One of the biggest issues I hear about dating today is the epidemic of emotionally unavailable people flooding the dating market.

I particularly hear this from women who say it about men, but it can be gender agnostic.

The complaint goes like this.

Matthew, I have met a great guy.

We are getting on well, but the conversation stay surface level. I can't seem to get him to

open up or go deeper with his feelings. He can't even process and register his own emotions until I

point them out to him. I just want him to be vulnerable. Why can't he do it? This video is going to show

you exactly what men fear in opening up and how to increase his chances of becoming more

emotionally available and building a long-lasting relationship with you. It's also a bit of a

personal video because in some ways I was this guy,

and I had one experience in my life where opening up completely turned me off to the

woman I was seeing and another completely different one that drew me in to the point where

I eventually married that woman. We're going to talk about the difference between those two

moments today. If you are new here, I'm Matthew Hussey, and I've been helping people find love for almost 20 years.

I've also written two New York Times bestsellers on this subject.

Don't forget to subscribe and like this video, and let's get right into it.

Many years ago, I opened up to a woman about an insecurity I had been bottling up for fear of it

making me less attractive to her. Her response when I finally said it, I find that really

unattractive. She actually said that and it hurts so bad and I had no idea what to do with that hurt because there was no way now that I was bringing that hurt up to her.

It created this strong association for me that opening up meant losing my power.

I think that's what so many of us love about early dating is how bulletproof we get to pretend to be.

So that situation went horribly.

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