Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or

clinical and with you instead of at you I come unrehearsed on

purpose because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. If who you're

attracted to has not changed since high school or say in your 20s, we need to talk because our love buds should change just like our taste buds. As we grow and evolve, our love

palette expands and it should because if it's not it means that you're not growing in that area.

Now I'm not talking about aesthetics, I'm not talking about types because we all have types

and that's probably not going to change that much.

It may expand, but you know, I'm talking about

attraction as a whole. I'm talking about relationship dynamics. I'm talking about relationship dynamics I'm talking about being drawn to

that the space that's created by a certain type of person right I'm talking about how you are treated how you're traded how you're traded in

relationships maybe you are traded in relationships I don't know maybe I'll tell you

feel how you're treated in relationships how you

allow people to treat you so here's what happens early on we have love

experiences um that are usually chaotic and dysfunctional and

toxic. I mean we're just fucking splattering paint and exploring and

exploring and doing what feels good, but also doing what feels familiar.

And if you, like everyone else on this planet,

has been through a dysfunctional upbringing, there's going to be something that smells familiar

whether you know it or not with the person that you choose to love when you're in high school

or when you're, you know, when you're young and that's normal and that's okay and through

unfortunately heartbreak and a lot of chaos and tears we start to become

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