Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or

clinical and with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on

purpose because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. I used to believe that

if I could just get to where I envision in my head including all the things that I want

if I could have the house and the hills the Hills, the Fancy Car, the Beautiful Wife, the Three Picture Deal, and this was me around 12 years ago, so of course I want different things now, but at that time that was my island

and I thought that if I had those things, if I got there, then

I would be happy, then everything would be okay. It's like, I think it's in Star Wars where they kind of roll under before the wall comes closing down or maybe that's Indiana Jones.

Anyway, one of those movies. That scene, that's what I was just chasing after is getting to the island as the as the

imaginary door closes so because there's a ticket clock going as fast as I can.

Now, what if there is no island?

Meaning, yes, of course, we all have dreams and goals and all of that, but what if there's no place that you can go or get to or swim to, where

once you get there, that everything is going to be okay.

What's interesting about this question or this perspective is that...

Well, two things happen for me when I think about this one if there's no island and this doesn't mean to not have goals of course or dreams because you know of course you should always have dreams and a true north and you should always be running towards something, right?

Building something.

But if you believe that there's no island,

meaning there's no destination in a sense that once you get there,

then life is good and everything is going to be okay if you

believe that instead the swim is where life lives right the getting there is and although I get it it's difficult and you know

depending on where you're at your life it's not it's easy to just say it right it's easy to hear it and all of that

especially today with social media and all of these influencers and and all that but

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