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Awesome Marriage Podcast

Unvoiced Expectations: How to put a Name to What you Need Ep. 680

Awesome Marriage Podcast

Dr. Kim Kimberling

Marriage, Awesomemarriagepodcast, Marriagepodcast, Awesomemarriage, Marriageadvice, Society & Culture, Religion & Spirituality, Relationships, Christianmarriage, Christianity

4.9 • 802 Ratings

🗓️ 3 June 2025

⏱️ 29 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

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Summary

In this week’s episode, Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy unpack the powerful topic of expectations—focusing on how to clearly express what you need from your spouse. With honest conversation, a willingness to listen, and an open heart, you can transform how you communicate and connect in your relationship.

 

Quotes from this episode:

“I just thought you knew. And when you didn’t I would go along and get resentful”

“We were trying to fit each other in the mold.” 

“Our first big argument scared the heck out of me. My unrealistic expectation was that we would never fight.” 

“It’s a good idea to have a signal or cue so that you make your spouse aware.” 



Questions for Reflection:

What are some expectations—spoken or unspoken—that we each bring into our marriage, and how well do we feel they’ve been understood by each other?

When was a time we misunderstood one another because expectations weren’t clearly communicated? What can we learn from that moment?

How can we create more space in our relationship for honest, judgment-free conversations about what we each need or hope for?

What’s one expectation we can both express more clearly this week—and how can we support each other in meeting it with love and grace?

 

Mentioned in this Episode:

 

  • When you’re frustrated, it’s easy to let words fly out of your mouth. Our new FREE resource: 17 Unintentionally Disrespectful Phrases To Cut Out When Speaking To Your Spouse will help couples choose words that bring life instead of cause chaos.

  • Awesome Marriage has a great Premarital course to help couples have important conversations before their big day. Communicate expectations effectively and be proactive in learning your future spouse with this great course. Already married? Share this course with a couple who’s looking forward to their big day.

Transcript

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0:00.0

Welcome to the loss of marriage podcast, where we're dedicated to building stronger, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships.

0:13.6

I'm your host, Dr. Kim Kimmerling, and I've been counseling couples for 40 years and married to my

0:17.5

amazing life fancy for 55 years. Our goal is to help your marriage thrive.

0:21.6

We exist to help hurting marriages heal.

0:24.6

Healthy marriages grow in families, stay together.

0:27.6

Each week we bring you practical tips, expert insights, and real stories from couples who are making their marriage is truly awesome.

0:35.6

So whether you're newlywit, celebrating decades together,

0:38.5

or anywhere in between, you're in the right place to take your marriage from good to awesome.

0:43.3

So thanks for joining us today. Let's dive you on.

0:50.5

Is your marriage struggling? If so, my free webinar, 11 things to do before you get a divorce, it is your next step.

0:57.6

So whether you're dealing with a crisis in your marriage, or simply ready to throw in the

1:01.2

towel, this 45-minute class will provide you with steps to help your marriage begin the

1:06.6

healing process.

1:08.5

In this free webinar, you'll discover how to take divorce off the table

1:11.7

and rediscover why you said, I do. How to cover your marriage and prayer and move forward in

1:17.1

forgiveness. How to find the right Christian counselor, the importance of removing distractions

1:22.1

so you can focus on one another. You know, there's a point in Nancy's my marriage where we

1:26.9

were considering divorce,

1:28.2

but by the grace of God and good counsel, we were able to turn things around and build an awesome

1:33.4

marriage.

1:34.1

We've been married for 55 years now.

1:36.4

I want to show you how to turn things around for your marriage, too.

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