Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your

host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Carla Lohanthile.

I am super excited for this conversation today, my chickens, because I think that the term

self-care is a term that we just have seen like become so kind of watered down and used

in so many different ways that nobody even really knows what it is anymore. And one of the

challenges that I've always kind of had with the concept of self-care is the way that

I think patriarchy teaches women to see a lot of things as self-care that are actually just

like grooming and molding their bodies into what society considers fuckable shape, which

is not what I call self-care. So we're going to be really digging into that with today's

guess. But before we get to that, I want to tell you something about what I consider

real self-care, which is learning how to change your thinking and learning how to change

the thought patterns that patriarchy has taught you that are really holding you back. So every

about six months, once or twice a year, I run a challenge and these are five day experiences

with me that are really accessible and affordable ways to try out thought work a little more

deeply than you can just from listening to the podcast. We've done a couple of different

topics in the past and I always end up kind of building on them and improving and changing

them. And this time around, we are doing the stop second guessing yourself challenge

because the more that I talk to and work with women and as I've been working on my book

and like really stepping back and looking at my body of work and what my core message

is, one of the ways that these patriarchal socializations show up the most is women constantly

second guessing themselves. And that is a kind of thought pattern that shows up in every

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