, resorting to the silent treatment, or taking responsibility for your part? Have you brought that struggle to the Lord and invited Him into the conflict in your marriage?    QUOTES  Conflict is normal and if done right can help our marriage grow. Even though we are both seeking to follow Christ, we are human. If your kids see you doing that, they want that, and it gives them security. Having a marriage that’s not life-giving, can drain you so quick. It zaps your energy. When a couple is able to get past the things keeping them at odds, it goes beyond the marriage too. I can’t meet all her needs, but God can. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Use our Marriage Boundaries Workbook to navigate tough conversations and hard seasons.  Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word as you navigate conflict? Try this Awesome Marriage YouVersion reading plan: Fighting for Your Marriage If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Did you know we have resources just for handling conflict in your marriage?- check those out HERE. Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our May “7 Most Popular Resource Bundle.”  

Transcribed - Published: 15 April 2025

In this conversation, Lindsay and Dr. Kim discuss the concept of cultivating a servant-hearted marriage, emphasizing the importance of serving one another selflessly. They explore how serving each other can create a loving and respectful environment, reflecting God's design for marriage. The discussion includes practical ways to serve, the impact of a servant-hearted marriage on family dynamics, and the barriers that can hinder this service. They also highlight the significance of self-examination and seeking help when facing challenges in marriage.    Episode highlights include: Cultivating a servant-hearted marriage requires daily choices to act in love. Children benefit from witnessing a servant-hearted marriage. A servant-hearted marriage reflects God's design and glorifies Him. Serving one another should come from the heart, not a checklist. Counseling can help break negative patterns in marriage.   Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway:  God’s design for marriage goes far beyond just coexisting with your spouse. Serving one another, respecting their wants and needs, and creating a loving relationship reflect the heart of the Lord and His design for the marriage relationship.    Questions to Discuss:  What stands in the way of you selflessly serving your spouse? Has your relationship with your spouse become transactional?   QUOTES  "Serving is saying, sure, I can do that." "Don't stay stuck there." "You don't just grow better." "God sees you." "It's gonna make a difference." “If your kids see you doing that, they want that, and it gives them security.” “Having a marriage that’s not life-giving, can drain you so quick. It zaps your energy.” “When a couple is able to get past the things keeping them at odds, it goes beyond the marriage too.” “I can’t meet all her needs, but God can.”   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Use our Marriage Boundaries Workbook to navigate tough conversations and hard seasons.  Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word as you navigate boundaries? Try this Awesome Marriage YouVersion reading plan: Boundaries in Marriage If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Did you know we have resources for families- check those out HERE. Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!

Transcribed - Published: 8 April 2025

Dr. Kim and Lindsay dive into a heartfelt conversation about the power of communication and unity in parenting. They talk about why it’s so important for parents to be on the same page when it comes to raising their kids, facing challenges as a team, and setting a strong example through their own decision-making. Along the way, they explore how to navigate differences in parenting styles, adapt to the ever-changing needs of children as they grow, and lean on prayer for guidance in tough decisions. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  It's unrealistic to agree on everything in parenting. Children benefit from the security of united parents. It's important to filter parenting advice based on core beliefs. When you disagree, and you will, model respect for your spouse. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway:  Do you and your spouse struggle to stay on the same page while parenting your children? Are you handling disagreements in a way that adds to the chaos? In this episode, Dr. Kim and Lindsay discuss how to navigate the hard conversations, the power of differing perspectives, and the benefit of a strong relationship as an example to your children.    Questions to Discuss:  Are you and your spouse allowing parenting to divide or unite? In what ways can you better support your spouse in parenting? Have you and your spouse set aside time to discuss the goals you have for your children?    Quotes From this Episode: “There's no shortcut to communication." "Agreeing on core values is essential." "Set aside time to discuss your challenges." "Kids need security and stability."   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Use our Marriage Boundaries Workbook to navigate tough conversations and hard seasons.  Don’t let porn teach your children about sex. Get equipped to have “The Sex Talk” If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Did you know we have resources for families- check those out HERE. Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!  

Transcribed - Published: 1 April 2025

Dr. Kim and Camden Morgante explore how purity culture has shaped individuals' beliefs and relationships. They break down five harmful myths it promotes and examine how these misconceptions can impact a couple's sex life after marriage — including the unrealistic expectation of a fairy tale marriage as a reward for remaining pure. Dr. Morgante offers guidance to help couples move beyond the shame and guilt tied to these teachings, so they can embrace the beautiful gift God designed for marriage. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights: Our God isn’t a transactional god. Purity culture has been compared to the sexual prosperity gospel. Many individuals only hear negative messages about sex before marriage. Reclaiming the beauty of sex involves holistic healing of mind, body, heart, and soul. Teaching children about sexuality should focus on values rather than rules. Purity culture can lead to feelings of being 'damaged goods'. Myths of purity culture can cause disillusionment in faith.   Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway:  Our motivation for purity before marriage can serve as a stumbling block to intimacy within our marriage. Purity before and within marriage is important, but our relationship with God isn’t transactional. We are missing the point of God’s heart for sex when the focus is on a reward.  Questions to Discuss:  How was the conversation surrounding sex approached in your youth? Looking back, did you desire to stay pure before marriage and what was your motivation for purity? Did you believe one of the “5 lies” Dr. Morgante mentioned in this episode? What do you think Dr. Morgante means when she says that the lies of purity culture don’t just live in our minds, they live in our bodies?    QUOTES: These myths didn’t just live in our minds, they lived in our bodies. -Dr. Camden Morgante When you try to control people, it’s really easy for shame and fear to become part of it. The end result may be good, but the way you get there can harm people. Shame and guilt is not from God. God wants us to experience healing. We have to have a deeper why for it.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Dr. Camden Morgante’s Recovering from Purity Culture.   You can connect with Dr. Camden Morgante on Instagram Unlock True Intimacy: Become a couple who prays together.  We have several other AWESOME Resources on our website. Check those out HERE.   Check out our Bible Reading plans on YouVersion and make sure you’re following us there to keep current on all our newest plans!   

Transcribed - Published: 28 March 2025

Porn is doing real damage to too many Christians today. This issue is affecting a huge percentage of our brothers and sisters in Christ, and the shame that often prevents us from talking about it leads to secrecy and hinders healing.  We’re thankful that Nick Stumbo is on the podcast today. Nick is a pastor and the director of Pure Desire Ministries. Along with Barna, Pure Desire recently conducted a study on the impact porn is currently having on the Church in America. Their findings demonstrate how crucial it is to open the conversation about porn among Christians to help them find healing from its destructive impact.     We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  What the stats tell us about how many Christians are viewing porn regularly Why talking openly is ESSENTIAL for healing  Exposing the progressive nature of porn addiction  How to make church a place where openness is possible  What to do if your church is not a safe place to confess  How to prepare your kids to handle porn exposure safely  *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: The enemy would love for you to stay stuck in secrecy and shame. Jesus wants to bring freedom and healing. Take a step toward freedom today.  Questions to Discuss:  Do you have a safe friend you can be honest with? Are you practicing confession and accountability in your life? What can you do to help cultivate an honest, godly friendship today?  What is God prompting you need to take responsibility for so that you can grow closer to Him and your spouse today?    QUOTES  “Most people won’t be surprised to know that the numbers are continuing to grow.” - Nick Stumbo  “To my knowledge, it’s the first time in history that the majority of practicing Christians say they are doing pornography.” - Nick Stumbo  “84% of people said there is NO ONE helping them avoid pornography.” - Nick Stumbo  “If shame and secrecy are the sickness, then openness, community and love are what healing is all about.” - Nick Stumbo  “By the time it blows up a marriage, the help was needed 5-10 years ago.” - Nick Stumbo “You’re not alone. There is help and hope for you. - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “True accountability is about me learning to be responsible for my own actions and behaviors.” - Nick Stumbo  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Pure Desire offers healing groups and great resources to help you find freedom from porn. Check them out here.  Get the stats: Read the research by Barna and Pure Desire HERE  If porn has impacted your marriage, take Dr. Kim’s 5 Steps to Healing After Porn Betrayal webinar to kickstart your marriage healing. We recommend the book Good Pictures / Bad Pictures to help equip your kids against porn exposure.

Transcribed - Published: 25 March 2025

Husbands, have you ever felt like your wife expects too much from you? Wives, have you checked whether your expectations are realistic?  Expectations in marriage can be a difficult topic, and they’re a very common source of marriage tension. Which is why today, we want to help break down misunderstandings around spouse expectations today, so that you can experience better connection and more joy in your marriage.   We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  Wives may struggle to articulate their needs clearly. Non-sexual affection enhances sexual intimacy. Emotional connection is crucial for a healthy marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!  Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: Expectations don't have to be a source of conflict. There's a way to communicate and connect the different wants and needs you have in marriage. Questions to Discuss:  Are there any expectations that you feel are “too much”? Husbands, do you need more clarity from your wife about her expectations? How would you rate how well you actively listen and engage with your spouse? What would make you a more intentional listener? (time of day, location of conversation, free of distractions, etc.) When was the last time you checked in with your spouse about the overall health of your marriage relationship. What are the priorities in your marriage? Do you know your spouse’s priorities? How do they compare? QUOTES   Wives want to be part of the decision making and feel like it’s a true partnership. The better the non sexual connection and intimacy is, the better the physical connection and intimacy will be.  Most men weren’t raised to be emotionally expressive. You don’t have to solve everything.  When I stopped trying to fix it, I heard her better. A wife wants to feel prioritized. Learning to say things in a way your spouse can hear takes practice. You have to accept that God made us different as husband and wife. The small consistent things you do matter more than perfection.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:     Unlock True Intimacy: Become a couple who prays together.  Weekly Check in Guide We have several other AWESOME Resources on our website. Check those out HERE.   Check out our Bible Reading plans on YouVersion and make sure you’re following us there to keep current on all our newest plans!   

Transcribed - Published: 18 March 2025

Wives, have you felt that your husband expects too much from you? Husbands, have you checked whether your expectations are realistic?  Expectations of our spouse can be a difficult topic, and they are a really frequent source of marriage tension. That’s why today, we want to help break down misunderstandings around spouse expectations today, so that you can experience better connection and more joy in your marriage. Don’t let expectations trip your marriage up. Listen today and learn to deal with the wants and needs in your marriage.  We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include:  Unvoiced expectations in marriage can lead to tension. Communication is key to understanding each other's needs. Wives should express their feelings of being drained. Finding time for connection is essential for couples. Respect and appreciation are crucial for husbands. Physical affection is important beyond sexual intimacy. Teamwork in parenting strengthens the marriage bond. Articulating needs can help avoid misunderstandings. Navigating challenges together fosters a stronger partnership. It's crucial to express needs and expectations in marriage. Vulnerability can be challenging, especially for men. Regular communication opportunities can help clarify needs. Listening without trying to “fix it” is essential in relationships. Understanding each other's perspectives fosters compassion. Setting boundaries can enhance emotional support. Counseling can provide valuable tools for communication. Feeling overwhelmed is a signal for change, not failure. Asking good questions can open up important conversations. Investing in support can rejuvenate a marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: You can experience better connection and intimacy by learning how to navigate the misunderstandings around expectations. Questions to Discuss:  Dr. Kim talked about the importance of framing your spouse in a positive way, are there places where you are negatively framing your spouse's wants or needs? What boundary could you set today so that you could better meet a need for your spouse? Are you a safe place for your spouse to voice the expectations that have for your marriage?   QUOTES  God didn’t give your husband maternal instinct and that’s ok. He’s a man and that’s actually a good thing for your children to experience. Being overwhelmed as a woman doesn't make you a bad spouse. It’s a signal that something needs to change. If you’re going to frame your spouse as the problem it’s not going to go well. If you frame your spouse as your teammate then you can work together and that’s really important. Love and respect are something that husbands and men are designed to need.  If you’re stretching yourself way beyond your capacity then that’s where the negative things start to happen. Wives, you don’t want your husband going to someone else for emotional support. You want him to go to you.    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:    Unlock True Intimacy: Become a couple who prays together.  Team You and Me:  A Guide to Approaching Your Marriage as a Team  

Transcribed - Published: 11 March 2025

 Are you experiencing the power of prayer in your marriage? Prayer is an incredibly powerful habit for your marriages. In fact, research shows that 99% of couples who pray together stay together.   Prayer can be so simple, but the reality is that most couples do not make prayer a regular part of their marriage. Today we’re talking about how to practically overcome the obstacles that keep you from praying together so you can make prayer a regular part of your marriage.  We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.   Episode highlights include:  The #1 marriage-building habit - and why most couples don’t do it What makes prayer so powerful for marriage  The sneaky prayer pitfalls to avoid  How to overcome the common obstacles that keep couples from praying together  The do-able DOs to make prayer part of your marriage    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: Prayer is so powerful that the enemy will try anything to keep you from making it part of your marriage. Don’t let that happen.    Questions to Discuss:  What’s the primary obstacle that prevents you from praying regularly with your spouse?  What would help the two of you to make prayer a regular part of your day together?    QUOTES  “When you’re praying together, you’re putting God first. That’s where he wants to be.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “It’s probably one of the main things that the enemy doesn’t want couples to do.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “When I can get a couple to pray together, the counseling process goes faster, and the marriage gets better.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “Don’t force praying together in a certain way.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:     We have several other AWESOME Prayer Resources on our website. Check those out HERE.  Check out our Bible Reading plans on YouVersion and make sure you’re following us there to keep current on all our newest plans!

Transcribed - Published: 4 March 2025

 Are you experiencing the power of prayer in your marriage? Prayer is an incredibly powerful habit for your marriages. In fact, research shows that 99% of couples who pray together stay together.   Prayer can be so simple, but the reality is that most couples do not make prayer a regular part of their marriage. Today we’re talking about how to practically overcome the obstacles that keep you from praying together so you can make prayer a regular part of your marriage.  We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.   Episode highlights include:  The #1 marriage-building habit - and why most couples don’t do it What makes prayer so powerful for marriage  The sneaky prayer pitfalls to avoid  How to overcome the common obstacles that keep couples from praying together  The do-able DOs to make prayer part of your marriage    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: Prayer is so powerful that the enemy will try anything to keep you from making it part of your marriage. Don’t let that happen.    Questions to Discuss:  What’s the primary obstacle that prevents you from praying regularly with your spouse?  What would help the two of you to make prayer a regular part of your day together?    QUOTES  “When you’re praying together, you’re putting God first. That’s where he wants to be.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “It’s probably one of the main things that the enemy doesn’t want couples to do.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “When I can get a couple to pray together, the counseling process goes faster, and the marriage gets better.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “Don’t force praying together in a certain way.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:     We have several other AWESOME Prayer Resources on our website. Check those out HERE.  Check out our Bible Reading plans on YouVersion and make sure you’re following us there to keep current on all our newest plans!

Transcribed - Published: 4 March 2025

When Chad & Adaeze Brinkman met while serving together on the worship team at church, they didn’t expect that they would one day get married. They also didn’t expect what it would be like to navigate a new marriage while facing cultural pressures as an interracial couple. But learning to have the hard conversations about their differences ultimately led to deeper intimacy. Today, we’re delighted to have Chad and Adaeze on the podcast to share their story, and equip you with practical ways to value different perspectives as a reflection of God’s design. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  Why listening to real stories of different experiences matters  How to become aware of your habitual assumptions  Realistic first steps to grow your perspective Why addressing our perspective on race is essential for the church  The relationship-building process of navigating tough conversations  How to repair the relationship after you’ve hurt your spouse    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: Not every couple is in an interracial marriage, but every couple deals with differences. We get a bigger picture of God’s design when we stop fighting our differences and learn to value them.    Questions to Discuss:  What have you learned by listening to the diverse perspectives of others in your life?  Are there places in your life where you encounter differing life stories and experiences among fellow Christian believers?  How can you make room in your life for diversity that reflects the vision of God’s kingdom?    QUOTES  “We will never know everything there is to know about the Lord, but the beauty is in the pursuit, the relationship and the discovery.” - Adaeze Brinkman “It’s a very humbling lesson to let your spouse have their own perspective, and give room for that to be different than yours.” - Adaeze Brinkman “Everyone does what they do for a reason. They think what they think for a reason.” - Chad Brinkman When we dig in we realize how much we have in common.” - Chad Brinkman “When Jesus returns, it’s not going to be a ‘White Heaven’ or a ‘Black Heaven.’ It’s a diverse Heaven.” - Chad Brinkman “Listening is the most important thing.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “Are you growing? A beautiful way to do that is to rub shoulders with people that are different from you.”  - Adaeze Brinkman “The enemy knows there’s so much power in unity and diversity.”   - Adaeze Brinkman   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   We loved Chad and Adaeze’s book, White Boy / Black Girl: What Our Differences Can Teach Us. Grab a copy to read their story! It’s Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut’ Sexy BUNDLE! Don’t let negative assumptions tear you apart. Use our Free Printable 15 Better Assumptions to Make About Your Spouse to nurture a healthy mindset  Get Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!

Transcribed - Published: 25 February 2025

When Chad & Adaeze Brinkman met while serving together on the worship team at church, they didn’t expect that they would one day get married. They also didn’t expect what it would be like to navigate a new marriage while facing cultural pressures as an interracial couple. But learning to have the hard conversations about their differences ultimately led to deeper intimacy. Today, we’re delighted to have Chad and Adaeze on the podcast to share their story, and equip you with practical ways to value different perspectives as a reflection of God’s design. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  Why listening to real stories of different experiences matters  How to become aware of your habitual assumptions  Realistic first steps to grow your perspective Why addressing our perspective on race is essential for the church  The relationship-building process of navigating tough conversations  How to repair the relationship after you’ve hurt your spouse    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: Not every couple is in an interracial marriage, but every couple deals with differences. We get a bigger picture of God’s design when we stop fighting our differences and learn to value them.    Questions to Discuss:  What have you learned by listening to the diverse perspectives of others in your life?  Are there places in your life where you encounter differing life stories and experiences among fellow Christian believers?  How can you make room in your life for diversity that reflects the vision of God’s kingdom?    QUOTES  “We will never know everything there is to know about the Lord, but the beauty is in the pursuit, the relationship and the discovery.” - Adaeze Brinkman “It’s a very humbling lesson to let your spouse have their own perspective, and give room for that to be different than yours.” - Adaeze Brinkman “Everyone does what they do for a reason. They think what they think for a reason.” - Chad Brinkman When we dig in we realize how much we have in common.” - Chad Brinkman “When Jesus returns, it’s not going to be a ‘White Heaven’ or a ‘Black Heaven.’ It’s a diverse Heaven.” - Chad Brinkman “Listening is the most important thing.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “Are you growing? A beautiful way to do that is to rub shoulders with people that are different from you.”  - Adaeze Brinkman “The enemy knows there’s so much power in unity and diversity.”   - Adaeze Brinkman   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   We loved Chad and Adaeze’s book, White Boy / Black Girl: What Our Differences Can Teach Us. Grab a copy to read their story! It’s Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut’ Sexy BUNDLE! Don’t let negative assumptions tear you apart. Use our Free Printable 15 Better Assumptions to Make About Your Spouse to nurture a healthy mindset  Get Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!

Transcribed - Published: 25 February 2025

Guys, have you lost the spark in your sex drive? If that’s you, you are not alone! Libido is a complex issue. There are so many reasons that male libido can falter, from stress and physical factors, to relational issues in your marriage. But for every factor, there are also solutions.  Learn the steps to uncover what’s driving your lack of drive so you can revive the desire. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:  The physical, mental and emotional health factors that affect sex drive  Tips to unpack the issue together in healthy ways  Is there a place for medical advice in understanding libido? Challenging the cultural myths about aging and sex drive  Steps to starting a helpful conversation about improving libido    Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide  Main takeaway: Husbands, have you lost the passion? Physical, mental and emotional factors all impact your sex drive but you can reignite the spark and enjoy God’s gift of sex in marriage.  Questions to Discuss:  Dr. Kim said that things like depression, anxiety, financial stress, relational tension or past trauma can reduce libido. Are any of those affecting your sexual relationship today? What would you like to experience more of together in your sexual relationship?  What can you do together to make that happen?    QUOTES  “If you’ve got problems from the past that affect you in the present, you need someone to help you work through that.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “When the assumptions got on the table, we realized they were wrong. That made such a huge difference.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Low libido doesn’t indicate cheating or porn addiction, it’s usually more complex than that.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling The longer you let it go, the worse it’s going to get. - Dr. Kim Kimberling   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Congrats to our Awesome Marriage of the Year - Brett and Megan Hamilton! To learn more about National Marriage week, visit their website HERE.  Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut’ Sexy BUNDLE! Don’t let negative assumptions tear you apart. Use our Free Printable 15 Better Assumptions to Make About Your Spouse to nurture a healthy mindset  Get Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!  

Transcribed - Published: 18 February 2025

Guys, have you lost the spark in your sex drive? If that’s you, you are not alone! Libido is a complex issue. There are so many reasons that male libido can falter, from stress and physical factors, to relational issues in your marriage. But for every factor, there are also solutions.  Learn the steps to uncover what’s driving your lack of drive so you can revive the desire. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:  The physical, mental and emotional health factors that affect sex drive  Tips to unpack the issue together in healthy ways  Is there a place for medical advice in understanding libido? Challenging the cultural myths about aging and sex drive  Steps to starting a helpful conversation about improving libido    Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide  Main takeaway: Husbands, have you lost the passion? Physical, mental and emotional factors all impact your sex drive but you can reignite the spark and enjoy God’s gift of sex in marriage.  Questions to Discuss:  Dr. Kim said that things like depression, anxiety, financial stress, relational tension or past trauma can reduce libido. Are any of those affecting your sexual relationship today? What would you like to experience more of together in your sexual relationship?  What can you do together to make that happen?    QUOTES  “If you’ve got problems from the past that affect you in the present, you need someone to help you work through that.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “When the assumptions got on the table, we realized they were wrong. That made such a huge difference.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Low libido doesn’t indicate cheating or porn addiction, it’s usually more complex than that.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling The longer you let it go, the worse it’s going to get. - Dr. Kim Kimberling   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Congrats to our Awesome Marriage of the Year - Brett and Megan Hamilton! To learn more about National Marriage week, visit their website HERE.  Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut’ Sexy BUNDLE! Don’t let negative assumptions tear you apart. Use our Free Printable 15 Better Assumptions to Make About Your Spouse to nurture a healthy mindset  Get Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!  

Transcribed - Published: 18 February 2025

Wives, do you seem to be less interested in sex? It’s a common issue, and so many factors affect female libido, from hormonal changes, and emotional disconnection to just plain busyness. Whether stemming from physical health or the health of your marriage, there are many ways you and your spouse can work together to bring back the passion and renew your sex drive.    Today, we’re troubleshooting the issue with tips for wives with low libido, so you can bring back the passion in your marriage. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  Tips on healthy communication about sex drive issues  Understanding the effects of stress on a wife’s sex drive  How to work together to share the mental load Is lack of sex drive a sign of infidelity?  Building empathy to help reconnect and rekindle her passion    Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide  Main takeaway: Ladies, don’t let your sex life struggle! Learn to unpack the factors that impact your sex drive, so you can troubleshoot and get things back on track.    Questions to Discuss:  Are there any factors that you know are affecting your libido in this season? (Stress, exhaustion, depression, peri menopause, postpartum, etc.) Are there any relationship factors affecting your interest in sex right now?  What would help you to mitigate the effects of those things today?      QUOTES  “For guys, it’s about how do I meet her where she is right now?” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “If there’s not full trust, it’s going to be very hard to be interested in sex.” - Lindsay Few  “It’s ok to talk about sex.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “There are so many things that typically the wife does by default. Look at what is weighing on you that keeps you from even having time to be interested in sex.” - Lindsay Few  “The really good marriages I see are the ones committed to working through things. It doesn’t come easy, but they’re committed to work through it.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut’ Sexy Bundle! Some of our past episodes on Trust in Marriage:  Types of Trust Every Marriage Needs | Ep. 614 How to Heal and Rebuild After Trust is Broken | Ep. 616 Grab the free 15 Better Assumptions printable to start healing your perspective  Get Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!    

Transcribed - Published: 11 February 2025

Wives, do you seem to be less interested in sex? It’s a common issue, and so many factors affect female libido, from hormonal changes, and emotional disconnection to just plain busyness. Whether stemming from physical health or the health of your marriage, there are many ways you and your spouse can work together to bring back the passion and renew your sex drive.    Today, we’re troubleshooting the issue with tips for wives with low libido, so you can bring back the passion in your marriage. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  Tips on healthy communication about sex drive issues  Understanding the effects of stress on a wife’s sex drive  How to work together to share the mental load Is lack of sex drive a sign of infidelity?  Building empathy to help reconnect and rekindle her passion    Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide  Main takeaway: Ladies, don’t let your sex life struggle! Learn to unpack the factors that impact your sex drive, so you can troubleshoot and get things back on track.    Questions to Discuss:  Are there any factors that you know are affecting your libido in this season? (Stress, exhaustion, depression, peri menopause, postpartum, etc.) Are there any relationship factors affecting your interest in sex right now?  What would help you to mitigate the effects of those things today?      QUOTES  “For guys, it’s about how do I meet her where she is right now?” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “If there’s not full trust, it’s going to be very hard to be interested in sex.” - Lindsay Few  “It’s ok to talk about sex.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “There are so many things that typically the wife does by default. Look at what is weighing on you that keeps you from even having time to be interested in sex.” - Lindsay Few  “The really good marriages I see are the ones committed to working through things. It doesn’t come easy, but they’re committed to work through it.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut’ Sexy Bundle! Some of our past episodes on Trust in Marriage:  Types of Trust Every Marriage Needs | Ep. 614 How to Heal and Rebuild After Trust is Broken | Ep. 616 Grab the free 15 Better Assumptions printable to start healing your perspective  Get Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!    

Transcribed - Published: 11 February 2025

Is technology bringing you closer together, or leading to disconnection?   Tech is hitting marriages hard today. Yet research shows that marriage can provide a huge boost to personal happiness. Today’s guest, Arlene Pellicane, has written several books on how technology is impacting relationships, and today she shares tech habits that will help you and your marriage to thrive.     We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:   The 1 habit that guarantees marriage success 99% of the Time Easy ways to declutter your digital life for deeper connection How modern technology is changing the way we love. Are married people happier? Research tells the truth…  Break the tech spell: Tips for parenting in a digital age   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    QUOTES  “If we seek God and His guidance, He’s always going to have an answer.” Dr. Kim Kimberling  “Is technology bringing you closer together? Or causing you to grow farther apart.”  - Arlene Pellicane  “We're missing all these little times to connect. That’s why you feel disconnected.”  - Arlene Pellicane  “You have to prepare to be unpopular, because as a parent, it’s your job to protect your child.”  - Arlene Pellicane    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  Grab Arlene’s new book, Making Marriage Easier, as well as her helpful books on healthy tech habits  Find all of the National Marriage Week resources, including tomorrow's live panel with Dr. Kim, on the WEB, FACEBOOK, X (TWITTER) or INSTAGRAM  Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut’ Sexy Bundle! Learn more about what boundaries can do for your marriage in Dr. Kim’s free Building Healthy Boundaries Webinar. Learn more here!  Don’t let screens come between you: Use our free 17 Questions Every Couple Should Ask About Tech printable to get on the same page!   

Transcribed - Published: 7 February 2025

Is technology bringing you closer together, or leading to disconnection?   Tech is hitting marriages hard today. Yet research shows that marriage can provide a huge boost to personal happiness. Today’s guest, Arlene Pellicane, has written several books on how technology is impacting relationships, and today she shares tech habits that will help you and your marriage to thrive.     We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:   The 1 habit that guarantees marriage success 99% of the Time Easy ways to declutter your digital life for deeper connection How modern technology is changing the way we love. Are married people happier? Research tells the truth…  Break the tech spell: Tips for parenting in a digital age   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    QUOTES  “If we seek God and His guidance, He’s always going to have an answer.” Dr. Kim Kimberling  “Is technology bringing you closer together? Or causing you to grow farther apart.”  - Arlene Pellicane  “We're missing all these little times to connect. That’s why you feel disconnected.”  - Arlene Pellicane  “You have to prepare to be unpopular, because as a parent, it’s your job to protect your child.”  - Arlene Pellicane    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  Grab Arlene’s new book, Making Marriage Easier, as well as her helpful books on healthy tech habits  Find all of the National Marriage Week resources, including tomorrow's live panel with Dr. Kim, on the WEB, FACEBOOK, X (TWITTER) or INSTAGRAM  Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut’ Sexy Bundle! Learn more about what boundaries can do for your marriage in Dr. Kim’s free Building Healthy Boundaries Webinar. Learn more here!  Don’t let screens come between you: Use our free 17 Questions Every Couple Should Ask About Tech printable to get on the same page!   

Transcribed - Published: 7 February 2025

Your marriage doesn’t have to grow old just because you do. The second half of marriage does not have to grow stale - make plans to make these your best years yet! Listen today to learn how.    Whether you’re looking ahead to the second half of marriage, or you’re already there, it is a great time to improve and grow. In today’s episode, Dr. Kim shares tips to avoiding complacency and embracing the best version of your marriage in the second half.    We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  How to jumpstart marriage growth if you’ve gotten complacent  Practical steps to do the second half of marriage well - no matter where you are today  Tips to bring back the fun and passion later in marriage Simple conversation starters to help you get going  How to find a mentor couple to help your marriage    Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:    Main takeaway: The second half of marriage does not have to grow stale - evaluate where you’d like to see your marriage go from here, then take the steps to get there.    Questions to Discuss:  What do you envision for your marriage in the next 5 years? 10 years? 20?  What is one thing you can start doing today to move you toward that vision?  What is one thing you need to stop doing today to move in that direction?    QUOTES  If your marriage has been teetering, it can fall at this stage. - Lindsay Few Nothing is worse than feeling lonely when your spouse is with you. - Dr. Kim Kimberling  We’d seen couples who were older than us disconnect. We didn’t want that to happen.  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  It’s never too late. But the earlier you start, the easier the transition will be. - Dr. Kim Kimberling  If you’re one step ahead, you can help somebody. - Lindsay Few    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut’ Sexy BUNDLE! Have better conversations with your spouse using Creative Questions to Ask Your Spouse – check out the completely unique First, Second and Third editions of this popular resource!   Deepen emotional intimacy with the FREE Printable Heart to Heart Card Game ❤️ Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! OR sign up for Dr. Kim’s One Thing email to get DAILY steps to build your marriage Grab your copy of Love, Intimacy and Sex in the Second Half of Marriage, by Dr. Kim and Nancy Kimberling 

Transcribed - Published: 4 February 2025

Your marriage doesn’t have to grow old just because you do. The second half of marriage does not have to grow stale - make plans to make these your best years yet! Listen today to learn how.    Whether you’re looking ahead to the second half of marriage, or you’re already there, it is a great time to improve and grow. In today’s episode, Dr. Kim shares tips to avoiding complacency and embracing the best version of your marriage in the second half.    We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  How to jumpstart marriage growth if you’ve gotten complacent  Practical steps to do the second half of marriage well - no matter where you are today  Tips to bring back the fun and passion later in marriage Simple conversation starters to help you get going  How to find a mentor couple to help your marriage    Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:    Main takeaway: The second half of marriage does not have to grow stale - evaluate where you’d like to see your marriage go from here, then take the steps to get there.    Questions to Discuss:  What do you envision for your marriage in the next 5 years? 10 years? 20?  What is one thing you can start doing today to move you toward that vision?  What is one thing you need to stop doing today to move in that direction?    QUOTES  If your marriage has been teetering, it can fall at this stage. - Lindsay Few Nothing is worse than feeling lonely when your spouse is with you. - Dr. Kim Kimberling  We’d seen couples who were older than us disconnect. We didn’t want that to happen.  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  It’s never too late. But the earlier you start, the easier the transition will be. - Dr. Kim Kimberling  If you’re one step ahead, you can help somebody. - Lindsay Few    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Spice things up in the bedroom with our limited-time ‘Break the Bedroom Rut’ Sexy BUNDLE! Have better conversations with your spouse using Creative Questions to Ask Your Spouse – check out the completely unique First, Second and Third editions of this popular resource!   Deepen emotional intimacy with the FREE Printable Heart to Heart Card Game ❤️ Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! OR sign up for Dr. Kim’s One Thing email to get DAILY steps to build your marriage Grab your copy of Love, Intimacy and Sex in the Second Half of Marriage, by Dr. Kim and Nancy Kimberling 

Transcribed - Published: 4 February 2025

Your marriage should be a blessing to you and your spouse, but it does not need to stop there - a healthy marriage can also bless the world around you! Where is your marriage today? Are you and your spouse a healthy team? Are you healthy enough to pour into those around you? Today we are delighted to welcome Dedric and Krystal Polite to the podcast today to share their unique perspective on finding a vision for their marriage that is making a mark on the world.  Listen for encouragement on enacting a Godly marriage vision this year! We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!   Episode highlights include:  Breaking the cycle of generational poverty  Developing a life aligned with your values  Tips to date intentionally so that you find a spouse you can partner with  How to make your marriage a blessing to the world around you  Making your spouse your teammate - not your opponent    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: Make your marriage strong and healthy so it can become a vehicle for blessing your spouse, family and your community.  Questions to Discuss:  What ways could you intentionally bless others as a couple?  Think about the legacy you want to create as a couple. How would you define your marriage vision?     QUOTES   “Never tie your self worth into your net worth.” - Krystal Polite  “We pray together, we stay together, we work together.”  - Krystal Polite “We lean on each other’s strengths.” - Dedric Polite  Faith keeps us steady when the road gets rough.” - Krystal Polite “Our purpose isn’t just to make it - we’re here to make a difference.”  - Krystal Polite “It starts and ends with effective communication.” - Dedric Polite    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Learn more from the Polites on their website PoliteWealthPortal.com Find BePolite Properties on Facebook or YouTube Build healthy habits in the New Year with the Healthy Marriage Rhythms Bundle: 5 resources for just ONE donation! Get all the details HERE!  Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Nominate a couple for Awesome Marriage of the Year HERE!   

Transcribed - Published: 28 January 2025

Spiritual intimacy is something couples want, but don’t really know how to get there. We can tend to believe a common myth that it should come naturally without any effort, plus it can seem awkward to pray together or pursue spiritual growth. So how can spiritual intimacy be a realistic part of marriage?  Today we’re talking about tangible ways to grow in spiritual intimacy with your spouse - and what NOT to do.  We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!   Episode highlights include:  Why spirituality matters in marriage Common mistakes couples make with spiritual intimacy  Can the wife initiate the conversation about spiritual intimacy, or does the husband need to do that as a spiritual leader?  Practical steps to growing together spiritually  Tips to grow your marriage to become a light and example    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: The spiritual domain is integral to our health and wellbeing. Sharing it with your spouse is an essential part of intimacy in marriage.   Questions to Discuss:  What practices / spiritual disciplines have been most impactful for your personal spiritual growth?  What is one spiritual practice you would like to share with your spouse?    QUOTES  “If you’re not able to share about spirituality with your spouse, it diminishes your ability to be intimate and know one another.” - Lindsay Few  “We wish we could have an awesome marriage without trying. But it does take effort.” - Lindsay Few  “When you have an expectation, you’ve got to share it with your spouse. Then they can let you know whether it’s realistic or not.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “Most guys feel inadequate to be a spiritual leader. But God will equip you: It’s not rocket science, it’s just being intentional.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “Most wives just want to see an intentional effort. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Any time in the Word is better than none.” - Lindsay Few    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Build healthy habits in the New Year with the Healthy Marriage Rhythms bundle: 5 resources for just ONE donation! Get all the details HERE!  Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! FLASH SALE! Browse our online courses at  AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com,  and use code “FLASH2025” for $100 off ANY of our courses! Limited time only.

Transcribed - Published: 21 January 2025

It's a new year, but it's still the same you and your spouse ... so how can you make your marriage the best it can be in the new year? With intentionality, you can break out of the habits that are not serving your marriage well, and build new ones that work better.  Listen today for the tips and tools to help! We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!   Episode highlights include:  Signs that your marriage needs a “reset” What NOT to do during a reset  Where to start if you want a “reset” but you’re not sure what to do  Tips to make sure you don’t fall back into the same old patterns?    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: Now is a great time to check in, take stock, and prioritize the healthy habits to make your marriage strong. Listen, then start taking steps today!    Questions to Discuss:  What do you want your marriage to look like in the new year?  What do you envision that’s different from how things are now?  Brainstorm 3-5 steps you want to build into your marriage this year.  Where will you start?    QUOTES  “I think we need this every year.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “Don’t just see the red flags and ignore them.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  If we’re intentional in the New Year, we can really close the gap between what we have and what we want our marriage to look like.” - Lindsay Few   “You don’t have to agree on everything, but you have to be willing to compromise.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “God is for our marriage. He is for us. When we invite Him into the process it really changes things.“ -  Lindsay Few   “Sometimes we have to sacrifice good things for what’s most important.” - Lindsay Few     MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Build healthy habits in the New Year with the Healthy Marriage Rhythms Bundle: 5 resources for just ONE donation! Get all the details HERE!  FLASH SALE! Browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com, and use code “FLASH2025” for $100 off ANY of our courses! Limited time only.  If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!

Transcribed - Published: 14 January 2025

  Obedience to the ways of Jesus can sound closed-minded or restrictive, but in today’s episode we’re breaking down that myth for good.   We’re delighted to have pastor Rich Villodas join us today to talk about what it looks like to live on the Narrow Path Jesus taught about, and why it creates the most expansive life you could have. Learn what cultural Christianity gets wrong about the way of Jesus and how to walk the narrow way for a more joy filled life and marriage.    We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  Signs you’re not living out the Narrow Path Jesus taught about  Learn the damaging beliefs of cultural Christianity that don’t align with Jesus’ teaching  Ways that shallow faith shows up in marriage - and what to do about it  Internal shifts to help you value what matters to your spouse    Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:    Main takeaway:  Dying to self to live in Christ is the path to a full and expansive life. What would it look like to live this out in your marriage today?    Questions to Discuss:  How are you doing with each of the cultural values of successism, moralism, and hyperindividualism in your marriage?  What growth step would help you follow the narrow way of Jesus more closely with each of those?  QUOTES  “It seems restrictive on the outside, but ultimately following Jesus leads to greater spaciousness in our lives.” - Rich Villodas   “Is it possible for Christians to be on the ‘broad path’? Absolutely. Which is why the Sermon on the Mount is a wake up call to the kind of discipleship that Jesus is calling us to live into.” -  Rich Villodas   “Jesus is saying, ‘the kind of life you were designed for is found in my teachings.’” -  Rich Villodas  “We might be on the broad path if we are organizing our lives according to worldly notions of what success is.” -  Rich Villodas “The paradox of the Christian life is that to die in Christ is to actually come alive and truly live.” - Rich Villodas MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Rich’s new book The Narrow Path: How the Subversive Way of Jesus Satisfies Our Souls Find more from Rich on his website, on Instagram,   and learn more about his church, NewLife.nyc  Ready to break free from negative thought patterns? Use these 11 Prayers to get you on the right path!  Grab the beloved House Prayer Cards and make praying over your home a regular part of your day!  Our ministry is made possibly ONLY through our generous donors. Plus, they get each month’s new marriage resource automatically, as well as some other exclusive perks! Learn more about Marriage Changers Membership here.  Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!

Transcribed - Published: 17 December 2024

Conflict in marriage is inevitable: it’s how you handle it that matters most. But what about couples who really never fight? What happens to conflict that is never addressed and only stays under the surface? Does it ever really go away?  Listen today to learn better ways to handle the issues you don’t know how to deal with.   We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:  Tips to initiate a hard conversation you’ve been avoiding How to stay grounded when you want to shut down  How conflict can actually lead to better intimacy and connection Helpful nonconfrontational ways to broach difficult topics    Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: Dealing with the important issues together paves the way for true peace, and learning effective conflict solving skills is a win for your marriage.  Questions to Discuss:  Some skills mentioned are: Intentionality - set up a good time to talk, use “I” statements, do not blame your spouse, focus on what you would like to achieve together through the conversation. Pick the one that would help you the most.  What is one easy issue you can tackle together to practice better resolution skills? Focus on using your chosen skill.  QUOTES  If a couple said they never had conflict, I would think they’re not being completely honest with each other. - Dr. Kim Kimberling  I think the more you fear conflict, the less you’re able to resolve it. - Lindsay Few  We want to equip couples to handle it in a healthy way. - Lindsay Few  Conflict is not bad in itself. It’s how we handle conflict. - Dr. Kim Kimberling  Yes, we want peace in our homes. But you can’t have it if you ignore things that need to be dealt with.  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  It’s ok if you get stuck, just don’t stay stuck. - Dr. Kim Kimberling    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Do you want a better friendship with your spouse? Build your friendship with the 5 Day Friendship Challenge.   Have you lost the connection you once had? Rebuild friendship with your spouse using the 5 Day Rebuilding Friendship Challenge.  Our ministry is made possibly ONLY through our generous donors. Plus, they get each month’s new marriage resource automatically, as well as some other exclusive perks! Learn more about Marriage Changers Membership here.  Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!    

Transcribed - Published: 10 December 2024

Marriage conflict is hard, but you know what makes it even harder? Trying to WIN. Because if you win, that means your spouse loses. And that’s not great for your marriage connection. Break out of the “my way” versus “your way” myth and learn what it means to work together to have a win for your marriage.  Today we’re unpacking the process of how to win TOGETHER. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!   Episode highlights include:  Why taking divorce off the table changes the dynamics of conflict. What does it mean for the marriage to “win” and how can you do it?  Key steps for healthy conflict resolution The importance of empathy and proactive communication to prevent arguments. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide Main takeaway:  Marriage conflict is hard. When you try to win, you make it even harder. Questions to Discuss:  Are there any issues that have you stuck in a “win/lose” cycle?  Have you considered any creative “third” options (options that aren’t “your way” or “their way”) that could solve the issue?  Brainstorm possible options. During brainstorming, no idea is too out there! Just get lots of other options on the table to help you start looking for marriage wins instead of fighting over your individual preference.  QUOTES   "If you’re trying to win, that means your spouse loses." - Dr. Kim Kimberling  "A marriage win creates two winners." - Dr. Kim Kimberling  "Ask: What's going to make our marriage win?" - Dr. Kim Kimberling  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Get the Love Making Survey 2.0! Now expanded with 20 new questions PLUS the 7-day Love Making Challenge, it’s our Giving Tuesday gift to you, as a thank you for your donation to the ministry of Awesome Marriage!   Shop Honoring Intimates for lingerie, lubricants and more with NO lewd images, and use our discount code AWESOMEMARRIAGE for 20% off!    Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!  

Transcribed - Published: 3 December 2024

Couples often enter marriage with high expectations, and are then dismayed to learn that marriage is not a fairy tale after all. What do you do when marriage doesn't make you happy? How can we break out of our selfish hopes and become the spouse God intends us to be? Listen to learn practical ways to reconcile your marriage dreams with your married reality.   We all have hopes and dreams for marriage, and the reality of life is that they don’t always play out the way we expected. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.   Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips! Episode highlights include:  How your expectations before marriage impact your relationship The hidden role of selfishness in marital issues and conflicts How to cultivating humility helps to understand your spouse better Recognizing the redemptive nature of marriage can lead to deeper connections. Steps to finding a true and deeper joy in marriage   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!  Couples Conversation Guide:   Main takeaway:  Unrealistic expectations of marriage are pretty common, but they can take away from enjoying the marriage you’re actually living. If marriage isn’t making you happy, then that’s your cue to start sowing into it.   Questions to Discuss:  What expectations did you bring into marriage that you later realized were unrealistic?  What are some things you’d love to see more of in your marriage, and how can you work together to make that happen?  Do you have friends who will give you hard feedback when needed? What step can you take to build a friendship like that?    QUOTES  “A lot of people getting married have high hopes for marriage, then a few years into it they realize it’s not going to be their source of identity, hope and happiness. That realization kind of turns their world upside down.” - Chelsea Damon “What does God say about me? I had to do some soul searching to see what God has to say about me without trying to find that sense of security in my spouse.”  - Chelsea Damon “Marriage does a good of showing you who you are, and all of your faults. It’s a good wake up call for who you are as a person.”  - Chelsea Damon “One of the things couples find surprising are the expectations they don’t even know they’re bringing into marriage.”  - Chelsea Damon “I realized so much of my sense of security was not in the right place. I decided to put that back on Christ and find my identity in Him.” - Chelsea Damon “You need someone who’s willing to speak into your life.”  - Chelsea Damon   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Find Chelsea on her website, Instagram,   Grab a copy of Chelsea’s book, I Thought This Would Make Me Happy Shop Honoring Intimates for lingerie, lubricants and more with NO lewd images, and use our discount code AWESOMEMARRIAGE for 20% off!   Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!    

Transcribed - Published: 26 November 2024

Today we’re answering listener questions about how to handle the pain of a spouse’s porn use.  Unfortunately, this is a pretty common issue we hear about from couples, but the good news is that you CAN heal and move forward. So today we’re answering listener questions about healing and recovery from pornography in marriage. We’ll talk about the process for forgiveness, what to do if you just cannot forgive and move on, how to rebuild trust, and practical strategies to combat intrusive thoughts.  Listen for practical ways to heal and recover your heart and your marriage. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:  How to forgive and move forward when it feels impossible  Changing your view if you can’t separate your spouse from the hurtful behavior  The balance of feeling safe and willingness to be vulnerable  Boundary setting to allow for healing Getting out of the comparison trap and starting to feel beautiful and desirable again  *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway:  When your marriage is recovering from porn use, repentance is the first step. Forgiveness allows you to heal, and boundaries help facilitate marriage healing. You can rebuild your marriage even better than before.  Questions to Discuss:  What does your spouse do that helps you trust them? Are there any areas where you need to build or repair trust with your spouse?  What can you do together to help that process?  QUOTES  “Until you forgive, you’re still giving a lot of power to what happened.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “One of the best prayers is asking God to help you see your spouse through His eyes.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “We want assurance that nothing will ever hurt us again, but that’s not possible.” Lindsay Few   “Look for Jesus in your spouse. When you see that, things are probably going to be pretty good.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  This is not a hurdle to get through: this is a lifestyle change.   - Dr. Kim Kimberling There’s nothing wrong with being accountable, not because you ‘have to,’ but because you love your spouse.   - Dr. Kim Kimberling “You’ve got to be completely open and transparent with each other. You can’t have trust without that.”   - Dr. Kim Kimberling MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Sign up for the Free 5 Steps to Healing After Porn Betrayal to learn the steps you need to take to live a marriage undefiled and experience closeness and intimacy again Past podcast episodes on healing your marriage after porn:  How to Regain Trust With Your Spouse After Porn | Ep. 561 How to Rebuild Intimacy With Your Spouse After Porn | Ep. 562 Has your marriage been damaged by the effects of porn? Not sure what’s next? Download the 8 Steps To Heal Your Marriage After Porn to learn your next steps to healing.

Transcribed - Published: 19 November 2024

Are your kids protected from p*rn? Do they know how to fight back? What if they’ve already been exposed to it?  So many parents do not know how to protect their kids from porn, or how to equip them with what to do if they are exposed to it. We are so pleased to hear from Kristen Jenson today on the podcast with the answers to your questions. Equip yourself so that you can equip kids well.  We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  The hidden mental health dangers of p*rn  The scripts parents need to discuss p*rn with their kids’ Tips for digital safety in today's technology-driven world. When should you start talking to your kids about p*rn? Which phones are safer for kids?  Resources that will help you guide your kids or grandchildren  The need for open conversations that can protect children's innocence.   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway:  Your kids & grandkids need a plan in place to protect them from the danger of porn exposure and addiction. Today’s episode will equip you to make that plan.  Questions to Discuss:  Have you taken the time to equip your kids with what to do if they are exposed to porn?  Do you have a plan to resist the temptation of porn or explicit materials?  If not, use the resources below to develop a plan today.    QUOTES   “If you’re worried about what to do with your kids about p*rn, this podcast is for you.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “P*rnography is fueling a huge rise in child-on-child harmful sexual behavior.” - Kristen Jenson  “How do you talk to kids about it in a way that doesn’t scare them, doesn’t scare the parents and gives them a real plan?”  - Kristen Jenson  “We all need scripts for certain life situations. There are no scripts passed down for this problem.” - Kristen Jenson  “We live in a world awash with addiction. We need to teach our kids how to protect their brains from addiction.” - Kristen Jenson  “P*rnography is the tool of choice. If kids know what to do, they’re going to be that much safer.”  - Kristen Jenson  “We have an opportunity to say, no this isn’t normal. No, this isn’t healthy.”  - Kristen Jenson    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Purchase Kristen’s books: Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids, Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr., and the Guidebook for Counseling Kids Learn about our the brand new curriculum Brain Defense: Digital Safety Keep current with empowering articles From Defend Young Minds  Use the instantly-downloadable guides to help you teach your child  Follow Defend Young Minds on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, & LinkedIn  

Transcribed - Published: 15 November 2024

If porn has damaged your marriage, healing is possible. And you are not alone…This is unfortunately a common issue we hear from couples about. So today on the podcast, we’re answering listener questions about healing and recovery from pornography in marriage. We’ll talk about the need for forgiveness, what to do when a spouse cannot forgive and move on, how to rebuild trust, and practical strategies to combat temptation.  Listen for practical ways to engage in healing and recovery for you and your marriage. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  What to do if a spouse can’t forgive past porn use  How to make a plan for dealing with temptation. Necessary steps in the trust-rebuilding process  Help to understand the impact on a wife’s self-image  How shame and isolation impact recovery   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway:  Porn use can really damage the trust in marriage, but recovery is possible. Learn how and do what it takes to rebuild trust and does not    Questions to Discuss:  What are the areas of vulnerability in your marriage?  How can you make a plan to protect your marriage where you need it most?  Is there anything you need to come clean about with your spouse? Do it today.    QUOTES  “The things a spouse needs to do for recovery are good for them AND good for the marriage. It really works together.” Lindsay Few  “Most men I talk to have no idea how devastating their p*rn use was for their wife.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “It’s so important to have a plan in place.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “Remember that temptation itself is not sin. It’s what you do once you are tempted.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “You can use temptation as a red flag to drive you toward things that are good for you.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling   “God doesn’t want us stuck in shame, but the enemy sure does.” - Lindsay Few    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Podcast episode:  We mentioned this episode with Matt Cline  Other helpful episodes: How to Regain Trust With Your Spouse After Porn | Ep. 561 How to Rebuild Intimacy With Your Spouse After Porn | Ep. 562 Sign up for the Free 5 Steps to Healing After Porn Betrayal to learn the steps you need to take to live a marriage undefiled and experience closeness and intimacy again

Transcribed - Published: 12 November 2024

How is the emotional intimacy in your marriage? Do you feel safe telling your spouse anything? Do you feel loved, heard, and understood?  Marriage is meant to be a refuge…a place where you each feel safe sharing deep personal feelings and confident you will be graciously received by your spouse. The problem is that many of us don’t talk about or even understand our own emotions. And if we can’t properly process our emotions, it will be very hard to build true emotional closeness in marriage.  Tune in today to learn the Do’s and Don’t of emotional intimacy. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  Surprising behaviors that may shut our spouses down emotionally What wives tend to get wrong about emotional intimacy  What husbands often get wrong about emotional intimacy  What we miss out on when emotional intimacy is missing in marriage  *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway:  Emotional intimacy is being able to share your thoughts, feelings, hopes, fears, and more with your spouse and be loved and accepted. It is a building block of great connection in marriage.  Questions to Discuss:  How safe do you feel sharing anything you need to with your spouse?  What could you do to better accept your spouse as they are?   What helps you feel emotionally close and connected?    QUOTES  Wives may experience more of the feeling of the lack of emotional intimacy. - Lindsay Few  I promise you, after 54 years of marriage, that your spouse cannot read your mind. -  Dr. Kim Kimberling  A lot of times we think our spouse thinks like we think. Dr. Kim Kimberling  Our assumptions really get us in trouble. - Lindsay Few  Instead of thinking your spouse is a terrible person, realize they’re just different. They don’t see things the same way you do. - Lindsay Few  God didn’t give feelings and emotions to women that He didn’t give to men. He gave us the same feelings and emotions. It changes your life when you get in touch with that. - Dr. Kim Kimberling  We’re all emotional. We’re just not all in touch with them. - Lindsay Few  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Take the 5 Days to Deeper Emotional Intimacy challenge to learn practical steps to growing emotional intimacy with your spouse.  FREE Awesome Marriage Feelings Chart Printable FREE Married couples card game  Heart-to-Heart is a game designed to deepen emotional intimacy and connection between you two.   

Transcribed - Published: 5 November 2024

 We’re so happy to have David and Meg Robbins from FamilyLife joining us on the podcast today. The Robbins have been in ministry for many years and have learned so many important truths about what it takes to create a marriage strong enough to stand strong through the years.  Today they share their wisdom and experience. You don’t want to miss this conversation, full of wisdom and practical application that will benefit you and your marriage.  We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:  The unique strengths of Gen Z when it comes to pursuing marriage  The 3 threats every marriage faces The power of the Holy Spirit to stand strong  Daily habits to fight the drift that busyness creates in marriage Scheduling habits to keep your marriage connected  How to find an encouraging community of support - and why it matters    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: Don’t neglect the health of your marriage: Keep short accounts when things need to be addressed between you, and cultivate supportive community.  Questions to Discuss:  Are you aware of the spiritual battle for your marriage?  Are there any ways you’re viewing your spouse as your enemy, and neglecting to protect your mind and heart against the real enemy?  Where would your life and marriage benefit from community? What step can you take today to nurture your friendships, mentorship and fellowship?  QUOTES  Younger generations are doing a lot of deep story work. - Meg Robbins  We all have ingrained sin patterns that we bring into marriage. - David Robbins  Vulnerability does involve risk. It’s not status quo. Yet vulnerability is the pathway to deeper intimacy. - David Robbins  You have to take risky steps to take down the walls around your heart. - Meg Robbins  With little things, we can be hard on ourselves. But when you spend time with other people, you realize these are normal things. - Meg Robbins  Most people want to talk about their marriage, it just requires someone else to start the conversation. Anyone of us can crack open the conversation.  - David Robbins  A healthy marriage is one that’s repenting often. - David Robbins  No marriage is going to naturally drift towards awesome oneness.  - Meg Robbins MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Find marriage-building resources and events at www.FamilyLife.com  Find and follow FamilyLife on YouTube Utilize FamilyLife’s The Art of Marriage small group course Nurture your marriage with our FREE 15 Better Assumptions to Make About Your Spouse printable.  

Transcribed - Published: 29 October 2024

Are you familiar with the 5 levels of communication and where they fit in your marriage? Do you use all 5 levels in your marriage? The basics of communication sound simple on paper, yet most couples are struggling to communicate effectively. And when communication falls short, your connection suffers, conflict ramps up, and marriage isn’t the partnership you hoped for.    Today Dr. Kim shares these levels and how to use them, so you can access all 5 types of communication your marriage needs and avoid common communication breakdowns with your spouse. Tune in to learn more!    We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  5 communication levels you and your spouse need Simple tips for avoiding common communication breakdowns  Getting to deep communication with a less talkative spouse  Common mistakes husbands and wives make with deeper communication How to respect your spouse’s personal communication style   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:    Main takeaway:  When you talk, be mindful of communicating in ways that your spouse will be able to really hear you. When your spouse talks, listen well, and don’t neglect any of the 5 communication levels.   Questions to Discuss:  Which levels of communication come more naturally in your marriage?  Which levels are harder to use?  What is one thing you can do today to make sure you communicate in a way your spouse will be able to receive well?    QUOTES  “Communication is so essential. I don’t know if there's ever a couple that comes in for counseling and it’s not an issue.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling   “It sounds simple enough, but at the same time most couples are struggling with communication.” - Lindsay Few  “It’s important that you pay attention to each other. That you value it and listen to each other.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “There are so many distractions in life. It’s important to tune in.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling   “Instead of blaming our spouse because they’re not listening well, ask how well am I communicating with them?”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling   “We have a responsibility to grow in self awareness, and marriage is a beautiful way to do that.“ Lindsay Few      MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Turn to God and ask him to renew your mind with our NEW resource, 11 Prayers To Stop Thinking Negatively About Your Spouse 15 Better Assumptions To Make About Your Spouse is a free printable to help you set your mind on what is true, right and good. Learn more here!  Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram for more marriage tips!   

Transcribed - Published: 22 October 2024

Are you truly resolving your marriage issues? Most couples experience recurring arguments that never truly resolve. This cycle leaves you with two problems: 1, You never solved the issue, and 2, now one or both are hurt and angry. Plus you’ve got some baggage around the issue, too. Today we’re going to help you learn how to resolve the actual issues.    We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  What NOT to do in a recurring argument  Communication tips to help you prevent conflict Conversation hacks to prevent defensiveness  The process to understand the REAL underlying issues    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: If you have recurring arguments (most couples do!) there’s probably a deeper issue you’re not aware of. Get under the surface to resolve the real issue.    Questions to Discuss:  On a scale from 1-10, how well do you and your spouse resolve your marriage conflict?  Better communication helps you address the real issues you need to resolve. What is one step you can take to grow your communication today?    QUOTES   "Most couples have recurring arguments that never truly resolve" - Lindsay Few  "Being vulnerable builds intimacy and trust." - Dr. Kim Kimberling  "Using 'I' statements takes ownership and responsibility." - Dr. Kim Kimberling  "Learning to resolve conflict in a healthy way is a gift to your marriage." - Dr. Kim Kimberling  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet is a printable resource to help you address conflict the healthy way. Grab the free cheat sheet HERE! Marriage Multiplier is a quick and highly practical weekly email to help you invest in your marriage. CLICK HERE to learn more! Has infidelity damaged your marriage? Sign up for Dr. Kim’s webinar Rebuilding Trust and Establishing Healthy Boundaries After an Affair and learn what steps to take next. 15 Better Assumptions To Make About Your Spouse is a free printable to help you set your mind on what is true, right and good. Learn more here! Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram for more marriage tips!

Transcribed - Published: 15 October 2024

How well do you choose your battles? If you struggle with recurring conflict in marriage, you might need to work on choosing your battles. On the other hand, if you’re feeling resentment but you’re not sure how to address it… you might need to work on choosing your battles. Today Dr. Kim is going to help you learn how to choose your battles well. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  Knowing when to stand your ground vs. when to let go The underlying message in your recurring marriage issues How to balance love and grace with speaking the truth  The path to build trust for open and honest feedback   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: Some things are not worth arguing over! You can reduce the tension in your marriage by learning to choose your battles better.    Questions to Discuss:  What situations tend to end in recurring arguments in your marriage?  Are any of those battles you can let go of, instead of fighting?   Is there any resentment you need to let go of today?    QUOTES  Instead of being critical, learn to work together. - Dr. Kim Kimberling  Stay faithful to agreements you’ve made. The things you agreed on affect one another. - Lindsay Few  It doesn’t have to be a battle. - Lindsay Few  Getting defensive just never works. - Dr. Kim Kimberling    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Marriage Multiplier is a quick and highly practical weekly email to help you invest in your marriage. CLICK HERE to learn more! Our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet is a printable resource to help you address conflict the healthy way. Grab the free cheat sheet HERE! Has infidelity damaged your marriage? Sign up for Dr. Kim’s webinar Rebuilding Trust and Establishing Healthy Boundaries After an Affair and learn what steps to take next. 15 Better Assumptions To Make About Your Spouse is a free printable to help you set your mind on what is true, right and good. Learn more here!  What situations tend to end in recurring arguments in your marriage?  Are any of those battles you can let go of, instead of fighting?   Is there any resentment you need to let go of today?    QUOTES  Instead of being critical, learn to work together. - Dr. Kim Kimberling  Stay faithful to agreements you’ve made. The things you agreed on affect one another. - Lindsay Few  It doesn’t have to be a battle. - Lindsay Few  Getting defensive just never works. - Dr. Kim Kimberling    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Marriage Multiplier is a quick and highly practical weekly email to help you invest in your marriage. CLICK HERE to learn more! Our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet is a printable resource to help you address conflict the healthy way. Grab the free cheat sheet HERE! Has infidelity damaged your marriage? Sign up for Dr. Kim’s webinar Rebuilding Trust and Establishing Healthy Boundaries After an Affair and learn what steps to take next. 15 Better Assumptions To Make About Your Spouse is a free printable to help you set your mind on what is true, right and good. Learn more here!   

Transcribed - Published: 8 October 2024

After a few “golden years” of ministry for Ken Guidroz and his family, things imploded. When Ken had to face the unimaginable as a dad, faith was hard to find. Hope seemed distant as he, his wife, and their marriage both struggled to recover. Today Ken shares the story of how they clung to each other and found hope to move forward together, through their darkest season.  We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  How to hold onto faith when you feel hopeless  Maintaining marriage unity while holding different parenting values  How to recover from marriage disagreements you can’t forget Ken’s story of breaking through to the other side after a dark season  *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:    Main takeaway: When your marriage is rocked by the unexpected, allow your spouse to process the way they need to. Focus on supporting one another, and finding common bonds.    Questions to Discuss:  What has been your hardest marriage season? What helped you stay close in that time?  What is one way you can strengthen your marriage today to protect it for the future?    QUOTES  In some ways, it was our toughest time ever. In other ways, it was “you and me, honey, against the world.” - Ken Guidroz  To say we felt like we had a scarlet letter on our chest is an understatement. - Ken Guidroz  We were partners in the pit. It was tough. But it also cemented us for life. - Ken Guidroz  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Find more of Ken’s writing, including his book, Letters to My Son in Jail, on his website  15 Better Assumptions To Make About Your Spouse is a free printable to help you set your mind on what is true, right and good. Learn more here!   

Transcribed - Published: 4 October 2024

Your mindset greatly impacts your day to day life. If you’re stuck in unhealthy or unhelpful thought patterns, both you and your marriage will suffer. But there are simple ways to unpack your thought patterns and replace the unhelpful with a biblical perspective. In today’s episode we’re looking at practical ways to adopt a gracious, life-giving perspective in marriage.  We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:  Common perspective mistakes in marriage and what causes them  Practical tips to resolve perspective issues and create a Biblical perspective What do secret sin and perspective have in common?   Ways to communicate more effectively and seek to understand your spouse's perspective  Tips to cultivate oneness and a spiritual foundation of unity *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: Is your perspective of your spouse realistic? For most issues, a generous perspective and good communication can get you through it together.    Questions to Discuss:  Do you have any unrealistic expectations of your spouse today? If you’re not sure, check them out together.  Are you and your spouse at odds over an issue? Take the time to learn what matters most to your spouse about their position on it.  Do you have thought habits that are leading to bitterness or resentment in your marriage?     QUOTES  "It's hard to step into your spouse's shoes or take the time to do that, to have empathy for them." - Dr. Kim Kimberling  "Resentment can be a huge thing and it's so dangerous because if we don't stop it, it continues to grow." - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “Perspective is your lens on the world. If your lens is covered with smudges and you’re not seeing clearly, that’s not the world’s fault. You’ve got to clean your lens.” - Lindsay Few   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   If you are ready to have a better perspective – and a better marriage, then the biblically-based 4 Week Reframing Challenge is for you!  Turn to God and ask him to renew your mind with our NEW resource, 11 Prayers To Stop Thinking Negatively About Your Spouse 15 Better Assumptions To Make About Your Spouse is a free printable to help you set your mind on what is true, right and good. Learn more here!  Join the Marriage Changer Movement! Because a world full of awesome marriages can change the world Marriage Multiplier is a quick and highly practical weekly email to help you invest in your marriage. CLICK HERE to learn more!

Transcribed - Published: 1 October 2024

An affair doesn’t have to mean the end of a marriage. At Awesome Marriage, we have seen so many marriages restored! Yet the recovery process will take time and working together to see the Lord heal the union. If you’ve experienced this pain, you need a guide to help you along the way.  Rick Reynolds joins Dr. Kim today to share his story of marriage recovery, and how he’s used his own painful experience to help others through the process of rebuilding after infidelity.  We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:  How to avoid common behaviors that can set you up for an affair   How to rebuild a marriage after affair - better than before Why Christians need to be aware of their own vulnerability How to overcome the obstacles to recovering after infidelity  Common mistakes in the affair recovery process    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!  Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: One of the best ways to protect your marriage from an affair is to realize you could be vulnerable to infidelity, and put boundaries in place. If your marriage has experienced infidelity, it can be restored much stronger than before.   Questions to Discuss:  What boundaries do you have in your life to prevent even baby steps toward an affair?  Are you a safe place for your spouse to be completely honest and open? What would help make your marriage a safer place for honesty?   QUOTES  “When we fall, what’s important is what we do afterwards.” - Rick Reynolds  “A lot of Christians don’t realize they’re vulnerable, so they don’t put constraints in place. Then they find themselves in a mess.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  “What heals is empathy and emotional responsiveness.” - Rick Reynolds  “The wayward spouse needs to understand that disclosure is the way that trust is reestablished.” - Rick Reynolds MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Learn more or sign up for the Hope Rising Conference at AffairRecovery.com If you feel defeated about your marriage, or are considering divorce, our 90 Days to Save Your Marriage plan is for you. Learn more here.

Transcribed - Published: 27 September 2024

When costs keep rising, and earnings often don’t match, money stress is bound to invade your marriage. Most couples face additional tension around how to handle finances well – as well as how to handle them together.    In today’s podcast, Dr. Kim talks with Dan and Kay Ockey about how to take control of your finances, even in times of financial uncertainty. Dan and Kay offer concrete and actionable advice on how to take the steps to get out of debt, make a realistic plan, and work together. Tune in for help to get your finances in order.    We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  The action plan for how to start tracking finances  Productive ways to handle the realities of inflation and financial uncertainty  2 keys for financial success in a marriage Use this reframing shift and fight over finances less    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    QUOTES  "The magic bullet doesn't exist, but being real about your numbers and not spending more than you make is key." - Dan Ockey  “We’re finding that among a lot of people there’s an expectation you should have the life you want.” - Dan Ockey  “We may not have the money to do all the things we want right now, and that’s ok. You’re not a failure - you can work toward that.” - Dan Ockey  “Our money conversations were so painful. Then I realized that our unity was more important than my beliefs about money.”  - Dan Ockey    Couples Conversation Guide:    Main takeaway: Unity in your marriage finances requires a team mindset, learning about each other, and learning the skills to handle money well.     Questions to Discuss:  What financial beliefs are keeping you from unity in your marriage?  Are you working toward a common goal together today? If not, work together to set one.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Learn how to avoid the 4 common budgeting mistakes couples make when in the FREE Centsei Class. Learn more here.  The Gap and the Gain  Get the budget conversation started with 27 Money Questions Every Couple Needs to Ask Marriage Multiplier is a quick and highly practical weekly email to help you invest in your marriage. CLICK HERE to learn more!

Transcribed - Published: 24 September 2024

Show of hands: Are you an Amazon box hider? … or do you have your spouse break down the boxes for you?  All joking aside, online shopping can be an issue that hinders couples’ closeness. Money management in general can be a hot topic, but the wide range of ways we can spend money online with just the click of a button can create some additional obstacles, and we hear about it from couples all the time. Today we’re equipping you to resolve this issue.  We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:  Red flags that you need to address online spending with your spouse.  The role of trust in marriage money habits  How to know when online shopping has become a problem  The negative cycle of emotional triggers     *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    QUOTES  “When you look into what’s most important with money, you make a lot more progress more quickly.” - Lindsay Few  "When you quit being a team, that's when it becomes a problem." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If shopping is getting in the way of closeness with your spouse, then something needs to change." - Dr. Kim Kimberling   Couple's Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway: Money secrets do not serve your marriage well, so do what it takes to build trust with your spouse around finances.  Questions to Discuss:  Are there any money habits your spouse does not know about you?  What areas bring out money tension for your marriage?  What is one step that would help you work through that and build unity today?    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Learn how to avoid the 4 common budgeting mistakes couples make when in the FREE Centsei Class. Learn more here.  Get the budget conversation started with 27 Money Questions Every Couple Needs to Ask Marriage Multiplier is a quick and highly practical weekly email to help you invest in your marriage. CLICK HERE to learn more!  

Transcribed - Published: 17 September 2024

We don’t often talk about our failures, but maybe that needs to change. It’s easy to focus on others’ highlight reel, while we’re highly aware of our own personal shortcomings. But the shame of feeling like we don’t measure up keeps us from real relationships.   Today we’re going there with special guest, Becky Kiser, as we talk about the power of the gospel and how God uses us in spite of our shortcomings. Don’t miss this powerful conversation. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:    Fight the cascade effect of feeling like a failure  The two most debated sections of Becky’s new book - and why! The 1st step to start loving your spouse well    How to move out of shame and into freedom   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    QUOTES  “Even women who are successful; women who have accomplished a bunch, deal with failure.” - Becky Kiser  “The Gospel message is not, ‘Get your life together then God can do something with your life.’” - Becky Kiser  “I’ve found the most freedom from acknowledging I can’t.” - Becky Kiser   "Not all failures are actual failures. They’re just a part of life.” - Becky Kiser  "We spend so much time ‘dying to ourselves’ that we think there’s no value to ourselves.” - Becky Kiser    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Find Becky at https://www.beckykiser.com/ and on Instagram @beckykiser Grab the new book, “But God Can” today!   Get the budget conversation started with 27 Money Questions Every Couple Needs to Ask Marriage Multiplier is a quick and highly practical weekly email to help you invest in your marriage. CLICK HERE to learn more!  

Transcribed - Published: 10 September 2024

After five years of marriage, Kristin and Todd Evans’ world was rocked when they learned they were about to become parents to a child with a disability. The stress, grief and the demands of learning to be caregivers to a child with disabilities transformed their once-joyful marriage and nearly broke it apart.       When spouses are also caregivers, the marriage will face challenges that others may not know anything about. Today Todd and Kristin share their powerful story of learning to navigate this reality and how they have kept their marriage strong through it all.      We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:   The additional challenges parents face as caregivers Learning to cope with the ‘living loss’ of disability How to set and communicate priorities in an unending to do list Ways to deepening emotional connection & intimacy while always “on call” Handling grief and chronic sorrow together   *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    QUOTES  “For all parents, there’s a sacrificial piece to it. For special needs parents, it goes to a new level of what you have to sacrifice.” - Todd Evans   “1 in 3 caregivers experience depression and anxiety.” - Kristin Evans  “I couldn’t understand why I couldn't’ get over my grief, but Todd had moved on.” - Kristin Evans “There’s not a right or wrong way to grieve, it’s just different.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Order the Evans’ book, How to Build a Thriving Marriage as You Care for Children with Disabilities Follow @DisabilityParenting on Instagram for more great tips! Get the budget conversation started with 27 Money Questions Every Couple Needs to Ask Marriage Multiplier is a quick and highly practical weekly email to help you invest in your marriage. CLICK HERE to learn more!

Transcribed - Published: 6 September 2024

Reduce money stress in your marriage by making sure your money knows where to go!    Don’t avoid talking about money with your spouse: Establishing a budget you can both stick to will certainly pay off long term. Today Dr. Kim shares several simple tricks that help him and Nancy to stress less and be intentional with their finances.    We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:   The basic starting point for building a budget  The budget category Dr. Kim & Nancy would NEVER cut out   The power of breaking a scarcity mindset and becoming generous  Strategies to better money management  How to get started if you’ve never budgeted    *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    QUOTES  “We felt like it was always important to have a date.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling   “Make sure to build in your budget that you can go out somewhere each week and not have to worry about it.”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling   “God is so generous, and that’s really what we want to emulate.” - Lindsay Few  “My lack of generosity was not the person I wanted to be.” - Lindsay Few   Continue to ask, “What are our financial goals? How do we budget to make them work?”  - Dr. Kim Kimberling   “If you need help, get it. If you’re going to fight about money for 50 years, that doesn’t sound fun at all. ”- Dr. Kim Kimberling   “When you tithe 10%, the 90% you have left goes a lot further than you thought the 100% would.” - Lindsay Few  “I don’t know anyone personally who would say they regret tithing.”  - Lindsay Few  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Get the budget conversation started with 27 Money Questions Every Couple Needs to Ask Learn how to avoid the 4 common budgeting mistakes couples make when in the FREE Centsei Class. Learn more here. Marriage Multiplier is a quick and highly practical weekly email to help you invest in your marriage. CLICK HERE to learn more!

Transcribed - Published: 3 September 2024

Do your habits online support your marriage? Or damage it?    Fewer couples are getting married than ever. Tech is hitting marriages hard today. Yet research shows that marriage can provide a huge boost to personal happiness. Today’s guest Arlene Pellicane has written several books on how technology is impacting relationships, and today she shares tech habits that will help you and your marriage to thrive.       We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights include:   The 1 habit that leads to a 99% marriage success rate  Simple to streamline your tech habits for more connection  Why today’s tech affects relationships differently than before  Research shows how marriage can impact happiness   Parenting tips to break unhealthy tech habits and get your child back     *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    QUOTES  “If we seek God and His guidance, He’s always going to have an answer.” Dr. Kim Kimberling  “Is technology bringing you closer together? Or causing you to grow farther apart.”  - Arlene Pellicane  “We're missing all these little times to connect. That’s why you feel disconnected.”  - Arlene Pellicane  “You have to prepare to be unpopular, because as a parent, it’s your job to protect your child.”  - Arlene Pellicane    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  If you need help with family tech habits, DO NOT miss Arlene’s books on the topic.  National Marriage Week is each February 7-14th – and their great marriage building resources are available all year long! Learn more and support the mission on the WEB, FACEBOOK, X (TWITTER) or INSTAGRAM ! Learn more about what boundaries can do for your marriage in Dr. Kim’s free Building Healthy Boundaries Webinar. Learn more here!  What could 1 intentional weekend do for you and your spouse? Find out when you take on our Marriage Weekend Challenge! Click to learn more! Don’t let screens come between you: Use our free 17 Questions Every Couple Should Ask About Tech printable to get on the same page! Marriage Multiplier is a quick and highly practical weekly email to help you invest in your marriage. CLICK HERE to learn more!

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