Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach,

Kara Loyenthyle.

Hello, my chicken. So I do not usually take reader requests and that's partly because

before you know how to manage your mind you're usually misidentifying your actual problem like you're usually

asking the wrong question and you'll notice is if you listen to any of the

listener Q&A episodes, often what's happening is that I'm explaining

to the person who wrote in why they are asking themselves or me the wrong question.

And that has nothing to do with not being a good student of the podcast or any kind of intelligence issue or anything like that.

I spent 30 years of my life asking all the wrong questions. It's totally normal. But when we don't understand how the brain actually

works, we're constantly misunderstanding what's actually going on or what's at stake. Which is why

coaching is so powerful, right right because it helps you learn to ask the better

questions the correct questions that actually help you zero in on what the issue is.

If you've ever asked yourself a question

and then been confused about how to answer it,

that's a good sign that you don't know

how to manage your mind and you're asking the wrong question.

And one place that this comes up a lot is a topic that I get asked about a lot, which is intuition.

And I get questions like, how does intuition square with thought work how do I know when to listen to my

intuition how can I distinguish between my intuition and anxiety right and similar

versions of those questions.

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