Your life isn't out of control because you have too much to do. It's out of control because you've lost your sense of agency.

I know that might sound harsh, but stay with me for a minute. Because what if I told you that the chaos of your life isn't the enemy, but a clue?

What if the very thing that feels like it's drowning you is actually pointing towards something deeper that needs to shift?

But before we dive in, I want to tell you.

Okay, let's get started.

I spent years, not days, not weeks, but years in my early 30s feeling like I was

doing everything right, but still drowning, kids, business, church, home, I was constantly managing

everyone else's needs, but barely touching my own. And I kept thinking, if I can just get it

together, just get through this season. But that season just never

ended. Because the issue wasn't my to-do list. It was that I had handed over the steering wheel

of my life without even realizing it. I remember one Tuesday morning, I was running late for a meeting,

my baby, who is now 17 crazy, he was a toddler then, he was having a meltdown

because I gave him the wrong color cup, as one does. My phone was buzzing with urgent text, and I realized

I hadn't eat breakfast in three days, not because I was busy. I mean, I was busy, but because I had

completely lost track of what my own body needed. And in that moment, standing in my kitchen,

I started crying. I had this revelation. I wasn't living my life. I was just responding to it.

Every day was a series of reactions to other people's needs, other people's timelines, and other people's

definition of what mattered. So it turns out

peace doesn't come from catching up. It comes from reclaiming ownership. I want to talk to you next

about the psychology behind feeling out of control. So what's actually going on in life when we feel

out of control? I want to break it down for you. Because understanding the

psychology behind this feeling is the first step to changing it. There's this concept in psychology

...