The Art of Charm

In today’s episode, we explore the essential leadership skills that transform good managers into great ones with Sabina Nawaz. As the CEO of Nawaz Consulting, Sabina has advised Fortune 500 executives, government leaders, and nonprofit organizations on how to navigate the complexities of leadership, influence, and communication. Sabina is also the author of You're the Boss: Become the Manager You Want to Be and Others Need. Introduction Join us for an eye-opening conversation with Sabina Nawaz as she breaks down the biggest leadership challenges that most managers never see coming. Why is getting promoted one of the riskiest moments in your career? How does pressure—not power—corrupt even the best leaders? And what simple shifts can transform an overwhelmed boss into a high-impact leader?  What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 Why is getting promoted one of the most dangerous moments in your career? Why do the skills that get you promoted stop working once you’re in a leadership role? What are the three biggest mistakes new leaders make without realizing it? How Communication Defines Great Leadership – 00:09:19 What is the biggest blind spot leaders have when giving feedback? How does a simple two-word question ("Say more") instantly improve communication? The 5-to-1 Rule: How Feedback Shapes Performance – 00:19:45 What is the ideal ratio of positive to corrective feedback—and why is it so high? Why do managers fear giving too much praise, and how does this backfire? How can positive feedback be structured so it actually drives high performance? The Danger of Singular Thinking in Leadership – 00:27:08 How can a simple mental exercise help leaders see multiple perspectives? How can managers prevent team members from playing one leader against another? Mastering Self-Leadership – 00:39:05 How do childhood experiences shape leadership styles, and why does this matter? What micro-habits can leaders use to stay composed and effective under pressure? The Delegation Dial: Why Leaders Struggle to Let Go – 00:49:26 What is the Delegation Dial, and how can it help leaders empower their teams? Why do most meetings waste time—and what should they focus on instead? A Word From Our Sponsors Tired of awkward handshakes and collecting business cards without building real connections? Dive into our Free Social Capital Networking Masterclass. Learn practical strategies to make your interactions meaningful and boost your confidence in any social situation. Sign up for free at theartofcharm.com/sc and elevate your networking from awkward to awesome. Don’t miss out on a network of opportunities! Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our CIA-proven guide to networking like a spy! Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince—where high-end essentials meet unbeatable prices. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Shopify makes it easy to start, scale, and succeed—whether you're launching a side hustle or building the next big brand. Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm. Need to hire top talent—fast? Skip the waiting game and get more qualified applicants with Indeed. Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm. Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Resources from this Episode Sabina’s website You're the Boss: Become the Manager You Want to Be (and Others Need) Sabina Nawaz on LinkedIn Sabina Nawaz on Instagram Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 10 March 2025

In today’s episode, we discuss the psychology of high achievement and sustainable success with Dr. Mary Anderson, who has helped countless professionals break free from burnout while maintaining their edge. She is the author of The Happy High Achiever: 8 Essentials to Overcome Anxiety, Manage Stress, and Energize Yourself for Success Without Losing Your Edge. Join us for an insightful conversation with Dr. Mary Anderson as she unpacks the psychology of high achievement and the hidden mental traps that hold ambitious professionals back. Why do so many high achievers struggle with burnout, stress, and self-doubt? How can we shift from relentless perfectionism to sustainable excellence?  What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 Why do high achievers often feel unfulfilled despite their success? What are the most common self-sabotaging behaviors that high performers struggle with? The S.E.L.F. Formula: Four Pillars of Sustainable Success – 00:04:10 How does exercise directly impact cognitive function and productivity? What simple habit can boost your motivation and prevent burnout? The Troublesome Trifecta: Cognitive Distortions Holding You Back – 00:14:29 What are cognitive distortions, and how do they undermine confidence and success? How does perfectionism limit growth, and what’s a better alternative? Breaking Free from Perfectionism and Impostor Syndrome – 00:26:27 How can high achievers reframe mistakes to fuel progress instead of anxiety? What practical mindset shift helps overcome the fear of failure? The Power of Small Victories – 00:35:01 How can high achievers reframe negative self-talk to break the cycle of avoidance? What simple litmus test helps identify harmful thought patterns? Rewiring Your Brain for Success with the "Thank You, Maui" Practice – 00:47:55 How can high achievers reprogram their thinking to enjoy both success and happiness? What is the one mindset shift that immediately lowers stress and enhances performance? A Word From Our Sponsors Tired of awkward handshakes and collecting business cards without building real connections? Dive into our Free Social Capital Networking Masterclass. Learn practical strategies to make your interactions meaningful and boost your confidence in any social situation. Sign up for free at theartofcharm.com/sc and elevate your networking from awkward to awesome. Don’t miss out on a network of opportunities! Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our CIA-proven guide to networking like a spy! Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince—where high-end essentials meet unbeatable prices. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Shopify makes it easy to start, scale, and succeed—whether you're launching a side hustle or building the next big brand. Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm. Need to hire top talent—fast? Skip the waiting game and get more qualified applicants with Indeed. Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm. Upgrade your space with Thuma—where modern design meets craftsmanship and functionality. Get $100 off your first bed purchase at thuma.co/charm. Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Resources from this Episode Dr Mary Anderson’s website The Happy High Achiever: 8 Essentials to Overcome Anxiety, Manage Stress, and Energize Yourself for Success Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 3 March 2025

In today’s episode, we discuss the most effective approach to fly up the corporate ladder with Melody Wilding, an executive coach, human behavior expert, and acclaimed author of Managing Up: How to Get What You Need From the People in Charge. Recognized as one of Business Insider’s “Most Innovative Coaches,” Melody specializes in guiding sensitive high-achievers—from Fortune 500 leaders to creative visionaries—helping them transform self-doubt into confidence, master their emotions, and unlock their full potential in both their careers and personal lives. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 Overcome the hesitation around having difficult conversations with your boss. Planting ideas in your manager’s mind for future projects and promotions. Signs You Need Help to Improve – 00:10:31 What are the signs you need help communicating your goals and ambitions to your boss? How do you align with your boss on your goals to gain their support and guidance? Implementing Feedback to Exceed Your Boss’s Expectations – 00:22:40 How do you prioritize feedback to show your boss your commitment to growth and value? Why should you avoid helping co-workers too much? Setting Work Boundaries and How to Say No – 00:29:33 How to set workplace boundaries if you struggle with them personally. How do you say no to extra tasks without hurting your relationship with your boss? Avoid Single Points of Failure – 00:39:15 How to secure support from multiple leaders in case your boss or key leader leaves? Strengthen your relationship with your boss while connecting with leadership above them? Raise Your Visibility and Promotability– 00:47:45 How do you increase your visibility so your manager considers you for promotions? How do you quit on a high note and maintain a strong reputation, even mid-project? A Word From Our Sponsors Tired of awkward handshakes and collecting business cards without building real connections? Dive into our Free Social Capital Networking Masterclass. Learn practical strategies to make your interactions meaningful and boost your confidence in any social situation. Sign up for free at theartofcharm.com/sc and elevate your networking from awkward to awesome. Don’t miss out on a network of opportunities! Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our CIA-proven guide to networking like a spy! Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince—where high-end essentials meet unbeatable prices. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Shopify makes it easy to start, scale, and succeed—whether you're launching a side hustle or building the next big brand. Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm. Need to hire top talent—fast? Skip the waiting game and get more qualified applicants with Indeed. Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm. Upgrade your space with Thuma—where modern design meets craftsmanship and functionality. Get $100 off your first bed purchase at thuma.co/charm. Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Resources from this Episode Melody Wilding’s website Managing Up: How to Get What You Need From the People in Charge Melody Wilding on LinkedIn Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 24 February 2025

In today’s episode, we explore the power of connection and overcoming imposter syndrome with Dr. Adam Dorsay, a licensed psychologist, executive coach, and expert in human connection and well-being. As a TEDx speaker, podcast host, and author of Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the 4 Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love, Adam works with high-achieving professionals—from Silicon Valley executives to professional athletes—to help them reignite their passion, find purpose, and create more meaningful relationships in work and life. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What does it truly mean to be super psyched about life and career? Why do so many high-achievers feel disconnected despite outward success? Overcoming Imposter Syndrome – 00:04:36 When does “fake it till you make it” help, and when does it backfire on your career and well-being? Why does the pursuit of success lead you to disconnect from people and the world? The FEED Framework for Finding Purpose – 00:24:40 What are the four pillars of the FEED framework—Flow, Energy, Education, and Depth—and how can they reveal your true passions? Why should you focus on activities that both challenge and energize you? The Driveway Test: Evaluating Relationships and Connections – 00:32:20 What is the Driveway Test, and how can it help you quickly assess which relationships energize or drain you? How can you use the Driveway Test to curate a social circle that elevates your personal and professional life? The Role of Awe and Connection to Something Greater – 00:36:26 How does experiencing awe—whether through nature, art, or human connection—enhance your well-being? Why can something as simple as birdsong be more restorative than meditation? Microdoses of Connection: A Daily Practice – 00:43:30 How can microdoses of connection—like listening to your walk-on song or savoring birdsong—boost your mental health? Why can even 5 minutes of authentic connection have a profound impact on your mood and productivity? A Word From Our Sponsors Tired of awkward handshakes and collecting business cards without building real connections? Dive into our Free Social Capital Networking Masterclass. Learn practical strategies to make your interactions meaningful and boost your confidence in any social situation. Sign up for free at theartofcharm.com/sc and elevate your networking from awkward to awesome. Don’t miss out on a network of opportunities! Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our CIA-proven guide to networking like a spy! Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince—where high-end essentials meet unbeatable prices. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Shopify makes it easy to start, scale, and succeed—whether you're launching a side hustle or building the next big brand. Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm. Need to hire top talent—fast? Skip the waiting game and get more qualified applicants with Indeed. Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm. Upgrade your space with Thuma—where modern design meets craftsmanship and functionality. Get $100 off your first bed purchase at thuma.co/charm. Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Resources from this Episode Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the 4 Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 17 February 2025

In today’s episode, we discuss the science of nonverbal communication and trust with Dr. Abbie Maroño, a leading expert in social influence, trust-building, and body language analysis. As a PhD researcher and international consultant, Abbie specializes in uncovering the hidden cues that shape human interaction, from boardrooms to high-stakes negotiations. Join us as we explore the science of trust and influence with Dr. Abbie Maroño as she reveals the nonverbal signals that shape first impressions and long-term relationships. How does your body language impact your credibility before you even speak? Why do we judge trustworthiness in just 33 milliseconds? And what are the hidden mistakes that sabotage cooperation and leadership?  What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 Why do we misunderstand trust, and what’s the key to building it effortlessly? What subconscious cues determine whether someone perceives us as safe or threatening? How can a single inconsistent action undo months of trust-building? Why Trust Is More Powerful Than Competition – 00:10:38 Why is the “dog-eat-dog” mentality a myth, and how does trust actually lead to greater success? Why do leaders who prioritize cooperation outperform those who rely on control and manipulation? Body Language Secrets for Influence – 00:17:49 What hidden lower-body cues reveal your true emotions—and why do they matter more than facial expressions? Why do open postures and head tilts make you instantly more likable and approachable? How can you use small, subconscious movements to project confidence in high-stakes situations? Nonverbal Communication in the Digital Age – 00:26:47 Why does Zoom and video conferencing disrupt our natural communication instincts? How can lighting, posture, and framing drastically improve your virtual presence? What common virtual meeting mistakes make people appear less trustworthy and more rigid? The #1 Mistake That Destroys Trust – 00:38:49 Why saying “I’m sorry” incorrectly actually damages relationships further. What’s the right way to use eye contact to establish authority without making people uncomfortable? A Word From Our Sponsors Tired of awkward handshakes and collecting business cards without building real connections? Dive into our Free Social Capital Networking Masterclass. Learn practical strategies to make your interactions meaningful and boost your confidence in any social situation. Sign up for free at theartofcharm.com/sc and elevate your networking from awkward to awesome. Don’t miss out on a network of opportunities! Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our CIA-proven guide to networking like a spy! Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince—where high-end essentials meet unbeatable prices. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Shopify makes it easy to start, scale, and succeed—whether you're launching a side hustle or building the next big brand. Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm. Need to hire top talent—fast? Skip the waiting game and get more qualified applicants with Indeed. Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm. Upgrade your space with Thuma—where modern design meets craftsmanship and functionality. Get $100 off your first bed purchase at thuma.co/charm. Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Resources from this Episode Abbie Maroño’s website Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 10 February 2025

In today’s episode, we discuss the science of nonverbal communication and trust with Dr. Abbie Maroño, a leading expert in social influence, trust-building, and body language analysis. As a PhD researcher and international consultant, Abbie specializes in uncovering the hidden cues that shape human interaction, from boardrooms to high-stakes negotiations. Join us as we explore the science of trust and influence with Dr. Abbie Maroño as she reveals the nonverbal signals that shape first impressions and long-term relationships. How does your body language impact your credibility before you even speak? Why do we judge trustworthiness in just 33 milliseconds? And what are the hidden mistakes that sabotage cooperation and leadership?  What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 Why do we misunderstand trust, and what’s the key to building it effortlessly? What subconscious cues determine whether someone perceives us as safe or threatening? How can a single inconsistent action undo months of trust-building? Why Trust Is More Powerful Than Competition – 00:10:38 Why is the “dog-eat-dog” mentality a myth, and how does trust actually lead to greater success? Why do leaders who prioritize cooperation outperform those who rely on control and manipulation? Body Language Secrets for Influence – 00:17:49 What hidden lower-body cues reveal your true emotions—and why do they matter more than facial expressions? Why do open postures and head tilts make you instantly more likable and approachable? How can you use small, subconscious movements to project confidence in high-stakes situations? Nonverbal Communication in the Digital Age – 00:26:47 Why does Zoom and video conferencing disrupt our natural communication instincts? How can lighting, posture, and framing drastically improve your virtual presence? What common virtual meeting mistakes make people appear less trustworthy and more rigid? The #1 Mistake That Destroys Trust – 00:38:49 Why saying “I’m sorry” incorrectly actually damages relationships further. What’s the right way to use eye contact to establish authority without making people uncomfortable? A Word From Our Sponsors Tired of awkward handshakes and collecting business cards without building real connections? Dive into our Free Social Capital Networking Masterclass. Learn practical strategies to make your interactions meaningful and boost your confidence in any social situation. Sign up for free at theartofcharm.com/sc and elevate your networking from awkward to awesome. Don’t miss out on a network of opportunities! Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our CIA-proven guide to networking like a spy! Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince—where high-end essentials meet unbeatable prices. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Shopify makes it easy to start, scale, and succeed—whether you're launching a side hustle or building the next big brand. Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm. Need to hire top talent—fast? Skip the waiting game and get more qualified applicants with Indeed. Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm. Upgrade your space with Thuma—where modern design meets craftsmanship and functionality. Get $100 off your first bed purchase at thuma.co/charm. Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Resources from this Episode Abbie Maroño’s website Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 10 February 2025

In today’s episode, we dive into the science of curiosity, exploration, and human potential with Alex Hutchinson, an award-winning journalist and expert in endurance and neuroscience. A former national team long-distance runner, Alex holds a PhD in physics from Cambridge and a master’s in journalism from Columbia. He has written extensively about the limits of human performance for Outside Magazine and The New Yorker. His latest book, The Explorer’s Gene: Why We Seek Big Challenges, New Flavors, and the Blank Spots on the Map, uncovers the deep-rooted psychological and biological drivers that push us beyond our comfort zones. Join us for a fascinating conversation with Alex Hutchinson as we explore the science behind curiosity, exploration, and the hidden forces that drive human achievement. Why are some people wired to take risks while others avoid uncertainty? How is modern technology reshaping our natural instincts for discovery—and what’s the cost? Alex unpacks the neuroscience of exploration, the impact of mental mapping on creativity, and why embracing uncertainty is the key to personal and professional growth. Discover practical strategies to break free from routine, expand your comfort zone, and harness the power of curiosity to gain a competitive edge in your career and relationships. A Word From Our Sponsors Tired of awkward handshakes and collecting business cards without building real connections? Dive into our Free Social Capital Networking Masterclass. Learn practical strategies to make your interactions meaningful and boost your confidence in any social situation. Sign up for free at theartofcharm.com/sc and elevate your networking from awkward to awesome. Don’t miss out on a network of opportunities! Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our CIA-proven guide to networking like a spy! Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince—where high-end essentials meet unbeatable prices. From Mongolian cashmere to iconic 100% leather jackets and versatile activewear, Quince offers quality at 50-80% less than similar brands. Plus, all items come with free shipping and a 365-day return policy. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Shopify makes it easy to start, scale, and succeed—whether you're launching a side hustle or building the next big brand. With thousands of customizable templates, seamless social media integration, and an all-in-one dashboard for managing sales, shipping, and payments, Shopify is the ultimate tool for entrepreneurs. Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm. Need to hire top talent—fast? With Sponsored Jobs, your post jumps to the top, getting 45% more applications than non-sponsored listings. That’s why over 3.5 million employers worldwide trust Indeed to find great candidates quickly. Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm. Upgrade your space with Thuma—where modern design meets craftsmanship and functionality. With over 17,000 five-star reviews, Thuma’s solid wood beds are precision-crafted using Japanese joinery for a silent, stable foundation. Assembly takes just five minutes—no tools required! Plus, each bed is GREENGUARD Gold certified for cleaner indoor air. Get $100 off your first bed purchase at thuma.co/charm. Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Resources from this Episode Alex Hutchinson’s website The Explorer's Gene: Why We Seek Big Challenges, New Flavors, and the Blank Spots on the Map Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 3 February 2025

In today's episode, we discuss the art and science of conflict resolution with Dr. Jim Guinn, a renowned expert in mediation and interpersonal dynamics. As the president of the Resolution Resource Group, Dr. Guinn has worked with Fortune 500 companies, government organizations, and teams across industries to help them navigate complex disputes and build stronger relationships. He is the co-author of How to Get Along with Anyone: The Playbook for Predicting and Preventing Conflict at Work and Home, where he shares practical strategies for managing conflict before it escalates.  Join us for an insightful conversation with Dr. Jim Guinn as he unpacks the keys to mastering conflict in both personal and professional settings. Why do emotions often derail rational thinking in high-stakes disagreements? How can understanding different conflict styles transform the way we navigate challenges at work and in relationships? Dr. Guinn shares powerful techniques for predicting, preventing, and resolving conflict, drawing from years of experience mediating everything from corporate disputes to family dynamics. Discover how to identify core issues, adapt to others' communication styles, and foster collaboration to achieve win-win outcomes.  What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What is How to Get Along with Anyone, and how can it help you improve both personal and professional relationships? What is mediation, and why is it often a last resort in disputes? What are the biggest misconceptions about difficult people in conflict? The 5 Conflict Styles – 00:06:31 What are the five core conflict styles, and how do they differ? How can you identify your own conflict style and that of others? Why is adapting your approach to match the other person’s style critical for success? Techniques for Managing High-Emotion Conflict – 00:13:48 How does the Voice Technique work to de-escalate tense situations? What is the Detour Technique, and how can it uncover the core issues in a conflict? Why is managing your own emotional triggers key to effective conflict resolution? Predicting and Preventing Conflict – 00:24:03 How can understanding communication patterns help prevent future disputes? What are the three types of conflict—task, process, and relational—and why is identifying them important? How can leaders use conflict styles to build balanced and effective teams? Resolving Conflict with the Domino and Momentum Techniques – 00:44:49 What is the Domino Technique, and when should it be used? Why is the Momentum Technique better suited for certain personalities? How can self-awareness of your own conflict triggers make you a better leader? A Word From Our Sponsors Tired of awkward handshakes and collecting business cards without building real connections? Dive into our Free Social Capital Networking Masterclass. Learn practical strategies to make your interactions meaningful and boost your confidence in any social situation. Sign up for free at theartofcharm.com/sc and elevate your networking from awkward to awesome. Don’t miss out on a network of opportunities! Ready to start your ecommerce business? Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/charm. Grow your business–no matter what stage you’re in. Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our CIA-proven guide to networking like a spy! Resources from this Episode How to Get Along with Anyone: The Playbook for Predicting and Preventing Conflict at Work and at Home The Conflict Docs website Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 27 January 2025

In today’s episode, we discuss the art of confident, compelling communication with Michael Chad Hoeppner, an expert in public speaking and personal development. As the founder and CEO of GK Training, Michael has spent over 15 years coaching leaders, including presidential candidates, Fortune 500 CEOs, and Ivy League deans, to deliver their messages with impact and authenticity. He’s also the author of Don’t Say Um: How to Communicate Effectively to Live a Better Life, a groundbreaking guide that shifts the focus from content to delivery. Introduction – 00:00:00 Why is delivery more critical than ever in today’s AI-driven world? What is the 3F system (Fake it, Feature it, Fix it), and how can it help you recover gracefully during high-stakes communication? Why is agility in communication more important than avoiding mistakes entirely? How can pausing strategically improve clarity and confidence in your delivery? Eliminating Filler Words and Building Confidence – 00:10:03 Why do filler words like “um” and “uh” increase in high-pressure situations, and how can you address them? What is the "perception vs. reality gap," and why do our internal clocks often misjudge pauses? How can recording yourself and analyzing evidence help identify and correct communication habits? What common advice should you avoid if you want to be a better public speaker?  Storytelling as a Career-Accelerating Tool – 00:33:08 Why is storytelling critical for building personal and professional influence? How can creating a "story bank" of go-to anecdotes make you a more effective communicator? What’s the difference between telling and showing in storytelling, and why is the latter more impactful? Practical Exercises for Improving Communication – 00:42:14 What are kinesthetic learning techniques, and how can they improve your public speaking? How does the LEGO block exercise create concise and clear communication habits? Why does practicing with physical impediments (like a toothbrush) improve enunciation and delivery? AI’s Impact on Communication – 00:50:33 How might AI make in-person communication a more valuable and sought-after skill? What are the limitations of AI in mimicking human spontaneity and agility in communication? How can AI tools assist in role-playing scenarios to help practice interviews and presentations? A Word From Our Sponsors Tired of awkward handshakes and collecting business cards without building real connections? Dive into our Free Social Capital Networking Masterclass. Learn practical strategies to make your interactions meaningful and boost your confidence in any social situation. Sign up for free at theartofcharm.com/sc and elevate your networking from awkward to awesome. Don’t miss out on a network of opportunities! Ready to start your ecommerce business? Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/charm. Grow your business–no matter what stage you’re in. Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our CIA-proven guide to networking like a spy! Resources from this Episode Don't Say Um: How to Communicate Effectively to Live a Better Life Michael Chad Hoeppner’s LinkedIn GK Training Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 20 January 2025

In today’s episode, we discuss the art of exceptional communication and the traits that set extraordinary individuals apart with Joe Navarro, a globally recognized expert in nonverbal communication and human behavior. As a retired FBI Special Agent, Joe spent over 25 years mastering the ability to decode body language and behavioral cues in high-stakes situations. Since his retirement, he has authored multiple international bestsellers, including What Every Body Is Saying and The Dictionary of Body Language, which have become essential reading for professionals across industries. Joe’s latest book, Be Exceptional: Master the Five Traits That Set Extraordinary People Apart, provides actionable insights for those looking to elevate their personal and professional lives. Join us for a compelling conversation with Joe Navarro as he unpacks the essential traits that define truly exceptional individuals and explores how we can cultivate them in our own lives. What makes someone stand out in a way that leaves others feeling inspired and empowered? How can observation, self-mastery, and the art of validation transform not only our personal relationships but also our professional success? Drawing from decades of experience as an FBI Special Agent and a leading expert in nonverbal communication, Joe shares profound insights into human behavior and offers practical strategies to become the kind of person others are drawn to. Discover how to elevate your communication, unlock your potential, and start building the habits that will set you apart in today’s fast-paced, competitive world. What to Listen For Introduction – [00:00:00] Who is Joe Navarro, and how did his career with the FBI shape his expertise in nonverbal communication? What inspired Joe to write Be Exceptional, and how does he define being exceptional? Why does Joe believe universities and traditional education systems don’t teach what truly matters for success? The Five Traits of Exceptional People – [00:02:21] What are the five traits that Joe identifies as the cornerstone of being exceptional? How do self-mastery and observation form the foundation for personal growth and impactful relationships? Why is it critical to focus outward and cultivate "benign curiosity" to connect with others authentically? Self-Mastery as a Lifelong Journey – [00:15:44] Why does Joe describe self-mastery as an ongoing process rather than a destination? What practical steps can listeners take to build self-mastery and prepare for future challenges? How can scaffolding small wins in everyday life lead to significant growth over time? The Power of Observation – [00:25:57] How has modern technology dulled our ability to observe others effectively? What are the key components of great observation, and how can they enhance communication and connection? Why is observation essential for understanding the needs, desires, and fears of others? Validation as a Superpower – [00:35:19] Why is validation one of the most overlooked yet impactful aspects of communication? How can you validate others without sacrificing your own opinions or becoming overly agreeable? What are the long-term consequences of failing to validate others in professional and personal relationships? Building Exceptional Relationships – [00:38:31] How can understanding the "why" behind people's behaviors deepen relationships and build trust? What role does curiosity play in creating meaningful connections and expanding your perspective? Why is being present and focused on others the ultimate key to making an impact? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 13 January 2025

In today's episode, we dive into the science of managing conflict and building resilience with Bob Bordone and Joel Salinas, two thought leaders in negotiation and emotional intelligence. Bob Bordone, a senior fellow and former professor at Harvard Law School, is the founder of the Harvard Negotiation and Mediation Clinical Program. Joel Salinas, a neurologist at Massachusetts General Hospital and an instructor at Harvard Medical School, brings a unique perspective from his research in brain science and social connection. Together, they coauthored Conflict Resilience: Negotiating Disagreement Without Giving Up or Giving In, a groundbreaking book that redefines how we approach conflict, not as something to fear but as a powerful opportunity for growth. Join us for an eye-opening conversation with negotiation expert Bob Bordone and neurologist Joel Salinas as they unravel the complex dynamics of conflict and emotional resilience. Why does conflict feel so uncomfortable, and how can we reframe it as an opportunity for growth? How do our brains influence our reactions in high-stakes disagreements, and what strategies can we use to navigate even the toughest conversations? Bob and Joel combine their expertise in negotiation, brain science, and emotional intelligence to offer actionable tools for managing tension, building conflict resilience, and fostering deeper connections in both personal and professional settings. Discover how mastering these skills can enhance your relationships, elevate your leadership, and transform the way you approach challenges. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 Why do they see conflict as an opportunity for growth rather than something to fear? The Science of Conflict and Emotional Triggers – 00:05:07 Why does conflict trigger the same brain mechanisms as physical pain? How can pausing and breathing help re-engage the rational parts of the brain during conflict? What are the first steps to managing emotional triggers in high-stakes disagreements? Naming the Core Issues Behind Conflict – 00:10:37 What does “naming” mean in the context of conflict resilience, and how does it transform conversations? Why is it important to identify and express the emotions underlying a disagreement? How can naming your feelings help de-escalate tension and get to the heart of the problem? The Power of Emotional Vocabulary – 00:16:53 Why do many people struggle to articulate their feelings, especially men? How does a richer emotional vocabulary lead to better conflict outcomes? What practical exercises can help you expand your emotional awareness? Balancing Self and Others in Conflict – 00:30:48 How can highly empathetic individuals set healthy boundaries without feeling guilty? What are the challenges of balancing your own needs with the needs of others? Why is it essential to prepare for how others might react when you assert your needs? Building Conflict Resilience – 00:33:29 What is conflict resilience, and how does it differ from conflict resolution? Why is resilience a prerequisite for effective negotiation and communication? How can you cultivate the mindset and skills to stay present and engaged during disagreements? Creating a Greenhouse for Conflict Resilience – 00:43:12 Why do hostile environments make it harder to engage constructively in conflict? What can leaders do to foster a culture that supports conflict resilience? How does the organization Seeds of Peace inspire young leaders to navigate conflict? Honing Curiosity and Avoiding Misjudgments – 00:47:00 How can curiosity help you uncover the true motivations behind someone’s actions? Why do we often misinterpret others’ identities and intentions in conflict? What techniques can help you think beyond your own perspective and stay curious longer? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 6 January 2025

In today's episode, we are bringing you a compilation of moments from the best interviews of 2024, covering everything from emotional mastery to productivity, building relationships, leadership, overcoming challenges, and living with purpose. Join us for a dynamic journey through some of the most impactful conversations from the past year, featuring insights from world-class experts across business, psychology, and personal development. How can understanding emotions transform your relationships? Why is slow productivity the key to long-term success? What role does empathy play in navigating workplace dynamics? In this special episode, we unpack these themes and more, and our hosts, Johnny Dzubak and AJ Harbinger, tie it all together with actionable takeaways to inspire, motivate, and transform your life. Don’t miss this opportunity to reflect on the hidden forces shaping your behavior and uncover strategies to elevate your relationships, career, and purpose. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 Why is this episode a must-listen for those seeking personal and professional growth? Emotional Mastery and Relationships – 00:02:16 Why is emotional vocabulary essential for self-awareness and deeper connections, according to Karla McLaren? How does labeling emotions help regulate them and improve relationships? What role does jealousy play as a “relational radar,” and how can it guide your behavior? Workplace Dynamics and Empathy – 00:14:26 How does empathy shape team dynamics, as explained by Dr. Tessa West? Why are networking and understanding workplace hierarchies critical for career success? What common missteps do professionals make when navigating workplace relationships? Redefining Productivity – 00:16:18 What is Cal Newport’s concept of slow productivity, and how does it challenge traditional workplace norms? How can focusing on quality over activity help you avoid burnout and achieve more meaningful results? Why does pseudo-productivity dominate knowledge work, and how can you break free? Habits and Communication – 00:24:41 How can small preparatory actions, like setting intentions, drastically reduce workplace conflict? Why is self-awareness essential for creating effective communication habits? Winning the Work vs. Doing the Work – 00:28:27 What’s the difference between delivering work and developing business relationships, according to Mo Bunnell? Why do skills that make you an expert often conflict with those needed to grow professionally? How can you master the shift to winning work while maintaining your technical expertise? High Performance and Resilience – 00:30:22 What are the key principles of performance psychology shared by Eric Potterat, inspired by Navy SEALs? Why is adaptability just as important as grit, according to Ross White? How can psychological flexibility help you navigate life’s challenges and enhance performance? Overcoming Inner Challenges – 00:38:59 How does understanding personal baggage influence relationships and decision-making? Why is self-awareness crucial for achieving personal growth and happiness? Living with Purpose – 00:41:57 How does Jodi Wellman encourage us to confront mortality as a motivator for living fully? How can reflecting on your limited time inspire you to take action today? Unlocking the Unsaid – 00:45:54 Why do people often withhold valuable insights in relationships, according to Jeff Witzler? How can asking better questions deepen your connections and uncover hidden truths? What are the fears and barriers that prevent open communication, and how can you overcome them? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 December 2024

In today's episode, we explore the transformative power of defiance and the role it plays in aligning with our values with Dr. Sunita Sah, a renowned expert in decision-making and organizational psychology. A professor, speaker, and consultant, Dr. Sah empowers leaders to navigate complex ethical landscapes and make principled choices. As the author of Defy: The Power of No in a World That Demands Yes, she redefines what it means to stand up for your values, offering practical tools to resist undue influence and cultivate moral courage.  Join us for an eye-opening conversation with Dr. Sunita Sah as she redefines what it means to say "no" in a world that pressures us to say "yes." Why do we so often comply with demands that go against our values? How can we cultivate the courage to resist undue influence while staying true to ourselves? Dr. Sah delves into the psychology of defiance, the societal impact of compliance, and the powerful ripple effects of standing up for what matters most. Learn how to align your actions with your core values, navigate social pressure with confidence, and become a moral maverick in both your personal and professional life. Discover actionable strategies to unlock the transformative power of principled defiance and reshape the world around you. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 Why is defiance often misunderstood, and how can it be a proactive force for positive change? What is Dr. Sah’s new definition of defiance, and how does it differ from traditional perceptions? Why is acting in accordance with your values crucial in resisting social pressure? How do everyday acts of compliance and dissent shape society at large? Understanding Social Pressure and Compliance – 00:06:09 How does societal conditioning teach us to equate compliance with goodness? What is insinuation anxiety, and how does it inhibit people from resisting bad advice? Why do so many professionals, from healthcare workers to airline crew members, hesitate to speak up in critical situations? The Defiance Compass: A Framework for Decision-Making – 00:18:45 What are the five elements required for true defiance, and how do they align with the concept of informed consent? How can identifying your core values and understanding a situation help you determine when to defy? What are the psychological and physical costs of living out of alignment with your values? How does chronic compliance lead to burnout, stress, and regret? Why is acknowledging and addressing your internal tension a critical step toward principled defiance? Building the Courage to Defy – 00:28:09 How can practicing defiance in low-stakes situations help you build the confidence to act in higher-stakes moments? Why is visualization and scripting important for preparing to act on your values? How can asking clarifying questions like “What do you mean by that?” create powerful ripple effects in group dynamics? Becoming a Moral Maverick – 00:46:04 What does it mean to be a moral maverick, and how can practicing defiance create lasting change? How do small acts of principled defiance lead to greater personal fulfillment and societal impact? What mindset shifts are required to stop equating compliance with being good and embrace defiance as a positive force? How can understanding and practicing principled defiance improve your personal and professional relationships? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 December 2024

In today’s episode, we discuss the science of human decision-making and behavior with Dan Ariely, a world-renowned expert in psychology and behavioral economics. As the James B. Duke Professor of Psychology and Behavioral Economics at Duke University, Dan has dedicated his career to uncovering the irrational patterns that drive our decisions. He’s the author of multiple bestselling books, including Predictably Irrational, The Upside of Irrationality, and The Honest Truth About Dishonesty, where he explores the predictable mistakes we make and how understanding them can lead to better outcomes in life, business, and relationships.  Join us for an eye-opening conversation with Dan Ariely as he explores the hidden biases and patterns that influence our decisions, from everyday choices to life-altering moments. Why do we often invest more time deciding on small purchases than major life decisions? How does regret shape our behavior, and why do we favor inaction over action? Dan shares powerful insights into the psychological forces at play in our decision-making, the tension between market and social norms, and how to build habits and environments that support better outcomes.  What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What is regret, and how does it bias us toward inaction over action? How did Dan’s experience in the hospital lead to groundbreaking research on irrational behaviors? Why do people spend more time on medium-sized decisions than life-changing ones like marriage or buying a house? What does Dan’s research reveal about indecision and its long-term costs? Overcoming Indecision and the Role of Regret – 00:07:24 How does regret influence our tendency to avoid taking action? What mental strategies can we use to frame decisions more effectively and reduce indecision? Why is setting a deadline a critical tool for making tough choices? Building Habits and Simplifying Decisions – 00:17:45 Why is it essential to focus on process rather than outcome when evaluating decisions? How can creating rituals and habits reduce decision fatigue and lead to better outcomes? What are Dan’s personal strategies for avoiding temptation and building productive habits? Market Norms vs. Social Norms – 00:31:56 What are market norms and social norms, and why do they often conflict? How can introducing financial incentives harm social motivations? Why is it difficult to shift back to social norms once market norms dominate a relationship? Trust, Relationships, and Long-Term Success – 00:40:02 How does trust develop in long-term relationships, and why does it thrive under social norms? What role does empathy play in fostering trust and cooperation? Why are open-ended interactions more effective at building trust than transactional exchanges? Actionable Insights for Better Decision-Making – 00:46:00 How can we overcome regret, procrastination, and indecision in daily life? Why should we prioritize the quality of our decision-making process over the unpredictability of outcomes? What steps can leaders take to cultivate trust and align their organizations with social norms? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 16 December 2024

In today's episode, we show you the cheat code to building deep relationships with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael.  Discover the secret language of connection in today’s episode as AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael dive into the concept of emotional bids — the small, powerful moments that make or break our relationships. Why are emotional bids so vital to our personal and professional lives? How can we recognize them, and what happens when we ignore them? AJ and Johnny break down the science of emotional bids, share practical strategies to strengthen your connections, and reveal how simple shifts in awareness can transform the way you interact with others. Whether you're looking to deepen your personal relationships or enhance your influence at work, this episode is packed with actionable insights to help you build lasting, meaningful bonds. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What are emotional bids, and how do they serve as subtle invitations to connect? Why do so many relationships fail due to a lack of awareness about emotional bids? Why is recognizing emotional bids a critical skill for relationship success? How does ignoring your partner’s emotional bids lead to disconnection and eventually the end of the relationship? The Science of Emotional Bids – 0:07:30 How can you predict the success or failure of a relationship based on 3 minutes of interaction? What role does active listening play in identifying emotional bids during everyday conversations? Why is it essential to focus on the emotions behind the words, rather than just the words themselves? What strategies can make you more memorable and likable after just one conversation?  How to Identify Emotional Bids – 0:18:48 What exactly is an emotional bid and how do you recognize them in conversation or in your relationship? What are the Most Common Emotional Bids? – 0:27:30 What are common types of emotional bids, such as bids for attention or emotional support? What does it mean to "turn toward" an emotional bid, and why is it the foundation of lasting relationships? How can "turning away" or "turning against" emotional bids contribute to relationship breakdowns? What are the three ways to respond to emotional bids, and which response guarantees failure? Leverage Emotional Bids for the Strongest Relationship – 0:48:02 What simple exercises can help you become more aware of emotional bids in your daily interactions? How can a lack of attention to emotional bids lead to divorce or long-term relationship issues? Why do emotional bids reflect vulnerability, and how does responding positively encourage deeper connection and trust? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 December 2024

In today's episode, we talk about the value of tribalism with Michael Morris, the Chavkin-Chang Professor of Leadership at Columbia Business School and a Professor of Psychology at Columbia University. A renowned expert in leadership, negotiation, and cultural psychology, he has published over 200 articles in leading journals and recently released his book Tribal, exploring how leaders can harness shared cultural identities to unite and mobilize teams.  Join us for a thought-provoking conversation about the profound role of tribalism in shaping civilization and fostering healthy societies. Why is tribalism more than just a relic of the past? How does the social brain hypothesis explain our innate drive to connect and form groups? Michael Morris sheds light on how human mimicry sets us apart from other species, why tribalism has become such a heated topic, and how it can create vastly different perceptions of reality among people we interact with daily. Discover how politicians leverage tribalism to gain influence, when it becomes toxic to society, and the best ways to navigate relationships in a world divided by differing values.  What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 Why is tribalism a blessing to civilization and a healthy society? What is the social brain hypothesis and how does it impact you tribally? The Hardwiring of Tribalism in Your Brain – 00:12:44 What are the 3 instincts that are hardwired into your brain? How does tribalism protect you, your family, your culture, and nation? How does mimicry set humans apart from other animals that also exhibit mimicry? The Big Deal of Tribalism – 00:23:46 Why and when did tribalism become a controversial topic? Why do certain tribes have such different values?  How Tribalism Shapes Your Worldview – 00:30:17 How can tribalism create a completely different perception of reality from people you interact with everyday? What factors influence the development or destruction of a tribe? Tribalism, Politics, and Grass Roots Movements – 00:41:34 How do politicians leverage tribalism to gain popularity and influence? At what point does tribalism become toxic to a society and what’s the best way to handle it when you know people in other tribes? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 2 December 2024

In today's episode, we explore the transformative power of entrepreneurship and the ownership mindset with Codie Sanchez, an innovative investor, entrepreneur, and author. Codie is the visionary behind Main Street Millionaire, a groundbreaking book that redefines wealth creation by focusing on acquiring small, profitable businesses instead of starting from scratch. With a background in finance and years of experience at powerhouse firms like Goldman Sachs and Vanguard, Codie has become a leading voice in the art of creative deal-making and sustainable business growth. She’s helped thousands transition from the 9-to-5 grind to financial freedom, leveraging strategies that prioritize cash flow, scalability, and lifestyle design.  Join us for an eye-opening conversation with Codie Sanchez as she reveals the untapped potential of acquiring small, profitable businesses to build financial freedom and a life of purpose. What makes buying an existing business less risky—and often more lucrative—than starting one from scratch? How can shifting from an employee to an owner mindset transform your career and lifestyle? Codie dives into the strategies and mindset shifts needed to uncover undervalued opportunities, negotiate creative deals, and scale businesses to achieve cash flow and equity growth. Whether you're an aspiring entrepreneur or a seasoned professional looking to make a leap, this episode is packed with actionable insights to help you think like an owner, build wealth, and take control of your future. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What does Codie see as the deeper purpose behind entrepreneurship and financial independence? How can you shift from thinking like an employee to thinking like an owner? What limiting beliefs hold people back from pursuing entrepreneurship, and how can they overcome them? The Power of Small, Profitable Businesses – 00:10:44 How can you uncover undervalued businesses and transform them into lucrative opportunities? Why is it essential to learn from others’ experience, and how can “stealing” their 10,000 hours accelerate your journey? How can creative deal structures make owning a business more accessible than most people think? Building Wealth Through Acquisitions – 00:17:42 How can strategic acquisitions help you grow your income, expand your customer base, or attract top talent? Why does Codie believe buying multiple small businesses compounds both wealth and freedom? What steps can you take to apply the “rich” framework (Research, Invest, Command, Harness) in your journey to business ownership? Finding Your First Business to Buy – 00:30:17 What should you look for in your first acquisition to ensure it’s a wise investment? In what ways can leveraging your skills and network make the difference in finding the right business to buy? Why do “boring” businesses often lead to higher profits and lower competition? What should you look for in a potential business partner and mentor? Where should you look to get great deals on businesses for sale? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 25 November 2024

In today's episode, we cover the art of negotiation, power dynamics, and effective leadership with Dr. Alison Fragale, a leading authority in organizational behavior. As a distinguished professor at the Kenan-Flagler Business School at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, Alison has dedicated her career to understanding how individuals acquire and exercise power and status within organizations. She is the author of the insightful new book, "Likeable Badass: How Women Get the Success They Deserve," combining her rich academic background with real-world applications, Alison empowers women to assert themselves authentically and achieve their career goals.  Join us for an insightful conversation with Dr. Alison Fragale as she unveils the hidden dynamics of power and status that shape our careers and personal lives. Discover how to balance assertiveness with likability, gain respect without compromising your true self, and build authentic status—even if you're new to an organization or battling imposter syndrome. Alison offers actionable strategies to inspire others to advocate on your behalf, navigate conversations that elevate your influence, and become a more impactful leader in your career and beyond. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What inspired Alison Fragale to develop an interest in organizational psychology? Why understanding the difference between power and status is crucial for building a fulfilling career and personal life. How do you acquire status and then leverage it to gain power? The Catch 22 of Acquiring Power – 00:07:55 What do most people get wrong about what it takes to gain power in your professional and personal life? Can you be true to yourself if you are trying to acquire status and power? The Secret to Balancing Assertiveness with Likability – 00:20:48 What is the key to being respected? How can you be assertive without making people dislike you? What strategy can you use to build your status authentically? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 18 November 2024

In today’s episode, we uncover the secrets of leadership and team dynamics with Patrick Lencioni, a renowned expert in organizational health and teamwork. As the founder and president of The Table Group, Patrick has spent decades helping leaders build stronger organizations through practical tools and strategies. He’s the author of numerous bestselling books, including The Five Dysfunctions of a Team and his latest, The Six Types of Working Genius: A Better Way to Understand Your Gifts, Your Frustrations, and Your Team.  Get ready for an eye-opening conversation with Patrick Lencioni as he unpacks the powerful framework behind The Six Types of Working Genius. What if the key to unlocking your true potential—and that of your team—lies in understanding the types of work that energize and frustrate you? Patrick shares his groundbreaking model for identifying your natural talents, improving collaboration, and reducing burnout in every aspect of life, from your career to your relationships. We’ll explore how these six types of genius impact team dynamics, decision-making, and personal growth, and how embracing your strengths can lead to greater productivity and fulfillment. Whether you're a leader or simply looking to work smarter, this episode is packed with practical insights to help you thrive. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:34 What inspired Patrick Lencioni to develop The Six Types of Working Genius framework? How did personal struggles at work lead Patrick to uncover the six types of genius? Why understanding your working genius is crucial for building a fulfilling career and personal life. The Six Types of Working Genius Explained – 00:04:41 What are the six types of working genius, and how do they relate to the phases of any project? How can identifying your working frustrations help prevent burnout and dissatisfaction? Why does every successful team need a balance of all six geniuses? Applying Working Genius to Team Dynamics – 00:10:13 How can leaders use this framework to optimize team collaboration and performance? What steps can you take to identify and leverage each team member’s genius? How did a real-world software company transform its innovation process using this model? Overcoming Miscommunication and Conflict – 00:19:33 How can understanding your working genius improve communication in personal relationships? What are the common misconceptions about other people’s work styles, and how can this framework resolve them? Why do working frustrations often lead to conflict, and how can teams overcome this? Practical Applications Beyond the Workplace – 00:27:02 How can The Six Types of Working Genius help with tasks like planning a vacation or running a household? Why understanding your genius is the next evolution beyond love languages in personal relationships. How can couples use this framework to reduce stress and improve collaboration at home? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 11 November 2024

In today’s episode, we explore the importance of community spaces and their role in fostering connection and resilience with Aaron Greiner, a pioneering voice in urban design and social infrastructure. As the executive director of CultureHouse, Aaron has transformed underutilized spaces into vibrant “third places” that bring people together, encourage social interaction, and strengthen community ties. With hands-on experience in urban planning and a passion for creating welcoming, inclusive environments, Aaron has been at the forefront of redefining how we view public spaces in urban areas.  Join us for an insightful conversation with Aaron Greiner as he explores the vital role of “third places” in reconnecting our communities and fostering genuine human interaction in a world increasingly dominated by digital connections. How can we reclaim public spaces as hubs for social connection? What are the hidden health and societal benefits of accessible community spaces? Aaron shares his experience transforming vacant storefronts into vibrant pop-ups, discusses the urgent need for social infrastructure, and reveals why gathering spaces are more crucial than ever for individual and collective resilience. Discover actionable ideas to create your own third place, connect with neighbors, and foster a stronger, more supportive community. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What inspired Aaron Greiner to focus on third places and create CultureHouse? How do third spaces differ from traditional public spaces, and why are they essential for community well-being? What challenges did Aaron face when starting CultureHouse, and how has the organization evolved over time? The Role of Third Places in Society – 00:03:14 What are “third places,” and how do they foster social connection and community? Why have traditional third places, like dive bars and cafes, declined, and what does it mean for social infrastructure? How does the setup of a third place affect how people interact and connect? The Importance of Social Infrastructure – 00:07:28 How does Aaron define social infrastructure, and why is it vital to society? Why did Aaron choose a popup model for CultureHouse’s third places, and what benefits does this approach provide? What impact do third places have on local communities, especially those with limited access to public spaces? The Pandemic’s Impact on Community Spaces – 00:08:50 How did COVID-19 exacerbate issues with social isolation and third places? What role did commercial spaces play in social infrastructure before the pandemic, and how has that shifted? How do communities with strong social infrastructure fare better during crises? Research and Evidence Supporting Third Places – 00:10:20 What research highlights the life-and-death impact of social infrastructure in times of crisis? How does the decline in social clubs and organizations contribute to societal division? What can we learn from urban design in cities like Copenhagen to improve third spaces in the U.S.? Suburbanization and Its Effects on Connection – 00:13:41 How has suburbanization and car dependency impacted Americans' ability to connect with each other? What challenges do suburban layouts present for building social infrastructure? How does urban design in Europe foster a greater sense of community compared to the U.S.? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 4 November 2024

In today’s episode, we explore the transformative power of psychological flexibility with Dr. Ross White, an award-winning clinical psychologist and a leader in mental resilience and high-performance coaching. Currently a professor of clinical psychology at Queen’s University Belfast and founder of Strive to Thrive, Dr. White specializes in helping individuals and organizations unlock their potential while safeguarding mental well-being. His latest book, The Tree That Bends: How a Flexible Mind Can Help You Thrive, challenges the relentless “no-limits” mindset and presents a balanced approach to personal growth, integrating acceptance, commitment therapy, and mindfulness. Join us for a compelling conversation with Dr. Ross White as we explore the power of psychological flexibility in achieving true resilience and mental well-being. How can we balance the grit needed for high performance with the adaptability essential for sustainable growth? Dr. White discusses the “get, threat, and reset” modes that guide our energy and performance, revealing how psychological flexibility can protect us from burnout while enhancing success. Discover actionable insights into balancing ambition with rest, redefining mental toughness, and navigating the social pressures that drive relentless striving. This episode offers a new approach to thriving under pressure, helping you to achieve both performance and well-being in your personal and professional life. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What are the “get, threat, and reset” modes that drive our mental energy and resilience? How does Dr. Ross White’s background in clinical psychology influence his approach to high performance and mental well-being? What can listeners expect from Dr. White’s latest book, The Tree That Bends, on balancing ambition with self-care? Redefining Resilience: Beyond Grit – 00:04:28 Why can grit sometimes be a barrier rather than a strength in high-stress environments? What does “thriving” truly mean according to Dr. White, and how does it balance both well-being and performance? How can persistence become counterproductive, and what role does adaptability play in reaching our goals? The Power of Psychological Flexibility in High-Performance Settings – 00:07:49 What is the importance of adaptability for executives, athletes, and other high achievers in preventing burnout? How can the “get, threat, and reset” framework help maintain peak performance while prioritizing mental health? Why should high performers balance drive with self-awareness and adaptability? Embracing Limits and Building Purpose – 00:13:00 What are “when-then” traps, and how can they hinder long-term fulfillment? How does Dr. White recommend redefining success to include well-being and self-care? Why is it vital to build purpose that aligns with personal values, rather than societal expectations? Harnessing Psychological Flexibility to Reduce Stress – 00:19:28 What is “psychological flexibility,” and how can it help us handle life’s stressors with greater resilience? How does comparing oneself to social media “highlight reels” fuel burnout, and what are healthier alternatives? Why is cultivating personal values a cornerstone of thriving under pressure? Techniques for Emotional Awareness and Anchoring – 00:33:41 How can techniques like the “roving reporter” exercise help us detach from negative thought patterns? What is “anchoring,” and why is it essential for managing challenging emotions? Why is emotional awareness crucial for navigating stress and making effective decisions? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 28 October 2024

In today's episode, we discuss anxiety and worry with Ben Eckstein, a leading expert in the treatment of anxiety and rumination. As the owner and director of Bull City Anxiety and OCD Treatment Center, Ben specializes in helping individuals break free from cycles of overthinking and distress. He brings a wealth of clinical experience and knowledge as a therapist, speaker, and author of Worrying is Optional: Break the Cycle of Anxiety and Rumination That Keeps You Stuck, where he explores practical strategies for managing anxiety and reclaiming peace of mind. Through his work, Ben aims to empower others to build balanced lives that align with their values, offering actionable insights for anyone struggling with anxiety. Join us for an insightful conversation with Ben Eckstein as we explore the nature of anxiety, worry, and the mental traps that keep us stuck in cycles of rumination. What drives our constant need to overthink, and how can we shift our relationship with worry to regain control of our lives? Ben shares his expertise on distinguishing between helpful and unhelpful thoughts, the factors that contribute to anxiety, and practical approaches for managing it effectively. Discover actionable strategies to break free from overthinking, cultivate a balanced mindset, and build a life aligned with your values. Learn how to transform worry from a barrier into a tool for growth and resilience in both your personal and professional life. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What is worry, and how can you tell when it becomes a problem in your life? Why do some people worry more than others, and what role do genetics and environment play in anxiety? How can you differentiate between worrying as a habit and worrying as a productive response? Controlling Worry vs. Accepting It – 00:05:26 Why is it important to distinguish between “worry” as a noun and “worrying” as a verb? What aspects of worry are within our control, and when is it best to let go? How can identifying whether a problem is solvable or unsolvable help reduce anxiety? Building a Healthier Relationship with Worry – 00:11:10 What does it mean to have a relationship with worry, and how can you assess whether yours is healthy? Why might some positive beliefs about worry actually perpetuate anxiety? How can reframing your thoughts about worry lead to greater mental freedom? Tools and Techniques to Manage Worry – 00:18:04 What strategies can help you become more aware of your worry patterns? How can scheduling “worry time” or saying worries out loud help diminish their power? Why is practicing attention control essential for breaking the cycle of rumination? Accepting Uncertainty – 00:30:03 How can you develop a “good enough” threshold when seeking certainty? Why is embracing uncertainty an important skill, and what role does acceptance play in managing anxiety? What exercises can help you practice accepting uncertainty in daily life? Helping Others Who Worry – 00:42:55 How can you support a friend or family member who struggles with chronic worry? Why does offering reassurance often fall short, and what are more effective alternatives? What can you do to validate someone’s feelings while encouraging them to build resilience? Replacing Worry with Productive Actions – 00:53:55 What should you replace worry with, and how can you identify healthier coping mechanisms? How can perspective-taking and looking back at past worries help reduce current anxiety? Why is it crucial to find constructive activities that fulfill the same needs that worrying addresses? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 21 October 2024

In today’s episode, we cover overcoming procrastination and loneliness at work with Adam Grant. Adam is a top-rated professor at the Wharton School, the host of the awesome Worklife podcast, and is the author of “Give and Take”, one of his four New York Times bestselling books. Procrastination is associated with laziness by many, but the science shows us otherwise - so if procrastinators aren’t lazy then why do we assume they are, what can you do about your procrastination if you want to change it, and why is now the best time to overcome your procrastination habit?   What to Listen For What can you do today to overcome your procrastination habits? How do we redesign jobs that now have to operate from a distance? Why is it more challenging to work remotely and what can you do to overcome them so you don’t lose your job? What questions can you ask someone to help them figure out what motivates them so you can help them become a happier and more productive employee? What can we do as leaders to help our coworkers and employees grapple with the loneliness that accompanies working from home for many people? What is one of the most powerful antidotes to loneliness that we can give people any time? What simple exercise can you go through with your employees or coworkers to immediately improve their creativity and productivity? What can you do to immediately win the battle over procrastination while you’re working from home? How can you break down your procrastination into understandable chunks so you can easily overcome them? What does the science say about the ideal workplace environment so you can make your office more conducive to your work? What should we be most concerned about as we come out of this quarantine and will we be able to return to normal? If you find yourself procrastinating, it’s not necessarily a problem with your work ethic, but can certainly be a problem with your ability to regulate your emotions. When confronted with a task that makes you feel uncomfortable (angry, uncertainty, frustrated, annoyed, anxious, etc), procrastination can kick in to help you avoid feeling those things. So what can you do to mitigate these responses and overcome your procrastination before it costs you an awesome opportunity? Tune in to find out! A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Whether you’re a professional working at a traditional, home or remote office our new sponsor, Fully, is here to transform your workplace with furniture designed for health, flow and balance. And right now, you can save $50 off the Jarvis standing desk when you visit fully.com/CHARM. Fully—everything you need to make your work flow. Resources from this Episode Adam Grant’s website Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success by Adam Grant Core Confidence Worklife - a podcast hosted by Adam Grant Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 14 October 2024

In today's episode, we discuss the dynamics of relationships, empathy, and conflict resolution with Dr. Warren Farrell, a renowned thought leader in gender studies and communication. As the author of multiple bestselling books, including The Boy Crisis and his latest, Role Mate to Soul Mate: The 7 Secrets to Lifelong Love, Dr. Farrell has spent over 30 years teaching couples the art of effective communication. Named one of the world’s top 100 thought leaders by the Financial Times, he specializes in helping couples build lasting relationships through empathy, appreciation, and conflict-free communication.  Join us for a compelling conversation with Dr. Warren Farrell as he unpacks the emotional dynamics that define our relationships and the steps we can take to nurture lifelong love. How can we resolve conflicts without escalating defensiveness? What’s the secret to creating a conflict-free zone in your relationship? Dr. Farrell shares his deep expertise on how appreciation, empathy, and his transformative 4-step apology can reshape even the most strained relationships. Discover actionable strategies to enhance communication, build deeper emotional connections, and foster a resilient partnership that can weather any storm. Whether you're looking to improve your romantic relationship or strengthen bonds with those closest to you, this episode is packed with practical tips to help you succeed. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What inspired Dr. Warren Farrell to write Role Mate to Soul Mate? How does Dr. Farrell define the difference between a “role mate” and a “soul mate”? What are the common challenges couples face as they transition from passion to routine, and how can they overcome them? Creating a Conflict-Free Zone – 00:06:24 Why is it essential to establish a conflict-free zone in relationships? How does this practice help couples avoid walking on eggshells and promote honest communication? What are the steps involved in the caring and sharing practice that Dr. Farrell recommends? Family Dynamics and Parenting – 00:11:17 How do different parenting philosophies create tension between partners? What is “checks and balance” parenting, and why is it crucial for long-term harmony? How does Dr. Farrell suggest couples manage conflicts regarding child-rearing? The Importance of Regular Appreciation – 00:13:37 Why does regular appreciation help maintain strong relationships? What are the five levels of specificity in appreciation, and how do they deepen emotional connections? How can couples create routines, like weekly date nights, to build appreciation and gratitude into their relationship? The Impact of Modernity on Family Structures – 00:23:01 How does modern society challenge the traditional family structure? What role does the absence of fathers play in the development of boys and girls? Why is the rising rate of single-parent households a product of modern societal shifts? Balancing Career Success with Love – 00:28:21 How do the skills that make you successful at work hinder success in love? What can high-performing professionals do to shift their mindset and improve communication at home? Why is listening, rather than problem-solving, key to strengthening emotional connections? The Importance of Regular Appreciation – 00:35:38 Why does regular appreciation help maintain strong relationships? What are the five levels of specificity in appreciation, and how do they deepen emotional connections? How can couples create routines, like weekly date nights, to build appreciation and gratitude into their relationship? The 4-Step Apology Framework – 00:49:42 What are the four critical components of an effective apology? How can this apology method transform conflict resolution in relationships? Why is tone of voice just as important as the words used in an apology? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 7 October 2024

In today's episode, we review the greatest hits around building resilience and leveraging social skills to get you closer to your goals, drawing on our insightful conversations with Angela Duckworth, Laura Huang, John Livesay, and Steven Hayes. Life gets rough. It’s important to develop good habits while things are going smoothly so when the seas get rough, you have a strong baseline to fall back on. Grit and resilience are integral to your success in life because they make the tough times easier to push through without feeling like the world is collapsing around you. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What is the difference between talent and effort? What is the foundation for reaching your goals and how do you make it strong? What are the two P’s you need to push toward your goals? This always beats talent alone – 00:09:48 What should you focus on if you want to be the best and you weren’t “born with talent?” How do you maintain your passion in something when you keep failing at it? Breaking down goals to make them easy – 00:14:48 How can you break down goals and objectives in a way that makes them feel easier while also motivating you to stick with them? What can you do to stop getting caught up in the past and focus on the future? How to trust your gut – 00:24:05 What can you do to develop your intuition and learn when to rely on it? What will always outperform hard work in the world we live in now? Why is “just be yourself” terrible advice even though there is a kernel of truth embedded in it? Overcome your fear of rejection today – 00:34:46 What one exercise can you do today to overcome your fear of rejection so you can push forward after every “no” without missing a beat? What is the secret to not taking rejection personally so you can maintain your focus and mood in the face of overwhelming rejection? Stop letting your inner critic dictate your life – 00:41:42 What can you do to release the death grip that your inner critic has on your life so you take risks and chase your big goals without fear of failure? Why do you need to develop competence? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 September 2024

In today's episode, we review the greatest hits around building resilience and leveraging social skills to get you closer to your goals, drawing on our insightful conversations with Angela Duckworth, Laura Huang, John Livesay, and Steven Hayes. Life gets rough. It’s important to develop good habits while things are going smoothly so when the seas get rough, you have a strong baseline to fall back on. Grit and resilience are integral to your success in life because they make the tough times easier to push through without feeling like the world is collapsing around you. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What is the difference between talent and effort? What is the foundation for reaching your goals and how do you make it strong? What are the two P’s you need to push toward your goals? This always beats talent alone – 00:09:48 What should you focus on if you want to be the best and you weren’t “born with talent?” How do you maintain your passion in something when you keep failing at it? Breaking down goals to make them easy – 00:14:48 How can you break down goals and objectives in a way that makes them feel easier while also motivating you to stick with them? What can you do to stop getting caught up in the past and focus on the future? How to trust your gut – 00:24:05 What can you do to develop your intuition and learn when to rely on it? What will always outperform hard work in the world we live in now? Why is “just be yourself” terrible advice even though there is a kernel of truth embedded in it? Overcome your fear of rejection today – 00:34:46 What one exercise can you do today to overcome your fear of rejection so you can push forward after every “no” without missing a beat? What is the secret to not taking rejection personally so you can maintain your focus and mood in the face of overwhelming rejection? Stop letting your inner critic dictate your life – 00:41:42 What can you do to release the death grip that your inner critic has on your life so you take risks and chase your big goals without fear of failure? Why do you need to develop competence? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 September 2024

In today's episode, we review the greatest hits around building resilience and leveraging social skills to get you closer to your goals, drawing on our insightful conversations with Angela Duckworth, Laura Huang, John Livesay, and Steven Hayes. Life gets rough. It’s important to develop good habits while things are going smoothly so when the seas get rough, you have a strong baseline to fall back on. Grit and resilience are integral to your success in life because they make the tough times easier to push through without feeling like the world is collapsing around you. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What is the difference between talent and effort? What is the foundation for reaching your goals and how do you make it strong? What are the two P’s you need to push toward your goals? This always beats talent alone – 00:09:48 What should you focus on if you want to be the best and you weren’t “born with talent?” How do you maintain your passion in something when you keep failing at it? Breaking down goals to make them easy – 00:14:48 How can you break down goals and objectives in a way that makes them feel easier while also motivating you to stick with them? What can you do to stop getting caught up in the past and focus on the future? How to trust your gut – 00:24:05 What can you do to develop your intuition and learn when to rely on it? What will always outperform hard work in the world we live in now? Why is “just be yourself” terrible advice even though there is a kernel of truth embedded in it? Overcome your fear of rejection today – 00:34:46 What one exercise can you do today to overcome your fear of rejection so you can push forward after every “no” without missing a beat? What is the secret to not taking rejection personally so you can maintain your focus and mood in the face of overwhelming rejection? Stop letting your inner critic dictate your life – 00:41:42 What can you do to release the death grip that your inner critic has on your life so you take risks and chase your big goals without fear of failure? Why do you need to develop competence? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 September 2024

In today's episode, we explore money and investing with Mark Matson. Mark is an American entrepreneur, author, and innovator in the science of investing and financial education. He creates educational experiences, platforms, and tools that make investing research accessible to investors and transform their relationship with money. His new book, “Experiencing the American Dream: How to Invest Your Time, Energy, and Money to Create an Extraordinary Life” is out now. Mark challenges the traditional definition of the American dream and what many of us get wrong when defining it. Join us for an insightful conversation with Mark Matson as we discuss why money doesn’t equal happiness and how more money leads to more stress, why you need to understand academic investment principles to save yourself from gambling your retirement away, how to overcome the scarcity mindset to build your American dream, and what it takes to find your purpose and live an extraordinary life. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:28 How does Mark Matson define the American dream differently? What problems does money NOT solve? Identify Your Blindspots with Money – 00:09:03 How do you identify your blindspots with money and then fix them so they don’t hinder your success in life? What can you focus on to make ANY amount of money feel like enough? Intelligent Investing vs Stock Gambling – 00:16:15 What behaviors in the stock market make you a gambler vs an investor? Are big investing firms actually great at investing your money or just lucky over the long term? Why is the investing industry broken and can it be fixed? What are the 3 academic investing principles you can apply to mitigate the biggest risks associated with investing? Why Investing Solo Will Lose You Money – 00:27:34 What natural human tendencies make it an uphill battle to succeed as a solo investor and what value does a coach bring to the table? How do you apply the 3 academic investing principles when you’re just starting out? The Investing Roadmap to Prosperity– 00:39:01 What is the secret to creating life changing wealth? How do you build financial security and freedom if you don’t want to be an entrepreneur? 5 Discoveries That Will Change How You Think About Money – 00:48:22 What 5 facts about investing will change the way you think about money and help prevent you from making huge mistakes? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 September 2024

In today's episode, we explore the world of accelerated learning and skill mastery with Scott Young, a leading expert on self-directed learning and productivity. As the best-selling author of Ultralearning and Get Better at Anything: 12 Maxims for Mastery, Scott has transformed the way people approach acquiring new skills, pushing the boundaries of what’s possible through deliberate practice and innovative techniques. Known for his ambitious project of learning MIT's 4-year computer science curriculum in just one year without attending any classes, Scott has dedicated his career to understanding how we can learn faster, overcome our fears, and achieve mastery in any field. Join us for an insightful conversation with Scott Young as he shares with us the art and science of ultra learning—how we can master new skills at an accelerated pace and break through the barriers that hold us back. What are the most effective ways to learn quickly and efficiently? How can we overcome the fear of failure and the anxiety that often accompanies new challenges? Scott shares his expert insights into the principles of deliberate practice, the importance of feedback, and the myths that often cloud our understanding of talent and ability. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:28 How did Scott Young become a leading expert in self-directed learning and skill mastery? What inspired Scott to tackle the challenge of learning MIT’s 4-year computer science curriculum in just one year without attending any classes? What are the core ideas behind Scott's books Ultra Learning and Get Better at Anything, and how can they help you master new skills faster? The Three Pillars of Learning – 00:02:34 What are the three essential steps to mastering any skill? What examples demonstrate that talent often appears effortless due to extensive practice and refinement? How can you apply these insights to push past the limits of what you believe is possible for yourself? Overcoming Fear and Embracing Exposure – 00:10:49 Why is exposure to what you're afraid of critical for overcoming fear and anxiety in learning? How can gradual exposure to challenging situations, like public speaking or cold calling, help reduce fear over time? What are some practical strategies to start applying exposure therapy in your personal and professional life? Unlearning Bad Habits – 00:18:42 What challenges come with unlearning ingrained habits, and how can you effectively replace them with better techniques? How did AJ’s experience with unlearning a golf swing illustrate the difficulties and importance of relearning a skill the right way? Why is it sometimes necessary to learn completely new approaches when trying to unlearn bad habits? The Importance of Simplification in Early Learning – 00:22:21 How does starting with simplified versions of a skill help accelerate the learning process? What can we learn from flight simulators about the benefits of practicing in a controlled, simplified environment before facing real-world challenges? Why does beginning with the basics lay a stronger foundation for mastering more complex skills later on? The Value of Variable Practice – 00:28:04 How does variable practice, or mixing up different types of practice, enhance learning and adaptability? Why is practicing in varied conditions more effective than repetitive practice, and how can this approach be applied to everyday learning? What are some examples of variable practice that can be used for skills like language learning, sports, or public speaking? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 16 September 2024

In today’s episode, we cover emotions and empathy with Karla McLaren, a renowned expert in emotional intelligence and empathy development. As an award-winning author, educator, and social science researcher, Karla dedicated her career to helping individuals and organizations understand and harness the power of emotions. She developed the "Six Essential Aspects of Empathy" model, which breaks down empathy into accessible and actionable steps, making it possible for everyone to enhance their emotional skills. Karla's books, including "The Language of Emotions," "The Power of Emotions at Work," and "Embracing Anxiety," offer transformative insights into revaluing even the most challenging emotions, turning them into pathways for self-awareness, effective communication, and healthier relationships. Join us for an enlightening conversation with Karla McLaren as she unpacks the intricate language of emotions and the vital role they play in our daily lives. Ever wondered why certain emotions feel so overpowering or why we struggle to articulate what we're feeling? Karla breaks down the complexities of emotional intelligence and empathy, offering practical tools to expand your emotional vocabulary and improve your communication skills. We explore how emotions are not the enemies of rationality but essential allies in decision-making and relationship-building. Discover how to manage challenging emotions like anger and jealousy, set healthy boundaries, and develop a deeper connection with yourself and others. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 Why do we often feel strong negative emotions even in our most loving relationships? How does vulnerability play a crucial role in the intensity of emotions experienced in close relationships? Introduction to Karla McLaren and her journey into exploring the language of emotions and empathy. Understanding Emotions – 00:02:46 What are emotions, and why are they essential to our rationality and decision-making? Why is it unhelpful to label emotions as simply ‘good’ or ‘bad’? How does expanding your emotional vocabulary improve your self-awareness and emotional regulation? Building an Emotional Vocabulary – 00:05:28 What are the benefits of having a broader emotional vocabulary? How can identifying the intensity of emotions help you manage them more effectively? Practical steps to enhance your emotional vocabulary and how it can lead to better communication. Anger and Boundaries – 00:16:01 What is the true purpose of anger, and how does it relate to setting boundaries? Common misconceptions about anger and how they can lead to unhealthy expressions or repression. Strategies for managing anger constructively to maintain and reinforce personal boundaries. Resist Emotional Manipulation – 00:27:20 What easy questions can you ask yourself to figure out if/how someone is trying to convince you to do something or think a certain way? The Role of Jealousy – 00:32:36 What triggers jealousy, and why is it considered a crucial social emotion? How to differentiate between healthy jealousy that sets boundaries and unhealthy reactions driven by insecurity. Tips on addressing jealousy in relationships through clear communication and understanding personal needs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 September 2024

In today's episode, we dive into the psychology of influence and brand growth with Leslie Zane, a pioneer in the field of behavioral science and marketing. As the founder and CEO of Triggers Brand Consulting, Leslie has been at the forefront of helping top brands like Coca-Cola, McDonald’s, and Nike accelerate their growth by understanding the subconscious drivers of consumer behavior. With a background that spans behavioral science, marketing, and brand strategy, she is also the author of “The Power of Instinct: The New Rules of Persuasion in Business and Life”, where she reveals how tapping into the instinctive mind can lead to unparalleled success in business and personal branding. Join us for an eye-opening conversation with Leslie Zane as she reveals the power of the instinctive mind in shaping our decisions and brand preferences. Have you ever wondered why some brands stand out effortlessly while others struggle to make an impact? Leslie uncovers the subconscious drivers that influence our choices and explains how businesses—and individuals—can leverage these insights to gain a competitive edge. Leslie also shares practical tips for crafting a compelling personal brand that resonates on a deeper level. Discover how to tap into the instinctive mind to enhance your influence, master persuasion, and set yourself apart in both your professional and personal life. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What drove Leslie Zane to pioneer the field of brand connectomes and behavioral science in marketing? How did Leslie’s early career experiences shape her understanding of consumer behavior and influence her approach to brand consulting? What are the key principles behind Leslie’s book, The Power of Instinct, and how can they be applied to both personal and business growth? The Instinctive Mind and Brand Connectome – 00:01:55 What is the instinctive mind, and why does it play a more significant role in decision-making than the conscious mind? How does the brand connectome influence consumer choices, and why is it crucial for brands to expand their connectome in consumers' minds? Why do brands need to stand for multiple associations rather than a single attribute to be successful? Building a Personal Brand with Subconscious Triggers – 00:07:22 How can individuals apply the principles of the brand connectome to develop a strong personal brand? What are growth triggers, and how can they be used to build positive associations quickly and effectively? Why is it important to create a holistic personal brand that connects with various aspects of people’s subconscious? Overcoming Legacy Brand Challenges – 00:11:49 Why do legacy brands have an inherent advantage, and how can new brands compete effectively? What are some examples of small brands overtaking legacy brands by using strategic triggers and targeted messaging? How can legacy brands continuously evolve their connectome to stay relevant and combat negative associations? Actionable Advice for Personal and Professional Growth – 00:21:55 How can listeners apply Leslie’s insights on brand connectomes and subconscious triggers to accelerate their careers and personal growth? What are the critical steps in building a personal brand that resonates with employers, clients, and networks? Why is it essential to control your narrative and make strategic connections between your brand and your target audience? Navigating Negative Associations and Competitive Strategies – 00:29:21 Why are negative associations so powerful, and how can they become significant barriers to brand growth? How can brands effectively address and replace negative associations with positive triggers? What competitive strategies can brands use to leverage the relativity principle and contrast against competitors? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 2 September 2024

In today's episode, we discuss the hidden forces that shape human behavior and global challenges with Kristian Rönn, a leading thinker in sustainability and evolutionary psychology. As the CEO and cofounder of Normative, Kristian revolutionized how businesses approach sustainability accounting, helping large enterprises achieve their net zero targets. With a rich background in mathematics, philosophy, computer science, and artificial intelligence, he is also the author of "The Darwinian Trap: The Hidden Evolutionary Forces That Explain Our World (and Threaten Our Future)", where he unpacks the evolutionary pitfalls that hinder long-term success and offers insights into how cooperation and high-value behaviors can lead to better decision-making and a brighter future for all. Join us for a thought-provoking conversation with Kristian Rönn as he uncovers the evolutionary forces that silently shape our world and the challenges we face in both personal and global contexts. How do these hidden forces drive human conflict and short-term thinking? What can we do to avoid the Darwinian traps that hinder long-term success? Kristian shares his deep insights into the psychological underpinnings of our behavior, the impact of competitive pressures on society, and the importance of fostering cooperation to create a better future. Discover actionable strategies to navigate these evolutionary pitfalls, enhance your decision-making, and become a more high-value, cooperative leader in your career and beyond. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What sparked Kristian Rönn’s passion for understanding the evolutionary forces behind human behavior and global challenges? How did Kristian’s journey from Oxford’s Future of Humanity Institute to founding Normative shape his perspective on sustainability and global risks? What is the central thesis of Kristian’s book, The Darwinian Trap, and why is it crucial for our future? The Darwinian Trap: Evolutionary Forces in Action – 00:06:13 What is the Darwinian Trap, and how does it explain the short-term thinking and conflicts we see in society? How do evolutionary pressures influence everything from nation-state conflicts to personal career competition? What are the "Darwinian demons" we must be aware of, and how can they impact decision-making on both a personal and global level? The Hidden Costs of Short-Term Thinking – 00:24:26 How can short-term evolutionary strategies be both beneficial and harmful in different contexts? What are some real-world examples of how short-term thinking has led to long-term problems, and how can we avoid these pitfalls? Why is it easier to destroy than to build, and how does this concept relate to the challenges we face today? Navigating the Complexities of Modern Society – 00:36:20 How has globalization and the interdependence of nations both helped and hindered global cooperation? Why is decentralized power important in creating a more equitable and cooperative future? Building a Better Future: Cooperation and Governance – 00:45:27 How can we overcome the cooperation failures that drive global conflicts and environmental degradation? What role can reputational markets and decentralized governance play in solving these complex problems? What are the potential dangers of technological advancements, particularly in AI, and how can we manage these risks responsibly? What actionable steps can individuals take to contribute to a more collaborative and sustainable world? Concluding Thoughts and Optimism for the Future – 00:56:23 Despite the challenges, what gives Kristian optimism about the future of humanity and our ability to overcome the Darwinian Trap? How can meditation and introspection help individuals maintain a positive outlook in the face of global challenges? Where can listeners learn more about The Darwinian Trap and Kristian Rönn’s work on sustainability and global risks? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 26 August 2024

In today's episode, we explore the crucial mindset shift from doing the work to winning the work with Mo Bunnell, a renowned business growth expert and founder of the Bunnell Idea Group. With decades of experience helping organizations scale and thrive, Mo has dedicated his career to teaching professionals how to elevate their approach to relationship-building and business development. As the author of "The Snowball System: How to Win More Business and Turn Clients into Raving Fans" and host of the "Real Relationships, Real Revenue" podcast, Mo brings a wealth of knowledge on how small, consistent actions can lead to exponential growth in your career and business. Join us for an engaging conversation with Mo Bunnell, where he reveals the secrets to shifting from simply doing the work to winning the work in your career. How can you overcome the internal obstacles that hold you back from building meaningful relationships and growing your business? What are the small, consistent habits that can lead to exponential success over time? Mo shares his expert strategies on developing a winning mindset, the art of giving to grow, and the critical shifts in communication that can help you move from being a good performer to a top performer. Discover actionable insights to elevate your career, deepen your professional relationships, and unlock new opportunities in both your business and personal life. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What inspired Mo Bunnell to focus on the mindset shift from doing the work to winning the work? How has Mo’s extensive experience in business growth shaped his approach to relationship building and business development? What key principles from "Give to Grow" can help you elevate your career and business relationships? The Mindset Shift: Doing the Work vs. Winning the Work – 00:02:16 What is the crucial difference between doing the work and winning the work, and why is it essential for career growth? How can you start thinking 10x, not 1x, to overcome internal fears and embrace opportunities? What are the key habits that successful professionals use to transition from a delivery-focused mindset to a growth-oriented one? Overcoming the Lies That Hold You Back – 00:13:47 What are the five common lies we tell ourselves that hinder our success in relationship building? How can you identify and counteract these lies to maintain momentum in your career? Why is it important to act through discomfort and rejection to achieve long-term success? Integrating Relationship Development with Daily Work – 00:19:47 How can you seamlessly integrate relationship building into your daily tasks without feeling overwhelmed? What are practical examples of small, consistent actions that can lead to significant career growth? How can face-to-face interactions dramatically increase your chances of success in building relationships? The Power of Giving to Grow – 00:31:39 What does it mean to “give to grow,” and how can this mindset transform your professional relationships? How can you provide value even when you feel you have nothing to give? What are the four types of gifts you can offer to deepen relationships and create opportunities? Strategic Giving and Setting Boundaries – 00:43:38 How can you be a strategic giver without getting taken advantage of? What are the boundaries you need to set to ensure that your giving leads to mutual growth? How can asking for small commitments from others help you identify who’s worth investing in? Building Habits for Long-Term Success – 00:51:47 How can you create routines and habits that naturally lead to winning the work? What is the importance of maintaining a list of key opportunities and relationships, and how can this practice drive your success? How can focusing on three most important things (MITs) each week create unstoppable momentum in your career? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 19 August 2024

In today's episode, we dive into the art of productive discourse, the challenges posed by modern technology, and the 10 essential habits of a peacemaker with Steven T. Collis, a distinguished law professor and expert in First Amendment rights. As a scholar dedicated to understanding and navigating the complexities of free speech and religious liberty, Steven has spent years engaging in some of the most contentious topics of our time. His insightful perspectives have been shared across North America, where he educates audiences on the sophisticated tactics used by social media companies to keep us addicted and the importance of intellectual humility in today's polarized world. In this episode, we explore key insights from his upcoming book, "Habits of a Peacemaker," available this September. Join us for an insightful conversation with Steven T. Collis, where he discusses the challenges of modern communication and the critical role of peacemaking in today's polarized society. How can we break free from the habits that social media companies have engineered to keep us addicted and instead foster more productive and meaningful discourse? What are the essential habits that can help us navigate difficult conversations and bridge divides? Steven shares his expert insights on cultivating intellectual humility, the power of real learning, and the surprising ways humor can be a tool for connection. Discover practical strategies to become a more effective peacemaker, enhance your relationships, and contribute to a more respectful and understanding world both online and offline. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What inspired Steven T. Collis to write "Habits of a Peacemaker" and why is peacemaking more important than ever? How does Steven’s background in First Amendment law influence his approach to productive discourse? What challenges do modern technologies, especially social media, pose to our ability to engage in meaningful conversations? The Art of Productive Discourse – 00:03:00 What habits can help you engage in more productive and respectful conversations? How can you overcome the addictive nature of social media to focus on real learning and intellectual humility? Why is it important to seek out differing viewpoints, and how can this practice improve your understanding of complex issues? Social Media's Impact on Communication – 00:10:45 How do social media platforms use psychological techniques from the gambling industry to keep users engaged? What are the dangers of echo chambers and how can they hinder productive discourse? What strategies can you use to protect yourself from the negative effects of social media on your communication habits? Developing Intellectual Humility – 00:16:14 What does it mean to have intellectual humility, and why is it crucial for productive dialogue? How can you reframe conversations to focus on learning rather than debating? Why is it important to recognize the limits of your knowledge, especially when discussing complex topics? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 12 August 2024

In today's episode, we explore the rise of cynicism, strategies to cultivate hope, and the crucial difference between skepticism and cynicism with Dr. Jamil Zaki, a distinguished professor of psychology at Stanford University and director of the Stanford Social Neuroscience Laboratory. Dr. Zaki has spent nearly two decades studying how people connect with each other, how these connections benefit us, and how we can improve our ability to connect. His groundbreaking research has been featured in top-tier publications such as The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Scientific American. In this episode, we explore insights from his upcoming book, "Hope for Cynics: The Surprising Science of Human Goodness," available this September. Join us for an engaging conversation with Dr. Jamil Zaki, where he unpacks the rise of cynicism and offers practical strategies to foster hope and trust. How can you recognize and combat your own cynical tendencies in a world that often feels increasingly distrustful? What are the key differences between healthy skepticism and detrimental cynicism? Dr. Zaki shares his expert insights on cultivating a more positive outlook, drawing from his extensive research and groundbreaking work. Discover effective strategies to nurture hope, improve your relationships, and create a more trusting and cooperative environment both personally and professionally. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 How does Dr. Jamil Zaki's extensive background in psychology and social neuroscience inform his approach to combating cynicism? What personal experiences inspired Dr. Zaki to focus on the rise of cynicism in his research? How does Dr. Zaki define cynicism and its impact on both personal and professional relationships? Recognizing and Combating Personal Cynicism – 00:06:28 What are the key differences between healthy skepticism and harmful cynicism? What strategies can you use to cultivate a more hopeful and trusting mindset? The Contagion of Cynicism – 00:13:45 In what ways is cynicism contagious, and how does it spread through groups and organizations? How can you counteract the spread of cynicism within your own social and professional networks? How does organizational cynicism from leaders affect employees and company culture? What are the consequences of micromanagement and lack of trust in a work environment? Strategies to Foster Hope and Trust – 00:18:04 How can you build trust and positivity within your immediate team or social circle? Demographic Trends in Cynicism – 00:24:27 How can you identify your own cynical tendencies? What demographic groups are experiencing the highest rise in cynicism, and why? How do generational differences impact levels of trust and cynicism? What are the implications of increasing cynicism among younger generations for the future of society? What factors contribute to the increasing levels of cynicism in today's society? How have historical trends and recent events, such as the pandemic, influenced collective trust and cynicism? Cultivating Hope and Trust – 00:34:14 How does Dr. Zaki differentiate between hope and optimism? What are practical steps to foster hope and maintain a positive outlook? How can you support friends and family members who are struggling with cynicism? What is the concept of "trusting loudly," and how can it enhance your relationships? How can collecting more social data help you challenge and overcome negative assumptions about others? Final Thoughts and Resources – 00:45:34 Where can listeners learn more about Dr. Jamil Zaki's research and his new book, "Hope for Cynics"? What additional resources are available for those looking to improve their social and emotional health? How can listeners apply the insights from this episode to their own lives and relationships? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 5 August 2024

In today's episode, we explore the vital importance of social health, strategies to foster meaningful connections, and the transformative power of relationships with Kasley Killam, a renowned expert in social health and connection. Kasley has dedicated over a decade to advancing global well-being through her work with organizations like Google, the US Department of Health and Human Services, and the World Economic Forum. Her insights have been featured in prestigious publications such as The New York Times, Scientific American, and Psychology Today. In this episode, we uncover key takeaways from her book, "The Art and Science of Connection: Why Social Health is the Missing Key to Living Longer, Healthier, and Happier," available now. Join us for an insightful conversation with Kasley Killam, where she explores the essential components of social health and the art of building meaningful connections. How can you enhance your social well-being in a world increasingly driven by technology and individualism? What are the fundamental practices to nurture quality relationships that truly enrich your life? Kasley shares her expert strategies for assessing and improving your social health, drawing from her extensive research and impactful work. Discover the transformative 531 guideline for social connection and the steps to integrate diverse, fulfilling relationships into your daily life. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:27 How does Kasley Killam's extensive background in social health and public health shape her approach to building meaningful connections? What inspired Kasley to focus on social health and connection in her career? How does Kasley define the concept of social health and its significance in today’s society? How Can You Understand and Improve Your Social Health? – 00:02:15 Why does Kasley believe that social health is as important as physical and mental health? How can you accurately assess your own social health? What are the three core characteristics of being socially healthy? How Does Technology Impact Your Social Health? – 00:10:28 How does technology influence our social health, both positively and negatively? What are the pitfalls of relying too much on technology for social connections? How can you use technology thoughtfully to enhance your social health? What is the 531 Guideline and How Can It Transform Your Life? – 00:19:22 What is the 531 guideline and how can it help improve your social health? How can you implement the 531 guideline in your daily life? What are some practical examples of connecting with five different people each week? How do you bring connection back into your life if you feel isolated? What are the signs that the relationships you are in are not mutually beneficial and holding you back? Why Should You Cultivate Diverse Relationships? – 00:36:18 Why is it important to have a diverse social portfolio? How do connections with people from different backgrounds and cultures benefit your social health? What steps can you take to build and maintain diverse relationships? How Can You Prioritize Connection in a Busy Life? – 00:41:14 What small steps can you take to weave connection into your busy schedule? How can you be present and prioritize quality over quantity in your interactions? Why is it essential to balance alone time and social time, especially for introverts? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 29 July 2024

In today's episode, we explore the art of conflict resolution, negotiation strategies, and transforming challenging relationships with Dr. William Ury, a distinguished expert in the field of negotiation and conflict mediation. Dr. Ury is the co-founder of Harvard's Program on Negotiation and has nearly 50 years of experience in resolving some of the world's toughest conflicts. His seminal works include the bestsellers "Getting to Yes" and "Getting Past No," which have sold over 5 million copies worldwide. In this episode, we explore insights from his latest book, "Possible: How We Survive (and Thrive) in an Age of Conflict," available now. Join us for an enlightening discussion with Dr. William Ury, where he unravels the nuances of conflict resolution and high-stakes negotiation. How can you turn a seemingly insurmountable conflict into a collaborative opportunity? What are the key techniques to prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for tough negotiations? Dr. Ury shares his top strategies for avoiding common negotiation pitfalls and engaging constructively, drawing from his vast experience and groundbreaking work. Discover how to build a "golden bridge" in negotiations and the essential steps to transforming difficult relationships into productive partnerships. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00 How does Dr. William Ury's extensive background in negotiation and anthropology shape his approach to conflict resolution? What drew Dr. Ury to the field of negotiation and conflict mediation early in his career? How does Dr. Ury define the concept of a "possibilist" and its significance in today's world? Understanding Conflict – 05:02 Why does Dr. Ury believe that more conflict is necessary for growth and change? How does he differentiate between destructive and constructive conflict? What is the importance of "going to the balcony" in managing conflict effectively? The Power of Pausing – 13:04 What role does pausing play in reducing emotional reactivity during negotiations? How can the simple act of pausing transform a negotiation's outcome? What is the magic question you can use to find the best compromise in a negotiation? Building the Golden Bridge – 25:15 What is the "golden bridge" strategy and how can it facilitate successful negotiations? How does listening actively help in building a golden bridge for the other side? Why is it crucial to understand your own objectives and the underlying interests behind them? How can you prepare effectively for a negotiation by considering the other side’s perspective? What You Must Avoid in Negotiations – 30:14 What are the three common pitfalls in negotiation and how can you avoid them? What steps can you take to create a collaborative atmosphere in negotiations? Leveraging Curiosity and Creativity – 33:21 How does curiosity drive creativity in finding solutions during negotiations? What are some effective "what if" questions to ask that open up new possibilities? How can separating evaluation from creation enhance the brainstorming process in negotiations? Transforming Relationships through Conflict – 39:31 How does engaging in conflict with curiosity and respect transform relationships? Why is focusing on long-term relationship building more beneficial than seeking short-term wins? How can understanding and articulating mutual interests lead to successful conflict resolution? The Victory Speech Exercise – 52:23 What is the "victory speech" exercise and how can it shift the negotiation dynamic? How did Dr. Ury use this exercise to help de-escalate tensions between Donald Trump and Kim Jong Un? Why is envisioning the other side’s victory speech a powerful tool in negotiation? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 22 July 2024

In today's episode, we dive into the intricacies of workplace dynamics, career satisfaction, and professional growth with Tessa West, a leading expert in the science of interpersonal communication. Tessa is a professor of psychology at New York University and one of the world's top researchers on social perception. Her acclaimed work includes the books "Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them" and her latest release, "Job Therapy: Finding Work That Works for You" available July 23, 2024. Join us for an insightful conversation with Tessa West, where she unpacks the complexities of workplace dynamics and career satisfaction. How can you turn a difficult coworker into an ally? What are the exact questions to ask when networking to ensure you land the best job offers? Tessa shares her top strategies for identifying the top 5 career frustrations and navigating them effectively, drawing from her extensive research and personal experiences. Discover how to leverage your network in salary negotiations and the critical steps to finding work that truly fulfills you. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How does Tessa West's background in social perception and psychology inform her insights on workplace dynamics? What are the psychological tensions people experience at work that Tessa identifies in her book? How can fear of uncertainty and status loss impact career decisions? The Five Key Drivers of Career Frustration – [00:11:59] What are the top sources of career frustration that Tessa outlines in "Job Therapy"? How can understanding these drivers help in navigating career satisfaction? Balancing Fulfillment and Compensation – [00:17:14] What are the common trade-offs between career fulfillment and financial security? How does being embedded at work complicate career changes and personal fulfillment? How can strong team cohesion negatively impact individual recognition and promotion prospects? Strategic Networking for Career Growth – [00:26:45] What specific questions should you ask when networking to explore career fit? How can you create a coherent and compelling narrative of your career journey? What are the risks of taking on non-promotion-relevant roles in search of fulfillment? Articulating Your Contribution to Company Outcomes – [00:38:02] Why is it crucial to understand and articulate how your work contributes to broader company goals? How can you effectively communicate your role in achieving company outcomes? What is the importance of having a broad network beyond your immediate workplace? How can networking outside your organization enhance your career prospects? Asking Tough Questions During Networking – [00:45:15] Why should you ask tough questions about status and promotion prospects when networking? How can feedback from former colleagues provide insights into your career advancement? Effective Networking Strategies – [00:51:27] What practical advice does Tessa give for effective networking? How can you approach potential contacts and ask the right questions to build meaningful connections? Insightful Questions During Job Interviews – [00:56:07] Why insightful questions should you ask during a job interview? What specific questions can help you ensure a good fit with a potential employer? How can embracing awkwardness and having tough conversations lead to finding fulfilling work? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 15 July 2024

In today’s episode, we explore the complex intersections of military service, intelligence work, and mental health with Dave Fielding, a decorated US Army Green Beret turned intelligence officer and mental health advocate. David's distinguished career includes service in high-stakes operations such as Operation Inherent Resolve and Operation Enduring Freedom, earning him a Bronze Star. As the author of Into the Darkness: A Journey of Love, War, and Emotional Freedom, David brings a unique perspective on emotional intelligence, the struggles of returning to civilian life, and the silent battles faced by veterans. Join us for an enlightening conversation with Dave Fielding, where he unveils powerful strategies for navigating the challenges of military life and transitioning to civilian life. How can emotional intelligence transform your relationships and leadership skills? What are the secrets to building rapid rapport across diverse cultures? David shares his personal battle with suicidal thoughts and how he overcame them, offering invaluable insights for those struggling with similar issues. Discover the significance of understanding motivations and learn practical advice that can help you foster stronger connections. Don't miss this episode, filled with heartfelt stories and actionable tips. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How does David Fielding's unique background shape his perspective on emotional intelligence and mental health? What pivotal moments in David's career as a Green Beret and intelligence officer define his journey? The Green Beret Secret to Building Rapid Rapport – 12:40 How can understanding motivations help you build instant connections with others? What techniques does David use to create deep connections across diverse cultures? How to Overcome Your Darkest Struggles – 17:40 Why did Dave go from Special Forces to mental health advocacy and what was that shift like? What strategies did David employ to overcome his suicidal thoughts? How can others facing similar struggles find their way out of the darkness? How to Reframe Challenges into Life Changing Opportunities – 33:13 How can reframing your perspective help you tackle seemingly insurmountable challenges? What practical steps can you take to reframe and find meaning in difficult situations? The Power of Understanding Motivations – 43:16 How can understanding the motivations of others improve your leadership and relationships? David discusses the significance of asking “why” in conversations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 8 July 2024

In today’s episode, we delve into the fascinating world of behavior design with BJ Fogg, a renowned behavior scientist and founder of the Behavior Design Lab at Stanford University. BJ’s pioneering work focuses on understanding and influencing human behavior through innovative models and methods. His groundbreaking research, including the widely acclaimed Fogg Behavior Model and the Tiny Habits method, has been featured in prominent publications such as The New York Times and Forbes. BJ shares his insights on how tiny changes can lead to significant transformations, debunks common myths about habit formation, and offers practical strategies for creating lasting positive behaviors. Join us for an insightful conversation with BJ Fogg, where he reveals the secrets to designing behaviors that lead to lasting change. Discover how tiny habits can transform your life, why common myths about habit formation are misleading, and how to create positive habits effortlessly. Plus, explore the importance of celebration and positive emotions in reinforcing new behaviors. Don't miss this episode packed with practical tips and strategies to help you build habits that stick and achieve your goals! What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What are the most common myths about habit formation and why they are misleading? What are tiny habits and how can they lead to significant changes? Practical examples of tiny habits you can implement in your daily life. How can you leverage your emotions to rapidly create great habits – 10:57 Why are positive emotions crucial for habit formation? The concept of celebration and how it accelerates habit development. Practical Application of Tiny Habits – 16:01 How do you design tiny habits into your existing routines? Real-life examples of how tiny habits can transform your behavior. The Secret to Breaking Bad Habits – 32:30 Strategies for untangling bad habits and creating lasting change. The three phases of the Behavior Change Master Plan. Technology and Behavior Change – 43:01 How does technology positively and negatively impact your habits? Practical tips for managing screen time and fostering positive behaviors. Tiny Habits for Kids – 49:20 How parents can use tiny habits to instill good behaviors in children. The importance of creating an environment that celebrates and reinforces positive change. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 1 July 2024

In today’s episode, we explore high-value dating with Liesel Sharabi, an associate professor and Director of the Relationships and Technology Lab at Arizona State University. Liesel’s research delves into the impact of communication technologies on romantic relationships, particularly through online dating and mobile apps. Her work, featured in top journals and media outlets like The Wall Street Journal and NPR, examines how AI and virtual reality are reshaping modern romance. Liesel shares her expertise on creating authentic online profiles, managing choice overload, setting realistic expectations, and using AI to find meaningful connections. Join us for an insightful conversation with Liesel Sharabi, where she reveals the secrets to creating an authentic online dating profile that ignites meaningful connections. Discover how to navigate the overwhelming choices on dating apps to make better decisions, manage your expectations, and find serious relationships in the digital world. Plus, explore the game-changing role of AI in modern dating. Don't miss this episode packed with tips and strategies to enhance your online dating experience! What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 Who is Liesel Sharabi, and how did she get involved in the world of dating at an academic level? How did online dating change the way we perceive dating and what we look for in potential partners? The Hidden Impact of Dating Apps on Long Term Relationships – 13:51 How are dating apps hurting your ability to connect on a deeper level with potential partners? What mindset should you adopt if you actually want to find a partner on dating apps and not get stuck in an endless loop of matches that don’t go anywhere? Is more technology really the solution to the dating hellscape – 23:45 What are companies in the dating “industry” doing to solve the problems many people are encountering around loneliness and how are those “solutions” making things worse? Should you use AI to improve your results on dating apps? Are people still meeting other people in real life? – 31:14 What is easier about starting relationships with people you meet in real life and what is harder about starting relationships with people you meet online? How have dating apps changed cultural norms and expectations for each gender? The effects of dating apps on marriage/divorce rates – 41:39 How have dating apps changed the landscape of marriage and long term commitment? What does the future of dating and dating apps look like, and how can you prepare for it? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 24 June 2024

In today’s episode, we help you avoid low value behaviors and master high value ones with AJ and Johnny. In this episode of The Art of Charm, AJ and Johnny delve into the dynamics of high and low value behaviors and their impact on your personal and professional relationships. Ever wondered how to take control of your social interactions and ensure they lead to meaningful connections? AJ and Johnny explore the crucial distinctions between high value and low value behaviors, offering practical insights on how to elevate your social value. Learn how to harness the power of responsibility and cooperation, and discover why honesty and generosity are pivotal in forming strong, lasting relationships. How can you balance being cooperative without being taken advantage of? What steps can you take to become a high value individual in every aspect of your life? Tune in to uncover actionable strategies backed by science and real-life experiences to transform your interactions and boost your value. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How do you identify patterns of high and low value behaviors in yourself and others, and what can you do to change those behaviors in yourself? What specific behaviors lead to long-term success and positive relationships? The 3 low value behaviors you must avoid – 5:36 How to navigate social interactions by giving value and avoiding common pitfalls. What behaviors consistently build strong relationships? The role of attention in building value – 10:14 What is the most powerful (and easiest) form of value you can give when talking to someone? What two behaviors transform your social interactions? Most people miss the connection between value and responsibility – 18:30 Why do high value people seek out more responsibility than everyone else? How do low value people avoid responsibility to shift blame when things go wrong? This one thing is crucial if you want to be high value – 23:52 How does honesty build trust and strengthen relationships? What are the detrimental effects of lying and manipulation on your value and relationships? The long-term benefits of giving value – 28:15 Real-life examples of how giving value without expecting immediate returns can lead to significant long-term benefits. How do you build a supportive social circle that pushes you to succeed and helps you out when you’re going through tough times? Practical Tips for Giving Value – 40:58 Simple and practical ways to give value in everyday interactions. Examples of how giving value can lead to unexpected rewards and strengthen relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 17 June 2024

In today’s episode, we help you identify and avoid low value behaviors with AJ and Johnny. In this episode of The Art of Charm, AJ and Johnny dive deep into the psychology of value and behavior. Have you ever wondered if your actions unknowingly sabotage your social interactions? What behaviors might be holding you back from forming meaningful connections? AJ and Johnny explore how to identify and eliminate low value behaviors that keep you from connecting with others. Discover the three critical elements of value—attention, approval, and acceptance—and learn how to nurture high value behaviors that attract positive relationships. What does the science say about the benefits of being a high value individual? How can you balance being generous without being taken advantage of? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 Why is understanding value important in forming meaningful connections? What will you learn about identifying and eliminating low value behaviors? What are low value behaviors you need to avoid? – 02:08 What are supplicative behaviors, and how do they manifest in social interactions? How does the victim mentality negatively impact your value? Why is it important to avoid combative behaviors, and how can they harm your relationships? The dangers of social media most people ignore – 14:06 How does social media manipulate our need for attention, approval, and acceptance? What are the dangers of seeking validation through social media? Most people fail to escape this mindset that cripples them – 24:48 Why is a competitive mindset still considered low value? How does the scarcity mindset fuel unhealthy competition? What are the pitfalls of constantly comparing yourself to others? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 10 June 2024

In today’s episode, we dive into the dynamic world of sports and leadership with Craig Robinson. Craig is a distinguished college basketball coach, basketball executive, and podcaster. A former standout player at Princeton, he was twice named Ivy League Player of the Year. Transitioning from a successful finance career, Craig pursued his passion for coaching, leading teams at Boston University and Oregon State University. He has held executive roles with the New York Knicks and Milwaukee Bucks and is now the Executive Director of the National Association of Basketball Coaches. Craig co-hosts the podcast "Ways to Win" with John Calipari, sharing life lessons and strategies from his extensive on-court experience, making his insights valuable beyond the basketball world. Craig Robinson shares his insights on the evolving landscape of leadership and coaching. How has the role of empathy and communication transformed modern coaching? What strategies can you use to build momentum in both your personal and professional life? Craig also delves into his courageous transition from a successful finance career to pursuing his passion for coaching—what challenges did he face, and what rewards did he reap? Additionally, discover practical advice on how to identify and nurture young leaders, manage setbacks effectively, and leverage likability to foster team cohesion. Join us as we uncover these answers and more with Craig Robinson, a leader whose experience spans from the basketball court to the executive office. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 Who is Craig Robinson, and how has his diverse career from finance to coaching shaped his approach to leadership? What are the key differences between the authoritarian coaching styles of the past and the empathetic approaches of today? What motivated Craig to transition from a successful finance career to coaching basketball? Empathy and Communication in Leadership – 19:27 Why is empathy crucial for modern leaders and coaches? How can understanding and meeting people where they are enhance your effectiveness as a leader? Insights from "Ways to Win" Podcast – 25:38 Key takeaways from Craig’s podcast, including building personal relationships with team members and creating a culture of accountability. Lessons from prominent guests like Dave Roberts and Dawn Staley on leadership and team dynamics. Identifying and Nurturing Young Leaders – 30:29 What attributes and talents should you look for when identifying potential young leaders? Strategies for nurturing and developing leadership skills in young individuals. Managing Setbacks and Defeat – 34:17 How can you quickly recover from setbacks and losses in both sports and professional environments? Practical advice on managing the psychological impact of defeat and maintaining a forward-looking mindset. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 3 June 2024

In today’s episode, we dive into the world of human connection with David Robson. David is an award-winning writer specializing in the psychology and neuroscience of human relationships. With a rich background in scientific journalism and a degree in mathematics from the University of Cambridge, David has dedicated his career to exploring the intricate ways we bond and interact with each other. His work has been widely recognized and featured in top-tier publications such as The Guardian, The Atlantic, and BBC Future. David is also the author of The Laws of Connection, a profound exploration into the science behind how we form lasting connections. In today’s episode, David Robson reveals the secrets to building stronger social connections through the latest psychological research. He explains the profound impact of social ties on our physical health, the importance of overcoming the "liking gap," and how to effectively use follow-up questions to create shared realities. David also shares strategies for rebuilding our social skills post-pandemic, the power of expressing appreciation, and how the Benjamin Franklin effect can strengthen our relationships. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 Who is David Robson, and how can his insights on human connection and psychology transform your personal and professional relationships? How do social connections affect your health, and what diseases can they help protect against? Why is it important to recognize and manage ambivalent relationships effectively? What barriers prevent you from connecting with others – 10:40 What is the "liking gap," and how does it prevent you from forming deeper connections? How can you recalibrate your perceptions to overcome these psychological barriers? What questions can you ask to rapidly build deep connections? – 24:24 What types of questions are most effective for building deeper connections? How can you move past small talk quickly to create meaningful conversations? What overlooked expression can drastically improve your relationship with anyone at work and in your personal life? How can you rebuild your social skills post-pandemic? – 47:51 How has the pandemic affected our social skills, and what strategies can help you rebuild them? Why is practicing daily interactions with strangers crucial for maintaining social confidence? What is the Benjamin Franklin Effect and how can it strengthen relationships? – 51:30 What is the Benjamin Franklin effect, and how can asking for small favors strengthen your relationships? How can you apply this effect in your daily life to enhance your social bonds? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 27 May 2024

In today’s episode, we tackle the art of building deep connections with Topaz Adizes. Topaz is an Emmy award-winning director, writer, and experienced design architect. With a background in philosophy from UC Berkeley and Oxford University, Topaz has made significant contributions to the fields of intimacy and human connection through his groundbreaking project, The And. His work has been showcased at prestigious festivals such as Cannes and Sundance, and featured in top publications like The New Yorker and The New York Times. Topaz is also the author of 12 Questions for Love: A Guide to Intimate Conversations and Deeper Relationships. In today’s episode, Topaz Adizes shares why questions are so powerful for creating deep bonds, how to create space for intimate conversations in our lives, when to bring logic in to deepen a relationship conversation, and the secret to developing emotional articulation with your partner. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 Who is Topaz Adizes, and how can his insights on communication and relationships transform your career and personal life? How can asking the right questions unlock deeper connections and enhance your leadership skills? What’s the secret to creating a space where your team or partner feels safe to be vulnerable and authentic? Surprising revelations from over 1200 intimate conversations – 11:00 What surprising revelations did Topaz uncover from over 1200 intimate conversations, and how can they apply to your high-stakes professional environment? Practical tips for emotional articulation – 20:15 How can mastering emotional articulation make you a more effective leader and improve your team’s performance? What are the 12 questions that can revolutionize your personal and professional relationships, and how should you use them? Real-life applications that will change your life – 32:29 How have others used Topaz’s methods to transform their relationships and careers, and what can you learn from their experiences? How can you create intentional spaces for deep conversations that foster trust and innovation within your team? Lessons on communication that no one tells us – 45:11 What techniques can you use to enhance your communication skills and build stronger connections with your team and loved ones? How do different cultures approach intimate conversations, and what can you learn from their methods to improve your own interactions? Why is it crucial to ask better questions in your professional and personal life, and how can this practice accelerate your career growth? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 20 May 2024

In today’s episode, we tackle making friends as an adult with AJ, Johnny, and coach Michael Herold. Delve into the complexities of making and maintaining friendships as an adult. Why do many adults struggle with loneliness and how can propinquity—or the strategic use of proximity—open doors to new and lasting connections? Whether you're a seasoned professional or a social novice, this episode offers actionable strategies to enhance your social life and deepen your relationships. Tune in to discover how you can turn social opportunities into a thriving network of genuine connections, and learn why mastering the Art of Charm is more essential today than ever before. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How can understanding propinquity transform your approach to forming social connections? What alarming trends about loneliness were revealed in recent global surveys? How do you start building new relationships and make new friends? – 11:24 How does remote work affect team cohesion and personal relationships at work? What scientific principles can help in forming deep and lasting friendships? Many underestimate the value of this when it comes to making friends – 24:38 How can re-engaging with old hobbies or exploring new passions rejuvenate your social life? What practical steps can you take to weave social opportunities into your everyday activities? What are you doing to push new people away from being your friend? – 34:06 How can recognizing and reducing friction in social interactions facilitate the formation of friendships? What practical steps can you take to lessen the burden on potential friends and make it easier for them to engage with you? How do develop a plan for a vibrant social life – 28:32 What are the benefits of having a structured plan for social interactions? How does consistency in social activities lead to stronger and more meaningful relationships? What practical steps can you take to lessen the burden on potential friends and make it easier for them to engage with you? Introducing the Social Sales Funnel Concept – 44:55 What is the Social Sales Funnel, and how can it help you build a thriving social network? How can hosting a monthly event streamline the process of turning acquaintances into friends? What strategies can ensure the success of such gatherings, encouraging new connections to flourish? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 13 May 2024

In today’s episode, we tackle death with Jodi Wellman. Jodi is a former executive turned executive coach. She has a Master of Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, where she's an instructor in the master's program and a trainer in the world renowned Penn Resilience Program. And she is the author of You Only Die Once: How to Make It to the End with No Regrets. Jodi Wellman reveals essential strategies for transforming your professional stagnation into dynamic success and underscores the importance of quantifying your remaining Monday mornings to infuse purpose into your career, eliminating regrets before they hinder your progress. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How can thinking about death enhance your career and life ambitions? Why should you calculate how many Mondays you have left? Focus on this to improve your performance and happiness at work – 10:15 Gain insights on the value of time and how precise awareness of it can enhance your decision-making and prioritization at the managerial or C-suite level Most people are held back from success by their ‘dead zones’ – 18:10 What are 'dead zones' and how can identifying them transform your professional growth and personal fulfillment? How can facing the reality of mortality inspire urgent career and personal development? How does the pandemic influence our perception of time and opportunities for growth? – 26:17 Understand the psychological impacts of COVID-19 on our ambitions and social interactions, with tips for re-engaging with life and work post-pandemic. How do you bake your own 'happiness pie' and take charge of your life satisfaction? – 31:19 How do you start moving from 'dead zones' to 'astonishingly alive zones'? How can the concept of fighting for your life goals redefine your approach to career and personal ambitions? – 42:39 What is the importance of self-compassion and forgiveness in pursuing a life without regrets? Episode Sponsors: Indeed Kajabi Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 6 May 2024

In today’s episode, we tackle mind magic and manifestation with Dr. James Doty. James is an inventor, an entrepreneur, and philanthropist. He is a clinical professor of neurosurgery at Stanford University and the founder and director of Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education with the Dalai Lama himself as the founding benefactor. His new book is titled Mind Magic: The Neuroscience of Manifestation and How It Changes Everything. We break down the systems in the brain responsible for shaping your beliefs and actions, how you can harness the power of your subconscious mind to reach your goals faster, why you need to visualize your success in detail to make it a reality, And James shares his own experiences with the magic of our mind. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What is mind magic and what does science say about the legitimacy of manifestation? This is where most people go wrong trying to manifest their desires – 10:15 Where do most of us go wrong with manifestation versus what should we be focusing on with our manifestation to actually be whole, to be living a rich and fulfilling life? How can we use our neural networks to increase the chances of manifesting what we want? The secret to focusing in a world of neverending distractions – 24:17 How are self-compassion, focus, and manifestation linked together? How should you define success if you are trying to manifest success for yourself or others? What should you focus on if you want to manifest what you want – 34:21 What is the most important aspect of life you need to focus on if you want physical and mental health and a long life? How does commitment to action transform intentions into reality? – 39:06 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 29 April 2024

In today’s episode, we tackle the world of high stakes hostage negotiation in a divided world with Scott Walker. Scott is one of the world’s most experienced kidnapped-for-ransom negotiators. He served 16 years as a Scotland Yard detective specializing in covert policing, then supported organizations, governments, and private individuals in negotiating the release of hostages all over the world, and is the author of his the latest book, Order Out of Chaos: A Kidnap Negotiator's Guide to Influence and Persuasion. You’re going to learn how to prepare for high stakes situations like a hostage negotiator. We discuss how to quickly build rapport with people that you do not share common interests with, what to listen for in negotiations to create a winning outcome, how to develop your emotional intelligence to be successful under stress, and the secrets hostage negotiators use to bring back hostages safely. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How frequently do people get kidnapped and held for ransom? What are the biggest challenges that hostage negotiators face? The first 30 seconds of a hostage situation are crucial for this reason – 15:53 What secret do hostage negotiators use to rapidly build trust with anyone? What 30 second practice do hostage negotiators use to prepare themselves for every high stakes situation? What consequences do kidnappers actually face? – 24:25 How do you cultivate the right mindset to be a master negotiator? What can you do to predict the biggest hurdles you’ll need to overcome in any negotiation? What are the 3 elements to every negotiation and how can you use them in your everyday life to build strong relationships? Most people mistakenly think this is when the negotiation ends – 39:34 How should you think about negotiations on a short- and long-term basis to make sure you don’t hurt your reputation or future potential opportunities? Hostage negotiators have to care about the kidnappers – 48:36 How do hostage negotiators raise their self awareness before entering high stakes situations? How do you master your emotions like a hostage negotiator by simply asking yourself specific questions? What are the biggest takeaways from Order Out of Chaos: A Kidnap Negotiator's Guide to Influence and Persuasion? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 22 April 2024