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Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

Society & Culture, Relationships, Health & Fitness, Sexuality

55.5K Ratings

Overview

There is so much great and life-changing information about sex and intimacy, but let’s face it, it can be dry as hell! Intimacy expert and sexologist Shan Boodram takes a deep dive into anything and everything about sex, relationships, and the science of attachment every week with expert guests and friends who will tell all. It’s everything The Talk should be.

116 Episodes

105: Kelly Rowland on Sex, Kink, Divorce and Repressed Desires

Kelly Rowland, you read right. This is a CAN NOT MISS, special release Lovers and Friends episode with Shan Boodram AND it is best experienced after you watch Mea Culpa now streaming worldwide on Netflix. In this intimate, first-of-its-kind conversation Kelly Rowland shares how she went from a sexually repressed upbringing to living up to her pleasure potential as a sensualist, plus how her sexual awakening gave her the confidence to play Mea in Mea Clupa alongside Trevante Rhodes, whom she shares very STEAMY sex scenes with on screen. Kelly also discusses her feelings on divorce, kink, toys in the bedroom, and overcoming the fear of being imperfect. Watch the trailer to Mea Culpa https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-p0g9YfjJSA Follow Kelly https://www.instagram.com/kellyrowland/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-p0g9YfjJSA Thanks to Our Sponsors DAME Head to http://dame.com at dame.com and if you’d like to pick something up, my code SHANLOVERS gets you 15% off at checkout ARYA Head to http://arya.fyi to learn how they’re helping couples break their sexual routine and if you’re interested in trying it code SHAN15 gets you 15% off now Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodram

Transcribed - Published: 26 February 2024

104: Ride Our Emotional Roller Coaster: The Concluding Episode of Lovers & Friends

Welcome to (some of) the best of Lovers and Friends the podcast. Hear from JESSIE REYES, MELISSA AND KEV OnSTAGE, ABBY DE LA ROSA, SHANOLA HAMPTON, TIM Chantrangsu aka DE LA GHETTO, DREW LOVE from THEY, RACHEL LINDSAY and GLO ATANMO during this special recap episode. THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR ONSEKIN Go to http://oneskin.co and 15% off with code LOVERS15 GLO ATANMO https://youtu.be/lbIaM09t0ZU?si=GtWZkCBspPlmUA8f https://open.spotify.com/episode/1W4xrpdCh0V3OwXZCYt1bO?si=mJNj1rxcQ7a333AUmgsqMA JESSIE REYES https://youtu.be/7IbgI3-s7Ps?si=j0CL3b8gYqsNbqFe https://open.spotify.com/episode/2w3jYgkVIgg2eQoYWuALhp?si=8q3ptyfKQbWn9FrrY3bZTA MELISSA AND KEV https://youtu.be/hrMVcujhg1A?si=idb7xnDq8TX1aBh_ https://open.spotify.com/episode/4NjXUyZ5suDL3ytxUALFV8?si=gg3B7zvfQnm5nS9XUpkyZA ABBY DE LA ROSA https://youtu.be/aq8290G52_I?si=oaI5d_ALvuj82z9V https://open.spotify.com/episode/5AM2X8zNwmgV3koVtgemPC?si=pzqGDEw3QMCe8Awx9eFK7Q SHANOLA HAMPTON https://youtu.be/J7PZakvvdCo?si=LDSbtyjNTKuNmZ1u https://open.spotify.com/episode/2pHr7jrSj7iQTZlsbIUoYV?si=-pk8WovdSbqLLyrXDrRpRg TIM DE LA GHETTO https://youtu.be/G6WYaHFOjEU?si=uDvI7cap3yCs0srq https://open.spotify.com/episode/0VuY52Ct9XS9Wua4dtupO6?si=ZFMbJEQOQ56IuBADlxm8og DREW LOVE https://youtu.be/bdooXjRGprY?si=AG3KL1r-wAfeb8Gm https://open.spotify.com/episode/39lGd7mxW9jvpGpOPYMKaj?si=ou8FILHeSGG7P21hCZwMog RACHEL LINDSAY https://youtu.be/bnEORZJD2pQ?si=LiHiZKFU1-_Cv8l6 https://open.spotify.com/episode/1kN3P1KoHI3LcnLNRgzY76?si=faUIGN4ATUaLvewVQ3AjCQ HELP WHY CAN’T I ORGASM https://open.spotify.com/episode/2X8oEJMQ8JNSu6Psa53r7O?si=wJMEWu6vTmGpia1waTZ0Sw

Transcribed - Published: 27 December 2023

103: Get the Fairytale You Need - Despite What You Think You Want feat. Damona Hoffman

FUCK the fairytale! How does that land on you? Does it make you go FUCK YES we need to be realistic about love OR does it make you go FUCK NO I desire the fairytale and that’s what I’ll get. Well when dating coach Damona Hoffman suggests you F the Fairytale, she kinda wants you to feel both. Tired of the same old dating game and ready to find real, lasting love? Join us in this episode of FUCK the Fairytale as we explore what a true fairytale relationship looks like with expert dating coach Damona Hoffman. We’ll challenge outdated ideas of the ideal partner and redefine what happiness looks like in modern relationships. Don’t miss your chance to discover true love - watch now! FOLLOW DAMONA HOFFMAN https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/ https://damonahoffman.com/ Ritual Visit http://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today. Ritual is offering Lovers and Friends 30% off during your first month. BetterHelp Visit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month. HelloFresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! Quince Go to http://Quince.com/lovers for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns! Damona Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodram http://tiktok.com/shanboody

Transcribed - Published: 20 December 2023

102: If Someone Says I’m Too Feminine or Too Masculine, I Know We Won’t Work feat. Mal Wright

Are you ready to break free from outdated social norms and discover the real power of being true to yourself? Mal Wright from Netflix's The Ultimatum is here to share her story of why she chose to end her engagement, why gender has no place in sex, and the one thing her next partner must have. Don't miss this inspiring story and get ready to experience the liberating effects of embracing your true self! Follow Mal https://www.instagram.com/igobymal/ https://malwright.komi.io/ Thanks to Our Sponsors Dipsea Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS SKIMS SKIMS Holiday Gift Shop is now open at http://SKIMS.com. Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars. BABBEL Get 55% off at http://Babbel.com/LOVERS BetterHelp Visit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month. Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodram http://tiktok.com/shanboody

Transcribed - Published: 13 December 2023

101: A Therapist and Her Husband Chose To Be Childfree. Here's Why feat. Vanessa and Xander Marin

Are you curious why Vanessa and Xander, a happily married couple, chose not to have children? Find out by joining therapist Vanessa and her husband Xander as they share their personal story about why they chose to remain childfree. Tune in to learn more about their unconventional decision and how it has impacted their lives! Follow Vanessa and Xander Marin https://sextalksbook.com/ https://vmtherapy.com/ HelloFresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! StoryWorth Go to http://StoryWorth.com/lovers and save $10 on your first purchase! Zoc Doc Go to Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodram http://tiktok.com/shanboody

Transcribed - Published: 6 December 2023

99: If You Haven’t Found Your Go To Position, Try These from the Kama Sutra feat. Seema Anand

Becoming a Pro: Master These Kama Sutra Sex Moves and Take Things to the Next Level. Spend some quality time with Seema Anand as she guides you through the Kama Sutra to discover the perfect positions for your pleasure even if the penis is too big, too small, or not experienced enough. From beginner-friendly poses to more advanced options, you'll learn something new no matter your level. So if you haven't found your go-to position yet, tune in now and explore with Seema! Seema Anand is a London-based story-teller, mythologist, and narrative practitioner, known for her expertise in the field of ancient Asian narratives and their relevance in contemporary times. She is particularly well-recognized for her works in bringing to light the narratives surrounding female sexuality and empowerment that are deeply embedded in ancient texts, including the Kama Sutra. She has also authored several books where she delves into narratives of love, desire, and female beauty from an Asian perspective, enabling a deeper understanding and appreciation of these age-old philosophies. Seema holds a PhD in Narrative practices, positioning her as an authority in her field, which allows her to skillfully weave the ancient wisdom with modern narratives to foster understanding and empathy in today's society. Follow Seema https://www.instagram.com/seemaanandstorytelling/?hl=en https://linktr.ee/seemaanandstorytelling Thanks to our Sponsors SKIMS SKIMS Holiday Gift Shop is now open at http://SKIMS.com. Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars. BetterHelp Visit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp http://betterhelp.com/lovers Get a break from your thoughts, with BetterHelp. today to get 10% off your first month. UNCOMMON GOODS http://UNCOMMONGOODS.com/Lovers, for 15% off your first gift OneSkin Get 15% off with the code Lovers15 at http://oneskin.co. Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodram Tiktok.com/shanboody

Transcribed - Published: 29 November 2023

98: Sex In Straight Relationships Can't Get Better Until Men Can Admit to This feat. Tonight's Conversation

Today, we're joined by renowned guests from the popular podcast "Tonight's Conversation Podcast" – Ace Metaphor, Kita Rose, and Just Mike The Poet. This podcast is renowned for bringing together social media personalities, relationship experts, and therapists to explore themes related to love, dating, and relationships. Our discussion today centers on the dynamics of relationships, specifically focusing on the contrasting preferences of men and women in intimate settings. Additionally, we'll delve into a provocative topic: the impact of masturbation on one's sexual desire towards their partner. FOLLOW Tonight's Conversation https://www.instagram.com/tonightsconversation/ https://linktr.ee/tonightsconversationcards ACE: https://www.instagram.com/acemetaphor/ KITA: https://www.instagram.com/kitarose_/?hl=en MIKE: https://tonightsconversation.vhx.tv/videos/tc-date-night-s1-e8 Thanks to our sponsors Dipsea Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS Ritual Ritual is offering my listeners 30% off during your first month. Visit http://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today Lume As a special offer for listeners of Lovers and Friends, new customers get $5 off Lume’s Starter Pack with our exclusive code and link. And for a limited time, returning customers can get $5 off their next purchase of $30 or more, too! Use code LOVERS at http://LumeDeodorant.com HelloFresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! That means one breakfast item per box while your subscription is active.

Transcribed - Published: 22 November 2023

98: Tonight's Conversation vs Lovers and Friends: Orgasm Gap and Relationships Being Mid

Today, we're joined by renowned guests from the popular podcast "Tonight's Conversation Podcast" – Ace Metaphor, Kita Rose, and Just Mike The Poet. This podcast is renowned for bringing together social media personalities, relationship experts, and therapists to explore themes related to love, dating, and relationships. Our discussion today centers on the dynamics of relationships, specifically focusing on the contrasting preferences of men and women in intimate settings. Additionally, we'll delve into a provocative topic: the impact of masturbation on one's sexual desire towards their partner. FOLLOW Tonight's Conversation https://www.instagram.com/tonightsconversation/ https://linktr.ee/tonightsconversationcards ACE: https://www.instagram.com/acemetaphor/ KITA: https://www.instagram.com/kitarose_/?hl=en MIKE: https://tonightsconversation.vhx.tv/videos/tc-date-night-s1-e8 Thanks to our sponsors Dipsea Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS Ritual Ritual is offering my listeners 30% off during your first month. Visit http://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today Lume As a special offer for listeners of Lovers and Friends, new customers get $5 off Lume’s Starter Pack with our exclusive code and link. And for a limited time, returning customers can get $5 off their next purchase of $30 or more, too! Use code LOVERS at http://LumeDeodorant.com HelloFresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! That means one breakfast item per box while your subscription is active.

Transcribed - Published: 22 November 2023

98: Sex Won't Get Better Until Men Admit to This feat. Tonight's Conversation

Today, we're joined by renowned guests from the popular podcast "Tonight's Conversation Podcast" – Ace Metaphor, Kita Rose, and Just Mike The Poet. This podcast is renowned for bringing together social media personalities, relationship experts, and therapists to explore themes related to love, dating, and relationships. Our discussion today centers on the dynamics of relationships, specifically focusing on the contrasting preferences of men and women in intimate settings. Additionally, we'll delve into a provocative topic: the impact of masturbation on one's sexual desire towards their partner. FOLLOW Tonight's Conversation https://www.instagram.com/tonightsconversation/ https://linktr.ee/tonightsconversationcards ACE: https://www.instagram.com/acemetaphor/ KITA: https://www.instagram.com/kitarose_/?hl=en MIKE: https://tonightsconversation.vhx.tv/videos/tc-date-night-s1-e8 Thanks to our sponsors Dipsea Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS Ritual Ritual is offering my listeners 30% off during your first month. Visit http://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today Lume As a special offer for listeners of Lovers and Friends, new customers get $5 off Lume’s Starter Pack with our exclusive code and link. And for a limited time, returning customers can get $5 off their next purchase of $30 or more, too! Use code LOVERS at http://LumeDeodorant.com HelloFresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! That means one breakfast item per box while your subscription is active.

Transcribed - Published: 22 November 2023

97: Why Is ShxtsNGigs Dominating the Sex / Relationship Podcast Game?

This episode is where raw opinions and humor collide! In this series, I sit down with James and Fuhad, the dynamic duo behind the top 5 Spotify podcast, ShxtsNGigs. Known for their unapologetically honest and often hilarious takes, these best friends have become a sensation among Gen Z audiences in the UK. Today we talk about what makes them different in a world of podcast about Sex/Relationships. Follow ShxtsNGigs : https://www.instagram.com/shxtsngigs/ Follow ShxtNGigs: https://www.youtube.com/@ShtsNGigsPodcast Follow James Duncan : https://www.instagram.com/jamesduncan/ Follow Fuhad : https://www.instagram.com/fuhad_/ Babbel Http://Babbel.com/LOVERS to Get 55% off at Babbel. Rules and restrictions may apply Skims Holiday Gift Shop is now open at http://SKIMS.com. Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars. OneSkin get 15% off OneSkin with our code LOVERS15 at http://oneskin.co this show is sponsored by BetterHelp Visit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month Follow Shan @shanboodram - IG @shanboody - Tik Tok @loversandfriends - YouTube

Transcribed - Published: 15 November 2023

96: I Love Older Men, but I Regret Dating Them in My Twenties feat. Anna Akana

Are you young and attracted to mature men? Many younger women are dating older men, but is it really worth it? Anna Akana was in her twenties when she had a public relationship with Ray Williams Johnson, and she's here to tell us why it was a huge mistake. Hear her story plus the joys of dating older men today. Learn why Anna thinks women younger than 25 should be warned about the possible repercussions before taking the plunge. Plus, find out why she's so happy now that she's dating a man in his sixties, another in his fifties, and even one woman in her forties! Dive into this episode now if you're interested in learning more about what it's like to date an older partner. Follow Anna Akana https://www.instagram.com/annaakana https://www.youtube.com/annaakana https://www.squadup.com/events/it-gets-darker-anna-akana-friends-1 Thanks to our sponsors First Leaf Go to http://TryFirstleaf.com/LOVERS to sign up and you’ll get your first SIX hand-curated bottles for just $44.95. UNCOMMON GOODS To get 15% off your next gift, go to http://UNCOMMONGOODS.com/LOVERS HelloFresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! Zocdoc Go to http://Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE Follow Shan @shanboodram - IG @shanboody - Tik Tok @loversandfriends - YouTube

Transcribed - Published: 8 November 2023

95: No, THAT’S Not Normal! How Hormones Could Be Impacting Your Sex Life and Health

Do you want to understand hormones better? Dr. Jolene Brighten is here to demystify the power of hormones and how they can affect fertility, sex drive, ADHD, how long it takes to orgasm, and period pain. Tune in as she explains what hormones are, their function and role in our bodies, plus how they can be managed for improved health and wellness. Learn from the experts! Don't miss out on this insightful educational experience with Dr. Jolene Brighten. Thanks to our sponsors One Skin http://oneskin.co and use code LOVERS15 at checkout for 15% off Dipsea Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS Quince http://Quince.com/lovers for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. UNCOMMON GOODS http://UNCOMMONGOODS.com/LOVERS for 15% off Thanks to Our Guest https://drbrighten.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drjolenebrighten Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodram http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng

Transcribed - Published: 1 November 2023

94: Self Love: My Key to Not Being Blinded By Hurt and Constant Criticism

Are you struggling to understand what real self love looks like? Do you find yourself getting hurt or blinded by pain and not being able to move forward? In this special video, Shan Boodram will answer your questions on how to heal from hurt and cultivate a deeper sense of self love. Get ready for some never before heard revelations with some timeless gems - it’s time to discover the key to unlocking true peace and freedom. Tune in now and learn how real self love can free you from pain and hurt by embracing the nature of those very things. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode BetterHelp is sponsoring this episode Visit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month Ritual http://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today and get 30% off your first month Skims Go to http://SKIMS.com and get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars Factor Head to http://FACTOR MEALS.com/lovers50 and use code lovers50 to get 50% off Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng

Transcribed - Published: 25 October 2023

93: I Understand Jada Pinkett Smith and Will's Relationship because of This

Get an in-depth and candid look into the fascinating 40-year marriage of my parents, and see how their dynamic can shed light on the relationship of Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith. I'm interviewing my parents to ask the questions we all want answered when it comes to a long-term relationship going through myriad ups and downs inclduing breakups, dating others, and going through social shame for staying through it all. Why is it still worth fighting for? Jada Pinkett Smith talks about this question in her new memoir, Worthy. Thanks to my parents for being apart of this episode follow my mom https://www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholivia https://www.youtube.com/c/YourTravelWithOlivia Thanks to the sponsors of this episode HelloFresh http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus free shipping! One Skin http://oneskin.co and use code LOVERS at checkout for 15% off First Leaf Try http://Firstleaf.com/LOVERS to sign up and you’ll get your first SIX hand-curated bottles for just $44.95 Books I suggested in this episode https://www.amazon.com/shop/shanboody/list/3IM9P9FGJOL9J?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsflist_aipsfshanboody_TFZ9F6EQ6YY0ZZYBYT2J Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng

Transcribed - Published: 19 October 2023

92: I Never Stayed Past the Honeymoon Phase and Here’s Why feat. Brenden Durell

Are you struggling with the fear of commitment? Feeling like there’s something wrong with you because all of your relationships have ended shortly after the honeymoon phase? You're not alone! Join Brenden Durell as he talks about his own experiences with the fear of commitment and how he learned to address it. In this video, Brenden will be opening up about why he never stayed past the honeymoon phase and how to combat the fear of commitment. It's time to give love another chance! Thanks to the Sponsors of this Episode Jenni Kayne http://jennikayne.com use the code LOVERS at checkout to get 15% off This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp http://betterhelp.com/lovers to get 10% off your first month Dipsea Stories http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS for 30 days of full access for free Babbel http://babbel.com/lovers to Get 55% off Rules and restrictions may apply. Follow Brenden https://www.instagram.com/brendendurell/?hl=en https://mylinks.brendendurell.com/ Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng

Transcribed - Published: 11 October 2023

91: How I Stopped Searching for Love in Lost People feat. Leah Lamarr

How do we fix our desire for relationships with people that will inevitably become broken. And how do we stop ourselves from aligning healthy with boring? That’s what we’re talking about on this episode of Lovers and Friends. Attraction, whether emotional, physical, or psychological, is a complex process. It can be influenced by numerous factors, from biology to personal history. If someone finds themselves repeatedly attracted to individuals with certain undesirable characteristics (like the makeup of a fuckboy: charismatic but not reliable, fun to be around but not fun to be apart from because communication is not stable or when out of sight they’re unpredictable, they make big plans but don’t consistently make the small actions to move towards that goal especially when it comes to you, etc…), understanding the underlying causes and taking conscious steps to modify patterns of attraction can be beneficial. Here's a scientific, step-by-step approach: Self-awareness and reflection Next, Examine past patterns Understand the biology Cognitive-behavioral techniques Increase self-worth Expand your social circle Educate yourself Avoid idealization practice mindfulness Follow Leah Lamarr https://www.instagram.com/leahlamarr https://sociatap.com/leahlamarr/ Show Love to Our Sponsors Zoc Doc Go to Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE Hello Fresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus free shipping Skims Try The Cotton collection and more are available now at http://SKIMS.com Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars! Extras in this episode The Art of Manipulation: Influence Human Behavior, Understand the Psychology of Manipulation, Effectively Manage People, and Get What You (Really) Want! Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng

Transcribed - Published: 4 October 2023

90: Do Relationships Really Need To Be Hard Work? A Reality Check feat. Nina Westbrook

Have you ever been told that relationships require hard work? Well, it's time for a reality check with therapist Nina Westbrook who is married to NBA All Star Russel Westbrook! Nina shares their experiences and insights on relationships and even addresses people who say that Russel could do better than her- her response will inspire you. Follow Nina Westbrook https://www.instagram.com/ninawestbrook https://www.youtube.com/@TheRelationshipChronicles https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-chronicles-with-nina-westbrook/id1696624137 Thanks to our sponsors Factor Meals http://FACTORMEALS.com/lovers50 use code lovers50 to get 50% This video is sponsored by BetterHelp BetterHelp.com/lovers to get 10% off your first month Acorns http://acorns.com/lovers to download Acorns to start saving and investing for your future today! Ritual http://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today. EXTRAS in this episode I reference Naval Ravikant And used a clip from Esther Perel’s videos https://youtu.be/ejTBjX4Cu6Y?si=uy7tyOEeYAZnxs5Q Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng

Transcribed - Published: 27 September 2023

89: CONFESSIONS FROM A SEX COACH FOR MEN ft. Alex Grendi

Here’s what men don't tell you about how to be a better intimate partner…How do you get your man to go from bland to blazing in bed? Why should men stop watching porn? How do you encourage your man to ask for what he wants in bed? Are you missing out on pleasure by not using breathwork? Alex Grendi is a certified men’s sex coach who specializes in performance anxiety and erectile dysfunction. He’s here to talk about the importance of asking for what you want in the bedroom AND the struggle (especially for men) of figuring out what that REALLY is. Some of you have mentioned that you like the longer solo interview episodes and that’s what this is. Follow Alex Grendi http://Alex.Grendi www.superiorlovers.com Thanks to our Sponsors Liquid IV http://LIQUIDIV.COM using the promo code LOVERS at checkout for a 20% Skims http://skims.com Dipsea http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS Get an extended 30 day free trial Hello Fresh http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 months! Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng

Transcribed - Published: 20 September 2023

88: An Uncommon Guide to the Kama Sutra (You'll Be Shocked By What We Found) feat. Seema Anand

The Kama Sutra, a renowned ancient Indian Sanskrit text, often perceived as a guide to sexual positions and techniques, is in fact a comprehensive guide to virtuous and gracious living. Written between 400 BCE and 200 CE by a sage named Vatsyayana, this text covers various aspects of life, including family, relationships, and personal conduct, amongst others. The Kama Sutra is a profound ancient text that offers wisdom not only on intimacy but on many facets of life. Its holistic approach to love and relationships makes it a rich resource for understanding ancient Indian society's perspectives on love, life, and morality. By exploring it in depth, you may find a plethora of wisdom that goes beyond the bedroom and offers insights into a virtuous and gracious life. On this episode we have Seema Anand guides us through what we missed while looking at the pictures of sex positions in the kama Sutra. Seema Anand is a London-based story-teller, mythologist, and narrative practitioner, known for her expertise in the field of ancient Asian narratives and their relevance in contemporary times. She is particularly well-recognized for her works in bringing to light the narratives surrounding female sexuality and empowerment that are deeply embedded in ancient texts, including the Kama Sutra. She has also authored several books where she delves into narratives of love, desire, and female beauty from an Asian perspective, enabling a deeper understanding and appreciation of these age-old philosophies. Seema holds a PhD in Narrative practices, positioning her as an authority in her field, which allows her to skilfully weave the ancient wisdom with modern narratives to foster understanding and empathy in today's society. Follow Seema https://www.instagram.com/seemaanandstorytelling/?hl=en https://linktr.ee/seemaanandstorytelling Thanks to our Sponsors This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp http://betterhelp.com/lovers Get a break from your thoughts, with BetterHelp. today to get 10% off your first month. Babbel http://Babbel.com/lovers Get 55% off your Babbel subscription Zocdoc http://Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodram

Transcribed - Published: 13 September 2023

87: How to Stay Together When The World Around You Is Falling Apart

This week I needed some breathing room so I brought in my ventilator aka husband Jared Brady. Listen to Pick a Side https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4sasTfLuqSzV6hxtYKWSPu?si=12a9d1fbf6434ebe Thanks to Our Sponsor Hello Fresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 months!

Transcribed - Published: 6 September 2023

86: The Pressure for Pleasure. Exploring the Dilemma of Both Being in the Mood feat. Elaine Welteroth and Jonathan Singletary

What does it take to get you in the mood? Maybe like some it’s strawberries and silk. Or maybe like many others, it’s a little more … nuanced than that. Jonathan Singletary and my husband Jared Brady teamed up to make a sexy song devoted to the women who do a lot and consequently, need a little more to get…there. When it comes to being horny aka getting in the mood, this conversation is often about what you can do to get there, but in this episode we go into what has to first be done, OR in some cases undone for it to become feasible for all parties. Getting horny seems simple when we look at it through a Super Bad lens, but when we insert real people with real lives we can appreciate this complex process that relies on an interplay of neurological, hormonal, emotional, and physiological cooperation. Thanks to Our Sponsors Ritual http://Ritual.com/LOVERS Ritual is offering my listeners 20% off during your first month FabFitFun http://FabFitFun.com/LOVERS Sign up at, customize your box, and get access to discounts up to 70% off on brands like Fenty, Free People, and Our Place - to name a few. Dipsea http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day FREE trial MOOD: https://linktr.ee/jsingletary Follow our guests Jonathan Singletary https://www.instagram.com/jonathansingletary https://linktr.ee/jsingletary Elaine Welteroth https://www.instagram.com/elainewelteroth https://www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2023/02/14/ask-elaine-husband-new-mom-less-attracted/ Jared Brady http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng

Transcribed - Published: 30 August 2023

86: What it REALLY Takes to Get in the Mood at the Same Time Ft. Elaine Welteroth & Jonathan Singletary

What does it take to get you in the mood? Maybe like some it’s strawberries and silk. Or maybe like many others, it’s a little more … nuanced than that. Jonathan Singletary and my husband Jared Brady teamed up to make a sexy song devoted to the women who do a lot and consequently, need a little more to get…there. When it comes to being horny aka getting in the mood, this conversation is often about what you can do to get there, but in this episode we go into what has to first be done, OR in some cases undone for it to become feasible for all parties. Getting horny seems simple when we look at it through a Super Bad lens, but when we insert real people with real lives we can appreciate this complex process that relies on an interplay of neurological, hormonal, emotional, and physiological cooperation. Thanks to Our Sponsors Ritual http://Ritual.com/LOVERS Ritual is offering my listeners 20% off during your first month FabFitFun http://FabFitFun.com/LOVERS Sign up at, customize your box, and get access to discounts up to 70% off on brands like Fenty, Free People, and Our Place - to name a few. Dipsea http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day FREE trial MOOD: https://linktr.ee/jsingletary Follow our guests Jonathan Singletary https://www.instagram.com/jonathansingletary https://linktr.ee/jsingletary Elaine Welteroth https://www.instagram.com/elainewelteroth https://www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2023/02/14/ask-elaine-husband-new-mom-less-attracted/ Jared Brady http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng

Transcribed - Published: 30 August 2023

85: This Is What Happens When You Marry Your Maybe feat. The Marriage Pact Couples

Finding the one is a life quest, one that many people never complete. Some people don’t pick anyone, some people pick the wrong one, and some give up hope looking for the one and start considering the two, three, four or five… There’s no shame in this, especially when you both acknowledge this choice not to settle, but to secure the future you want by selecting a partner who may not tick all of your boxes, but you know that in time and when you’re both ready to make a mutual commitment - you just might be able make it work with them. This acknowledgement that I’m talking about often comes in the form of a marriage pact. A marriage pact is an agreement made by two people that states that if we are both still single by a certain due date, we will marry each other. People make these pacts for a number of reasons: fear of commitment or because the connection is right, but the timing isn’t. However in most cases, it’s an all-else fails backup plan. But, what happens when that fails to? Or perhaps even scarier - when the plan actually succeeds? Now what? That is what we are exploring on this episode of Lovers and Friends with the cast of The Marriage Pact streaming now on The Roku Channel. You can stream #TheMarriagePact FREE on a Roku, the Roku mobile app and http://therokuchannel.com. It’s also available on Samsung Smart TVs and Amazon Fire Sticks. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode SKIMS Checkout the Cotton Collection and more at http://SKIMS.com they offer free shipping on orders over seventy-five bucks! Hello Fresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for an amazing 50% off plus free shipping! Liquid IV Get 20% off when you go to http://LIQUIDIV.com and use code LOVERS at checkout BetterHelp Visit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month.

Transcribed - Published: 24 August 2023

84: The TRUTH About Freaky Women and Men Who Can’t Stay with Them feat. Ashley Cobb

Do you marry the person that you have the best sex with? Ashley Cobb opens up about being the best every man has ever had and also struggling to find a man who’s capable of having her. Plus the men previously known as Enjoy the Podcast link up to share their insights on the Madonna Whore complex. So, this complex describes a psychological phenomenon in which a man's perception of women is divided into two distinct categories: the Madonna and the whore. The Madonna is perfect, pure, and really caring. She's the nurturing type and has qualities like innocence and morality. This side of the complex is associated with safety, comfort, and connection. The whore, on the other hand, is associated with sexual desire, sensuality, and eroticism. This side of the complex involves fantasies or desires for more adventurous or taboo experiences and whores are seen as mysterious and unpredictable. If men have this complex and subscribe to its ideologies that a woman is either pure innocence or pure erroticism, it makes it tough for him to see one woman as both a sexual partner and someone he could have a real, serious relationship with. Watch full videos of Lovers and Friends podcast https://www.youtube.com/@loversandfriendspodcast Thanks to the sponsors of this episode HoneyLove Get 20% Off your entire order (including the best bra you’ll own) with our exclusive link http://honeylove.com/LOVERS. Babbel Ready to learn another language? Get up to 55% off at http://Babbel.com/LOVERS Rules and restrictions may apply FabFitFun Sign up at http://FabFitFun.com/LOVERS to get access to discounts up to 70% off on brands like Fenty, Free People, and Our Place - to name a few. BetterHelp Visit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month Follow our guest Ashley Cobb https://www.instagram.com/sexwithashley/

Transcribed - Published: 16 August 2023

83: Do YOU Do These 5 Things? Find Out If You're A Freak Or Prude ft. Andrea Lewis and Glam Erotica

Would you consider yourself a freak? Being freaky means you are open and willing to experiment and experience a variety of sexual activities. That's what we are getting into this episode. Where do you scale on the levels of freaky? I’m joined by Andrea Lewis whom you may recognize from Degrassi or if you are a 90s baby then you may remember her for role in Cadet Kelly on the Disney Channel. Andrea’s latest starring role is “Three Ways” which you can watch now on Hulu. I am also joined by Tyomi, a sexologist and sex therapist with over 12 years of experience. She specializes in unlocking pleasure for clients and has over 140 million views on her youtube channel and she’s here to tell us about her definition of a freak. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! Hello Fresh! Try out America’s #1 meal kit for yourself! Get 50% off plus free shipping! https://www.hellofresh.com/50lovers Zocdoc Download the app for free and find yourself a top-rated doctor! https://www.zocdoc.com/lovers Follow Shan: https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected] Follow Andrea: https://www.instagram.com/andrealewis https://www.instagram.com/blackbeautyeffect/ Watch Three Ways on Hulu: https://www.hulu.com/movie/three-ways-7afd18f4-5b2c-4097-b532-bd956aa21bd4 Follow Tyomi: https://www.instagram.com/realglamazontyomi/ https://www.youtube.com/glamerotica101

Transcribed - Published: 9 August 2023

83: Embracing Vulnerability: Navigating Insecurities in Relationships with Jessie Paege

What if I told you that the biggest turn off for partners can be your own self deprecating comments? The times you’ve said “oh no I haven’t shaved” Have you ever wondered how your insecurities can affect your relationships? Self deprecating comments and insecurities play a vital role in how we interact with others, especially when it comes to intimacy. Remember that one time you excused yourself with your partner because you hadn’t shaved? Chances are you pointed out the elephant in the room that was only existent to you. In this week’s episode, I am joined by Jessie Paege, a YouTube personality, actress, author, and entrepreneur. Through her comedic and relatable content, she has built an audience of over 2 million followers across her social channels. Jessie uses her platform to crush stereotypes and raise awareness of mental health issues and LGBTQ+ issues. Her debut book is called, Hey, It's Okay to Be You, which fits perfectly with our conversation about how insecurities play a role in our relationships. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code LOVERS at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod #ad Ritual: There’s no more shame in your gut game. Get 20% off your first month. Visit: https://www.ritual.com/lovers Factor: Try Factor meals and get 50%off by visiting: https://www.factormeals.com/lovers50 Follow Shan https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected] Follow Jessie: https://www.youtube.com/@jessiepaege https://www.instagram.com/jessiepaege/ https://www.tiktok.com/@jessiepaege

Transcribed - Published: 2 August 2023

Saggy Breasts, Strong Confidence- Embracing Ourselves Before S*x ft Jessie Paege

What if I told you that the biggest turn off for partners can be your own self deprecating comments? The times you’ve said “oh no I haven’t shaved” Have you ever wondered how your insecurities can affect your relationships? Self deprecating comments and insecurities play a vital role in how we interact with others, especially when it comes to intimacy. Remember that one time you excused yourself with your partner because you hadn’t shaved? Chances are you pointed out the elephant in the room that was only existent to you. In this week’s episode, I am joined by Jessie Paege, a YouTube personality, actress, author, and entrepreneur. Through her comedic and relatable content, she has built an audience of over 2 million followers across her social channels. Jessie uses her platform to crush stereotypes and raise awareness of mental health issues and LGBTQ+ issues. Her debut book is called, Hey, It's Okay to Be You, which fits perfectly with our conversation about how insecurities play a role in our relationships. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code LOVERS at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod #ad Ritual: There’s no more shame in your gut game. Get 20% off your first month. Visit: https://www.ritual.com/lovers Factor: Try Factor meals and get 50%off by visiting: https://www.factormeals.com/lovers50 Follow Shan https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected] Follow Jessie: https://www.youtube.com/@jessiepaege https://www.instagram.com/jessiepaege/ https://www.tiktok.com/@jessiepaege

Transcribed - Published: 2 August 2023

82: Pointless Sex? The Truth About Not Orgasming Feat. Pour Minds

Sex that doesn’t lead to orgasm.. Sound familiar? What if I said that sex that doesn’t lead to the big O can actually be very fulfilling and a lot more common than you think? Sexual experiences can encompass a wide variety of activities, such as kissing, touching, oral sex, manual stimulation, and penetration, among others. The experience and enjoyment of sex can vary greatly from person to person, and not everyone will achieve orgasm during sexual encounters. Some individuals may not experience orgasm at all, while others may experience it infrequently or under certain circumstances. The important aspect to remember is that sex should always be consensual, safe, and respectful of all parties involved. Communication and understanding between partners are essential to ensure that both individuals are comfortable and satisfied with their sexual experiences, regardless of whether orgasm occurs. That is exactly what I am talking about with my guests this week, Drea and Lex whom you may know from Pour Minds. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Rizos Curls Get 10% off your Rizos Curls order with promo code LOVERS at checkout https://bit.ly/3XOE8tZ) Liquid IV Get 20% off ANYTHING you order when you use promo code LOVERS http://LIQUID IV DOT COM. Skims Get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars - all at http://SKIMS.com Better Help get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting http://BetterHelp.com/lovers Follow Pour Minds Listen to the podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/too-much-pressure-ft-dess-dior/id1438182646?i=1000580429867 Watch the YouTube videos: https://www.youtube.com/@DreaAndLex/videos Follow Shan https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected]

Transcribed - Published: 26 July 2023

81: Is SEX Ruined By OVERTHINKING? Tell the Truth, is it Pee? Is it Monogamy if We Have Threesomes? Your Questions Answered with Ricky Shucks

This episode felt like a poon and the peen throwback.. If you know, you know! In this episode I sat down with my friend Ricky Shucks and we answered some of your best sex questions. Am I ruining sex by overthinking? Is squirting actually pee? Are we monogamous if I am still engaging in threesomes? Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! Fab Fit Fun If you join FabFitFun as a NEW seasonal member right now you’ll also get 20% off your membership so your 1st box is only $47.99 - for up to a $300 value box each season. Join today: http://www.fabfitfun.com/lovers Zoc Doc Find a top rated doctor for your needs today: http://www.zocdoc.com/lovers Honey Love Treat yourself to the best shapewear and supportwear on the market plus save 20% off by visiting: http://www.honeylove.com/lovers Hello Fresh Try America’s # 1 meal kit for yourself: http://www.hellofresh.com/lovers50 Follow Shan https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected] Follow Ricky https://www.instagram.com/rickyshucks/?hl=en https://www.goodiebrand.com/ https://www.instagram.com/nochasergang/?hl=en

Transcribed - Published: 19 July 2023

80: Keke Palmer's Baby Mama Drama, Jonah Hill Gets Out Of Line with Boundaries, and Adam 22 Wants Outrage Over His Open Marriage

Hello lovers and friends. This week’s episode is a little different and it’s because I had a lot to say on some trending pop culture news. To start things off, Keke Palmer‘s partner Darius Jackson was trending for all the wrong reasons. In this episode we talk about the tweet seen across the globe. “It's the outfit tho.. you a mom.” Next, we break down if Jonah Hill was out of line with his boundaries. A year after his split with ex girlfriend, Sarah Brady, Brady alleges that Hill emotionally abused her and she had the receipts to back up her claim. SHe posted screenshots of their exchange to her Instagram story that prompted widespread internet discourse about boundaries and whether Hill misused “therapy speak.” Lastly, to catch you up on the Adam22 and the Lena the Plug “drama”, the OnlyFans creator did her first scene with a male performer other than her husband. Lena’s husband, No Jumper founder Adam “Adam 22” Grandmaison, has said he was fine and encouraging of the scene. Thanks to the sponsor of this episode Better Help! Try therapy yourself and get 10% off your first month by going to: https://www.betterhelp.com/lovers Follow Shan https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected] Articles: https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/leylamohammed/keke-palmer-shamed-boyfriend-darius-jackson-outfit-mom https://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-moms/news/keke-palmer-feels-powerful-as-a-mom-amid-darius-jackson-drama/ https://www.forbes.com/sites/conormurray/2023/07/10/what-to-know-about-jonah-hills-emotional-abuse-allegatio https://www.msnbc.com/opinion/msnbc-opinion/jonah-hill-texts-ex-sarah-brady-expose-therapy-speak-dangers-rcna93748 https://www.hotnewhiphop.com/693883-lena-the-plug-adam22-simp-claims-response https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-12283131/Adam22s-wife-says-theyve-sex-filmed-porn-scene-man.html

Transcribed - Published: 12 July 2023

79: From Being Flewed Out to Flying Solo ft Qimmah Russo

According to the PEW research center about 41% of people between the ages of 18 to 29 are single. For people aged 30 to 49 that number drops dramatically to 23% and then it raises back up a scotch to 28% for those between 50 to 64, before increasing again to 36% for the 65+ crowd. So what does this tell us? My interpretation? On one hand, it tells the story of millennials' decline in divorce rates and on the other the fact that it showcases our increase in being consciously single for a lot longer than previous generations and in some cases, for the long haul. So can you still enjoy dating even if none of the dates go anywhere? In this episode, I sit down with Qimmah Russo, an influencer, model and athlete and she shares her perspective on this. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Get 55% off your Babbel subscription- by going to: https://www.babbel.com/lovers Try America’s #1 Meal Kit and get 50% off plus free shipping by going to: https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers50 Try Ritual for yourself and get 20% off your first month by going to: https://ritual.com/lovers Follow the guests on this episode: https://www.instagram.com/qimmahrusso https://www.instagram.com/workoutsbyqimmah/ Follow Shan https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected]

Transcribed - Published: 5 July 2023

78: Your F*ck Buddy Might be The One ft. Siffat Haider and Nish Samantray

According to the Singles in America study 55% of people reported that they’ve had a friends with benefits, which is a relationship where two people agree to have a sexual relationship based on convenience and a social relationship without a romantic commitment. And of the people in the study who said they’d had a friend with benefits, about 40% them said that their casual connection eventually turned into a longterm love affair. So is that number along with the guests of this episode and my personal experience enough to convince you that frequent fucking first and figuring the rest out later is the way to go? In this episode, we are joined by Siffat Haider and Nish Samantray the founders of Arrae- a natural supplement company, who’s passion is to help people optimize their health and wellness. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. HoneyLove Get 20% OFF @honeylove by going to https://www.honeylove.com/lovers #honeylovepod BetterHelp Find more balance with BetterHelp today and get 10% off your first month. Go to https://www.betterhelp.com/lovers Follow the guests on this episode: Follow Shan https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected] Siffat: https://www.instagram.com/siffhaider Nish: https://www.instagram.com/plentyofnish_ Check out Arrae: https://www.arrae.com Krista: https://www.instagram.com/itskrista Krizia: https://www.instagram.com/kriziacruz_

Transcribed - Published: 28 June 2023

77: The Hidden Cost of Not Saying Thank You in a Relationship feat. Dante Jones

In 2021, Harvard Health did a giant gratitude study and found that couple who show gratitude for their partner, and who express that gratitude regularly, are more satisfied with their relationship. University of California Berkeley's research team referred to gratitude as the quiet difference maker in relationship formation. The journal of social and personal relationships reported that individuals who feel appreciated by their partners have better-functioning relationships that are less likely to be impacted by ineffective arguing and even financial stress. All that to say, a little gratitude goes a long way. In this episode, I talk to Dante Jones, (one half of the duo THEY) all about gratitude. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Zocdoc https://www.zocdoc.com/lovers Hello Fresh: https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers16 Blissy https://www.blissy.com/lovers Caraway Home https://www.carawayhome.com/lovers Article sited: https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happier Follow Shan https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected] Follow Dante https://www.instagram.com/tefromthey https://www.unofficialthey.com/tour Follow Dr. Sophia Godkin https://www.thehappinessdoctor.com/

Transcribed - Published: 21 June 2023

77: The Hidden Cost of Ungratefulness in Relationships feat. Dante Jones

In 2021, Harvard Health did a giant gratitude study and found that couple who show gratitude for their partner, and who express that gratitude regularly, are more satisfied with their relationship. University of California Berkeley's research team referred to gratitude as the quiet difference maker in relationship formation. The journal of social and personal relationships reported that individuals who feel appreciated by their partners have better-functioning relationships that are less likely to be impacted by ineffective arguing and even financial stress. All that to say, a little gratitude goes a long way. In this episode, I talk to Dante Jones, (one half of the duo THEY) all about gratitude. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Zocdoc https://www.zocdoc.com/lovers Hello Fresh: https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers16 Blissy https://www.blissy.com/lovers Caraway Home https://www.carawayhome.com/lovers Article sited: https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happier Follow Shan https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected] Follow Dante https://www.instagram.com/tefromthey https://www.unofficialthey.com/tour Follow Dr. Sophia Godkin https://www.thehappinessdoctor.com/

Transcribed - Published: 21 June 2023

76: More Sex Does Does Not Make You Better in Bed, but THIS Will feat. Emily Morse

Dr. Emily Morse is the host of the hit podcast Sex with Emily. Emily has been dubbed “the Dr. Ruth of a new generation” and has helped millions of people navigate the world of sex and relationships. In her new book Smart Sex, she condenses all she’s learned as a doctor of human sexuality and offers a groundbreaking framework that will change the way you think about sex and pleasure. In her new book you’ll uncover. · A new sexual intelligence that will allow you to connect deeply with your body, your desires, and the psychological and physical blocks that are keeping you from experiencing the pleasure that is your birthright. · Communication hacks to talk to your partner about topics ranging from oral sex to open relationships and everything in between. · The truth about orgasms and how to start having more plentiful, powerful, and satisfying orgasms. · Everything you need to know to be a good lover, from collaboration to technique. (Hint: it's not what you think.) · And so much more FIVE PILLARS OF YOUR SEXUALITY: Pillar #1: Embodiment Pillar #2: Health Pillar #3: Collaboration Pillar #4: Self- knowledge Pillar #5: Self acceptance Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Babbel: www.babbel.com/Lovers for 55% off your subscription. Betterhelp: www.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month Hungryroot: www.hungryroot.com/lovers for 30% off your first delivery and free veggies. Follow Shan: https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected] Follow Emily: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily Get Emily's new book: https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Sex-Boost-Your-Pleasure/dp/0778387100/ref=sr_1_1?qid=1686695143&refinements=p_27%3AEmily+Morse&s=books&sr=1-1

Transcribed - Published: 14 June 2023

76: More Sex Does Not Make You Better in Bed, but THIS Will feat. Emily Morse

Dr. Emily Morse is the host of the hit podcast Sex with Emily. Emily has been dubbed “the Dr. Ruth of a new generation” and has helped millions of people navigate the world of sex and relationships. In her new book Smart Sex, she condenses all she’s learned as a doctor of human sexuality and offers a groundbreaking framework that will change the way you think about sex and pleasure. In her new book you’ll uncover. · A new sexual intelligence that will allow you to connect deeply with your body, your desires, and the psychological and physical blocks that are keeping you from experiencing the pleasure that is your birthright. · Communication hacks to talk to your partner about topics ranging from oral sex to open relationships and everything in between. · The truth about orgasms and how to start having more plentiful, powerful, and satisfying orgasms. · Everything you need to know to be a good lover, from collaboration to technique. (Hint: it's not what you think.) · And so much more FIVE PILLARS OF YOUR SEXUALITY: Pillar #1: Embodiment Pillar #2: Health Pillar #3: Collaboration Pillar #4: Self- knowledge Pillar #5: Self acceptance Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Babbel: www.babbel.com/Lovers for 55% off your subscription. Betterhelp: www.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month Hungryroot: www.hungryroot.com/lovers for 30% off your first delivery and free veggies. Follow Shan: https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected] Follow Emily: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily Get Emily's new book: https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Sex-Boost-Your-Pleasure/dp/0778387100/ref=sr_1_1?qid=1686695143&refinements=p_27%3AEmily+Morse&s=books&sr=1-1

Transcribed - Published: 14 June 2023

75: If You're Not Paying the Bills, What ARE You Doing? Feat. Cocktales

If you’re a podcast listener, you already know that there’s a whole lot of discussions about what people don’t do in relationships, what they need to be doing, and insight on what romantic partners want from others. And I guess it’s all well and good to have standards, but it’s even better to: Be aware of which standards are based on what we actually need to have a quality romantic partnership vs which standards are based on discriminatory, outdated values that hurt others AND our chances at forming healthy partnerships. Be clear about what standards people can hold you to. In short, what exactly are you bringing to the romantic relationship table and furthermore what are you admitting that you won’t be carrying? In this episode, I am discussing this in a hilarious and honest conversation with the ladies of Cocktales. We also have THE Matchmaking Duo here to share the secret to finding a compatible long term partner. Here is your conversation starter pack: What are you enthusiastically bringing to a romantic relationship today? What are you interested in getting better at bringing? What do you know you can’t and probably won’t carry? How do you want your romantic partner to respond to you when you’re not meeting their standards? How do you plan to respond when they inevitably, don’t meet all of yours? Which are your deal breakers and where considering your answers to the top questions can you stand to do a lil bending? Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! Ritual: Visit ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today and get 10$ off your first 3 months. HelloFresh: Go to Hellofresh.com/lovers16 for 16 free meals plus free shipping! Follow Shan: https://instagram.com/shanboody https://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected] Follow the ladies of Cocktales: https://www.instagram.com/kikisaidso/ https://www.instagram.com/cocktalespodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/coffeebeandean/ Follow the Matchmaking Duo: https://www.instagram.com/thematchmakingduo/ Follow Krizia: https://www.instagram.com/kriziacruz_/

Transcribed - Published: 7 June 2023

74: I Want You to Be Obsessed with Me - Raven Ross' Highs & Dangerous Lows Being a Hopeless Romantic

What Is Your Love Story? Not the one that you’re in per se, but the one that subconsciously, you’ll move mountains or reality, to live inside? Psychologists have identified 26 kinds of stories that people commit to BEFORE committing to their romantic partner so, which one is yours? Our starring guest Raven Ross who you can recall from Netlfix’s reality series, Love is Blind Season 3. She is also a pilates instructor nearly a 2 million followers on social media. Raven went through one of the messiest Tik Tok cheating scandals last year with her ex-fiancee. Now, she’s ready to love out loud again plus wants to share with you how, why, and maybe even who.. A love story is a frame of reference for how you believe love works or should work. Kind of like how your political beliefs describe how you think a group of people should be governed. Now, as I mentioned off the top, in my fav book, the new psychology of love, there are 26 different common stories that people can subscribe to. Addiction - we have an intense first connection and from then on we need each other and create a dynamic based around the fear of parting ways Audition - you gotta win the part and keep proving you love me and if you forget the lines or go too far off script Art - my partner looks good and they make me look good because I own something beautiful Business - our union is designed to give us more money, power and respect from others Cookbook - love has a recipe and instruction list, if we forget ingredients or steps our love won’t be as good Fantasy - save me, marry me, and happily ever after me. Game - love is a sport with a winner and a loser or if we’re on the same team there’s still a captain and a bench player Gardening - love is something that has to grow and it takes time, awareness of the environment, plus continuous tending to in order to flourish. For more on this, see my episode where I explain the difference between a fruit and a fruit tree History - in our relationship you are who you were, there’s only past you and future you. Think of it like the difference between “I’ll believe it when I see it” and “let’s just see!” Horror - relationships are scary and the scarier it is, the more real it is Humor - love is a joke, some people get the joke early, some later, but sooner or later everyone gets humbled Mystery - you don’t need to know everything about each other because maintaining the mystery is more important than discovering yourselves through uncovering one another Police - you gotta place rules and boundaries on your partner because people are only as good as you’ll allow them to be Religion - love is in service of the Lord Sacrifice - love is just as much about what you give as what you’re willing to give up to demonstrate devotion to the other Science - love can be studied and explained through scientific theory just like anything else War - love is a power struggle ruled by The other ones are: recover, science fiction, sewing, theater, travel, war, student-teacher, and a few more. Conversation starter pack What story of love are you currently subscribing to? Which ones are you aspiring to? What narratives are you trying to stay clear of and why? What love story was modeled for you growing up? Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! www.hungryroot.com/LOVERS for 30% off your first delivery and your free veggies. www.caraway.com/lovers for 10% off www.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month www.zocdoc.com to download the free app Follow Shan: https://instagram.com/shanboody https://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected] Follow Raven: https://www.instagram.com/pilatesbodyraven www.pilatesbodyraven.com https://www.tiktok.com/@pilatesbodyraven

Transcribed - Published: 31 May 2023

73: This is What it Sounds Like When a Man Cries feat. Dom Gabriel

We often talk about how men have an easier life, but I think at this point we can also agree that maintaining the identity of “a real man” is extremely hard. Masculinity is what I would call a wet fish identity - because like catching a fish with your bear hands - It’s hard to do, even harder to hold onto and incredibly easy to lose a grip on. And one of the fastest ways to call your capability of holding onto a wet fish into question, is to add more slick to the situation by crying. It’s one thing for a man to reveal his hurt, pain and insecurities - which you might recall we already discussed in episod 4 of Lovers and Friends, do we really want vulnerable men starring Aba n Preach. So what comes up for us when we see a man cry? And how do we deconstruct those feelings without tearing down the man or his masculinity in the process? These are all questions I wanted to pontificate with, with the man himself, Dominic Gabriel- a personality and mental health advocate best known from his appearances on Netflix's Perfect Match and The Mole. You may also recognize him from his viral Tik Toks OR from his brand new podcast Dom Meets World. Conversation starter pack from this episode: What is masculinity? Is it something you have? Or something you have to earn and maintain? Is it a turnoff to see a man cry? Is it a turnon? Aren’t both of those responses equally as strange? What’s the healthier alternative? Is crying a useful expression regardless of gender? Should we all attempt to control it because it can be likened to losing your temper? How do we create an environment where people tasked with proving their masculinity, don’t feel like they have to keep up the audition in front of us? Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! Storyworth https://www.storyworth.com/lovers to save $10 on your first purchase! Blissy https://www.blissy.com/lovers Get better sleep now with Blissy and use LOVERS to get an additional 30% off at blissy.com/LOVERS Better Help https://www.betterhelp.com/LOVERS for 10%off your first order Hello Fresh https://www.hellofresh.com Use code Lovers16 for 16 free meals Follow Shan: https://instagram.com/shanboody https://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected] Follow Dom: https://www.instagram.com/dontcalldom Follow the guys of ENJOY: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady https://www.instagram.com/mrjustdavis https://www.instagram.com/datboykray https://www.instagra.com/blamelos

Transcribed - Published: 24 May 2023

72: Why Did He Suddenly Lose Interest In Sex? Feat. Drew Love

Did you know that every 7 seconds, a man thinks about sex? That's more than 500 times an hour and more than 12,000 times a day… And even though that sounds crazy, I’m sure it sounds familiar because this stat has circulated for decades. Now, myth-buster there is no scientific evidence to back this up, and studies that HAVE been done site that men think about sex an average of 19 times a day with the highest number of the study being around 380 thoughts a day and the lowest being once per day (which of course if you’re told to record how much you think about sex you’re gonna think about sex more and at the very least ONCE to note that your only thought about having sex that day was that you never thought about having sex… Point being, in a society that’s conditioned us to believe that all day men dream about sex, what do we do when the man we’re with doesn’t want to have sex with us? That’s where we’re going on this episode featuring Drew Love. the lead singer of the popular R&B group THEY who just released their album Nu Moon, which is streaming everywhere now. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! Hello Fresh: https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers16 use code lovers16 for your free meals and free shipping! Dame: https://www.dameproducts.com/Lovers Enter code Lovers for 15% off Lomi: Turn your food waste into dirt with the press of a button with Lomi. Use the code LOVERS to save $50 at lomi.com/LOVER Skims: Get free shipping on all orders over $75 https://www.skims.com Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected] Follow THEY: https://www.instagram.com/they Follow Drew Love: https://www.instagram.com/drewlove

Transcribed - Published: 17 May 2023

71: Love At First Sight Almost Sabotaged My Marriage

In this episode, I want to break down what I know about “knowing” someone is the one, before you know their true character. This isn’t meant to knock anyone who chooses to mate this way, because culturally a lot of us subscribe to the importance of instant attraction even if we don’t think we do - but instead to provide you with some knowledge that I wish I had before letting love at first sight lead me astray. Love at first sight is a global phenomenon - meaning no matter where you go, there it is in different languages, stories and beliefs. In this episode I define what love at first sight is, explain why the brain likes to do it, provide insight into how love at first sight might just be another brand of discrimination, explain how it can be used wisely and also share the dangers of placing a lot of emphasis on how couples met. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! BLISSY http://blissy.com/LOVERS and get an additional 30% off! BABBEL http://Babbel.com/LOVERS for up to 55% off your subscription. Babbel—Language for life. HELLO FRESH http://hellofresh.com/LOVERS50 for 50% off plus free shipping! Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected]

Transcribed - Published: 26 April 2023

70: When a Man Submits to Her Success feat. Jade Novah and Devin Johnson

Let’s talk about submission! My fav definition of this comes from Hafeez who simply said to submit is to sub (be underneath) another person’s mission. Now, one of the main purposes of romantic relationships is to be stronger together - a concept we’ve gone into before when we discussed self expansion theory on episode 4 featuring Jeannie Mai. The Self expansion theory states that the best way to expand, together, is to take stock of each other’s strengths, then create a dynamic that aligns with that reality. But what happens when in the end of this audit, you realize that your strengths fall outside of traditional gender roles? And furthermore you realize that the man’s strengths are perfectly suited to aid in the woman’s success? How does it work and furthermore CAN it work when a man realizes his partner’s potential and then makes her mission, his main mission? That’s what we are going to be talking about on this episode featuring Jade Novah and Devin Johnson. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Hungryroot Go to http://www.hungryroot.com/LOVERS Use code LOVERS for 30% off your first order! That’s Hungryroot.com/LOVERS. Don’t forget to use our link, so they know we sent you. Betterhelp Discover your potential with BetterHelp Visit http://www.betterhlp.com/lovers That's www.betterhlp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month. Follow Jade: https://www.instagram.com/jadenovah/ Follow Devin: https://www.instagram.com/mrdevinaire/?hl=en Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected]

Transcribed - Published: 19 April 2023

69: Everything You Pray You Won't Have to Know About Infertility feat. Deja Riley's story

For women in their 30s, 1 in 5 will experience problems conceiving their first child. Deja Riley, our starring guest gives firsthand advice of what it's like to go through over two years of fertility treatments. A grueling experience that's cost her over $20,000 and almost her marriage. In this episode Deja tells all: her experience with IUI, IVF, miscarriage, a chemical pregnancy, eastern medicine, and finally surrender. To keep up with Deja's journey follow her Deja: http://instagram.com/Dejariley @Doseofduality- her podcast http://Dejariley.com Follow our other special guests Krizia: http://instagram.com/kriziacruz_ Krystal http://instagram.com/krystalfranklintv Thanks so much to the sponsors of this episode. SKIMS Fits Everybody Collection https://www.skims.com LOMI Get $50 off your electric countertop composter by visiting https://www.lomi.com/LOVERS Then using promocode LOVERS RITUAL and Synbiotic+ Get 10% off your first 3 months by visiting https://www.ritual.com/LOVERS Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected]

Transcribed - Published: 12 April 2023

68: Family Discussion: Sex, Aging and Our Relationship Dynamics feat. My Mom

In this episode, I sit down with my mom and sister to talk about our sex ed growing up and now as parents ourselves, what we believe is the most important lesson to teach our kids when it comes to sex and love... You'll also hear a good bit of a past episode that you can listen to in its entirety here. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovers-and-friends-with-shan-boodram/id1586679298 I also explain how I plan to bring up conversations about sex to my daughters and what I hope they take away from those. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! Lume New customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code LOVERS at http://www.LumeDeodorant.com Intimissimi Go to http://www.intimissimi.com/jlo ZocDoc: http://www.ZOCDOC.com/LOVERS Betterhelp! Go to betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month! http://www.betterhelp.com/lovers Follow Lauren: https://www.maketheshiftcoach.com/ https://www.instagram.com/maketheshiftwithlauren/ Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected]

Transcribed - Published: 5 April 2023

67: Losing Our Baby Broke Me, BUT I Never Told Her That feat. Mike Johnson

Up to 1 in 4 known pregnancies may end in miscarriage. For many of us, this stat is old news - but as we continue to have this conversation aloud after generations of keeping this pain private - what I do think is new is considering how the father feels about the loss. It seems like a no-brainer, but speaking from personal experience, it hadn’t really crossed my mind until recently. So, let’s talk about it with our special guest Mike Johnson on this episode of Lovers and Friends. According to a study conducted by School of Sciences fathers displayed less “active grief” than their female partners, BUT they were more vulnerable to feelings of despair and difficulty in coping 8 weeks following the loss. The National Library of Medicine found that of 40 men who’s partner had a miscarriage, 59% said they had a deepened awareness of the fragility of life, 45% mourned the loss of their family’s hopes and dreams, 40% reported a strong sense of vulnerability and powerlessness to help their wife and half did not share feelings with their partner at all. These are numbers that I believe our starring guest can bring a face too, and this is a face you might recognize. Mike Johnson has already been a guest on Lovers and Friends in one of our biggest episodes “Tall, Dark, Handsome and Sexually Insecure.” Follow Mike Johnson http://instagram.com/mike_johnson https://www.feelingseen.com/ Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Hungryroot! Just go to Hungryroot.com/LOVERS, to get 30% off your first delivery and get your free veggies. Intimissimi Go to intimissimi.com/jlo again thats intimissimi.com/jlo Betterhelp! Go to betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month! Follow Shan: Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected] Sources: https://time.com/3982471/men-are-the-forgotten-grievers-in-miscarriage/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8064426/ https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/02646839908404587#.Vb9xQc4qefQ

Transcribed - Published: 29 March 2023

66: Saving Our Relationship By Having an Open One feat. Bayleigh and Swaggy C

Open relationships. Now, you can clutch them pearls and raise those eyebrows all you want to, but this conversation is not going away - especially not in America. Using two separate samples based on the U.S. Census, researchers found that one-fifth of the population in the United States has engaged in consensual non-monogamy at some point in their lives and if the trend continues, the only place this number is going is up. So… are open relationships the bandaid, the cure or the curse of our generation? And furthermore, how do you actually start one? Like for real? Let’s talk about it on this episode of Lovers and Friends. We have a loaded conversation between our starring guests on this episode, Swaggy C and Bayleigh. A married couple with a new baby, but an old, inactive desire to explore consensual non-monogamy within their marriage. There are a lot of themes to pull from this interview like: what happens when non-monogamy is one person’s yum and the other’s yea I guess if that will make you happy… OR the dangers of using non-monogamy as a punishment for unfulfillment… OR the joys/ struggles of having a partner who is supportive of your desires, but not all the way cooperative. However what stood out to me in this episode is how to go from being curious to actually being actively open...for real. FOLLOW THE GUESTS ON THIS EPISODE Follow Bayleigh: https://www.instagram.com/bayydayy https://www.youtube.com/c/SwayleighGang https://www.tiktok.com/@bayydayyy Follow Chris “Swaggy C”: https://www.instagram.com/swaggyctv https://www.youtube.com/@KingSwaggy Follow Dr. Monica: https://www.therapyforqpoc.com [email protected] THANKS TO THE SPONSOR OF THIS EPISODE BET Watch Zatima starring Crystal Renee Hayslett and Devale Ellis by joining the millions who stream Black culture at http://www.bet.plus Better Help Discover your potential with BetterHelp. http://www.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month. Hello Fresh Try America’s #1 Meal Kit for yourself. Get 60% off plus free shipping. Http://www.hellofresh.com/lovers60 Dipsea Explore your fantasies or get inspired with a 30 day free trial now. http://www.dipsea.com/lovers Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected] Open relationship reading list From Dr. Monica: IG Educational Pages · Evita Sawyers | @lavitaloca34 · Chanee Jackson Kendall | @chaneespeaks · Jhen | @monogamishpod · Kevin Patterson | @polyrolemodels · @polyamouraousblackgirl · Leanne Yau | @polyphiliablog Books · Pre-Order | A Polyamory Devotional: 365 Daily Reflections for the Consensually Non-monogamous | Evita Sawyers · Love is Not Colorblind | Kevin Patterson · Polysecure | Jessica Fern · The Ethical Slut | Hardy & Easton · More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory | Ricket & Veaux · Polyamory & Jealousy | Ricket & Veaux

Transcribed - Published: 22 March 2023

65: Becky G Opens Up About Being Sick and Sick and Tired of Hating Herself

Becky G is an award-winning, chart topping, international superstar who has always been grateful for her life, but at one point, hated herself and the experience of being alive. In order to get out of that dark place and to get the clarity she needed to heal she knew she needed a superhero, but what she didn’t know is “that hero” would ultimately need to be herself. In this episode Becky G candidly shares how learning to love herself, advocate for her needs and set boundaries has opened up a world of abundance, power, and arguably most importantly, self compassion. Follow Becky G https://www.instagram.com/iambeckyg/ https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeckyg https://www.youtube.com/@beckyg You can still watch old episodes of Becky’s Facebook Watch Show: Face to Face with Becky G https://www.facebook.com/watch/iambeckyg/1684197931784162/ AND OF COURSE WATCH THESE INTERNETS FOR BECKY’S COACHELLA PERFORMANCES THIS APRIL! And if you came here looking for quick links to the incredible sponsors of this episode, we got you! EveryPlate http://www.everyplate.com/podcast Use Code: Lovers149 Lomi: http://www.lomi.com/lovers Use Code: Lovers BET Watch Zatima starring Crystal Renee Hayslett and Devale Ellis by joining the millions who stream Black culture at http://www.bet.plus Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected]

Transcribed - Published: 15 March 2023

64: I'm a Grown Ass Woman Woman Without Any Friends... feat. Krista from Almost 30

Does making friends get harder as you get older? How the hell do I make friends? According to the American Perspective Survey, May 2021, a lot of people are not satisfied with the size of their friendship group. About half of Americans (51 percent) report they are very satisfied or completely satisfied with the number of friends they have. 30 percent say they are only somewhat satisfied, and 17 percent say they are not too or not at all satisfied with the number of friends they have. If you fall in that range of little to no satisfaction in friendships, here’s what you need to know about creating a bond. So how long does it take to make a new friend? -50 hours of time before you consider them a casual friend - 90 hours before becoming real friends - 200hours- before becoming close friends - source: 'Journal of Social and Personal Relationships' As the New York Times reported in 2012, there are “three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s have considered crucial to making close friends: proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other.” Cultivating emotionally intimate relationships, in other words, takes more work than just compliments. In this episode I sit down with my friends Krista and Tabia and we talk about our friendships, the ups, downs and the work it takes to make them work. A special thank you to Kamil Lewis, LMFT and Danielle Byard-Jacskon, Bumble Friendship Expert for lending their expertise on forming friendships. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. ZocDoc: https://www.zocdoc.com/ Ritual https://ritual.com/lovers for 10% off your first 3 months Follow the guests on this episode: Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected] Follow Krista: https://www.instagram.com/itskrista/ https://www.instagram.com/almost30podcast/ https://www.instagram.com/morningmicrodose/ https://www.instagram.com/moderntarot/ Follow Tabia: https://www.instagram.com/tabiacharles/ Follow Danielle Bayard-Jackson https://www.instagram.com/daniellebayardjackson/ https://www.instagram.com/friendforward/ Follow Kamil Lewis, LMFT https://www.instagram.com/kamil.lewis/?hl=en https://www.instagram.com/theexpansivegroup/?hl=en https://www.instagram.com/safewordpod/

Transcribed - Published: 8 March 2023

63: Sex: Your Steamy Questions with My Husband

In this episode, I am answering 10 questions submitted by YOU, allll about sex! I am looking forward to making more Q+A episodes, so feel free to submit your questions around sex, love and dating. Huge thank you to the sponsors of this episode Ritual Use code Lovers for 10% your order for 3 months. Http://ritual.com/lovers Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected] Follow Jared: Http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady

Transcribed - Published: 1 March 2023

63: Sex: Everything You Need to Know

In this episode, I am answering 10 questions submitted by YOU, allll about sex! I am looking forward to making more Q+A episodes, so feel free to submit your questions around sex, love and dating. Huge thank you to the sponsors of this episode Ritual Use code Lovers for 10% your order for 3 months. Http://ritual.com/lovers Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng [email protected] Follow Jared: Http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady

Transcribed - Published: 1 March 2023

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