Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain, the only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach,

Tara, Lowenthal.

Hello, my chicken.

So I do not usually take reader requests, and that's partly because before you know how

to manage your mind, you're usually misidentifying your actual problem.

Like you're usually asking the wrong question.

And you'll notice, if you listen to any of the listener Q and A episodes, often what's

happening is that I'm explaining to the person who wrote in why they're asking themselves

or me the wrong question.

And there's nothing to do with like not being a good student of the podcast or any kind

of intelligence issue or anything like that.

I spent 30 years in my life asking all the wrong questions.

It's totally normal.

But when we don't understand how the brain actually works, we're constantly misunderstanding

what's actually going on or what's at stake, which is why coaching is so powerful, right?

Because it helps you learn to ask the better questions, the correct questions that actually

help you zero in on what the issue is.

If you've ever asked yourself a question and then been confused about how to answer it,

that's a good sign that you don't know how to manage your mind and you're asking the

wrong question.

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