So last week we did a video on how to tell if we are ready for a relationship.

Being ready to not be lonely anymore is not the same thing as being ready for a relationship.

And one of the things that you highlighted in the comments from that video that you really loved was that line

that the right person will elevate our best and soothe our worst.

I sometimes think the right person is the person who elevates our best and soothe our worst. I sometimes think the right person is the person who elevates our best and soothes our worst.

They're not going to eradicate our worst and it's not their job to take it away, but they don't agitate our worst.

And of course, we in turn, when we become the right person, the person who's ready for a real relationship,

will elevate somebody else's best and soothe their worst.

But what about when we feel like our best won't be good enough for somebody else,

and our worst will be too much for somebody else. This is that particular feeling of

being unlovable that often prevents us from finding a relationship, really revealing ourselves

and connecting because we're so deathly afraid that what we really are when somebody

gets to know us our bad habits, our worst tendencies, our worst anxieties, insecurities,

neurosis, that that will all be too much. It will scare someone away. Do you ever feel like that about yourself? I know that in my life

I've had those moments where I have felt like, well, what people see up front might be impressive,

but when they really get to know me, they might find that I'm too much or that, you know,

the things I struggle with, they don't want to

have to deal with. When we feel like that, what happens is instead of showing our vulnerability

and using it as a way of connecting, we put up a barrier so that people can't see those things.

We try to be impressive as we think people want us to be

for as long as possible without showing any of that. Let's say you're a jealous person and you don't want

to show that jealousy to somebody else because you're worried, you're worried that it will make you

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