Help! My Spouse Can't Leave Work at Work
Awesome Marriage Podcast
Dr. Kim Kimberling
4.9 • 802 Ratings
🗓️ 17 June 2025
⏱️ 34 minutes
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Summary
In today's episode, we explore how constant connectivity and work stress can quietly invade our marriages. When work becomes all-consuming, it can turn into an idol and create emotional distance between spouses. We discuss why learning to leave work at work is a spiritual discipline and how true support means walking alongside your spouse, not having all the answers. You'll hear practical wisdom on setting boundaries together, sharing burdens, and seeking counsel early. Marriage is about more than success—it's about not facing struggles alone.
Episode Highlights:
- Technology has blurred our boundaries between work and home.
- Learning to leave work at work is a spiritual discipline.
- Being supportive doesn't mean you have to all the answers- it means you're walking alongside your spouse.
- The pace of modern culture doesn't allow proper mental closure.
Quotes from Today's Episodes:
- A lot of people in the workplace feel the expectation to be available 24/7/365
- Work problems begin to feel like personal problems- like they need immediate attention.
- Our ultimate identity is not in our professional performance.
- Work stress can be like an invisible third person in your marriage.
- When work becomes all consuming it shifts into an idol.
- Our marriages are about something bigger than career success.
- Marriage is about sharing burdens- not just the good stuff.
- Trying to handle stress alone creates distance in the marriage.
- There's something spiritually significant about not facing struggles alone.
- The most effective boundaries are the ones you create together.
- They need to know your concern comes from a place of care not criticism.
- The earlier you involve wise counsel the more effectively you can address issues before they become entrenched patterns.
Questions for Discussion:
- Do you currently have any transitional rituals in place? If not, what rituals can the two of you agree to implement?
- Do you currently implement any device free times/ zones?
- Are you using technology to connect with your spouse in healthy ways? (encouraging text, midday phone call)
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the loss of marriage podcast, where we're dedicated to building stronger, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships. |
| 0:13.6 | I'm your host, Dr. Kim Kimmerling, and I've been counseling couples for 40 years and married to my amazing life fancy for 55 years. |
| 0:20.0 | Our goal is to help your marriage thrive. |
| 0:21.6 | We exist to help hurting marriages heal. |
| 0:24.6 | Healthy marriages grow in families, stay together. |
| 0:27.6 | Each week we bring you practical tips, expert insights, and real stories from couples who are making their marriage is truly awesome. |
| 0:35.6 | So whether you're nearlyit, celebrating decades together, |
| 0:38.5 | or anywhere in between, you're in the right place to take your marriage from good to awesome. |
| 0:43.3 | So thanks for joining us today. Let's dive you on. |
| 0:50.5 | Are you unintentionally disrespecting your spouse? Unfortunately, I say it all the time, which is why I want to help stop it. |
| 0:58.2 | We have created a new free tool. |
| 1:00.7 | It's called 17 unintentionally disrespectful phrases to cut out when speaking to your spouse. |
| 1:06.7 | You can grab it today for free in the show notes. |
| 1:10.0 | Words have power, so let's aim to use words in a way that builds our spouses up rather than tearing them down. |
| 1:16.8 | Respectful communication strengthens intimacy, while careless words can create a necessary distance. |
| 1:22.4 | Too often we unintentionally say things that can feel dismissive, condescending, or hurtful to our spouse, |
| 1:28.4 | even when we don't mean to be disrespectful. |
| 1:31.4 | These phrases, the often said without ill intent, can have a damaging effect on how our spouse |
| 1:37.0 | feels heard and respected. |
| 1:39.4 | Cut these toxic phrases and build a marriage that thrives on respect. |
| 1:45.2 | Grab this free, printable 17 unintentionally disrespectful phrases to cut out when speaking to your spouse. |
| 1:52.2 | Grab it today in the show notes. |
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