What's this? A video that begins in the book, Nook? Well, it must be your lucky day.

Our story today may be one you relate to. It's about a man named John. Let me know in the

comments if you do. John went through a

terrible breakup three years ago during which he struggled to state his needs, draw boundaries,

and speak up for himself. He told himself he would never be that guy again and spent the next

three years working on himself, his communication skills, and his attachment style.

He watched all of the videos, listened to the podcasts, read all the books, watched all my programs,

came to my retreat.

And then he met a beautiful woman at a yoga class.

They went for coffee, one thing led to another, and John and Sarah lived happily ever after.

That's not how the story ended, is it? Because John isn't in this book. This book is nothing but a

prop? Here's what really happened. One day John met a woman in his yoga class. They went for coffee. It lasted five hours. It turned into dinner.

She was receptive, warm. She liked John.

But after two great dates and tons of texts in between, Sarah went quiet.

John messaged her on a Saturday afternoon, saying we should try that new coffee shop if you're down

and then didn't hear from her until Sunday evening.

He got triggered.

He suddenly remembered all of those times in his previous relationship that he hadn't spoken up

right before he learned that his ex had cheated on him.

So he decided this time he would assert his boundaries and he

fired off a text message. If you didn't want to see me again, fine. But ghosting is very cowardly.

After sending the text, John felt proud of himself. He didn't bottle up his feelings like he had in prior relationships.

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