This is feminist wellness, and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, somatics, and nervous system nerd, and life coach, Bea Victoria Albina.

I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism, and

codependency so you can live from your beautiful heart. Welcome, my love. Let's get started.

Hello, hello, my love. I hope this finds you doing so well. Listen, there's this moment that happens for so many of us. Maybe in your kitchen

or you're driving to work or lying at bed at night and suddenly it hits you like a freight train.

Holy cluster cuss, I have been living my entire life for other people. Like you wake up one day and realize you don't even know what you

want for breakfast. You've been so busy making sure everyone else is happy, comfortable, not mad at

you, not having big feelings because those are scary. There's no conflict. I'm fine. Are you

okay? Let's be okay. But you forget to ask yourself what you actually like,

what you actually want, what you actually need, what your preferences are, who you actually are

when no one's watching. It's wild, right? Like how we can just disappear inside our own lives.

I see this all the time with the people I work with. Brilliant, accomplished,

beautiful spirits who can tell you everything about their kids' schedules, there's partners' preferences,

their bosses' mood, their aging parents, everything. But ask them what they want. Like,

in their heart of hearts, what do they want for their lives?

Like, stare. Like, you just ask them to solve calculus in ancient Greek. Here's what happened.

Somewhere along the line, probably when you were, like, really, really little, maybe five. Your nervous system figured out

that being liked was the same as being safe, that if you could just read the room perfectly,

anticipate everyone's needs, stay two steps ahead of any potential conflict, live from obligation,

then maybe nobody would leave. Nobody would explode. No one would tell you you're too much.

You became a professional people reader, an emotional detective. You could sense a mood shift from

three counties away. It worked, right? People loved you. You were the easy kid, the responsible,

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