#282 The Power of Doing What You Don’t Feel Like After a Breakup

Heal Your Heartbreak

Break Up Bestie

Society & Culture, Relationships, Self-improvement, Education

4.8 • 714 Ratings

🗓️ 12 August 2025

⏱️ 21 minutes

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Summary

In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into one of my favorite—and most powerful—tools for breakup recovery: contrary action. I talk about how, in the midst of heartbreak, your thoughts and feelings can often steer you in the wrong direction, and why doing the opposite of what you feel like doing can be a true game changer. I share actionable ways to put contrary action into practice, how routines can support your healing, and why building self-trust and self-esteem really starts with showing up for yourself—especially when it feels hardest. I also discuss the tricky balance between listening to your feelings and pushing yourself just enough, providing tips for what to do when motivation is at its lowest. If you’re feeling stuck or unsure how to move forward, this episode is for you!

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0:00.0	If you are looking for even more help and guidance on your breakup, I have a few different
0:04.2	options for you to take your healing to the next level. I have four different online courses
0:08.7	depending on what stage of the breakup that you're in from beginning all the way into moving
0:13.5	on after heartbreak, or you can bundle all of my courses together and use the code podcast
0:18.6	to get $25 off my course bundle.
0:21.8	I also have my 30-day no-contact challenge to help hold you accountable in going no
0:26.1	contact with your ex.
0:27.7	And we have our free Facebook group, Healing Hearts Club, where you can connect with other
0:31.4	people going through breakups all over the world.
0:34.2	To learn more about any of these resources, head to the show notes where you can learn more
0:38.2	about my courses, take the quiz to figure out which course is best for you, or join the Facebook
0:43.0	group. And don't forget to use the code podcast to get $25 off my course bundle.
0:53.8	Welcome to the heal your heartbreak podcast with your host, Breakup Bestie, aka me, Kendra.
1:01.1	Breakups are hard, but you don't have to do it alone.
1:04.4	Each week, I will be taking you through a different topic as it relates to breaking up, healing from heartbreak, growing in your single life,
1:12.5	dating and getting back into happier and healthier relationships.
1:16.9	The goal of this show is to provide support, hope, tips, and to remind you that above all,
1:23.8	this too shall pass.
1:28.8	Welcome back to another solo episode of the heal your heartbreak podcast.
1:33.6	Today I'm talking about one of my favorite topics.
1:38.1	It is a topic that I very much credit to pretty much anything good that I've done in my life is credited to this topic.
1:51.0	I have touched on this a lot, I'm sure in other episodes, but this is a full episode dedicated to the topic of contrary action.
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