In this deeply honest and hope-filled conversation, Justin and Trisha Davis open up about their journey through love, ministry, and the real struggles that nearly tore their marriage apart—including infidelity and hidden personal battles. With vulnerability and wisdom, they share how counseling, truth-telling, and taking ownership became the turning points in their healing.

Trisha shares what it looked like to face the pain of betrayal trauma, while Justin reflects on the overwhelming guilt and the hard road to forgiveness. Together, they unpack how our stories, the words spoken over us, and the lies we believe about our worth can deeply affect how we show up in relationships.

But this isn’t just a story about pain—it’s a story about redemption. About the power of grace, the courage it takes to grieve and heal, and the choice to believe that real transformation is possible.

More than behavior change, they point to the heart—the deep, inner work that allows us to discover who we really are and who God has created us to be. Their story is a beautiful reminder that no matter how broken things may feel, healing and hope are always within reach.

 

Episode highlights:

• Rock bottom is still a solid surface to stand when you come alongside Christ.

• Intimacy is to be fully known and know that we're fully loved.

• You never cause someone to have an affair.

• The truth sets you free because it doesn't give any room for the enemy.

• Excavating our past helps us understand our present.

• Redemptive pain can lead to growth.

• Healthy relationships require vulnerability and trust.

• Transformation comes from God's grace and our choices.

 

Questions for reflection:

1. What small, everyday choices are we making in our marriage that could either be building connection—or slowly creating distance?

2. Are there areas of hiddenness in our relationship—past wounds, unspoken frustrations, or shame—that we need to bring into the light?

3. What does forgiveness look like in our relationship right now?

 

Quotes from today’s episode:

• "I had to choose to be a truth teller myself."

• "You never cause someone to have an affair."

• "I believed I have to be perfect to be loved."

• "You can't today, but God still has a plan."

• "Healing is hard, but then it's worth it."

• "You are not as stuck as you think you are."

• "You have to stop gaslighting yourself to grieve."

• "The heart of the book is about what God can do."

Mentioned in this episode:

• Beyond Ordinary: When a Good Marriage Just Isn't Good Enough by Justin & Trisha Davis

• RefineUs Ministries Helping people experience transformation by building healthy, authentic relationships.

• Find Justin and Trisha on Instagram

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