You're Not Needy, You're Just Unappreciated! The Truth About Validation in Relationships | Jordan Green (Replay)

Women of Impact

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Education, Society & Culture, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness

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🗓️ 1 April 2025

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Fan Favorite: This episode originally aired on April 7, 2021. What up, homies! It's your girl Lisa Bilyeu, and welcome back to the Women of Impact podcast, where we delve into the deep and powerful conversations that can change your life. Today, I'm beyond excited to chat with the brilliant and inspiring love therapist, Jordan Green! If you've ever found yourself questioning your worth or wondering if you're enough, especially in the realms of relationships, you're in the right place. Jordan Green, a licensed therapist, life coach, and speaker with a heart dedicated to mental wellness and creating healthy, loving relationships, joins us to explore the natural human need for validation and how it impacts us all. We're diving deep into the nuances of seeking validation. It’s not just about needing approval—it's about understanding what makes us feel seen, heard, and valued. In today's episode, Jordan breaks down how we can balance validating ourselves while also embracing the validation that naturally comes from our relationships. We tackle the tough stuff like criticism, contempt, stonewalling, and defensiveness, showing you how to build a relationship that thrives. So grab your journal and pen, because Jordan is here to equip us with actionable steps to strengthen how we see ourselves and transform our relationships. It's packed with insights you can start applying today! SHOWNOTES 00:00 Introduction to Validation 00:12 Relationship Challenges and Validation 00:58 Needing to Be Seen and Valued 01:48 Welcome Jordan Green 02:44 Discovering Personal Strengths 03:31 Building Self-Esteem Before Relationships 03:57 Self-Affirmations and Love Letters 04:26 Courage and Self-Love 04:48 Balancing Self-Worth and Relationship Dynamics 05:35 Importance of Validation in Relationships 06:16 Understanding Need for Validation 06:59 Addressing Self-Esteem Issues 07:41 External vs. Internal Validation 08:18 Keeping Balance in Relationships 08:50 Interdependence in Relationships 09:37 Communication Styles and Relationship Predictions 13:18 Importance of Positive Interactions FOLLOW JORDAN GREEN: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovetherapist/ Website: https://jordanandrea.com CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Audible: Sign up for a free 30-day trial at https://audible.com/WOI Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. SKIMS: Check out the Fits Everybody Collection at https://www.skims.com/woi #skimspartner Kettle & Fire: Get 20% off at https://kettleandfire.com/lisa with code LISA Quince: Check out Quince: https://quince.com/woi Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa NPR Fresh Air: Tune into Fresh Air from NPR to hear some of the most insightful interviews anywhere—wherever you get your podcasts. LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:51.8	I hear all the time. Like don't seek external validation, validation outside of
0:55.6	yourself. That's not a good thing, but it's normal. It's normal to need to be validated.
1:04.4	Have you ever started dating someone and then one day they just don't return your calls?
1:09.3	A day goes by and still nothing. You text and it just don't return your calls. A day goes by and still nothing.
1:11.8	You text and it just don't take you back.
1:14.1	Do you start to question if it's something you've done?
1:17.0	If it's you?
1:18.3	Or do you tell yourself it's inconsiderate
1:20.9	and it's their loss?
1:23.1	Here's another one for you guys.
1:24.4	You're on a date that you've been looking forward to four ages. You
1:27.8	spend hours getting ready. You've chosen the perfect outfit and you've got to say you're feeling
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