What's up? Welcome to this edition of the Shalene Show recorded live from the front seat

of my vehicle. With you in the passenger seat, put your seatbelt on, we're going for a ride.

Welcome to the Shalene Show. Shalene is a New York Times best-selling author, celebrity

fitness trainer, and obsessed with helping you live your dream life.

Why do we attract people who are needy? Is it because you're a good person? Is it because

people just see you as a kind of individual who takes care of things? Why isn't it

happen? Is there something about you that just tends to attract people with problems

or people in need or people who are broken? I call this wounded bird syndrome and I used

to be a wounded bird collector. I think if you have that personality type, it's always

there in the back of your mind and you have a natural propensity to attract these kinds

of individuals. I want to talk to you about how to break that cycle and why it can be a

wonderful thing to be someone who helps others and takes care of others and nurses them

back to health, gets them back on their feet. It can also be something that's destructive,

destructive to your more deserved relationships, the people who really need you and your time.

So let's talk about what I'm referring to. I'm talking about the types of individuals who

they just always have struggle. It's like a black cloud floats over their head. These are the people

who are like, maybe they're always in debt or it just seems like every week there's something

new going on that's just traumatic. They tend to make bad decisions. You know what else?

They tend to just have like really bad luck. So you're like, I can't blame them. This isn't even

bad decisions. It's just like bad things are constantly happening to this person and if they don't

have me, who do they have? These are the kinds of people who they're really sweet. They're like good

people. But bad things are always happening or they're just always in need. They're the ones that

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