Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism,

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your

host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Paura Lowenthal.

Hello my chickadees. It's time for another installment of listener questions and answers. It's like a

it's like a flowing river. The more I paddle some down or I bail some out and more comes in. Which is

great. I'm so I'm always happy to get your questions. Here's a couple of things I want you to know.

Number one, it's not guaranteed that if you send in a question that I will be able to answer it,

I get a lot of questions. And I pick the ones that I think are going to be most relevant to everyone

and everyone's going to learn from. I also pick the questions that are clearly defined so that I

can answer them. So if you want to send a question to be considered, that's awesome. I totally

encourage you to do that. But the more specific you can be, a question about like a specific concept

and how to apply it to a specific situation, that's the best thing I can answer. I get a lot of

questions that are like, here's my whole history of my body image. What should I do about it? Right?

And like that's not really a question for me to answer. Like thought work in general, all the tools

I teach, that's what you should do for that. So I totally understand the desire to like tell me the

whole backstory and ask me how to handle it. But there's only so much I can do in a podcast. Obviously

not the same as coaching. So if you want your question answered, the best practices are keep it

concise and make it specific. Right? And then I will be best able to answer it. And it'll be most

helpful for everybody else, which is part of how I pick the questions. Okay. And you want to send

this in. You just send them to info at redesignyourmind.com. Okay. Let's get started. Hi, Kara. I recently

started a new job. There's a long tenure and employee on my team who's very senior. And although not

in management role, he comports himself that way. Everyone in the office defers to him. He has

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