Hi, Shaline. My name is Yimen.

I have been listening to your podcast for like six years now, and I really like your authenticity.

Most importantly is that I am nicely surprised to realize that many of your ideas are mentioned in my religion.

And this is really beautiful. I really like your work. Thank you so much.

So how do you know if you should speak up or keep your mouth shut?

I'm not crazy about saying the word shut up. We used to call that an adult word, adult language in our household when the kids were little because we didn't want them to use it.

So I'm not going to use it on the podcast. I'm going to say instead, even though I know I put it in the title, I'm going to say that today, what we're talking about is when to know if it's something that you should be bringing up to someone else or speaking up about.

And when you should just drop it and say nothing.

Well, before we get to today's show, I want to speak up about a review I received on Apple iTunes today from non nicknames 2020.

This came in on February 11th. He or she says there are just some people in the world that rock at being a human being. Shaline is a rock star.

She constantly strives to share relevant, genuine, inspirational podcasts. Her vulnerability about her own personal struggles, her fears, her family obstacles, whatever area of her life that could be shared, help others, her vulnerability shines through.

Isn't that what being a good human is all about sharing your life to help and support others, that connection.

I've listened to her for years and no matter where I am in my journey, Shaline breaks through and speaks to me.

So take a moment and check her out and listen to any of her podcasts. If you don't, you're missing an experience with a rock star human.

Oh my gosh. Non nicknames 2020. I freaking love you. That's a really amazing. Seriously, a very thoughtful.

I mean, all of them are really thoughtful, but sometimes what you guys write just is like, oh, that's what I'm trying to do.

Like this is purpose. So thank you for that. And as you know, if I read your review here on the air, either on this show or build your tribe, always check the show notes because we have something special for you.

So let's get to it. Welcome to the Shaline show. Shaline is a New York Times bestselling author celebrity fitness trainer and obsessed with helping you live your dream life.

I'm sure that there's been a point in all of our lives where we have regretted saying something like we felt that urge and just felt so empowered or so entitled or so right just to be able to blur something out or to say something and

maybe later we regretted it. Or maybe there's been a time in your life where you didn't speak up about something you didn't tell someone something really important happened or you didn't speak your mind.

Maybe you didn't defend yourself or defend someone else. There is a time when it's appropriate to speak up and it's true that there are some instances where it's in your best interest and probably everyone else is to to be silent.

Sometimes silence is the most powerful thing you can do. But what I want to talk to you today is how to evaluate that decision.

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