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Now THIS is truly a conversation you won't hear anywhere else. My friend, television show runner Stacy Rukeyser, joins me to talk about making R-rated art when you're a mom. Stacy has written on some really great shows over the years, but she was tasked with creating Netflix's first foray into erotica with her show Sex/Life back in 2021 and it brought up some questions about making this type of creative content when you're a mom. Stacy rightly points out that men likely wouldn't be asked (or be asking) the same type of questions, but it was a fascinating conversation to explore. Stacy shares her fascinating Hollywood career trajectory, the column that broke open a One Tree Hill scandal, and the differences working in female-led writer's rooms. This episode is a bit of a curve ball, but I think you'll be riveted. Follow Stacy Rukeyser on IG FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Stacy's great grandfather Hall Caine The Manx Man Dinner for Vampires by Bethany Joy Lenz Un-real on Netflix 44 Chapters About 4 Men by BB Easton Hollywood Reporter article about the One Tree Hill writer's room RELATED Episodes: Ep 189: About the Hollywood Strikes (And how it affects you) Ep 195: Why do smart people watch dumb tv? Ep 216: Stop Deferring Your Life (A ONE THING conversation with Amy B. Harris) SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine’s SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 6 February 2025

Continuing my look back on 15 years of working on the internet (and the last decade as working as a podcaster), I'm addressing a question that I've gotten fairly often recently: Any advice on starting a podcast? Based on my own mistakes working on three different shows, and observations about the podcast listening community and industry, in this episode I'm sharing what I would do if I started a new podcast today. While I speaking pretty specifically about podcasting in this episode, I also think that a lot of what I talk about applies to most creative endeavors on the internet in 2025. I'm talking about creativity, marketing, mindset, equipment, and more. And at the end I give a little pep talk that maybe we all need. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Audacity recording/editing software Riverside.fm software for remote recording Single microphone I used for years recording in person Current microphone I use RELATED episodes: Ep 124: Behind the Scenes of Podcasting Ep 205: 10 Things All Podcast Fans Should Know Ep 253: Regrets and Reflections After 15 Years of Working On the Internet   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine’s SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 30 January 2025

This month marks FIFTEEN years that I have been pursuing a career primarily by sharing myself on the internet. Starting with the Hollywood Housewife blog in January 2010, then building a social media presence, then becoming a podcaster and an author, and I have so many stories and thoughts to share about the last decade and a half. On this episode, I'm talking about the things I did right, the things I definitely got wrong, and how I've evolved right along with the World Wide Web. Join SECRET STUFF to hear even MORE behind-the-scenes stories. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MORE episodes on this topic: Ep. 73: I Wrote a Book! Ep. 63: Working From Home Ep. 111: Behind The Scenes of Publishing, Marketing, and Launching a Book (with Kelly Gordon) Ep. 166: How To Write a Book (in 10 Steps) Ep. 174: 3 Things I've Learned While Working With a Business Coach (A Conversation with Retha Nichole) MENTIONED in this episode: Ep. 251: 10 Things I Learned in 2024 Sorta Awesome podcast Smartest Person in the Room podcast Racial Bias series on SPITR Share Yo​​ur Stuff. I’ll Go First. by Laura Tremaine The Life Council by Laura Tremaine   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine’s SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 January 2025

No matter the question, reading is the answer. And in a year starting off like 2025 is, we certainly need a lot of answers to life's questions. I am thrilled to welcome fellow Angeleno bookworm Traci Thomas (host of The Stacks podcast) to talk about the most anticipated new book releases of 2025. We talk about novels and nonfiction by debut and beloved authors publishing this year and sorry not sorry about this conversation that will send your book budget soaring. There are so many good books to look forward to in the next six months. Also in this episode, Traci really gives me a lot to think about in terms of how we talk about books and why it's okay to be publicly critical of books that don't work for us. As an author who is jumpy about that concept, Traci really shifted my perspective on this. You can listen to Traci on The Stacks podcast You can follow Traci on IG You can read Traci on her substack Unstacked You can join Traci's Patreon FULL SHOW NOTES HERE JOIN THE SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB MOST ANTICIPATED 2025 BOOKS: January Books: Black in Blues: How a Color Tells the Story of My People by Imani Perry Witchcraft for Wayward Girls by Grady Hendrix February Books: Pure Innocent Fun: Essays by Ira Madison III Show Don’t Tell by Curtis Sittenfeld Death Takes Me by Cristina Rivera Garza One Day, Everyone Will Have Always Been Against This by Omar El Akkad March Books: Hot Air by Marcy Dermansky I'll Love You Forever: Notes from a K-Pop Fan by Giaae Kwon There is No Place for Us: Working and Homeless in America by Brian Goldstone April Books: Dear Writer: Pep Talks & Practical Advice for the Creative Life by Maggie Smith The Book of Alchemy: A Creative Practice for an Inspired Life by Suleika Jaouad Authority: Essays by Andrea Long Chu May Books: Love and Exile by Shon Faye The Last Supper: Art, Faith, Sex, and Controversy in the 1980s by Paul Elie June Books: Atmosphere by Taylor Jenkins Reid Weepers by Peter Mendelsun ALSO MENTIONED in this episode: Sara Hildreth of Fiction Matters Episode 122 of The Stacks Podcast with Kiese Laymon, Breathe by Imani Perry Book Club Episode 222: Stephen King Starter Kit Part II The Keep It Podcast Read Traci's Most Anticipated List of 2025 with a different set of books than she talks about here Suleika Jaouad’s Substack, The Isolation Journals MORE BOOKS mentioned in this episode: Blood in the Water by Heather Ann Thompson  South to America by Imani Perry Vexy Thing: On Gender and Liberation by Imani Perry May We Forever Stand: A History of the Black National Anthem by Imani Perry Breathe: A Letter to My Sons by Imani Perry Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates Looking for Lorraine by Imani Perry The Southern Book Club’s Guide to Slaying Vampires by Grady Hendrix How to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix Romantic Comedy by Curtis Sittenfeld American Wife by Curtis Sittenfeld You Like It Darker by Stephen King Liliana’s Invincible Summer by Cristina Rivera Garza American War by Omar El Akkad Evicted by Matthew Desmond Reagan: His Life and Legend by Max Boot You Can Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith  Between Two Kingdoms by Suleika Jaouad The Book of Alchemy: A Creative Practice for an Inspired Life by Suleika Jaouad Beloved by Toni Morrison The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine’s SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 16 January 2025

It may already be January, but it's time for my annual year-end reflection with 10 of the biggest things I learned that I hope will also resonate with you. 2024 was a weird year in so many ways. My lessons were all over the place, from examining self-confidence vs. self-esteem, finding out who I am in a crisis, being honest about what home renovations can bring up emotionally, facing my addiction to the news cycle, and discovering the big thing that motivates our family decisions. It was a year full of light bulb moments. I hope this helps you reflect upon your own lessons, struggles, and triumphs of the last year. JOIN THE SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB HERE FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 201: 10 Things I Learned in 2023 Ep 238: The Conversation That Changed My Year Ep 246: A Funeral for Twitter The neck alignment thing that really works   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine’s SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 2 January 2025

It's the reading episode we look forward to all year! My real life book club members Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith join me for a supersized conversation about the best books we read in 2024. JOIN THE SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB Since Stephanie, Yasmin, and I did a half-year Best Books episode together during the summer, we only gloss over a few of the books we discussed in depth in June. You can see the show notes from Ep 224: Best Books of the Year (So Far). Also an EXTENDED CUT of this episode and the BONUS episode where the three of us share books that didn't work for us this year (including a big surprise from me) is available for paid members SECRET STUFF (now on Substack!) FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Follow me @laura.tremaine on IG Follow Yasmin @yasminheartsbooks on IG (Stephanie doesn't post books on IG) MENTIONED in this episode: Yasmin’s Best Books: Ours by Phillip B. Williams The Wedding People by Alison Espach  Guilty Creatures: Sex, God, and Murder in Tallahassee by Mikita Brottman  Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terrence Real Stephanie’s Best Books: This Motherless Land by Nikki May Real Americans by Rachel Khong Blue Sisters by Coco Mellors Laura’s Best Books: Dinner for Vampires by Bethany Joy Lenz Here One Moment by Liane Moriarty Rebecca by Daphne du Maurier Link to Patreon episode about the Bee Sting - (Available for $3!) ALSO MENTIONED: Yasmin’s Best Books (So Far) in the June Episode: You Like It Darker by Stephen King James by Percival Everett Knife: Meditations After an Attempted Murder by Salman Rushdie Stephanie’s Best Books (so far) in the June Episode: Long Island by Colm Tóibín Neighbors and Other Stories by Diane Oliver Slow Horses by Mick Herron Laura’s Best Books (so far) in the June Episode: The Bee Sting by Paul Murray The Book of Love by Kelly Link How to Walk Into a Room by Emily P. Freeman The Way of Integrity by Martha Beck Holly by Stephen King Rita Hayworth and Shawshank Redemption by Stephen King Secret Windows by Stephen King The Body by Stephen King The Stand by Stephen King Mansfield Park by Jane Austen You Can Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith Sociopath: A Memoir by Patric Gagne, Ph.D. All Fours by Miranda July The Life Impossible by Matt Haig Share Your Stuff, I’ll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Apples Never Fall by Liane Moriarty The Immortalists by Chloe Benjamin Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty What Alice Forgot by Liane Moriarty Nine Perfect Strangers by Liane Moriarty A Year to Live by Stephen Levine Hello Beautiful by Ann Napolitano Within Arm’s Reach by Ann Napolitano  Martyr! By Kaveh Akbar Listen for the Lie by Amy Tintera Couple Found Slain by Mikita Brottman NPR Best Books of the Year list NYT 10 Best Books of the Year list NYT Best Books of the 21st Century Ep. 243 Best Books Lately (with Sophie Hudson) More Episodes with Yasmin and Stephanie: Ep. 46: Book Club 2019 Ep. 90: Book Club’s Best Books of the Year 2020 Ep. 147: Best Books of the Year 2021 Ep. 153: Best Books of the Year 2022 Ep. 179: Best Books of 2023 (So Far) Ep. 199: Best Books of the Year 2023 Ep. 224: Best Books of the Year (So Far)   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN Laura Tremaine’s SECRET SUBSTACK BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 19 December 2024

I know why you don't journal. I also know why you should journal. In this episode, I'm sharing all the benefits you'll gain from the occasional journal session and how to combat the (many) obstacles that keep you from starting. Then I'll share the 4 types of journaling that you can try in order to see growth and clarity in your life. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: My favorite plain notebook The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 12 December 2024

My friend Nora Dahlia Zelevansky is a journalist, a novelist, a wellness writer, and now she's a romance author! As we celebrate the release of her latest book PICK UP, Nora and I chat about her writing trajectory, the differences between publishing and marketing the romance genre, and why she decided to write this book using a different name. We also talk about how fiction helps us process our pasts, and especially how our high school selves might not have grasped the full story, and how we wrestle with that in adulthood. So many aspects to this great conversation! PICK UP by Nora Dahlia is out now! Learn more about Nora Dahlia Zelevansky Follow Nora on IG FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: NaNoWriMo author Sarah MacLean's books Competitive Grieving by Nora Zelevansky Roll, Red, Roll: Rape, Power, and Football in the American Heartland   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 6 December 2024

As Taylor Swift ends her earth-shattering Eras tour this weekend after a year and a half of dominating the charts and the headlines, I'm sharing how her music and her professional presence has shaped me as an artist, a mom, a business woman, and a former angsty teenager. I hope this episode inspires you to share your own favorite Taylor Swift memories, songs, lyrics, and more. FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Kate Kennedy’s Be There in Five podcast Follow Kate Kennedy on IG Ep 246: A Funeral for Twitter “Taylor Swift | The Eras Tour (Taylor’s Version)”   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 5 December 2024

One of the books that has made the biggest impression on me in the last few years is The Perfectionist's Guide To Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler. I have talked about this book EVERYWHERE and insisted that even people who do not self-identify as "perfectionists" would get something out of it. So you can imagine that I was thrilled with the Secret Stuff members chose TPGTLC as a book club pick and I was doubly thrilled when author Katherine Morgan Schafler agreed to attend our regular monthly book club meeting to discuss it. JOIN THE SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB HERE This episode is a replay of our book club discussion that was held over zoom, where Katherine and I held a great conversation about some of the major points of the book (including the five different types of "perfectionists"), and then Secret Stuff members got to ask her questions. I loved our conversation so much that I wanted everyone to hear it (and to read the book!). If you like these types of book club meetings, consider joining the Secret Stuff Book Club for 2025. We always have the best meetings with thoughtful conversations. Read The Perfectionist's Guide To Losing Control Follow @katherinemorganschafler on IG FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown (also one of my favorite books of all time) “Tracker” on CBS   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 28 November 2024

I joined twitter in 2009 and for 15 years - until this very month - it has been my favorite social media platform. The one place where I am only a consumer and not a creator. The place where I met my earliest online friends. The place where I made most of my best online memories following breaking news, political, scandal, and pop culture. And the only other person I know who has been obsessed with twitter for as long as I have been? None other than friend and podcaster Jamie Golden. Jamie and I have shared many obsessions over the years - and I write about her in The Life Council as the Fellow Obsessive friend - but our love of twitter has always been our biggest shared passion. And despite saying numerous times over the years that we'd never leave, we both decided in the last few weeks to depart our formerly favorite space. And thus, a funeral for twitter. In this conversation, Jamie and I talk about our earliest days on twitter, why we loved it so much, our favorite moments, a few of our regrets, and, of course, why we're leaving. You don't have to care about twitter to enjoy this passionate conversation between friends. My hope for this episode is that you'll get a little glimpse into some social media history and that you'll see yourself in a discussion about how being online has changed us. Follow Jamie Golden on IG Follow Jamie Golden on Bluesky Listen to Jamie Golden on her podcasts The Popcast with Knox and Jamie and Faith Adjacent Follow Laura Tremaine on BlueSky FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Black Twitter: A People’s History (hulu docuseries) Extremely Online by Taylor Lorenz So You've Been Publicly Shamed by Jon Ronson JAMIE's past episodes of 10 Things To Tell You: Ep. 14: Skincare and Makeup Favorites with Jamie Golden Ep. 51: Masterminds: How to create and structure a business peer group (with guests Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi) Ep. 105: Needles, Lasers, and Fillers in Your Face (Jamie Holden RETURNS!) Ep. 164: Are we friends or not? (A Secret Tapes Mastermind Conversation with Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi) Ep. 192: OBSESSED: Skincare & Makeup Favorites (with Jamie Golden)   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 21 November 2024

When the world feels hard, and our lives feel loud, it can be difficult to find equilibrium. In this episode, I'm sharing 5 practices in various areas of my life that make me feel a little more like myself, a little more like a human, a little more sane and calm. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Learn more about #OneDayHH Join our Secret Stuff community for regular Symposium conversations Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod Episode 195: Why Do Smart People Love Dumb TV? with Matt Marr   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 14 November 2024

With less than two months left in 2024, I'm sharing ten questions that will help you finish the year strong. We're talking achievable goals, mantras, connecting with others, and lingering decisions that need to be made. These questions will give you clarity for the weeks ahead and and let you set intentions for how you want to feel and who you want to be at the end of 2024. As always, you can take these questions to your journal for introspection and growth, or use them as conversation starters with friends and family. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE JOIN US FOR the 12th Annual #ONEDAYHH MENTIONED in this episode: BONUS: How To Decorate For The Seasons Without Buying More Stuff ( Conversation with Myquillyn Smith, The Nester) Other Year-end Questions Episodes: Ep. 45: 10 Questions for the End of the Year 2019 Ep. 95: 10 Questions To Ask Yourself at the End of the Year 2020 Ep. 148: 10 Questions for the End of the Year 2021 Ep. 198: 10 Questions for the End of the Year 2023   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 7 November 2024

Reading is always the best form of therapy, distraction, entertainment, and education. And in this episode we talk about titles that serve all of those purposes. Sophie Hudson (aka Boo Mama) is the co-host of The Big Boo Cast and she's also the author of seven books, including her latest A Fine Sight To See. She is always so fun to talk to and we had a blast talking about how long we've known each other, where we first met, how we both feel strongly about women in leadership, and, of course, the best books that we've read lately. JOIN THE SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB As usual, my book selections were all of the place. And as a former English teacher, Sophie recommended all kinds of books to make us feel and think. FOLLOW Sophie on IG LISTEN to Sophie on The Big Boo Cast READ Sophie's latest book A Fine Sight To See FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sophie’s picks: Remarkably Bright Creatures by Shelly Van Pelt I Cheerfully Refuse by Leif Enger The Kingdom, The Power and The Glory: American Evangelicals in An Age of Extremism by Tim Alberta The Barn by Wright Thompson Laura’s picks: The Wedding People by Alison Espach All Fours by Miranda July The Quiet Damage: QAnon and the Destruction of the American Family by Jesselyn Cook I'm Thinking of Ending Things by Iain Reed Other books mentioned: The Friendship Factor by Alan Loy McGinnis The Girl on the Train by Paula Hawkins Tom Lake by Ann Patchett Sandwich by Catherine Newman  Peace Like a River by Leif Enger No One Belongs Here More than You: Stories by Miranda July Jesus and John Wayne By Kristin Kobes Du Mez Pappyland by Wright Thompson Dispatches from Pluto by Richard Grant Same As It Ever Was by Claire Lombardo Heavy by Kiese Laymon Long Division by Kiese Laymon Also Mentioned: The Popcast with Knox and Jamie Me and You and Everyone We Know (movie) Melanie Shankle, the Big Mama Blog Episode 239: Horror for Beginners (with Meredith Monday Schwartz) SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 31 October 2024

I want you to go on a girls trip in 2025. I want it to be a priority. But if you've never been on a girls trip - or it's been a long time - the logistics can be daunting. So I'm helping you out! In this episode, I'm sharing thoughts and tips on: Deciding the vibe Choosing the guests Where to go Where to stay What to eat What to do How to document Providing fun extras ...and more. You will leave this episode excited to plan your own little getaway, whether it's a staycation with one friend or a milestone trip with a group. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 240: Favorite Things Fall 2024 Splitwise app Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 24 October 2024

Lori Zuker Briller co-founded a staffing and recruitment agency almost 20 years ago, and in the last few years she's noticed a concerning trend among the young people who are applying for positions in various industries: a decline in professionalism, a lack of understanding of the job market and job search processes, and an overall deterioration in etiquette. As a mom of two daughters herself, Lori set out to create something that would help teenagers get back to the basics of professionalism and prepare for the adult world. In this conversation, Lori and I discuss how we got here as a society (hint: Covid, a more casual culture, and a change in modern communication styles) and just a few things we can teach our teenagers to set themselves up for success. Learn more about The Grapevine Agency Learn more about Prepped for Life Join my SECRET STUFF book club and community FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Bosses Are Firing Gen Z Grads Just Months After Hiring Them (Fortune) Why So Many Companies Are Firing Gen Z Employees (Inc.)   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 17 October 2024

My favorite things for the Fall of 2024 include a bra, a neck alignment thing-y, a documentary, a book, what's making me feel pretty, and two unexpected events that turned out to be some of my favorite moments of the year (so far). We share our Favorite Things around here because a) it's fun b) it forces us to notice our life and c) it serves as a gratitude list of sorts. BONUS: this episode also contains a dozen recommendations from fellow listeners and members of the SECRET STUFF community. JOIN SECRET STUFF Share YOUR favorite things by making a list, posting on social media, or texting a friend. (Or all three!) FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED BY LAURA in this episode: Recent Girl's Trip posts HERE and HERE Under Outfit bra Meeting Elizabeth Forsythe Hailey story HERE A Woman of Independent Means by Elizabeth Forsythe Hailey Neck alignment thing-y “Nothin’ But a Good Time” on Paramount Plus 1000 Words: A Writer's Guide to Staying Creative, Focused, and Productive All Year Round by Jami Attenberg Emma J. Shipley wallpaper LISTENER VOICES Recommendations: Prequel Lucent-C Vitamin C Serum Nuuly Clothing rentals Lost Man’s Lane by Scott Carson ma:nyo Pure Facial Cleansing Oil Aveeno Protect + Hydrate Body Sunscreen Senté Even Tone Mineral Sunscreen Skylight Calendar and App Starling House by Alix E. Harrow ILIA Balmy Tint Hydrating Lip Balm Substack Five-Senses Journal by Gretchen Rubin   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 10 October 2024

It's October! I'm joined on this episode by my friend and co-host of the Currently Reading podcast Meredith Monday Schwartz, to talk about why we read (and love) books in the horror genre and to give you a pile of recommendations for this spooky season. This is a conversation for longtime horror readers AND for those who are horror-curious. We cover everything from why escaping into scary stories HELPS our anxiety (yes, really), to how we believe horror books are often tackling some of the most important cultural topics. Follow Meredith Monday Schwartz on IG Listen to the Currently Reading podcast Sign up for the Currently Reading Patreon to get the All The Things Murderful series FULL SHOW NOTES HERE JOIN SECRET STUFF by Laura Tremaine Laura’s Spooky Books: We Have Always Lived in the Castle by Shirley Jackson Mexican Gothic by Silvia Moreno-Garcia The Need by Helen Phillips How to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix (Mutual pick for Laura and Meredith) Meredith’s Spooky Books: Diavola by Jennifer Thorne We Used to Live Here by Marcus Kliewer I’m Thinking of Ending Things by Iain Reid Scary Story Beginnings: Nancy Drew Series by Carolyn Keene The Amityville Horror by Jay Anson Stephen King Christopher Pike VC Andrews My Sweet Audrina by V.C. Andrews Horror Books Laura Always Talks About: Into the Drowning Deep by Mira Grant The Passage by Justin Cronin The Only Good Indians by Stephen Graham Jones Tender is the Flesh by Agustina Bazterrica Meredith’s Rurther Reading Recs: Devolution by Max Brooks FantasticLand by Mike Bockoven The Troop by Nick Cutter Amazon Original Stories Creature Feature Collection Laura’s TBR recs: The Reformatory by Tananarive Due The House of Leaves by Mark Z. Danielewski Books Also Mentioned: I’ll be Gone in the Dark by Michelle McNamara (The scariest book Meredith has ever read) The Nothing Man by Catherine Ryan Howard The Haunting of Hill House by Shirley Jackson Lottery and Other Stories by Shirley Jackson The Final Girl Support Group by Grady Hendrix The Southern Book Club’s Guide to Slaying Vampires by Grady Hendrix Sandwich by Catherine Newman 101 Horror Books to Read Before You’re Murdered by Sadie Hartmann Also Mentioned: Talking Scared Podcast Episode 222: Stephen King Starter Kit Part II (What To Read + What To Skip) Storygraph (for tracking books and checking trigger warnings) Sadie Hartmann @mother.horror on Instagram SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 3 October 2024

Back in February, during a casual, late night conversation, my friend Kendra Adachi (aka The Lazy Genius) asked me a question that completely that changed my year. The answer to a question I had never thought about came to me with such clarity. And since her question (and my answer) was about the Big Picture plan for my life, it only felt appropriate to ask Kendra to talk through it all with me here on the show. Kendra Adachi's new book is called The Plan: Manage Your Time Like A Lazy Genius and it's out everywhere on October 8, 2024. Buy THE PLAN Learn more about Kendra Adachi Follow Kendra @thelazygenius on IG Listen to The Lazy Genius podcast FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Episode 51: How to Create and Structure a Business Peer Group (with Jamie B. Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi) Episode 71: Kendra Adachi is The Lazy Genius Episode 164: Are We Friends Or Not? (A Secret Tapes Mastermind Conversation with Jamie B. Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi)   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 26 September 2024

This episode is for anyone who has looked at a photo of themselves and wondered if that's what they really look like. Professional photographer Jess Koehler is my guest today as we talk through all the hangups that keep us from taking, sharing, or displaying photos of ourselves, and how we can overcome them. This is not a typical "tips and tricks" episode (although we do weave tangible and emotional tips throughout). Jess and I are talking about WHY we should document ourselves, maybe even on our hardest days. We're talking about the benefits of having professional photos taken when our camera phones have become so advanced. And, yes, we're sharing all kinds of logistics on taking photos, from finding a professional photographer to using your Apple Watch as a selfie timer. Learn more about Jess Koehler Follow Jess Koehler on IG Sign up for Jess Koehler's newsletter FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 37: Who do you see in the picture? Fleabag: A Love Story (BONUS episode with Sueann Fortener) RELATED: Ep 123: How To Feel Pretty When You Don't SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 19 September 2024

This is the latest episode in the ONE THING series, where I host conversations with interesting people and ask them the ONE THING they would tell you. You might know Joy Cho as the bright, stylish, happy face and founder of Oh Joy!, a lifestyle brand with millions of followers and whose products and designs have appeared in Target, Petco, House Beautiful (to name a few) and in collaborations with Keds, Casetify, Calpak (and more). But even with a soaring career, Joy experienced a midlife crisis after a hard season in her family and a series of professional setbacks. She tried all the things you're supposed to when you're struggling: therapy, a life coach, but there was really ONE THING that pulled her out of a long funk. In our conversation, Joy and I talk about how I fanned out on her not once but twice, how an outfit can change the way you move through the day, and why it helps to remember what we loved to do when we were kids. I knew Joy would bring wisdom and insight to the show, and of course she over delivered. Learn more about Joy Cho Follow Joy on Instagram Follow Oh Joy on Pinterest FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Find all of Joy Cho's books here Creative, Inc. (published 2010) Blog, Inc. (published 2012) Joy's mental-health-focused Substack SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 12 September 2024

This is an episode for writers, aspiring authors, readers, and anyone who likes a peek behind-the-scenes. We're going to talk about the publishing industry as it stands, how it's changed in the last few years, the rise of self-publishing, conquering self-doubt, money, and so much more. I'm sharing 4 lessons I learned after achieving my lifelong dream of becoming an author. My first book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. published in 2021, and my second book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs published in 2023. RELATED Episodes: Ep. 73 I wrote a book! (Agents, publishing, writing, and editing) Ep. 111 Behind-The-Scenes of Publishing, Launching, and Marketing a Book Ep. 166 How to Write a Book (in 10 steps) BONUS: 5 Things About Writing Your Own Story (with author, ghostwriter, and book coach Allison Fallon) Ep. 205: 10 Things All Podcast Fans Should Know FULL SHOW NOTES HERE JOIN SECRET STUFF FOR BONUS CONTENT MENTIONED in this episode: The Martian by Andy Weir Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James The Shadow Work Journal by Keila Shaheen How A Self-Published Book Broke All The Rules And Became A Best Seller (NYT) SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 5 September 2024

What is the best thing you read this summer? My guest Carmel Phillips and I are sharing the books that made the greatest impression over the last few months, including backlist titles and the buzziest books of the season. (And yes, of course we mention the NYT Best Books of the 21st century list that dropped in July.) Carmel Phillips is a design and style blogger who regularly shares bold interiors, budget-friendly fashion, and a splash of book talk! I've wanted to have her on the show forever and this felt like the perfect time to chat. Follow Carmel on IG Follow Carmel on TikTok Follow her book club @4ReadingWomen FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Carmel’s picks: Bastard Out of Carolina by Dorothy Allison The Island of Sea Women by Lisa See The Women by Kristen Hannah Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin Laura’s picks: The God of the Woods by Liz Moore All the Colors of the Dark by Chris Whitaker Unreasonable Hospitality by Will Guidara You Like It Darker by Stephen King Sandwich by Catherine Newman ALSO MENTIONED: Into the Drowning Deep by Mira Grant The Humans by Matt Haig The Midnight Library by Matt Haig James by Percival Everett Salvage the Bones by Jesmyn Ward Long Bright River by Liz Moore The Nightingale by Kristen Hannah The Four Winds by Kristen Hannah The Storied Life of A.J. Fikry by Gabrielle Zevin We All Want Impossible Things by Catherine Newman Ep. 224: Best Books of the Year (So Far) JOIN SECRET STUFF for regular book content and to hear the Stephen King Summer discussions SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 29 August 2024

The kitchen may be the heart of the home, but it's also the place most likely to collect clutter and be full to the brim of stuff. Professional organizer Tara Bremer of @house.peace shares with us 10 ways that we can achieve peace in the most used room in the house. FOLLOW @house.peace on IG SIGN UP for the House Peace newsletter As I'm in the middle of a kitchen remodel, I've been thinking a lot about how to make this space feel and function the way we want. I share a little more about the changes we're making to our home on Ep 230: Favorite Things Summer 2024 and Tara and I have a bonus conversation over on Secret Stuff about some of the crazy stuff she's come across while organizing for others as well as the mental health aspects that come up around hoarding and purging. JOIN SECRET STUFF TO LISTEN FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: The Home Edit organizing stuff at Walmart The Home Edit labels at The Container Store Talented Kitchen labels Brother P-Touch Label Maker SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 22 August 2024

This episode is inspired by Snoop Dogg at the Olympics. In the early 2000s, I worked on Snoop's short-lived MTV show Doggy Fizzle Televizzle and when I made a joke about this on social media, my DMs quickly filled with questions and I realized this was a story I hadn't told in awhile. So in this episode I'm sharing 10 weird things I've done - from watching Drew Barrymore crawl through a second-story window to calling the cops on a teenage prank gone wrong. I hope you enjoy my weird stories, but even more than that I hope that they inspire you to tell YOUR weird stories. Text a friend, post on social media, or revisit your past in your journal. This is a fun one. * A list of these weird things originally appeared in my book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. 10 Questions To Take Your Friendships To The Next Level FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Snoop Dogg’s Doggy Fizzle Televizzle Jackass Wildboyz Secret Stuff by Laura Tremaine (join to listen to the Secret Tapes episode with my friend Noah from Doggy Fizzle Televizzle) SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 15 August 2024

August is such a crazy month - the second "new year" as it's often called, except without the fresh start and instead with the idea that we're all gearing up for school, fall chaos, and, of course, all of that bleeding into the holiday season. But I don't want the second half of the year to feel frazzled, so I'm setting myself up for (better) success with a few rules and mantras to live by. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Secret Stuff Unreasonable Hospitality by Will Guidara RELATED Episodes: Episode 227: Time Anxiety Ep 162: 10 Ways To Handle Overwhelm Ep 79: 10+ Mantras and Affirmations For Right Now SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 8 August 2024

We're back with all new episodes and kicking it off by sharing my favorite things of the summer! In this episode I'm recommending books, podcasts, documentaries, and more favorites from this season. I'm also sharing details on our current home renovation and an update on my sister's recovery from brain surgery. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Join my SECRET STUFF Patreon community for more favorites Join us for STEPHEN KING SUMMER FAVORITES in this episode: Home renovations NYT 100 Best Books of the 21st Century list Kindle remote page turner The God of the Woods by Liz Moore Day Date Foodie Adventures with Jeff Changing up my artwork/Scout Design Studio art pieces Who Killed JFK? podcast Ashley Madison Sex Lies and Scandal on Netflix and The Perfect Wife on Hulu One Hundred Stars Stork Robe My sister’s recovery from brain surgery ALSO MENTIONED: Haus of Meeshie My personal ballot for the Best Books of the 21st Century Long Bright River by Liz Moore “American Nightmare” documentary on Netflix 11/22/63 by Stephen King SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 1 August 2024

This episode originally aired in November 2021 and is a very fun departure from my usual interviews. One of the strangest things about our life in Hollywood (and there are many, many strange things) is our enormous fish tank. Every time I share a little bit about our fish tank on social media, I get flooded with questions that I mostly can't answer. So I finally recorded a conversation with someone who could! Nic Tiemens is the co-founder of Infinity Aquariums and not only does he take care of the Tremaine Tank for us every week, he has installed and maintained tanks for some of the biggest celebrities and most beautiful homes in the world. In this episode, Nic shares how he stumbled into this line of work, why you shouldn't ever get a fish tank on a whim, and the insane new project he's been working on for two years in Bel Air. My husband Jeff also joins us for part of the conversation, because he's the real reason we have a 1,500 gallon fish tank in our dining room. FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Learn more about Nic and Infinity Aquariums Follow @infinityaquariums on Instagram SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 25 July 2024

This episode originally aired in August 2021, and is one of my personal favorites. Ready to bust out the air mattresses? This episode is FULL of practical, logistical, and emotional tips for hosting people in your home. I'm sharing everything from the 4 things that keep (most) guests happy, to the mindset shifts that will keep you from being overwhelmed or resentful. Look, if there's one subject I can give many (many) words to, it's hosting houseguests. Since I moved to Los Angeles 20 years ago, I've hosted friends and family of all group sizes, from couch crashers in a tiny apartment to my entire extended family at our new home last month. Our lovely lake house has also been a revolving door of guests over the years, where I've become an expert at managing meals, airport pickups, activities, and downtime for families and groups. I know that having guests can be an absolute honor and also completely exhausting. I hope this episode gives you the tools to plan and the freedom from pressure the next time you're the host. FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 18 July 2024

This episode originally aired in November 2021, and has been one of the most downloaded and referenced episodes of the show. Have you ever had the thoughts: I don’t have enough time Time is passing me by I’m wasting too much time If this is something that really affects your mood, your schedule, and you're full of frazzle, overwhelm, or a continuing existential crisis, then you may have Time Anxiety. (Not an official thing - just a name I gave to something that affects me regularly.) In this episode, I’m sharing about my own Time Anxiety and how it hurts my productivity and my parenting. I’m also talking about how to notice ALL the messages we get in our culture about TIME, and why those messages are giving us constant low-level hums of anxiety. I’m also sharing a few concrete methods I use to combat Time Anxiety. I hope you find this episode helpful or at the very least like you’re not the only one obsessed with the passage and managing of time. Mentioned in this episode: My IG post about Time Anxiety Headspace meditation app Other episodes about anxiety: Episode 18: 10 Thoughts on Anxiety Episode 57: Is it anxiety or is it intuition? Ep 213: Anxiety always makes sense FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 11 July 2024

Are you thriving or are you just...fine? What about your friendships? Two podcasters I've listened to for YEARS are tackling a new series this summer on friendship (the topic on everyone's tongue). I was so excited to welcome Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg from the How To Be Fine podcast (formerly By The Book) to the show to talk about their podcasting roots, their relationship as business besties, their experiment of living by the advice of self-help books, and their latest project on friendship. Listen to the How To Be Fine podcast Buy the How To Be Fine book Listen to the new By The Book episodes on Patreon Follow How To Be Fine on IG Follow Kristen on IG Follow Jolenta on IG SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 July 2024

This is a story about growing up feeling like an outsider and finding a book that made you feel less alone. And then growing up to create an adaptation of that book for the screen, in a dream project that took years to complete. This is a story about my friend Jill Killington and her work on the tv adaptation of Stephen King's THE STAND. You don't have to like horror or Hollywood to appreciate this conversation. Jill gives us a behind-the-scenes Hollywood perspective that was new and fascinating to me even after knowing her for 20+ years and sharing a longtime love of Stephen King. I think you are going to love the insight and insider stories she shares in this episode. NOTE: There are spoilers for THE STAND in this episode. Learn more about Jill Killington at JillKill.com Follow @JillKillsMe on IG JOIN STEPHEN KING SUMMER FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 27 June 2024

Since I write and talk about friendship so much, a frequent question comes up around supporting a friend when they are going through something difficult. I think the answer on this can vary, depending on the particular hardship, but my guest today is someone who knows what friends need when their difficult life circumstance is ongoing. Jessica Patay is the founder of We Are Brave Together, a nonprofit organization that provides respite, community, and resources for mothers caring for children of any age with disabilities, unique needs, or other medical or mental health challenges. She is is passionate about serving caregiving moms and creating authentic communities, and brings 10 tips to the conversation that will help us better support our friends who are caregiving mothers, daughters, partners, and more. Jessica has also created an anthology for caregiving moms sharing their stories titled Becoming Brave Together: Heroic, Extraordinary Caregiving Stories From Mothers Hidden in Plain Sight Learn more about Jessica Patay and follow her on Instagram Learn more about We Are Brave Together and follow them on Instagram Listen to the Brave Together podcast FULL SHOW NOTES HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! JOIN US FOR STEPHEN KING SUMMER FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 25 June 2024

It's my birthday week! I'm turning 45. And every year around this time, I do a birthday episode looking back and looking ahead. This year's theme is about the quiet changes that happen when you're distracted, or busy, or not paying attention. Last year on my birthday I was convinced that something HUGE was going to happen in my 44th year. I thought I had an intuition about it. I journaled my heart out about what was coming for me. And then...when I approached the end of 2023 and then eventually the end of my 44th year, I was disappointed that what I thought was a premonition hadn't come true. Instead, what I found was that I fundamentally changed in the last year. Through a series of events, heart aches, conversations, and maturity, I find myself at a really different place than I was last June. And while it might not be the seismic event I was anticipating, it has been earth shifting all the same. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Join us for Stephen King Summer! Ep 201: 10 Things I Learned in 2023 Ep 180: 4 Metaphors for Turning 44 June Journal Parties on IG Secret Stuff patreon has personal episodes like this every month SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 20 June 2024

We're halfway through 2024, which means it's time to take an inventory of the best books we've read in the last six months. My real life book club joins me for a mid-year look at the literary landscape for the second year in a row. Regular guests Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith are always a delight to have on the show. Apologies to your TBR after listening to this one. IT'S NOT TOO LATE TO JOIN US FOR STEPHEN KING SUMMER! Yasmin’s books: You Like it Darker by Stephen King James by Percival Everett Knife by Salman Rushdie Steph’s books: Long Island by Colm Toibin Neighbors and Other Stories by Diane Oliver Slow Horses by Mick Heron Laura’s books (on this episode): Listen for the Lie by Amy Tintera Sociopath by Patric Gagne Somehow by Anne Lamott Laura’s Best Books of the Year (So Far): The Bee Sting by Paul Murray The Book of Love by Kelly Link How to Walk Into a Room by Emily P. Freeman FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Mentioned in this episode: Stephen King Summer E. Shaver Bookstore in Savannah, GA on Instagram The Stacks Bookstore on Instagram Ep 209: Best Books Lately with Sara Hildreth Ep 218: Best Books Lately with R.Eric Thomas Ep 212: 10 Questions for Every Room You’re In with Emily P. Freeman Slow Horses on Apple+ Other Books Mentioned: Hello Beautiful by Ann Napolitano Dear Edward by Ann Napolitano Silver Sparrow by Tayari Jones An American Marriage by Tayari Jones Holly by Stephen King Cujo by Stephen King How to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix Brooklyn by Colm Toibin Anne of Green Gables by L.M. Montgomery Bright Young Women by Jessica Knoll Erasure by Percival Everett Wide Sargasso Sea by Jean Rhys A Million Little Pieces by James Frey The Satanic Verses by Salman Rushdie Find Yasmin on IG @yasminheartsbooks SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 13 June 2024

Jodi Wellman is focused on death. And she wants you to think about it more, too. Death is (clearly) not a popular topic, and something most of us avoid thinking about at all costs. But Jodi believes that knowing you have something to lose can help you live like you mean it. Her new book You Only Die Once: How To Make It To The End With No Regrets can walk you through making the most of your time on this earth. In this episode, author and speaker Jodi Wellman shares 5 ways to live like you're dying: Count your Mondays (quantifying your time can be remarkably clarifying) Diagnose the dead zones (areas in life that feel dead inside) Identify your deathbed pre-grets (regrets-in-the-making that can still be course-corrected) Live wider (with vitality) and deeper (with meaning): identify a list of enlivening endeavors Pick one small thing to take action on at a time Learn more about Jodi Wellman Buy You Only Die Once: How To Make It To the End With No Regrets Follow Jodi Wellman on IG FULL SHOW NOTES HERE JOIN STEPHEN KING SUMMER HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 6 June 2024

Obviously friendship is a big topic around here, but one of the aspects we don't touch on much is how these important relationships have changed in modern culture. We now have hundreds of connections in our daily lives, where our ancestors probably never met that many people in their entire lifetime. Friendship writer Anna Goldfarb brings us 5 Things to think about in our modern friendships that she expounds upon in her new book Modern Friendship: How To Nurture Our Most Valued Connections. Called “the New York Times’ friendship correspondent,” Anna Goldfarb's reporting on friendships has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, TIME , Vox, and more. Follow @AnnaGoldfarb on IG Subscribe to her substack Friendship Explained Buy her new book Modern Friendship STEPHEN KING SUMMER IS IN FULL SWING! Join us here FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 4 June 2024

This episode is ONLY book recommendations. The original Stephen King Starter Kit episode has more of the author's biography and why I think reading Stephen King matters. You do NOT need to listen to Part I to enjoy Part II. LISTEN TO STEPHEN KING STARTER KIT Part I In this episode I'm sharing my personal favorites, what I would recommend if you don't like scary/horror (because there are plenty to choose from!), what I recommend for teenagers, and which Stephen King books I would never recommend you start with (even though they're popular). JOIN STEPHEN KING SUMMER FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: My favorite Stephen King novels of all time: IT 11/22/63 The Stand Dolores Claiborne If you don't like scary, maybe start with: Carrie Rita Hayworth and Shawshank Redemption On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft The Institute Billy Summers If you're okay with scary books, you might start with: The Shining (horror) Misery (psychological thriller) I wouldn't start with: Pet Sematary Fairy Tale On my own Stephen King "To Read" list: From a Buick 8 Lisey's Story SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 31 May 2024

It's a question we've all asked ourselves at some point....Is everyone happier than me? A relatable thought made worse by the perfection of social media and knowledge that life could go take us on a hundred different paths. Did we choose the right one? It's also the title of Sarah Bragg's new book, where she explores this topic with essays and stories from her own life and parenthood. In this episode, Sarah gives us 4 ways to be happier online (since that's such a huge contributing factor to this question). I loved this conversation with Sarah and know I'm not the only one kept awake at night with comparison and curiosity. LEARN MORE ABOUT SARAH BRAGG Follow @SarahWBragg on IG Listen to the Surviving Sarah podcast Buy her new book Is Everyone Happier Than Me? FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE JOIN STEPHEN KING SUMMER HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 28 May 2024

My 4th annual book club dedicated to my favorite author (and the greatest living storyteller) is HERE! Stephen King Summer 2024 officially starts June 2 but you can jump in at any time over the next three months to join us for two movie watch-a-longs and three books. We're READING: 'Salem's Lot King's second novel was originally published in 1975 and this is a vampire story. You Like It Darker This is King's latest collection of short stories that just published in May 2024. We will read one or two stories to discuss (this is perfect for those King-curious who don't want to commit to the novels). 11/22/63 One of my favorite novels of all time, this book is not scary and will let you into King's master storytelling without having to endure the horror. We're WATCHING: Firestarter The Mist JOIN STEPHEN KING SUMMER! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 28 May 2024

It's almost road trip season! I'm giving you 10 prompts for great conversations in the car. I purposefully designed these to work with any age, and any type of relationship. They're a mix of fun and deep, and in the episode I share alternatives or tangents you can take with each prompt, as well as sharing my own answers and stories. Happy travels! FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Join me for the STEPHEN KING SUMMER BOOK CLUB SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 May 2024

Every now and then I have a guest on this show that just knocks my socks off and beauty industry pioneer Wende Zomnir is the latest fascinating person to get that title. In the 1990's, the top makeup and beauty brands were formal, stodgy, and established. Urban Decay disrupted the industry with their bold colors, heavily pigmented formulas, and modern branding. My guest Wende Zomnir describes what it was like to create Urban Decay and how lucky connections and a broad vision contributed to it's success. But now Zomnir is back with a new brand that is already on shelves at Sephora and poised to make another important splash in the beauty world: Caliray Beauty blends makeup with wellness to create innovative concoctions with innocent ingredients. Zomnir gives me an EDUCATION in this episode about sustainability and the future of the beauty industry. She shares the obstacles to making clean makeup and is generous with her knowledge, passion, and shout outs to other beauty brands who are doing right. Follow @wendezomnir on IG Follow @caliray on IG Shop Caliray @ Sephora FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: “Clean at Sephora” standards Environmental Working Group (www.ewg.org) Credo Beauty Clean Standard RELATED to this episode: Ep 14: Skincare and Makeup Favorites with Jamie Golden Ep 192: OBSESSED (More) Skincare and Makeup Favorites with Jamie Golden SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 16 May 2024

My mom has taught me some really important things like: Don't look for the shortest line, look for the fastest cashier and You don't want a marriage, you want a wedding and so much more. I'm sharing 10 of my favorite life lessons that my mom has taught me in the last 40 years. FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 177: How To Find Your Signature Style Ep 123: How To Feel Pretty (When You Don't) SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 9 May 2024

Ally Fallon is an author, ghostwriter, and book coach, which means she is exquisitely qualified to share tips on writing your story. It doesn't matter if you plan to publish the story you want to tell, or just need to get it out onto the page for yourself, the insight she shares in this episode is so valuable. I also love following Ally on IG and have pointed my own journaling students towards her book The Power of Writing It Down. Her new book is called Write Your Story: A Simple Framework to Understand Yourself, Your Story, and Your Purpose in the World and it's out now! FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Hero’s Journey by Joseph Campbell SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 7 May 2024

How often are the old you and the current you in complete alignment? I'm sharing a passage from Congratulations, The Best Is Over by R. Eric Thomas and a famous quote from writer Joan Didion. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG and on facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 5 May 2024

The best episodes are book episodes and I am THRILLED to be joined for this edition of Best Books Lately by an author I have read and admired for years: R. Eric Thomas In this conversation, Eric and I discuss his new book Congratulations, The Best Is Over and also how he found his distinct writing voice. And then, of course, we each share a few of the best books we've read lately. We laugh, we fan out, and we talk about great books. Learn more about R. Eric Thomas Follow R. Eric Thomas Sign up for the Here For It newsletter from R. Eric Thomas FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Eric’s Best Books Lately: Martyr! by Kaveh Akbar Good Material by Dolly Alderton Idlewild by James Frankie Thomas Drunk on Love by Jasmine Guillory The Intuitionist by Colson Whitehead Laura’s Best Books Lately: The Book of Love by Kelly Link The Michigan Murders by Edward Keyes Family Family by Laurie Frankel Related: Stephen King Summer Ep. 157: True Crime as Entertainment (A Victim’s Story with Amy B. Chesler) Secret Stuff Book Club Also Mentioned: Abbott Elementary on ABC Veep on HBO The Righteous Gemstones on HBO Dickinson on AppleTV+ Better Things on FX Tom Lake by Ann Patchett Commonwealth by Ann Patchett Bel Canto by Ann Patchett The Rachel Incident by Caroline O’Donoghue Everything I Know About Love by Dolly Alderton Libro.fm This Is How It Always Is by Laurie Frankel One, Two, Three by Laurie Frankel Crook Manifesto by Colson Whitehead Underground Railroad by Colson Whitehead Chain Gang All-Stars by Nana Kwame Adjei-Brenyah John Henry Days by Colson Whitehead Apex Hides the Hurt by Colson Whitehead SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 2 May 2024

How could you possibly know what you don't know? How could anyone? Talking today about shame, grace, sarcasm, and expansiveness. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 28 April 2024

I'm answering listener questions like: Do you ever wish you'd had more kids? Is life in LA portrayed correctly on Real Housewives? Will you ever write another book and on what topic? JOIN SECRET STUFF for a few more BONUS (personal) questions about money, travel, and woo-woo stuff I've tried It's always fun to hear what's on your mind through the questions you ask. I hope this episode also gives you a few questions to ask around your own tables. FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 210: My Favorite Things (Right Now) The walking pad I love College sweatshirt from The Great Nike by You SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 25 April 2024

I have been following Myquillyn Smith's home decor advice online for years and am so happy to welcome her back to the show to talk about her new book HOUSE RULES. This new book from Myquillyn (aka The Nester) is not only gorgeous, it just lays it out bare in list form: these are the "rules" to create a space you love and want to be in. In our conversation here, we talk about our favorite house rules and I also ask her to dive deeper into some of the rules I didn't fully understand. Follow @TheNester on IG Follow @TheNestingPlace on FB Buy House Rules by Myquillyn Smith FULL SHOW NOTES HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 23 April 2024

"I learned to stop praying for patience, instead pray for resolution." From a post by JeriLynn Clifford, aka @the_hill_country_bon_vivant on IG Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcribed - Published: 21 April 2024