Heal Your Heartbreak

In today's solo episode, I'm diving into one of the most nerve-wracking parts of post-breakup life: seeing your ex for the first time. Whether you're anxious about a possible accidental run-in, panicking over a mutual friend's wedding where you know you’ll cross paths, or just stuck in a cycle of "what if I see them?", this episode is for you. I break down the three scenarios—imagined encounters, unexpected meetings, and planned events—and share practical tips for protecting your emotions, setting boundaries, and coping with the emotional spiral that can follow. I also share personal stories from my own breakups to remind you that these feelings are completely normal and don’t say anything about where you are in your healing journey. If you’ve been stressing about how to handle seeing your ex, tune in for actionable advice and lots of reassurance that you’re not alone.  To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Patio season is here and these deals won’t last! head to Wayfair.com right now to get your outdoor space ready for way less. That’s WAYFAIR.COM Upgrade your sleep with Boll & Branch. Get 15% off your first order plus free shipping at BollAndBranch.com/heartbreak with code heartbreak. You don’t have to say yes to everything this summer. Find support in therapy. Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/heartbreak See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 2 June 2026

In today’s episode I’m joined by Brooke Taylor, transformational career coach and author of the new book Healing the Success Wound. We dive deep into the concept of the “success wound”—the hidden pain that comes from tying your self-worth to achievement, productivity, and external validation. Brooke shares her personal story of hitting rock bottom while working at Google, dealing with burnout, sobriety, and losing her sense of self after years of chasing external success. We explore how the success wound shows up as anxiety, perfectionism, and even anxious attachment in relationships, and why so many people lose their identity after a breakup. Brooke and I discuss practical ways to rebuild your self-esteem, break free from old patterns, and start truly healing from heartbreak—both in work and in love. If you’ve ever felt lost or worthless after a breakup, or struggled with people pleasing and perfectionism, this episode is a must-listen.Take Brooke's free quiz here! To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 26 May 2026

In today’s expert episode I’m interviewing Oona Metz, a therapist and author who has spent 17 years specializing in divorce support. We dive into why women initiate nearly 70% of divorces, the persistent shame and stigma around divorce, and the five phases of divorce grief that Oona Metz developed for her book, Unhitched. We also discuss why letting go and mending are essential steps to healing, how to move forward after heartbreak, dealing with co-parenting and changing friendships, and why most women don’t regret their divorce in the long run. Whether you’re considering divorce, in the midst of one, or simply navigating a tough breakup, this episode is packed with practical advice on healing, reducing stigma, and rebuilding your life.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 19 May 2026

In today's solo episode, I'm walking you through a workshop-style reflection meant to help you pause before texting your ex. I share five key questions to ask yourself any time you feel that urge to reach out, whether it's wanting to send an innocent meme or a long, heartfelt message. We explore the deeper motives behind wanting to contact your ex, the likelihood of getting the response you hope for, and how it might impact your healing journey. I also talk about being emotionally prepared for any outcome—especially the possibility of disappointment or no response at all—and encourage you to apply the same advice you'd give a friend. This episode is designed to give you practical tools and a sense of empowerment as you navigate those tough moments post-breakup.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 12 May 2026

In today’s episode, I’m sitting down with Sarah Vacchiano, author of Soft Launch, who shares her story of getting married young, going through an early divorce, and the journey of starting over in her late 20s. We chat about the shame and guilt that come with leaving a relationship that looks “good on paper,” and how healing isn’t always immediate or linear—sometimes you just need to focus on other parts of your life, as Sarah did with her career. We also dive into the theme of self-compassion in hindsight, the loneliness and steep learning curves of building a new life in a new city, and what it really takes to grow into the person (and partner) you want to be. If you’re facing a major transition or wondering if it’s okay to not have all the answers yet, this conversation is for you. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/heartbreak See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 5 May 2026

In today’s expert episode, I’m interviewing Leslie John, Harvard Business School professor and author of the new book "Revealing: The Underrated Power of Oversharing." We dive into why sharing—especially the messy, vulnerable stuff—is so crucial to building trust and intimacy in relationships. Leslie shares fascinating research about why people tend to choose honesty over secrecy (even when the truth is uncomfortable), why cultural norms often pressure us not to reveal our true selves, and how her own experiences with marriage and divorce shaped her understanding of emotional honesty. We also talk about gendered expectations around sharing, how "mind reading expectations" can hurt our partnerships, navigating oversharing in early dating, and how to keep practicing vulnerability even if it didn’t go well in the past. If you’ve ever wondered where the line is with oversharing—and how to create deeper connections without losing yourself—this conversation is for you.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at http://www.skims.com #skimspartner Head to Wayfair.com April 25th through the 27th to shop Way Day. Visit takelean.com and enter HEARTBREAK for 20% off and free rush shipping. When life feels overwhelming, therapy can help. Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/heartbreak See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 28 April 2026

In today's expert episode, I'm joined by Barnet Bain—award-winning filmmaker, author, and teacher—who just released his new book, "How to Be a Friend in an Unfriendly World." We dive deep into the art of adult friendship, why so many of us struggle to build fulfilling connections, and the common self-awareness gaps that hold us back. Barnet shares compelling personal stories, including a pivotal moment with his daughter that shifted his entire perspective on friendship. We talk about the power of self-talk, the importance of handling rupture and repair, why honoring others doesn’t mean abandoning yourself, and the difference between boundaries and walls. This conversation goes far beyond the basic tips on being a good friend—it’s all about how to grow, expand, and build deeper, more meaningful relationships that actually feel safe and supportive. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LNTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at http://www.skims.com #skimspartner Head to Wayfair.com April 25th through the 27th to shop Way Day. Visit takelean.com and enter HEARTBREAK for 20% off and free rush shipping. When life feels overwhelming, therapy can help. Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 21 April 2026

In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into the all-too-common “trap” so many of us fall into: not believing someone the first time they tell us they aren’t ready for a relationship or don’t see themselves wanting the same future as us. I share my own experiences of ignoring red flags, holding on to hope that someone might change, and how that leads us to lose parts of ourselves over time. We talk about why it’s so tempting to stay in these situations, the resentment that can quietly build, and the importance of honoring your own life goals—even when it’s uncomfortable or scary to walk away. I also address tough moments, like finding out an ex who “wasn’t ready” moves on to a relationship with someone else, and remind you why you deserve a relationship that matches your long-term dreams. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at http://www.skims.com #skimspartner Head to Wayfair.com April 25th through the 27th to shop Way Day. Visit takelean.com and enter HEARTBREAK for 20% off and free rush shipping. When life feels overwhelming, therapy can help. Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 14 April 2026

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Liz Tenuto, also known as the Workout Witch, a leading expert in somatic exercises with over 230,000 students and millions of followers and out with a new book When The Body Speaks. We dive deep into what actually happens in our bodies during periods of long-term stress, trauma, and heartbreak—including the science behind fight, flight, and freeze responses. Liz shares her own journey coping with chronic pain and insomnia, how she found healing through somatics, and why talk therapy sometimes isn’t enough for full recovery. We talk about why it’s so normal to feel stuck after a breakup, why our physical health can take a hit, and practical ways to actually release stress from the body. Liz also shares insights from her new book, When the Body Speaks, including accessible somatic exercises—there’s even a whole grief and heartbreak sequence for listeners to try. If you’ve felt overwhelmed, stuck, or like your healing is taking longer than it “should,” this conversation is for you. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at http://www.skims.com #skimspartner Head to Wayfair.com April 25th through the 27th to shop Way Day. Visit takelean.com and enter HEARTBREAK for 20% off and free rush shipping. When life feels overwhelming, therapy can help. Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/heartbreak See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 7 April 2026

In today’s expert episode I’m joined by grief coach, author, and podcaster Shelby Forsythia, who is returning to talk about her new book, Of Course I’m Here Right Now. Shelby breaks down her powerful framework for how to truly support someone who is grieving—not just what NOT to say, but exactly what you can say and do, whether their grief comes from a breakup, divorce, job loss, or the death of a loved one. We dive into the stories that keep grievers feeling isolated, why most people actually want to help but freeze up, and how simple, validating words can nurture relationships instead of fracturing them during hard times. This episode is packed with practical scripts, real-life examples, and a reminder that grief is something we all experience. Whether you’re learning how to receive support or show up for a friend, this is a must-listen to add to your emotional toolbox.When you order her book be sure to sign up for the Book Club here! To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at http://www.skims.com #skimspartner Head to Wayfair.com April 25th through the 27th to shop Way Day. Visit takelean.com and enter HEARTBREAK for 20% off and free rush shipping. When life feels overwhelming, therapy can help. Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 31 March 2026

In today's episode, I'm interviewing Mal Glowenke, host of the Made It Out podcast, who's been a pioneer in the lesbian podcast scene. We dive into her recent breakup—not only with her romantic partner but also her podcast co-host—and how that experience has shaped her healing journey. We talk about the unique challenges of navigating a breakup while untangling both a business and a mutual friend group, especially within the close-knit world of queer women. Mal shares the tools and practices that have helped her heal, the importance of building "muscle memory" around self-care and coping, and why she believes every breakup is an opportunity to get closer to who you truly are. We discuss the concept of "expanders," finding gratitude in the mess, and allowing yourself to borrow hope when your own feels low. There’s so much wisdom in this conversation, whether you’re moving through a breakup, navigating big life changes, or just looking to build your inner toolkit.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 24 March 2026

In today's expert episode, I'm interviewing Hiroko Yoda, a Japanese cultural historian, journalist, and author of the new book "8 Million Ways to Happiness: Wisdom for Inspiration and Healing from the Heart of Japan." We dive into how anyone can use the principles of Japanese spirituality to help heal from grief and heartbreak, regardless of their background. Hiroko shares her own journey of reconnecting with Japanese spiritual traditions after her mother's passing, and we explore ideas like the fluidity of emotions, the absence of hierarchy in feelings, and making healing less goal-oriented. We also talk about the deep wisdom nature can offer us, letting go of shame and guilt around grief, and why it's okay to stay in the gray areas of healing. This conversation was so beautiful and full of powerful insights for everyone, no matter where they're at in their healing journey.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at http://www.skims.com #skimspartner Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/heartbreak. Choose a healthier relationship with nicotine, by checking out Quit with Jones. Visit quitwithjones.com/HEARTBREAK to take the free quiz and use code HEARTBREAK to get 15% off your personalized quitting journey.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 17 March 2026

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Alina Kastner, a Vienna-based psychotherapist and author of Break Up with Narcissism: How to Break Free and Stay Free. We dive into what really happens after a breakup with a narcissist—beyond just identifying the red flags. Dr. Alina shares her perspective on the often-missing conversation about the true healing journey: rebuilding self-esteem, facing the isolation that comes from a toxic relationship, letting go of shame, and how to reconnect with old friends after being cut off. We talk about the complex aftermath, from understanding the emotional void to dealing with trauma triggers long after the relationship ends. Dr. Alina also shares practical advice and introduces her Toxic Breakup Journal, a daily tool for navigating those challenging first weeks of recovery. If you’re struggling with the “what now?” after leaving a narcissist, this episode is full of hope, validation, and actionable tips for reclaiming your life.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at http://www.skims.com #skimspartner Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/heartbreak. Choose a healthier relationship with nicotine, by checking out Quit with Jones. Visit quitwithjones.com/HEARTBREAK to take the free quiz and use code HEARTBREAK to get 15% off your personalized quitting journey.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 10 March 2026

In today’s expert episode, I’m interviewing Faith Freed, a licensed psychotherapist, spiritual guide, and author of the new book DIY Spirituality: Chart Your Own Sacred Path. We dive into the intersection of spirituality and relationships—especially after heartbreak—and discuss how connecting with your own sense of spirituality can be a key part of healing. We get into what spirituality really means (it’s probably more accessible and personal than you think!), why it’s so important to develop a strong relationship with yourself and something greater than you, and how doing so can actually prevent unhealthy relationship patterns like putting your partner on a pedestal. Faith breaks down her “divine disco ball” framework for spiritual self-care, shares practical, approachable ways to connect with your spirit, and reassures us that there’s no one right way to get spiritual. Whether you’re religious, spiritual-but-not-religious, or just curious about how spirituality can support your healing, this is a great place to start. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at http://www.skims.com #skimspartner Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/heartbreak. Choose a healthier relationship with nicotine, by checking out Quit with Jones. Visit quitwithjones.com/HEARTBREAK to take the free quiz and use code HEARTBREAK to get 15% off your personalized quitting journey.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 3 March 2026

To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/heartbreak. Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows Visit quitwithjones.com/HEARTBREAK to take the free quiz and use code HEARTBREAK to get 15% off your personalized quitting journey. Let me get you started with 20% off your first order. Visit TONETODAY.com… Promo Code HEARTBREAK. Refresh your wardrobe with Quince. Go to Quince.com/heartbreak for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 24 February 2026

In today's expert episode, I'm joined by one of my all-time favorite guests (and yours!), Guy Winch, psychologist, TED speaker, and author of the brand new book Mind Over Grind. We dive deep into the topic of how workplace stress and burnout can erode our relationships, sometimes leading to breakups and heartache. We talk about the unconscious ways that work stress spills over into our home lives, why productivity can become a numbing tool after heartbreak, and how rumination keeps us stuck during tough transitions. Guy Winch shares research-backed insights on why burnout can make us feel numb—even toward the people we love most—and gives practical tips for both partners: whether you're the one obsessing about work, or on the receiving end feeling like you've come second to your partner's job. We also discuss key conversations to have early on when dating again, especially if you've got a history of choosing partners who are married to their work. If you've ever wondered how to set healthy work boundaries, or want to understand the hidden ways stress can impact your love life, this episode is packed with validation, practical advice, and hope. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/heartbreak. Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows Visit quitwithjones.com/HEARTBREAK to take the free quiz and use code HEARTBREAK to get 15% off your personalized quitting journey. Let me get you started with 20% off your first order. Visit TONETODAY.com… Promo Code HEARTBREAK. Refresh your wardrobe with Quince. Go to Quince.com/heartbreak for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 17 February 2026

In today's expert episode, I'm joined by journalist and author Amanda McCracken to dive deep into the topics of longing and limerence—those intense, ruminating crushes or obsessions that can stick with us for years, even decades. Amanda shares her very personal journey with limerence, what it was like to struggle with it long before the term became widely known, and how it intersected with her romantic life and late-in-life virginity. We talk about the addictive pull of longing, why emotionally unavailable people can feel so magnetic, and how societal influences like rom-coms and social media can amp up these feelings. Amanda also shares practical advice and her road to recovery, including how she eventually shifted out of these patterns to find real intimacy with her now-husband. If you're going through a breakup, struggling to let go, or finding yourself stuck in obsessive thoughts about an ex, this conversation will hit home and give you hope that healing—and even real love—are possible. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/heartbreak. Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows Visit quitwithjones.com/HEARTBREAK to take the free quiz and use code HEARTBREAK to get 15% off your personalized quitting journey. Let me get you started with 20% off your first order. Visit TONETODAY.com… Promo Code HEARTBREAK. Refresh your wardrobe with Quince. Go to Quince.com/heartbreak for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 10 February 2026

In today's solo episode, I'm sitting down and sharing off the cuff about something unexpected that came up for me in therapy this week—old pain from a toxic relationship I was in over a decade ago. Even though I haven't gone through a breakup in years, this experience reminded me how healing from heartbreak, especially from trauma and narcissistic abuse, happens in layers and isn't always linear. I discuss how triggers from my past appeared in my current marriage, what it's like to feel frustrated that old wounds resurface even after doing so much "work," and how I'm learning to have more compassion for my younger self. This episode isn't about having all the answers, but rather about being honest with the messy parts of the healing journey, processing in real time, and offering support to anyone who feels shame for still being affected by a breakup, no matter how long ago it happened. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 For a limited time, OneSkin is making it even easier to stay consistent with up to 30% off your first 3 subscription orders when you use code HEARTBREAK at oneskin.co/HEARTBREAK. Go to drinkag1.com/heartbreak to get their best offer… For a limited time only, get a FREE AG1 duffel bag and FREE AG1 Welcome Kit with your first subscription order! If you want to lose meaningful weight at a healthy pace and keep it off... Add LEAN to your diet and exercise lifestyle. Get 20% OFF WHEN YOU ENTER HEARTBREAK at takelean.com BetterHelp makes it easy to get matched online with a qualified therapist. Sign up and get 10% off at Betterhelp.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 3 February 2026

In today's expert episode, I'm interviewing returning guest Thais Gibson—best-selling author, researcher, and founder of the Personal Development School—about her powerful new concept: the six stages of every relationship. We unpack each stage, from dating and the honeymoon phase, through the power struggle, all the way to commitment and the everlasting stage. We talk through the specific lessons and pitfalls that come with each phase, why so many breakups happen in the power struggle, and how even long-term couples can be stuck without ever moving forward. We also discuss practical tools for vetting in the dating stage, communicating your needs, and building safer, more fulfilling partnerships. Whether you’re reflecting on a past breakup or looking to date differently in the future, this is an episode full of actionable insight and hope. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 For a limited time, OneSkin is making it even easier to stay consistent with up to 30% off your first 3 subscription orders when you use code HEARTBREAK at oneskin.co/HEARTBREAK. Go to drinkag1.com/heartbreak to get their best offer… For a limited time only, get a FREE AG1 duffel bag and FREE AG1 Welcome Kit with your first subscription order! If you want to lose meaningful weight at a healthy pace and keep it off... Add LEAN to your diet and exercise lifestyle. Get 20% OFF WHEN YOU ENTER HEARTBREAK at takelean.com BetterHelp makes it easy to get matched online with a qualified therapist. Sign up and get 10% off at Betterhelp.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 27 January 2026

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Kati Morton—licensed marriage and family therapist, bestselling author, and one of the most trusted mental health voices online. We dive into her newest book, "Why Do I Keep Doing This?" and explore how our desire for control impacts everything from relationships to mental health. In our conversation, we talk about the many ways control can show up—beyond the classic “type A” stereotype—including people pleasing, passive aggression, and perfectionism. Kati Morton shares her own journey with control, and we discuss why self-knowledge alone isn’t enough to change patterns and break free from cycles we know aren’t serving us. We also get into the unique struggle of wanting closure after a breakup, and how we can start to process experiences, sit with discomfort, and move toward more helpful behavior without shaming ourselves into change. Whether you’re currently going through heartbreak or simply looking to understand yourself better, this episode will help you release the illusion of control and find compassion in your healing process. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 For a limited time, OneSkin is making it even easier to stay consistent with up to 30% off your first 3 subscription orders when you use code HEARTBREAK at oneskin.co/HEARTBREAK. Go to drinkag1.com/heartbreak to get their best offer… For a limited time only, get a FREE AG1 duffel bag and FREE AG1 Welcome Kit with your first subscription order! If you want to lose meaningful weight at a healthy pace and keep it off... Add LEAN to your diet and exercise lifestyle. Get 20% OFF WHEN YOU ENTER HEARTBREAK at takelean.com BetterHelp makes it easy to get matched online with a qualified therapist. Sign up and get 10% off at Betterhelp.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 20 January 2026

In today’s expert episode, I’m interviewing Eve Simmons, an award-winning health journalist who is back on the podcast after going through a life-changing divorce just six months into her marriage. We dive into her personal story, what led her to investigate the trend of early divorces among millennial women, and why there’s so little guidance for young couples splitting up before kids are involved. Eve Simmons shares the common themes she uncovered in her research, like professional success in women, financial complications, and the emotional fallout of an unexpected breakup. We talk about the unique fears faced after these divorces, how shame and loneliness show up, and what it’s like to rebuild your life when the path you planned is suddenly gone. Eve Simmons also opens up about her own healing journey, including finding love again and starting a family, and shares the hopeful lessons she and other women have learned about independence, resilience, and the surprising gifts that can come out of heartbreak. Be sure to check out her new book What She Did Next where she not only talks about her story but many others! To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873For a limited time, OneSkin is making it even easier to stay consistent with up to 30% off your first 3 subscription orders when you use code HEARTBREAK at oneskin.co/HEARTBREAK. Go to drinkag1.com/heartbreak to get their best offer… For a limited time only, get a FREE AG1 duffel bag and FREE AG1 Welcome Kit with your first subscription order! If you want to lose meaningful weight at a healthy pace and keep it off... Add LEAN to your diet and exercise lifestyle. Get 20% OFF WHEN YOU ENTER HEARTBREAK at takelean.com BetterHelp makes it easy to get matched online with a qualified therapist. Sign up and get 10% off at Betterhelp.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 13 January 2026

In today's solo episode, I'm reflecting on a practice that's been a huge part of my own healing journey—gratitude texting. As we kick off 2026, I share the five biggest lessons I've learned after nearly six years of sending daily gratitude texts with a small group of friends. I dive into how this habit started during my own heartbreak, why it works even when the group isn't made up of lifelong friends, and how it's helped me focus on life's small joys, build deeper connections, and even learn to celebrate my own wins. I wrap up with practical tips and a challenge for you to try starting your own gratitude list—whether you're moving through heartbreak or just looking to bring more positivity into your life. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 For a limited time, OneSkin is making it even easier to stay consistent with up to 30% off your first 3 subscription orders when you use code HEARTBREAK at oneskin.co/HEARTBREAK. Go to drinkag1.com/heartbreak to get their best offer… For a limited time only, get a FREE AG1 duffel bag and FREE AG1 Welcome Kit with your first subscription order! If you want to lose meaningful weight at a healthy pace and keep it off... Add LEAN to your diet and exercise lifestyle. Get 20% OFF WHEN YOU ENTER HEARTBREAK at takelean.com BetterHelp makes it easy to get matched online with a qualified therapist. Sign up and get 10% off at Betterhelp.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 6 January 2026

In today's expert episode, I'm talking with Sarah Armstrong, author of The Mom's Guide to a Good Divorce and Vice President of Global Marketing Operations at Google. Sarah is sharing her personal experience navigating her divorce 15 years ago while prioritizing her daughter Grace. We discuss the concept of a "good divorce" and how Grace herself coined the term, the practical ways Sarah kept her daughter's well-being front and center, and how she built her compartmentalization muscle to manage big emotions. We also talk about how to put together a co-parenting plan, what to do when your ex isn’t cooperative, how small details (like family photos around the house) matter to kids, and how to envision a new future for yourself post-divorce. Sarah’s story is full of hope and concrete advice—her book is an amazing resource for anyone navigating divorce or co-parenting and wanting to do it in a way that feels healthy and positive for their kids. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Find gifts so good you'll want to keep them with Quince. Go to Quince.com/heartbreak for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Give your loved ones a unique keepsake you’ll all cherish for years—Storyworth Memoirs! Right now, save $10 or more during their Holiday sale when you go to storyworth.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 30 December 2025

In today's expert episode, I'm joined by Michelle Maros, founder of Peaceful Mind Peaceful Life, who just released her new book, Dear Friend: Daily Notes for Contemplation, Connection and Clarity. We dive into the misconceptions and real challenges around affirmations, why hearing supportive words from a friend lands so differently, and how self-compassion and self-trust don't just arrive overnight but are truly muscles we build over time. Michelle Maros shares honestly about her own healing experiences—from grieving her dad at 21 to navigating a tough breakup in her 20s—and how the tiniest daily habits (even something as simple as a morning cup of coffee) helped her move forward. We talk about embracing life’s ups and downs, the power of celebrating small victories, and letting go of the idea that healing has a big finish line. If you’ve ever struggled to trust yourself after heartbreak or felt stuck in the "shoulds," you’ll find so much to connect with here. Plus, we chat about how Dear Friend is designed to be your daily companion and source of hope on the healing journey.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Find gifts so good you'll want to keep them with Quince. Go to Quince.com/heartbreak for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Give your loved ones a unique keepsake you’ll all cherish for years—Storyworth Memoirs! Right now, save $10 or more during their Holiday sale when you go to storyworth.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 23 December 2025

In today’s expert episode I’m joined by Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein, a licensed psychologist and wellness consultant who specializes in anxiety and burnout. I was drawn to her unique perspective on anxiety—not as something to “fix,” but as a deeper internal experience that we can learn to navigate with curiosity and compassion. We dive into how anxiety and burnout show up during breakups, why it’s totally normal to feel chaotic and out of control, and how masking our true feelings can be both a helpful tool and a source of long-term exhaustion. Dr. Carolyn shares practical ways to support yourself, compartmentalize the pain while still working through it, and gently poke your head out of those ruminating cycles. We also talk breakup burnout, the power of rituals, and why being kind to yourself is the most important tool you can use. If anxiety during a breakup makes you feel like something’s wrong with you, this episode is a must—so many validating reminders that you’re human and this too shall pass.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Find gifts so good you'll want to keep them with Quince. Go to Quince.com/heartbreak for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Give your loved ones a unique keepsake you’ll all cherish for years—Storyworth Memoirs! Right now, save $10 or more during their Holiday sale when you go to storyworth.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 16 December 2025

In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into the topic of secrets and their role in breakups. I explore why we tend to keep certain things hidden after a breakup—whether it's to save face, avoid embarrassment, or keep the door open for a possible reconciliation—and why this is ultimately harmful to our healing. I share some personal experiences from my recovery journey, talk about how secrecy breeds shame and isolation, and offer practical advice on how to start opening up to trusted people in your life. Whether you’re struggling to admit what you put up with or afraid to say out loud what really happened, this episode is all about encouraging you to let go of those secrets so you can truly heal your heartbreak. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 9 December 2025

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Julia Garcia, psychologist and author of the new book The Five Habits of Hope. We talk about how hope can be a real tool for growth and healing, rather than just a personality trait or toxic positivity. Dr. Julia shares her own personal struggles—from early heartbreak to grappling with addiction and self-worth—and how she discovered resilience through hope. We dive into the five habits of hope she outlines in her book, practical exercises you can try right away, and how to process difficult emotions without getting stuck. We also discuss why hope isn’t about attaching your worth to someone else or an external outcome, and how to lean on others and even “borrow hope” when you need it most. If you’re feeling hopeless during heartbreak, this episode will give you strategies and validation, and maybe even a path forward. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Find gifts so good you'll want to keep them with Quince. Go to Quince.com/heartbreak for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Give your loved ones a unique keepsake you’ll all cherish for years—Storyworth Memoirs! Right now, save $10 or more during their Holiday sale when you go to storyworth.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 2 December 2025

In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into a topic that’s come up a lot in the background of other episodes, but today I’m bringing it all together—what romcoms got wrong about breakups and relationships. I talk through five major themes that 90s and early 2000s romantic comedies sold us—like the myth of the “one that got away,” why fighting isn’t proof of love, the trope of getting back with toxic exes, finding your soulmate right after a breakup, and the classic “revenge glow-up.” I share examples from some of my all-time favorite movies, break down why these storylines gave us such unrealistic expectations, and offer my thoughts on how these narratives impact our healing after a breakup. If you grew up watching these films and ever compared your breakup story to a romcom, this episode is for you!To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com/heartbreak Give your loved ones a unique keepsake you’ll all cherish for years—Storyworth Memoirs! Right now, save $10 or more during their Holiday sale when you go to storyworth.com/heartbreakSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 25 November 2025

In today’s episode, I’m interviewing Dr. Tracy Dalgleish about her brand new book You, Your Husband, and His Mother. We dive into the impact of outside influences—especially in-laws—on relationships, and why these dynamics can so often lead to breakdowns. Dr. Tracy shares insights from her work as a couples therapist, including her five-step Vault Method for protecting your partnership and setting effective boundaries. We discuss the misconceptions around boundaries, the importance of getting on the same team with your partner, and specific strategies for dating with these issues in mind. This episode is a must-listen for anyone who’s struggled with in-law relationships in the past, or who wants to lay a stronger foundation in future partnerships. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com/heartbreak Give your loved ones a unique keepsake you’ll all cherish for years—Storyworth Memoirs! Right now, save $10 or more during their Holiday sale when you go to storyworth.com/heartbreak See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 18 November 2025

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by relationship and confidence coach Sabrina Bendory, host of the "You Will Be Okay" podcast and author of the new book Detached. We dive deep into the meaning of detachment—what it actually is, common misconceptions about it (hint: it’s not emotional shutdown!), and why learning to detach from outcomes is a crucial life skill, especially after heartbreak. Sabrina Bendory shares practical tips, writing exercises, and personal stories, including how to detach from an ex and ways to approach dating with a healthy, detached mindset. We also talk about how to be kind to yourself during the grief of a breakup, how to identify what needs you’re trying to fill post-breakup, and how detachment can help you build real self-worth. If you struggle with moving on or want to heal and grow after a breakup, you’ll get so much from this episode. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com/heartbreak Give your loved ones a unique keepsake you’ll all cherish for years—Storyworth Memoirs! Right now, save $10 or more during their Holiday sale when you go to storyworth.com/heartbreak See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 11 November 2025

In today's expert episode, I'm interviewing Julie Mennano, who you might know from her Secure Love podcast or her super insightful Instagram account @thesecurerelationship. Julie is an attachment expert and the author of Secure Love, and in this episode we tackle all things attachment theory—especially how it relates to breakups and healing. We dive deep into the anxious-avoidant dynamic, the misconceptions so many of us have around avoidant partners, and why those relationships aren't necessarily doomed. Julie shares her unique perspective on taking accountability after heartbreak without falling into self-blame, how to build self-trust for future relationships, and explains how negative cycles erode intimacy. We also talk about why labeling attachment styles can be helpful—but sometimes overdone. If you've ever wondered how to make sense of your breakup through the lens of attachment or want to set yourself up for a healthier relationship next time, this episode is a must-listen. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com/heartbreak Give your loved ones a unique keepsake you’ll all cherish for years—Storyworth Memoirs! Right now, save $10 or more during their Holiday sale when you go to storyworth.com/heartbreak See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 4 November 2025

In today’s episode, I’m welcoming back Jessica Baum, licensed mental health counselor, relationship expert, and author of the new book Safe (out today!). We dive into what it truly means to feel safe in relationships, why so many of us struggle with this, and how our attachment styles play a huge role—whether we lean anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between. Jessica breaks down the origins of our attachment styles and offers insight into how we can gradually heal, especially after heartbreak. We discuss the power of finding anchors—safe, supportive people outside of romantic relationships—and how real healing happens in connection, not isolation. This is an episode packed with hope, practical tips, and so much validation for anyone rebuilding after a breakup or looking to feel safe and secure in future relationships. To access the free resources click this link: To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 29 October 2025

In today’s episode, I’m welcoming back Jessica Baum, licensed mental health counselor, relationship expert, and author of the new book Safe (out today!). We dive into what it truly means to feel safe in relationships, why so many of us struggle with this, and how our attachment styles play a huge role—whether we lean anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between. Jessica breaks down the origins of our attachment styles and offers insight into how we can gradually heal, especially after heartbreak. We discuss the power of finding anchors—safe, supportive people outside of romantic relationships—and how real healing happens in connection, not isolation. This is an episode packed with hope, practical tips, and so much validation for anyone rebuilding after a breakup or looking to feel safe and secure in future relationships. To get the free gifts we talk about in the interview head to this link: https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/safe To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDO To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!

Transcribed - Published: 28 October 2025

In today’s expert episode, I’m so excited to welcome back Dr. Tara, a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, TV sexpert, and now author of the brand new book “How Do You Like It?” We dive deep into the shifting narratives around sex and relationships, especially for Gen Z, and talk about how younger generations are redefining what it means to be sexually empowered and communicative. We cover everything from the myths the media has created about “sexless” generations, to the real impact of porn on relationships (hint: it’s all about porn literacy, not porn itself), and how secrecy—not the act itself—is what really feels like betrayal in a partnership. Dr. Tara also touches on why passion and sexual communication are at the heart of lasting relationships, and shares so many tangible tips for getting to know yourself sexually—whether you’re single, going through a breakup, or in a long-term commitment. If you’re curious about healing your relationship with sex, learning how to voice your own desires, and breaking old patterns of shame and people-pleasing, this episode is for you!To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 21 October 2025

In today's solo episode I’m diving into the topic of your breakup story—what it means, why it matters, and how the way you tell it can shape your healing. I explore how sharing your breakup experience is an important part of processing, but also how we can unintentionally make our stories more painful by filling in the gaps with negative self-talk or assumptions. Whether you were cheated on, ghosted, or ended the relationship yourself, I break down practical ways to tell your story with honesty and compassion, and give tips on how to keep your narrative from holding you back. I also discuss the importance of writing out your breakup story, sticking to the facts, and allowing yourself space for your feelings without making the breakup mean something negative about you.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 14 October 2025

In today’s expert episode, I’m interviewing Anna Runkle, better known as the “Crappy Childhood Fairy” on YouTube, whose new book, Connectability, just launched. We talk all about what it really means to be dysregulated, how childhood trauma—not just the “big T” trauma—can play out in our adult relationships, and why so many of us find ourselves self-sabotaging or struggling to connect. Anna dives into why neglect, not being seen or cared for as a child, can have lasting neurological effects, and she shares practical steps to start re-regulating your nervous system and breaking out of old relational patterns. We also dig into why we might be drawn to emotionally unavailable people, the hidden ways we isolate ourselves, and why building multiple kinds of connection—not just romantic—is so important for healing after heartbreak. Anna offers relatable stories, super tangible advice, and hope for anyone navigating relationship wounds or looking to build a more connected, supported life.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 7 October 2025

In today’s episode, I’m welcoming back one of my favorite guests, Rory Uphold, to talk all about her brand new book The Final Girl’s Guide to the Horrors of Dating, out tomorrow (October 1st)! Rory and I dive into what inspired her to write the book—combining her own wild relationship stories with her love for horror movies. We break down what it really means to be a “final girl” in both scary movies and in dating, how mixed messages and shame around sex impact women’s relationships, and why so many of us stay in situationships and fear being single. Rory bravely shares her personal experiences with shame, sexuality, and catching an STI, discussing what it took for her to finally reclaim her agency. We also talk through the difference between accountability and shame, what it looks like to rewrite our dating stories, and why pain can actually be the best motivator during heartbreak. This is such a validating, insightful, and hilarious conversation—I can’t wait for you all to listen, and don’t forget to grab a copy of Rory’s book at this link using our special code BREAKUP15To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 30 September 2025

In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into one of my all-time favorite tools for breakup healing—letter writing. I share why this practice has been so powerful for me, how I integrate it into my coaching sessions, and exactly why it helps with those obsessive post-breakup thoughts and the void left by no contact. I go over different types of letters you can write—to your ex, to yourself (including your younger self), to the universe, and more—and why putting pen to paper is so much more impactful than just thinking your thoughts or even journaling. I get honest about whether or not you should ever actually send these letters (the answer may surprise you!) and offer tips for making this practice your own. If you’re looking for a tangible way to process your emotions and lighten the load after heartbreak, this episode is for you. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 23 September 2025

In today’s episode, I’m talking to Laura Behnke, whose story is such a powerful example of resilience, hope, and what it means to build a meaningful life regardless of the “rules” we think we need to follow. Laura shares openly about not having her first real relationship until age 35, what it felt like to reach milestones later than she expected, and how she learned to imagine a future that didn’t hinge on partnership. We dive into her experiences navigating major grief—including the losses of her father-in-law and her own father, a long, emotional journey with IVF and infertility, and eventually facing a cancer diagnosis when her daughter was just seven months old. We discuss the emotions that come up when life doesn’t go as planned, finding strength during difficult seasons, and why sharing our most vulnerable moments can be such a lifeline to others. Laura’s honesty about dating, grief, motherhood, and health is such a needed reminder that we’re not alone in life’s hardest chapters, and that it’s okay to question—and break—the “rules” we’re handed.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 16 September 2025

In today's solo episode, I'm diving into what I call the final 10% of breakup recovery—that last stretch where you feel mostly healed, but still find yourself thinking about your ex, feeling frustrated, or just not quite “over it” yet. I talk through why this stage can feel so uncomfortable, how it's completely normal to still have lingering curiosity or sadness, and why rushing through it doesn't actually help. I share my top tips for approaching this stage with curiosity rather than judgment, including continuing to journal, reflecting on your progress, and even considering dipping your toe back into dating—when the time is right for you. I also discuss how these lingering feelings can reveal deeper lessons and opportunities for growth. Whether you're nearing the end of your breakup journey or just want to know what to expect, this episode is all about normalizing the messy, imperfect end stages of healing and encouraging you to trust your own process.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 9 September 2025

In today’s episode, I’m joined by internationally bestselling poet and author Courtney Peppernell to talk about her deeply personal new book, Out of the Ashes. Courtney opens up about her seven-year relationship that ended in emotional abuse and infidelity, and what it was like to recognize the toxic dynamics only in hindsight. We explore how she navigated feelings of shame, guilt, and even imposter syndrome as someone whose career centers around writing about love and connection. Courtney shares how therapy, creative expression, and rebuilding trust in herself helped her heal—and why learning to embrace difficult emotions, especially anger, is essential to recovery. We also discuss the difference between healthy and emotionally abusive relationships, what it means to “rise from the ashes,” and how to reconnect with your intuition after heartbreak. This is a powerful conversation about reclaiming your voice, rebuilding self-worth, and knowing that your best days still lie ahead.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 2 September 2025

In today's episode, I'm joined by international best-selling author Amber Rae of the book Loveable, who shares her incredible story of breaking free from a nine-year sexless marriage after realizing she was living out a "good girl" narrative that kept her needs and desires suppressed. Amber and I dive into the difficult process of coming to terms with a relationship that looks good on paper but isn't fulfilling in reality, how meeting a soulmate became the catalyst for honesty and change, and the often-unspoken shame around discussing intimacy issues within relationships. We talk about rationalizing our way into staying, the courage it takes to leave, and the even deeper work of healing childhood wounds and learning to show up authentically in a new relationship. Amber also shares what it was like navigating others’ judgments, processing her family history, and building a partnership based on true connection and willingness. Whether you’re questioning your relationship or seeking permission to honor your own needs, this conversation is all about finding freedom and self-love on the other side of heartbreak.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 26 August 2025

In today’s listener episode, I’m interviewing Chris, a man in his late 30s living in Arizona who is nearly two years out from a relationship that was marked by a classic anxious-avoidant dynamic. Chris opens up about navigating repeated breakup and reconciliation cycles with his ex, coming to terms with patterns of emotional unavailability, and the challenging process of finally walking away for good. We talk about what taking a full year to be single and focus on self-growth looked like for him, the deep patterns he noticed (both in his ex and himself), and how therapy and community support helped him rebuild his confidence after feeling completely lost. Chris also shares how dating again after a long break led him to a new, much healthier relationship, and what it’s been like to rewire old patterns and experience genuine emotional safety with a partner. This conversation is a refreshing look at heartbreak, healing, and growth from the male perspective, and I know so many listeners will relate to Chris’s story.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 19 August 2025

In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into one of my favorite—and most powerful—tools for breakup recovery: contrary action. I talk about how, in the midst of heartbreak, your thoughts and feelings can often steer you in the wrong direction, and why doing the opposite of what you feel like doing can be a true game changer. I share actionable ways to put contrary action into practice, how routines can support your healing, and why building self-trust and self-esteem really starts with showing up for yourself—especially when it feels hardest. I also discuss the tricky balance between listening to your feelings and pushing yourself just enough, providing tips for what to do when motivation is at its lowest. If you’re feeling stuck or unsure how to move forward, this episode is for you!To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 12 August 2025

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Robert Biswas Diener, pioneer in positive psychology and co-author of the book “Radical Listening.” We dive into the power of radical listening—what it actually looks like, why it’s so hard to practice during breakups, and how improving your listening skills can radically change how you process heartbreak and receive support. Dr. Robert and I talk about why loneliness is so prevalent right now, how to coach your friends and family to be better listeners, and why so many people feel misunderstood during a split. We also dig into why it’s important to understand your motives when you’re listening—or when you’re sharing—and how to ask for the kind of support you need, whether that’s to be heard, hugged, or helped. Plus, we cover what to do when you have to listen to things you really don’t want to hear (like “I don’t want to be in this relationship anymore”) and how so much clarity actually comes from hindsight listening. This conversation is packed with practical advice for anyone navigating heartbreak, wanting to be a better support system, or looking to have healthier conversations—breakup or not.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 5 August 2025

In today’s episode I’m joined by none other than Diego Perez—who many of you know as Yung Pueblo. This was such a pinch-me moment for me, getting to sit down with the author behind so many of my favorite books, and especially his newest release, “How To Love Better.” Diego opens up about his relationship with his wife and how their journey became the foundation for this new book. We talk about self-awareness, the idea of impermanence in relationships (and why we resist change so much), and how working on ourselves transforms the quality of our connections. Diego also shares his thoughts on how to accept breakups, when it might be time to let go, and why letting an incompatible relationship drag on can be an injustice to everyone involved. Whether you’re healing from heartbreak, looking to grow in your single life, or reflecting on what you want in your next relationship, there’s so much wisdom packed into this conversation.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 29 July 2025

In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into a term I’ve seen popping up everywhere lately—“discard”—especially in the context of avoidant attachment styles and breakups. I share how I started noticing this lingo in my Q&As on Instagram, did some research, and why the use of “discard” really doesn’t sit right with me. I break down why I believe using this term is harmful, how it can lower self-esteem, invalidate your relationship experience, and make moving forward so much harder. I also touch on the dangers of getting too wrapped up in therapy-speak and diagnostic labels instead of just allowing yourself to process the real sadness and pain of heartbreak. If you’ve felt “thrown away” in a blindsided or one-sided breakup, this episode is for you—I hope it helps you feel seen and reminds you not to tie your worth to someone else’s inability to commit.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 22 July 2025

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Bob Rosen—psychologist, New York Times bestselling author, and business advisor—to dive into the concept of attachment, and specifically, how our attachments can hold us back in breakups and beyond. We explore key themes from his latest book, “Detached,” including the attachment to stability, the past, control, and even perfectionism. Dr. Rosen shares how these attachments are often rooted in fear, why learning to embrace uncertainty is so critical, and how self-love plays a pivotal role in healing after heartbreak. We also discuss the importance of community, the difference between detaching and disassociating, and practical strategies for letting go of what no longer serves us. If you’ve ever felt stuck after a breakup or struggled with moving on, this episode is packed with insight, actionable advice, and a reminder that healing is a practice—not a one-time event. To take the detachment assessment you can click here. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 15 July 2025

In today’s expert episode I’m joined by Britt Frank—author, speaker, and licensed neuropsychotterapist—who has been on my wish list for ages. We dive deep into the connection between breaking free from an addiction to substances and breaking free from an ex, and Britt so beautifully shares why our brains actually are on our side (even when it doesn’t feel like it!). We talk about why feeling “stuck” after a breakup is so common, the power of micro yeses in healing, and how to stop fighting with our own minds during heartbreak. Britt also explains how aligning different parts of our minds can help us move forward, and we get super real about grief, shame, and wiring our brains for healthier relationships. Plus, we discuss Britt’s latest book, Align Your Mind, and her previous book, The Science of Stuck, both of which are game changers for anyone struggling with breakups. This conversation is packed with compassion, actionable tools, and so many “ah-ha” moments—I can’t wait for you to listen!To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 8 July 2025

In today’s listener episode, I’m talking with Dionne, a proud Gen Xer who shares her story of a six-and-a-half-year, very on-again, off-again relationship that was marked by several breakups—some lasting just a weekend, others stretching to six months. We discuss how easy and addictive the breakup-get-back-together cycle can be, especially for those with anxious attachment styles, and the emotional toll it takes over time. Dionne opens up about the moment she finally decided to choose herself and the power of sticking to no contact after their final breakup. We also touch on the importance of self-compassion, learning from past patterns, and making empowered choices as you move forward in healing. I know so many of you will resonate with Dionne’s self-awareness and reflection, and I hope this episode inspires anyone who is struggling to break free from a similar relationship cycle.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://tally.so/r/Y5Z6LN To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Transcribed - Published: 1 July 2025