Well, we put a post out on Instagram. Would you call yourself a people please,

and we ask them to leave a comment below and describe how that shows up in their lives

if they relate to that statement. I love it. Stephanie says it sometimes shows up as being inauthentic with how I actually

feel in order to make everyone around me feel comfortable and content. But it doesn't do any favors

on my self-worth and inner connection. And somebody called Sarah made a very similar point,

which I'm going to read out because I feel like,

you know, we can answer both of them at the same time. Sarah says, it stops me from being

honest and sharing my true thoughts and feelings due to the feeling that I will disappoint people

or cause conflict. Yeah, I can relate to both of those. Almost part of me is like, I don't want to create a bad thing

for everyone or create a problem or have someone think, oh no, Steve's upset, you know, because I think

in a way, it's like, I'll feel bad that I've made them feel bad. I would argue, Stephen, correct me

if I'm wrong, but I would argue that that's a,

it's, I don't want to upset people because I don't like how it makes me feel when other people are

upset. Right. Right. So then there's like a, it's worth almost assessing our relationship with

other people being upset and where does it come from? Why,

why does it upset me or why does it distress me when other people are upset? Is it because,

and I think the answers to those questions get really interesting because once you just follow

them to their logical conclusions, I actually

think you arrive in a much more empowering place. The problem is we don't follow them to their

logical conclusions in the right way. So if you say, I'm afraid someone's going to be upset with me

because they'll no longer love me, then you can follow that

to its logical conclusion and go, well, if me disagreeing with someone means they don't love me

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