#279 Stop Calling It a Discard, You Are Not Trash

Heal Your Heartbreak

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Society & Culture, Relationships, Self-improvement, Education

4.8 • 714 Ratings

🗓️ 22 July 2025

⏱️ 24 minutes

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Summary

In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into a term I’ve seen popping up everywhere lately—“discard”—especially in the context of avoidant attachment styles and breakups. I share how I started noticing this lingo in my Q&As on Instagram, did some research, and why the use of “discard” really doesn’t sit right with me. I break down why I believe using this term is harmful, how it can lower self-esteem, invalidate your relationship experience, and make moving forward so much harder. I also touch on the dangers of getting too wrapped up in therapy-speak and diagnostic labels instead of just allowing yourself to process the real sadness and pain of heartbreak. If you’ve felt “thrown away” in a blindsided or one-sided breakup, this episode is for you—I hope it helps you feel seen and reminds you not to tie your worth to someone else’s inability to commit.

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0:00.0	If you are looking for even more help and guidance on your breakup, I have a few different
0:04.2	options for you to take your healing to the next level. I have four different online courses
0:08.7	depending on what stage of the breakup that you're in from beginning all the way into moving
0:13.5	on after heartbreak, or you can bundle all of my courses together and use the code podcast
0:18.6	to get $25 off my course bundle.
0:21.8	I also have my 30-day no-contact challenge to help hold you accountable in going no
0:26.1	contact with your ex.
0:27.7	And we have our free Facebook group, Healing Hearts Club, where you can connect with other
0:31.4	people going through breakups all over the world.
0:34.2	To learn more about any of these resources, head to the show notes where you can learn more
0:38.2	about my courses, take the quiz to figure out which course is best for you, or join the Facebook
0:43.0	group. And don't forget to use the code podcast to get $25 off my course bundle.
0:53.8	Welcome to the heal your heartbreak podcast with your host, Breakup Bestie, aka me, Kendra.
1:01.1	Breakups are hard, but you don't have to do it alone.
1:04.4	Each week, I will be taking you through a different topic as it relates to breaking up, healing from heartbreak, growing in your single life, dating
1:12.7	and getting back into happier and healthier relationships.
1:16.9	The goal of this show is to provide support, hope, tips, and to remind you that above all,
1:24.1	this too shall pass.
1:31.2	Welcome back to another solo episode of the heal your heartbreak podcast. Today is solo, but honestly, probably more of a rant than an educational type or
1:41.0	episode. But for those of you, I follow me on Instagram. Most Thursdays, I try to do all,
1:47.2	but with the twins, it gets a little hectic. But most Thursdays, I try to do a Q&A. And probably about
1:51.9	six months ago, I started noticing the term discard in a lot of questions. And it was not something
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