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Send episode requests here In this episode, I'm giving you a simple summer plan to have a commitment-ready boyfriend by August—exclusive or not. You'll discover why "putting yourself out there" and "loving yourself" was never enough without a real system, the number that tells you whether your love life is actually moving or stuck, and why the men you want never seem to cross your path even when you're going outside and meeting people. Walk away knowing exactly what to do daily and week...

Transcribed - Published: 5 June 2026

Send episode requests here A lot of you are going to hit cuffing season with a dry and dusty dating life once again. Because you keep doing nothing in the summer and expecting a man by the fall…it's like wanting a summer body without ever hitting the gym. In this episode, I break down the three things keeping you stuck and headed for another manless winter. You'll find out why the men you actually want aren't showing up in your life, what you're doing that makes quality men lose interes...

Transcribed - Published: 29 May 2026

Send episode requests here A few weeks ago, I walked away from a good man after dating him for over a year and a half. In this episode, I'm breaking down what made me walk away from a man most women would have stayed with and why I don't regret it for a second. You'll discover why looks and investment alone don't move me anymore, what happens when you try to adjust a man into generosity instead of requiring it from the start, and why you don't need a "good enough reason" to le...

Transcribed - Published: 21 May 2026

Send episode requests here I used to be the woman who let a man decide whether my week was good or bad. My marriage taught me that. When it ended, I couldn't get out of bed for weeks because I had outsourced my entire sense of safety to him. That's when I had to ask a different question: “Why am I making my peace depend on whether a man can be trusted at all?” This episode walks you through the six steps that got me from that woman to the woman I am now—the one who dates without s...

Transcribed - Published: 14 May 2026

Send episode requests here If you’re a woman of faith who struggles with putting in too much effort while dating ….but not getting much in return from the men you date, this episode is for you. You’re the woman who is always making time You’re the woman who is there to provide emotional support, You’re the woman who is always keeping conversations going. You’re the woman who is always there to make men feel good about themselves. Join me in this...

Transcribed - Published: 7 May 2026

Send episode requests here Part of the reason why you waste time on the wrong men is because you’re EASY. All it takes is for a man to pay you some consistent attention and now you’re his girlfriend. And then you get big mad when you realized you invested months…sometimes years into a man who wasn’t worth all that effort There’s no wonder why you’re always so drained and disappointed with men Listen closely to this episode as I help you uncover your power to choose the right man for you...

Transcribed - Published: 30 April 2026

Send episode requests here “There’s not enough quality men out here for quality women.” That’s the lie we tell ourselves when we’re not ready to do the work. The truth is that there are more than enough quality men for quality women AND quality women aren’t finding it hard to meet these men. Why? Because they are doing the real work towards creating the love lives the desire And that work is deeper than being a nice girl who has her shit together. It’s deeper than being educ...

Transcribed - Published: 23 April 2026

Send episode requests here You finally have multiple men pursuing you, but now you don't know what the hell to do with them ... .so you're either picking whoever texts back fastest or stressing yourself out trying to be "fair" to everyone. Most women think the goal is just getting men's attention, but the real challenge is knowing how to handle it when you actually have choices. You end up settling for the first guy who's consistent or getting overwhelmed and picking based on who gives you bu...

Transcribed - Published: 16 April 2026

Send episode requests here Last week, we talked about how Women of Faith tend to attract the wrong kind of men—the manipulative, irresponsible, and insecure ones… …and how those "good girl" habits can end up pushing away the intelligent, cultured, and emotionally available men who are actually ready for a real, committed relationship. This week, we're going step by step on how you can break those habits for good, so you can start dating quality men who truly appreciate you for who you are. If...

Transcribed - Published: 9 April 2026

Send episode requests here That fear of doing all the work, showing up differently in dating, and still not getting chosen is keeping many women stuck in dating limbo…afraid to fully commit to finding love. If you've been consuming dating advice without applying it, deleting apps after two days, or hiding behind stories of being "too busy" or "not ready yet," you're not protecting yourself…you're guaranteeing nothing changes. In this episode, I break down why this fear exists, what it's...

Transcribed - Published: 2 April 2026

Send episode requests here Out of all the men we date…there’s always this ONE that we really like…but we find it hard to have him. We wanna hear from him daily We wanna see him all the time. And we freak out when he’s being inconsistent, emotionally unavailable or even pulling away. Some of us don’t realize that the ONE we like…is the one that feeds our addiction to dysfunction. Like crack, this man stimulates us and even though he is the source of a lo...

Transcribed - Published: 26 March 2026

Send episode requests here We live in a time where women have more choices than ever before. We can buy our own property…we can go to school for whatever…we can choose our own careers, we can play professional sports. We can even go to war if we want to. And even with all of these modern freedoms…we still have societal chains that keep us in bondage… …that keeps us from TRULY being who we want to be and DOING what we want to do. And this directly impact...

Transcribed - Published: 19 March 2026

Send episode requests here Been having a lot of interesting conversations with new clients about why they believe they haven’t been attracting quality men. Funny thing is…when I listen to their complaints during our coaching sessions…summa the ladies don’t really have much evidence to support their beliefs. They’re truly convinced that their biggest problem is not being able to attract quality men. Maybe it is…maybe it isn’t. In today’s episode, we’re gonna have a co...

Transcribed - Published: 12 March 2026

Send episode requests here Becoming the sun in your love life changes everything. Most women are floating through dating… Responding to texts because they feel like they have to. Going exclusive because he brought it up. Feeling overwhelmed because men want their time. Saying yes when they really want to say no. That’s not power. That’s the sunken place. In today’s episode, I break down what it actually means to become the “SUN” in your love life solar system — and why most women are uncons...

Transcribed - Published: 5 March 2026

Send episode requests here You've convinced yourself it's bad luck, that there are no good men in your city, that maybe you're just not the kind of woman men commit to. But you don't have bad luck—you have untrained discernment. In this episode, I'm breaking down the exact framework to savagely vet a man in 30 days before you get attached. You'll discover the four things to evaluate instead of your feelings , why smart women still end up with men who fail all four, and the next la...

Transcribed - Published: 26 February 2026

Send episode requests here In this episode, I'm breaking down the W.O.R.D. Method …a four-step framework for when men break their word so you stop spiraling, over-explaining, or blaming yourself. You'll discover why security doesn't come from men keeping their word (it comes from how fast you respond when they don't), the Good Girl Reflex that makes you audit yourself instead of his behavior, and the difference between a man who's trying and a man who's performing trying to run out the ...

Transcribed - Published: 19 February 2026

Send episode requests here Any woman can get married—that's not hard to do. The problem is the kind of marriages we walk into. Too many good girls are getting chosen because we're "wife material," which really means agreeable, low maintenance, and easy to keep. Then we end up crying on TikTok about husbands who forget our birthdays for 10 years straight or refuse to buy us carrot cake because they don't like it. In this episode, I'm breaking down my 10 dating rules for recovering good girls w...

Transcribed - Published: 12 February 2026

Send episode requests here Earlier this week, I made a post about meeting 50 men per month if I wanted to go from no dates to engaged by the end of the year—and the girls lost their minds. "Where are we supposed to get 50 men?" "I can barely talk to two men!" "This seems counterproductive!" So I brought on my friend Kimberly, a dating coach and matchmaker in Atlanta who helps women land high-earning, high-caliber men. In this episode, we're breaking down why 50 men is actual...

Transcribed - Published: 5 February 2026

Send episode requests here We've been told that at a certain age, especially as Black women, our options dry up. That if you're divorced, over 35, a single mom, or plus-sized, you should just take what you can get. But I'm 38, divorced, and I only date men who invest in me—emotionally AND financially. In this episode, I'm breaking down exactly what shifted for me to get here. You'll discover why trying to prove you're "not a gold digger" attracts the bottom of the barrel, what happens when yo...

Transcribed - Published: 29 January 2026

Send episode requests here You got more questions, I have more answers. Tune into this week's Q&A where I cover real questions like how to know when a man has earned exclusivity (spoiler: it's not about how many dates you've been on) to why you keep attracting the same type of men over and over again. You'll hear what to do when you live somewhere with limited dating options, how to meet men at the gym without forcing conversation, and when to cut off a man the second you see misali...

Transcribed - Published: 22 January 2026

Send episode requests here It's January and you've probably already had the thought: "I want this to be the year I get engaged" Maybe you said that last year too….and the year before that. Every December you look back and nothing really changed. You went on a few dates, maybe talked to a few guys, maybe had something that felt like it was going somewhere and then it just... didn't. In this episode, I'm giving you the complete 6-step plan to go from where you are right now to engaged by the en...

Transcribed - Published: 15 January 2026

Send episode requests here Most women are out here dating without any kind of plan….just swiping and hoping something works out, going on dates and hoping he's the one. But hope is not a strategy. Hope is how you end up years into this with nothing to show for it. In this episode, I'm breaking down my complete dating strategy for 2026—and it's totally different from last year. You'll discover what I'm letting go of (including dating for physical attraction and feeling sorry for men), the thre...

Transcribed - Published: 8 January 2026

Send episode requests here Most dating advice says to guard your heart, stay unbothered, and avoid getting too emotionally involved. But for me, true connection means being fully open and expressive—I fall in love without holding back, and I do it without getting attached. In this episode, I share the mindset shifts and simple steps I follow to stay grounded and true to myself when I meet a new man I’m excited about. Tune in to find out how I experience love in a way that’s both p...

Transcribed - Published: 18 December 2025

Send episode requests here My client Dr. Juliet went from dating men who couldn't afford to send her an Uber to having wealthy men send her gifts just for rescheduling a date. In two months, she went from less than one date per week to 22 video calls in November alone with high-caliber men begging for exclusivity after the first date. In this episode, Dr. Juliet breaks down what actually shifted that took her from "the unlucky girl who never gets that kind of guy" to having multiple accomplis...

Transcribed - Published: 11 December 2025

Send episode requests here Wondering what it takes to be surrounded by men who invest in you mentally, emotionally, and financially? This episode is full of gems of how to inspire men to adore you and add tangible value to your life. OTHER POPULAR RESOURCES: Read my online essay on why the way we date is broken- Modern Dating is Hard Learn the basics behind attracting quality men and what it takes to build a rotation. - The Cuffing Season Retreat Bundle. Follow me on...

Transcribed - Published: 4 December 2025

Send episode requests here My bestie Dr. Jasmyne went from never asking men for help with her luggage to having a pilot chase her through the airport offering to buy her whatever she wants. The shift happened in less than one week—and it started with something as simple as letting a man put her bag in the overhead bin. In this episode, Dr. Jasmyne joins me to talk about what actually happened on our trip to Orlando and Nashville that had millionaires at our table, a prominent head coach...

Transcribed - Published: 20 November 2025

Send episode requests here I can talk to 40 men in a week, carry on conversations with five or six at a time, swipe multiple times a day, run a multiple six-figure business, go to pole class, date, and live my life…all without getting drained or frustrated. When I tell people this, they ask "Torah, how are you not burnt out?" The answer? It's my mindset. I think differently about what's happening on the apps, and that changes everything. In this episode, I'm sharing the three mind...

Transcribed - Published: 13 November 2025

Send episode requests here I've been posting all the evidence this week on my Instagram stories…the caliber of men reaching out to me, the quality of dates I'm going on, the matches I'm getting…and many are asking "Torah, how are you doing this?” In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the exact things I do outside of my profile to make sure quality men pursue me with real effort and consistency. You'll discover the strategic moves most women completely overlook when using dating app...

Transcribed - Published: 6 November 2025

Send episode requests here You've been told dating apps don't work, but what if the problem isn't the apps—it's how you're using them? I used to delete Tinder every few months out of frustration until I figured out the skill that changed everything. Now I go on intentional dates whenever I want (from the comfort of my couch) with men who plan, pursue, and show up like grown men. In this episode, I'm walking you through the exact mindset shift that separates women who stay invisibl...

Transcribed - Published: 30 October 2025

Send episode requests here I just went on five dates in one week—including a man who drove six hours just to meet me and another who planned a seven-hour experience complete with private dining. Three of these men… met them on Hinge. When I posted screenshots, women flooded my DMs saying "that can't be my Hinge" and "dating apps don't work for me." But here's the thing: dating apps are just tools, and if you don't know how to use them, you'll keep attracting the same low-eff...

Transcribed - Published: 23 October 2025

Send episode requests here You’re relying on your pretty pictures to sell you, but quality men need more than a nice smile to know you’re worth pursuing. If your dating profile isn’t pulling the kind of men you actually want, this episode is for you I’m breaking down the biggest mistakes women make on their profiles and why most are just throwing content up without any real strategy. You’ll hear me do live audits of three real profiles—showing exactly where women lose quality men’s attention ...

Transcribed - Published: 16 October 2025

Send episode requests here “How do I know whether I’m doing way too much with a man?” “How do I know whether I’m giving too much of myself?” “How do I make sure I’m not overinvesting in a relationship that isn’t going anywhere?” These are all questions women ask when they are tired of giving their time, energy and hearts to men who didn’t earn it. I got some better questions for you to ask though… Tune in to this episode as I share 5 questions to ask yourself TODAY so that y...

Transcribed - Published: 9 October 2025

Send episode requests here “When is it going to be my turn?” “When am I finally going to meet my husband?” “Why can’t I be married already?” These are all questions that are asked by women who are attached to a destination…but not really taking responsibility for and honoring their journey at each milestone. They think… “Once I have this man…this commitment…this partnership..” “...It’s going to stop my disappointment, my loneliness, my exhaustion, my negative thoughts” “.....

Transcribed - Published: 2 October 2025

Send episode requests here If you freeze up or get triggered when men ask you questions like “Why are Single” or “WYD?”, this episode breaks down the real reason this happens and how to flip the script completely. I'm sharing what's actually going on when men ask these questions, the mindset shift that changes everything about how you respond, and why your current approach is telling men they can get away with low effort. You'll learn how to stop getting caught off guard an...

Transcribed - Published: 25 September 2025

Send episode requests here Here’s the audio replay of my most recent live training: Build Your Rotation: Attract 3 Commitment-Ready Boyfriends in 90 Days What you'll learn: 🔥 The 3-part dating strategy that helps you get pursued by the right men—without chasing, over-giving, or performing for a man’s approval. 🔥 How to meet commitment-ready, high-quality men ANYWHERE—even if you’re convinced they don’t exist in your city. 🔥 How to be unforgettable on dates and in convers...

Transcribed - Published: 18 September 2025

Send episode requests here I hired a dating coach even though I literally AM a dating coach, and people are confused as hell about why I'd do that. If you're embarrassed about needing help with dating, this episode breaks down why investing in dating support- especially when you think you don't need to - separates extraordinary results from just good enough. I'm sharing the conversation that made me realize I was "undercoached," why I invested $24,000 to level up my skills, and how focu...

Transcribed - Published: 11 September 2025

Send episode requests here If you keep saying you want a successful, high-earning man but somehow never meet any, this episode breaks down the strategic mistake that's keeping you stuck in the same disappointing cycle. I'm sharing why it's not about your standards being too high or you not being good enough, plus the one shift that changes everything about the type of men who start showing up in your life. You'll learn how to stop hoping for different results while doing the same ...

Transcribed - Published: 4 September 2025

Send episode requests here If you're constantly saying yes when you mean no, accepting last-minute cancellations with a smile, or pretending his low-effort bullshit is perfectly fine - you're abandoning yourself and wondering why dating feels exhausting. In this episode, I'm breaking down what self-abandonment actually looks like in dating, why your "good girl" programming keeps you stuck with men who don't value you, and my S.T.A.N.D. framework that stops you from betraying yourself in real ...

Transcribed - Published: 28 August 2025

Send episode requests here Broke men don't just stumble into your life by accident - they show up because they can sense which women will tolerate their inability to provide. If you keep attracting men who either expect you to fund the relationship or can't afford to match your lifestyle, this episode breaks down why this pattern keeps happening and how to flip the script completely. I'm sharing the real reason your success mindset is working against you in dating and my five Provider P...

Transcribed - Published: 21 August 2025

Send episode requests here My ex came back (Latin Papi) In this episode, I'm breaking down exactly how I'm handling this situation, including my five-step repair plan that lets me enjoy what works between us while protecting my peace. You'll learn the difference between repair and reconciliation, why trusting patterns over promises keeps you out of fantasy, and how the right boundaries actually give you more freedom instead of less. I'm sharing the blueprint for handling any ex who trie...

Transcribed - Published: 14 August 2025

Send episode requests here At 40 years old, Dr. Courtney had been single most of her life, hadn't dated anyone in six months, and was drowning in dissertation anxiety while dealing with a nightmare tenant situation. Fast forward just five months later and she's now Dr. Douglas with multiple quality men traveling hours just to take her on dates, including one who performed magic tricks for her during an 11-hour first date. In this episode, she shares her complete transformation from some...

Transcribed - Published: 7 August 2025

Send episode requests here You got more questions, I have more answers. Tune into this week's Q&A where I cover real questions like how to handle men who repeat the same annoying mistakes, what to do when your ex comes back wanting another chance, how to communicate your needs without becoming passive, and how to know if your walkaway power is too strong. We also talk about managing expectations when dating feels too good to be true, entering new relationships when your life feels m...

Transcribed - Published: 31 July 2025

Send episode requests here You finally have multiple men pursuing you, but now you don't know what the hell to do with them ... .so you're either picking whoever texts back fastest or stressing yourself out trying to be "fair" to everyone. Most women think the goal is just getting men's attention, but the real challenge is knowing how to handle it when you actually have choices. You end up settling for the first guy who's consistent or getting overwhelmed and picking based on who gives you bu...

Transcribed - Published: 24 July 2025

Send episode requests here You're getting attention, good morning texts, and flirty conversations—but he never actually asks you out, and you're sitting there wondering what the hell happened. You know he's attracted to you. The conversation flows. He seems interested. But weeks go by and you're still just texting while he never makes real plans. You're confused why he acts like he wants you but won't actually do anything about it. I'm breaking down the three real reasons why men who seem int...

Transcribed - Published: 17 July 2025

Send episode requests here You know you're a catch, you show up looking good, but you want quality men to feel more excited about approaching you…and it's simpler than you think. The secret isn't changing how you look or where you go. It's three powerful energy shifts that make you magnetic to approach instead of just beautiful to admire. When you master these, quality men will feel drawn to connect with you because your energy says "I'm worth the risk." I'm sharing the exact shifts that tran...

Transcribed - Published: 10 July 2025

Send episode requests here If you want multiple quality men pursuing you but you're only meeting one decent guy every few months (if that), the problem isn't your city or the men in your area—it's your strategy. Most successful women treat dating like a separate project they need to carve extra time for, but that approach keeps your roster empty and your options limited. There's a better way to build a quality roster without adding stress to your already full life. I'll share the exact strate...

Transcribed - Published: 3 July 2025

Send episode requests here You say you want a relationship, you're putting yourself out there, and you believe you're ready….but quality men aren't approaching you or staying interested. The problem isn't what you think it is. In this episode, I reveal the three invisible barriers that keep women stuck in a cycle of dating disappointment, even when they're "doing everything right." These blocks are so subtle that most women don't even realize they're creating them…but once you see them, every...

Transcribed - Published: 26 June 2025

Send episode requests here When Danelle started working with me just months after her divorce, she was guarded and would shut men out. She desperately wanted love but was too scared to show her real personality. In this episode, you'll hear how she went from being afraid to open up to having amazing dates and deep connections. You'll discover how she learned to set boundaries without pushing men away and why fixing her dating life also improved her business and relationship with her son. Inte...

Transcribed - Published: 19 June 2025

Send episode requests here My relationship with Latin Papi ended abruptly after a few years of dating, I had a choice: collapse or confront it with complete honesty. I chose the path that would transform my heartbreak into healing…and I'm sharing every raw detail with you. In this deeply personal episode, I'm taking you behind the scenes of my recent breakup and showing you what conscious healing looks like in real time. You'll hear about the night it happened, the messy days that followed, a...

Transcribed - Published: 12 June 2025

Send episode requests here When Amanda got divorced at 50 after 21 years of marriage, dating felt overwhelming and exhausting. She'd deleted dating apps for six months because it felt like "too much work" and wasn't filling her bucket. In this episode, Amanda shares her real transformation story after five months of working together. She went from people-pleasing and avoiding difficult conversations to confidently dating multiple men and describing her love life as "fruitful, fresh, and fun."...

Transcribed - Published: 5 June 2025