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🗓️ 18 March 2025
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Husbands, have you ever felt like your wife expects too much from you? Wives, have you checked whether your expectations are realistic?
Expectations in marriage can be a difficult topic, and they’re a very common source of marriage tension. Which is why today, we want to help break down misunderstandings around spouse expectations today, so that you can experience better connection and more joy in your marriage.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
Wives may struggle to articulate their needs clearly.
Non-sexual affection enhances sexual intimacy.
Emotional connection is crucial for a healthy marriage.
*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!
Couples Conversation Guide:
Main takeaway: Expectations don't have to be a source of conflict. There's a way to communicate and connect the different wants and needs you have in marriage.
Questions to Discuss:
Are there any expectations that you feel are “too much”?
Husbands, do you need more clarity from your wife about her expectations?
How would you rate how well you actively listen and engage with your spouse?
What would make you a more intentional listener? (time of day, location of conversation, free of distractions, etc.)
When was the last time you checked in with your spouse about the overall health of your marriage relationship.
What are the priorities in your marriage? Do you know your spouse’s priorities? How do they compare?
QUOTES
Wives want to be part of the decision making and feel like it’s a true partnership.
The better the non sexual connection and intimacy is, the better the physical connection and intimacy will be.
Most men weren’t raised to be emotionally expressive.
You don’t have to solve everything.
When I stopped trying to fix it, I heard her better.
A wife wants to feel prioritized.
Learning to say things in a way your spouse can hear takes practice.
You have to accept that God made us different as husband and wife.
The small consistent things you do matter more than perfection.
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0:00.0 | Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast, a place for honest conversations and practical advice on how to build an awesome marriage. |
0:09.7 | I am your podcast producer and co-host, Lindsay Few. On the show will be our host Dr. Kim Kimberly. |
0:17.0 | Dr. Kim is a marriage counselor and has been married for over 50 years. |
0:21.6 | His passion is to help you strengthen your most intimate relationship. |
0:27.8 | Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast. |
0:29.8 | We are so glad that you're joining us today to talk about decoding needy wives, |
0:34.9 | how to love and support her well. |
0:37.2 | And husbands, what we're talking about today is, |
0:38.9 | do you ever feel like your wife kind of expects too much from you? Well, expectations in marriage |
0:43.7 | are a really common source of marriage tension, which is why today, we want to help break down |
0:49.2 | those misunderstandings around your spouse's expectations so that you can experience |
0:53.6 | better connection and more joy |
0:55.8 | in your marriage. So Dr. Kim, one comment we hear from many wives is that they want or need |
1:03.9 | more emotional connection from their husband. Sometimes they feel like they're talking to a wall. |
1:08.7 | Is this something you see in the counseling room? Yes, I think it is. I think most wives don't feel like they're talking to a wall. Is this something you see in the counseling room? |
1:16.9 | Yes. I think it is. I think most wives don't feel like their husbands communicate well or enough. |
1:24.1 | And I think it also goes back to, you know, a lot of times the guy who doesn't communicate in marriage sucked it up and did in the dating. |
1:28.1 | And then you're thinking, but once he got her, he said, that was too hard. |
1:33.4 | And so, you know, you kind of quit doing it. But I think it's, yeah, I think a lot of wives, |
1:37.5 | most of the lives probably feel that at some point. They feel mostly disconnected. |
1:43.2 | Maybe their husband listens, maybe he doesn't, but they really don't actively engage or share their own thoughts or feelings in return. |
1:45.0 | So it becomes very one-sided. |
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