Hey guys it's Kathy. I just want to share an extra mini episode with you every single week because I want to be there for you. I want to be there to encourage you. I want to be there to help you see things in a way that just feels like it's doable. Like you are so much closer than you really think and I want to show you with possible so here's one of our minisodes I hope you like it take a listen I do feel

that I'm controlling sometimes and I could be workaholic and I mean I have all those things

but I say that because I'm just I'm really okay with it not okay with like great I hope I'm like that tomorrow. That's not what I mean. I'm really

constantly hoping to evolve beyond anything that actually is like a survival skill that's really sticky. That's really what I'm hoping.

But I say I'm okay in the sense that I just don't hold myself apart from like loving myself because of that. Because myself, loving myself and loving the whole world. We're all connected.

It's all one big organism.

And so I love life and I love people and I love the world.

And I think we're all multi-dimensional

and those of us who have a capacity to be you know really extreme in one way that's really bright we have the exact capacity for the dark side of that that's how it works with polarity and so I just feel like the more that you are like I'm

brave and broken beautiful bold and terrified insecure and super secure then he can't rattle you because you're already there you got there first right and then you will

exude that to them because see there's no secrets in a relationship and so when we are holding

ourselves to a certain standard and we're judging ourselves we judge other people

that way and whether you're in leadership or you're a parent, you know, people just want to be able to be their hot mess and still be loved unconditionally.

And the more we learn to love ourselves like that, we just have more room for people. That's all all you know nobody really wants to be friends with the girl who's

like I'm perfect what are you got going on it's like oh I really judged. I don't think I should be friends with you.

Or like, or someone who's really hard on themselves is really hard to be friends with because there's this

constant feeling like you have to show up a certain way with yourself or you're worried that you will trick her trigger her really easily so then you're walking on eggshells.

So that's why I'm saying everything you're saying is beautiful all of it. What you're saying, what he's saying, there's room for all of it, and when we make that room, you don't get triggered.

You could be okay.

And then you go, oh, why do I feel so bad right now?

I don't need to feel so bad.

You know?

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