Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain, the only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach,

Tara Lowenthal.

Hello, my chickens.

How are all of my fine feathered friends or non-fethered friends?

If you are a chicken who doesn't have feathers, you are part of the flock as well.

I'm a little bit giddy.

A little bit loopy day.

I've been working on the planning for Clutch College.

Which I know I've talked about a few times.

One of the things we're going to dive into really deeply is family relationships.

Whether it's your family of origin or your chosen family or your family of marriage or

your bio family or your adopted family or whatever family relationships you struggle with.

Because of that, I've been thinking a lot about what is it that gets in the way of our

having the kind of loving, connected, fun, joyful, peaceful, supportive relationships that

we want to have with other people, whether they're family or anything else.

And so today I want to teach you how to think about other people's models.

And I'm going to explain what that means if you don't know what a model is, don't worry.

But I kind of want to set the stage because I think that one of the main causes of suffering

that we experience in our human lives is the meaning that we make and kind of project

onto other people's words or actions.

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