Is Your Marriage Drifting? How to Recognize the Signs and Reconnect Ep. 674

Awesome Marriage Podcast

Dr. Kim Kimberling

Marriage, Awesomemarriagepodcast, Marriagepodcast, Awesomemarriage, Marriageadvice, Society & Culture, Religion & Spirituality, Relationships, Christianmarriage, Christianity

4.9 • 802 Ratings

🗓️ 22 April 2025

⏱️ 42 minutes

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Summary

Main takeaway:

Every relationship can be prone to drifting if we aren’t paying attention, and our marriage relationship is no exception. In this episode Dr. Kim and Lindsay talk about how easy it is to begin prioritizing good things over the best things, and how those small compromises lead to big disconnect in marriage. This episode will help you recognize the signs of drift and begin to fight back against it!

Recognizing the signs of drifting is crucial for couples.
Prioritizing time together is essential to prevent drifting.
Good things can distract from nurturing the marriage.
Drifting can happen gradually without realization.
Communication and emotional intimacy are key to a strong marriage.
Common signs of drifting include changes in communication and intimacy.
Non-sexual physical touch can enhance emotional intimacy.
It's important to address issues early before they become entrenched patterns.

Questions to Discuss:

Is your marriage reflected on your calendar?

When’s the last time you encouraged your spouse with your words?

Do you feel pressure to say yes to things outside of your marriage that in turn forces you to say no to things that would grow your marriage?

Are you protecting your energy so that you make the most of the time with your spouse?

What’s one thing you can do today to show your spouse you’re pursuing your marriage?

Quotes:

“You drift without even realizing it.”

“Sometimes good things get in the way of the most important things”

“If you’re drifting away you’re more vulnerable to sin.”

“You have to choose the best over the good.”

“There are things I could have done different.”

“In our culture, life gets in the way and we don’t even think about it.”

“I’ve always got to know that Nancy is a gift, and I have to embrace that gift, and treat her like a gift every day.”

“Drifting happens gradually.”

“Show me where you have your marriage on your calendar.”

“It’s on my calendar now.”

“It’s not going great, but everyone’s just accepting it.”

“You can do something!”

“Make sure you go to somebody who can be objective and is for your marriage.”

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast, a place for honest conversations and practical advice on how to build an awesome marriage.
0:09.7	I am your podcast producer and co-host, Lindsay Few. On the show will be our host Dr. Kim Kimberly.
0:17.0	Dr. Kim is a marriage counselor and has been married for over 50 years. His passion is to help you
0:23.4	strengthen your most intimate relationship. Welcome to the Awesome Marriage Podcast. We're so glad
0:30.4	that you are joining us today. I'm in the studio here with Dr. Kim. What to do if your marriage
0:36.9	is drifting, how to recognize the signs
0:38.8	and how to reconnect. Before we get started, I want to mention one really great free thing that we
0:44.9	have for you. If you want to stay connected, it is Dr. Kim's marriage multiplier email. It is free.
0:50.9	It is quick. It is practical. And it is once a week. You get this email with lots of
0:54.8	great ways to continually invest in your marriage so that you don't drift. So if you're interested in
1:00.7	that, you need to check it out. The link is in today's show notes. You can also find at
1:04.8	awesomemerage.com. Stay tuned to the end of the episode and we'll talk about a few more things
1:08.8	that we have for you. But let's go and get into this conversation about how to reconnect. Are we ready, Dr. Camp?
1:15.2	Yes, we are. All right. So I want to start by talking about this cultural idea that I think
1:22.9	that it seems to be very accepted culturally for marriages to drift apart over time. I think that
1:27.2	people just kind of expect it. And why do drift apart over time. I think that people
1:27.7	just kind of expect it. And why do you think that is? I think so. I think the first thing I see is
1:33.9	the younger couples, intense, these intense romantic feelings, this newness of the relationship.
1:40.1	Well, that's going to kind of naturally evolve over time, and it's normal.
1:45.4	But when a couple doesn't see it that way, they may think that we're just drifting apart.
1:50.7	Instead of seeing we're entering a new season of marriage, and this new season of marriage can have all those things, but it may just take a little different turn at that point.
1:59.4	I mean, you know, the way, you know, when we were at 20 years old, you know,
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