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All right, let's refresh your memory here with Cynthia from a couple of days ago.

I love my cousin and I want to help her, but there's like a long history here of irresponsibility.

And I feel like that should not be rewarded.

Our grandmother gave us both a substantial amount of money that would have paid for three out of four years of college.

Never went to school.

She used that money for partying and, you know, we're 27. She still living at home. She got pregnant a second time. She doesn't work. And then she had a car accident maybe five or six years ago. Now she needs surgery on her hand. Her mom called my mom. And it was like, I'm so sorry to ask, but if you could just give us a little bit for the surgery part,

maybe a little towards that.

I asked my mom for $5,000.

That's all right. called my mom. It was like, I'm so sorry to ask, but if you could just give us a little bit for the

surgery part, maybe a little towards, they asked my mom for $5,000. So like Melissa said, this is one of the few cases where it was unanimous advice. Yeah, our advice was don't give the money. And the virtual community too. Everybody called and saying the same thing. Because everybody was like, you're not going to get it back.

You know, if you give it,

it's not like you're lending her the money.

You're giving it to her.

She didn't want to.

Mm-hmm.

So what was the... Because everybody was like, you're not going to get it back. You know, if you give it, it's not like you're lending her the money.

You're giving it to her.

She didn't want to.

Mm-hmm. So what was the email? The email suggestion from a listener because her cousin needed some sort of surgery on her hand. Mm-hmm. But our listener was concerned that even if she gave her the money, that maybe she wouldn't even spend it on the surgery. she'd spend it on something else.

And the suggestion from one of our listeners was

she should go to the doctor with her.

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