I have never heard so many people say that they want to get offline and meet people the way we used to.

In person. You know, the thing I have been talking about on this channel for nearly two decades.

The problem is that for a while now, en masse, we have been outsourcing the earliest stages

of our dating life to the dating apps. The apps have made us lose our flirting muscle by stealing

the little ways we used to flirt with each other to create real possibility. Today, many of us

are more socially awkward and anxious than ever. We don't know how to connect or start a conversation or do the things that will let someone know that we like them.

We hate the idea of looking cringe, and there is no sign over everyone's head saying whether they're single and what they are looking for.

But if you are serious about creating more opportunities in the real world,

I want to help you feel more confident in bringing a little flirtation back into your everyday life.

And to do that, we have to find a way to make the whole thing less overwhelming.

In this video, I'm going to give you five principles on the psychology

of flirting and why certain things just work. And by the way, at the end of the video, stay tuned,

because I'm going to give you a line I came up with recently that I think is one of the best

lines I have come up with in years. Number one, start small. Too often flirting is seen as

trying to figure out the wittiest, most attractive thing possible that you could do or say.

The apps have not helped. They have fed a culture where it feels like we only have a very

short window to stand out before someone is on to the next person.

But you can breathe because real life doesn't actually work like that.

In a normal social situation, someone coming over to you and saying the perfect thing

isn't necessarily going to be the thing that grabs you.

It's the warmth and how comfortable someone makes us.

Unfortunately, these days there are so many ideas out there that prevent people, especially

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