Your Peace Was Never Stolen. You Traded It. | Ft Tim Ross
Lights On with Carl Lentz
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4.8 • 797 Ratings
🗓️ 18 March 2026
⏱️ 67 minutes
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Summary
If you're searching for peace and don't know where to start, email us at hello@carlandlaura.com
In this episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz sits down with longtime friend and author Tim Ross for a conversation that redefines everything you thought you knew about peace. Tim, host of The Basement podcast and author of the new book The Missing Peace, breaks down why peace is not the absence of problems but the quiet regulation of your nervous system that nothing external can shake. Carl and Tim unpack the difference between peacemaking and peacekeeping, why power without peace is chaos, and how to measure your growth by how fast you repair after getting rattled. Tim shares how childhood sexual abuse, growing up in gang territory in Englewood, California, and years of therapy led him to a revelation most people miss: you are not looking for peace, you are uncovering the peace that has been buried inside you all along. From the storm in Mark 4 to the stoning of Stephen, they hold up an ancient standard for what regulated faith actually looks like. Whether your peace is tied to your bank account, your marriage, your habits, or a substance you reach for when life gets loud, this episode will challenge you to stop chasing peace and start digging it out.
Drawing from 23 years of marriage and their own journey through betrayal, rebuilding, and recovery, Carl and Laura created Lights On to bring light to the areas of life where we need it most.
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| 0:32.7 | moment today, just to consider the role a woman has had in your life that has made you better and left a lasting impact on you, it makes you instantly grateful. |
| 0:42.4 | I'm blessed to wake up every day and see my wife, Laura, who is easily the most important person to me and what she carries as a woman in this world is inspiring to me. |
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| 1:52.2 | This podcast is sponsored by Better Help. March includes International Women's Day. |
| 1:57.8 | It's a moment to celebrate the strength of women and all that they carry at work in relationships, |
| 2:01.2 | in families, in the many roles they hold every single day. |
| 2:06.6 | Between caring for others and all the unseen roles that they hold that often we don't know about, |
| 2:10.8 | the mental health and well-being of very important people can get overlooked. |
| 2:16.6 | Therapy is such a powerful way to offer somebody a space to take care of themselves in the way they deserve. |
| 2:18.6 | If you take even a moment today, just to consider the role a woman has had in your life that has made you better and left a |
| 2:24.4 | lasting impact on you, it makes you instantly grateful. I'm blessed to wake up every day and see my |
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